let's talk about "reconciliation" fics where jason is folded back into the family.
because as far as i see it, it's just jason's autonomy and decision-making skills being thrown away in favor of gaslighting and guilt tripping. when i said jason is the scapegoat, i meant it. and the role of scapegoat is fulfilled by him constantly having a carrot dangled in front of his face saying, "if you were just a little different, more like us, less upset with how we hurt you -- we'd let you come back home." he fulfills the role by being shit on, and told, "hey, it wouldnt have gotten so bad if you could be quiet and listen. ofc we missed you."
jason being brought back into the family with everyone crying and whining about how much he was missed, you dont know what bruce went through, how bad it was, is nothing more than guilt tripping. the expectation that jason is supposed to extend himself to their feelings, acknowledge how upset bruce was, deal with how hurt the family was instead of how hurt jason currently IS -- is telling.
whenever i see fics where it's supposed to be funny or quirky or emotionally hard hitting that people he barely trusts and likes breaks into his apartment, touch his stuff, look through his stuff, eat his food i wonder how much boundaries are understood. how many people would not understand the concept of a low contact family member.
jason comes when he is needed, when there's an emergency. he is undeniably reliable, but not wanting to be buddy buddy with his abuser and the people that cosign his abuse makes him difficult and obtuse??? that he's simply too stupid to understand they mourned him???
what counts as reconciliation for a lot of you, is sweeping every wrong doing done to him under the rug, and making him pay penance for how he reacted. he is the villain, the evil doer, the person who is consistently in the wrong, and that's just not true.
you dont get to degrade everything he was and is, and then call him dumb for not believing he was missed.
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being loveless does suck sometimes but less bc of some "ohnooo I'll never be able to loooove what will I ever doooo" bs but because how the hell do you tell the ppl around you that you view all relationships as business transactions where the currency is care and support and the reward is trust? How do you tell someone "hey so I could not care less about you as a person but also I enjoy every second we spend together and I'd fight the universe for you if you asked and if you ever disappeared I probably wouldn't miss you but I'd still cry for all the things we never got to experience together" without being the asshole?
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