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whsprings · 13 days

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"Maybe you haven't been successful in your recovery... YET. That one word makes all the difference."

- lessons learned in therapy, the book I will never write

#ed recovery #edxorcism #pro recovery #mental health #recovery #mental illness #lessons learned in therapy

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thoughtstherapy · 5 months

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#thoughtstherapy #trauma #therapy #thoughts #mythoughtstherapy #lessonslearned #lesson learned

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selfhealingmoments · 1 year

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shigayokagayama · 1 year

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too scared of those weird ableists who term search personality disorders to accuse random disabled people of abuse apologism to make an indepth analysis post but like is this not a slightly modified version of the speech teru gives to mob in the black vinegar arc

#ill dump it in the tags whateverrrrrrrrr #so of course his entire self worth in his introduction is based on his status #like what other people think about him is the basis of his entire world view #to the point where someone ruining his appearance and criticizing him is enough to give him 'murderous intent'#and in the part where his world view is shattering in the manga we get his mother saying shes proud of him #and since we later find out hes a victim of neglect #its not hard to infer he came to base his entire lifestyle on gaining praise #which is exactly how this particular personality disorder forms #and after the black vinegar arc he acts very similar to people with npd ive known post therapy #where instead of basing his self worth on 'being the best' hes basing it on 'being a good person'#still based on the idea of people liking and looking up to him but in a less destructive direction #feel free to screenshot this and rb it or whatever i just dont want to put these words in a searchable form #ive learned my lesson #mp100 #mob psycho 100 #teruki hanazawa #shigeo kageyama #pic

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awfullordhenry · 4 months

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spacebeyonce · 2 months

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I was hoping I'd be able to go out and run some errands this weekend but I found out there's going to be a trump rally in my city so I will be keeping my black ass in the house

#I learned my lesson from that one mlk day when I was coming home from therapy

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chasing-rabbits · 3 months

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So I’ve set up my Big Cartel Shop and I think it looks okay for now. Thing is I’ve not got a lot of products up at the moment so it’s kind of bare. I haven’t bothered putting in a menu with different categories because I only have 11 different listings right now. I am eventually going to start listing the Jewellery I’ve made/make but I can’t do that right now. Aside from that the products I’m selling are things I’ve bought not made (tbh with 2 cats in our flat rn I can’t really make things because they are a nightmare and I don’t have a separate room for myself & I tried a desk in our living room but Bagel liked to jump on it & that’s before we got Shrimp. But I’ll be able to make some jewellery soon as I’ll be able to use Kade’s office while he’s in America for 2 weeks)

Anyways so obviously buying stuff is expensive which is why I’ve only got a small amount of stuff on the site for now. As I said I hope to be adding some Jewellery soon and any sales I make I’ll be able to reinvest the money into buying/making more items so my shop will look more like a proper shop with a good selection of stuff. Okay so that’s it I guess. (And yes this is to replace my Kofi because I felt like it wasn’t really the right place to be selling this kind of stuff I felt a proper website would be more suited so I’m trying & hoping this takes off lol)

#small business #Shop small #online shopping #I am trying so here’s hoping #I know I seem kinda flaky doing all the different shit chopping and changing a lot #But I am still working on a lot of the other shit I’ve talked about in the background & other stuff I tried but wasn’t keen on but hey #I had to try it to see if I liked it or if it worked mostly it was a learning lesson on which websites to use for selling & which not to #Also shitty mental health meant setting up shop then closing bcos couldnt cope then reopening like now but this time my MH seems to be in a #Better place & I have therapy to thank for that so I’m confident this’ll stick & my MH won’t get in the way

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lopeirce · 11 months

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I had to give myself a pep talk this morning so I figured I’d share this in case anyone else needs a pep talk.

Things I’ve learned in therapy:

Reversing the negative self-talk is a huge element of building up your self-esteem.

I read this book called “Unfuck Yourself” by Gary John Bishop and he said that the person that you talk to the most is yourself. It’s true. That inner dialogue dictates our self-perception and we are our own worst enemy. Change that negative self-talk because that negative self-talk is what is allowing you to remain at the bar that you’ve set for yourself. If you don’t change it, you’re never going to grow and heal. You are not your thoughts. The negative thoughts are lying to you. Don’t buy into them.

Accept compliments even when you don’t agree.

I had a really hard time accepting compliments from people a few years ago. One of the things that my therapist told me to do was when someone compliments me, say “thank you” and then move on and don’t give it a second thought. Even if you think it’s the most ridiculous thing in your mind. Even if it makes you uncomfortable. (Obviously, this pertains to healthy compliments and not a creepy person.) Why? If someone tells you they like your shirt and you say something like “oh, this old thing” you’re demeaning yourself. It goes back to the negative self-talk. Just say thank you and move on because what you’re doing here is you’re not allowing yourself to engage in the negative self-talk. As silly and small as it is, this helps builds confidence.

You are not required to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.

If you’re a people pleaser like me, this hits home for you. I spent most of my life doing things because I felt like I would be a horrible friend/person/daughter/sister/lover/etc if I didn’t and in the end, I lost pieces of myself. I sacrificed my own happiness for other people who to this day don’t even acknowledge that. Don’t do this. Know your limits. Set boundaries. You don’t have to sacrifice your own health and happiness for other people. It’s not your job to make other people feel satisfied. That’s their job. If you give 100% of yourself to everyone else, you’re not leaving anything left for yourself.

Your feelings are valid.

It took me until I was 30 to reconcile this. I grew up in a household that made me feel like I was a crazy person and that everything I felt was ridiculous. It’s not. A friend of mine told me something recently that even further has stuck with me. It’s okay if you feel something for only a short time. If someone said something that upset you and then they further explained which then made you understand it better, that doesn’t mean that you weren’t upset. Acknowledge it and know that whatever you feel is okay and it’s normal. You’re not a robot. You’re a person with feelings and they are valid.

Depression/negative feelings are easy to give in to. Resisting them is the hard part.

I struggle with this a lot. I’ll confess that I gave into my depression and eating disorder yesterday. It was easy. Today, I am resisting it and it’s hard. And that’s okay. If you allow yourself to sit in your negative head space, all you’re going to see are negative things. Give yourself time to address your feelings but don’t stay there. It gets harder to get up the longer you stay down. Focus on the simplest of things even if it’s just “ this cup of coffee is so good.” Find the little smiles throughout the day.

If you want to be more positive, successful, etc, surround yourself with people who are those things.

Just like how negativity is easily spread, so is positivity. Use that positive, successful space. It’s amazing how you can train your mind that way.

Life will keep throwing the same lesson at you until you learn it.

Sometimes healing hurts more than the thing that hurt you.

Healing is hard. Therapy is hard. Reopening old wounds hurts because it’s festered for so long. But when the day comes when you can talk about something or experience something without negative feelings, it makes it so worth it.

Most of the issues we carry into adulthood stem from childhood trauma.

I’ve always struggled with feeling like I matter. My therapist asked me “who made little you feel like you don’t matter? Who do you hear besides yourself telling you that you don’t matter?” Start there. Unpack that.

Know what triggers you and try not to coddle them.

When someone has a phobia of something, they get put through exposure therapy. It’s the same concept with something triggering. Little by little, expose yourself to things that make you feel uncomfortable within your limits. It doesn’t have to be a lot. If you never expose yourself, you’re never going to heal. I used to think that by shutting myself off from the world, no one would hurt me. a.) I was wrong. b.) I’m a human being who needs connections with other human beings. In order to heal, you have to learn to be okay with being uncomfortable.

Tell people how you feel.

This isn’t something I necessarily learned in therapy but it’s something that I live by. I’d rather tell someone how I feel about them and have my heart shattered than look back and wonder “what if?” If you’re bold enough to express your feelings to someone, you can get through the day.

Negative feelings are temporary.

I have to remind myself of this daily. The pain you’re in, the anger you’re feeling, it will all go away eventually. Someone once told me that it’s literally impossible for the universe to remain off balance. Balance has to be restored eventually.

Thank you for coming to my Ted Talk.

#mental health #therapy #life lessons #things i learned in therapy #healing #depression #anxiety #trauma

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numberfiveisback · 4 months

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"New year new me" I say, still an unmotivated, lazy, sarcastic, high-chasing, financially unstable, depressed/manic, insomnia ridden, mentally emotionally and physically compromised bastard of a human being

Truly the mind of man is incredible and tragic and breathtaking and cruel. My thoughts run wild and I'm free to be embraced by the forces of the night. Some are kind, some are dangerous. Who knows? Maybe my mind will shut up for once and let me fuckin SLEEP ALREADY

If I have a nightmare tonight istg I will fist fight Ohio

#vent #live laugh love the crippling depression and self hatred #I need therapy #I'm also in Ohio rn #that might be contributing but who tf knows #happy new years #every night I stare into the void and I wish the void would speak to me #maybe I have no purpose or drive. maybe it's not my fault. perhaps I'm merely insane #what is insanity if not the opposite of normal #and what is normal if not incredibly boring #I've experienced hell and yet I still fail to be truly afraid of it #I'm not high rn I swear #I learned my lesson #4am thoughts

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tartt9 · 4 months

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thinking about jamie's bisexuality tonight.

#specifically his internalized biphobia #we know he's not externally biphobic bc he knows keeley's bi and he still loves her and isn't disparaging to her in any way #but in regards to himself #he knows he's bi but the thought of just referring to himself in that way makes him want to be physically sick #he can and will acknowledge that he's attracted to men both in public and in private #see: he ain't my type he's too scratchy & i'm flattered #and people know he's bi #see: i'm flattered (again) & it's so nice to finally meet you both & rk6 always remains #but i think his whole childhood his dad was just. awful to him irt rk6 and even his estate friends who he thought were too close with jamie #he probably called him every slur and slur adjacent word in the book #i don't think jamie was ever the sort to use those slurs bc he probably immediately went home and asked georgie 'what does xyz mean'#and good mum georgie bolton would've been like. we do not call people those words #and if she ever found out he did he would've been in sooooo much trouble #'no rk6 for a week' and that would've made him learn his lesson LMAO #anyways #i genuinely think he could say 'this is my boyfriend xyz' before he could say 'i'm bisexual'#and he really needs a lot of long long long term therapy to feel secure in himself #like. he's not ashamed of who he is. he said the scratchy thing on national television. he's not keeping it a secret #but he can't come out and say it and he'd be almost nauseous if a boyfriend ever wanted to go public #both bc of his aforementioned Everything and bc of the environment that the prem just. is #it's incredibly homophobic and it's known that it's incredibly homophobic #i think it would take jamie a lot of talking with colin to feel comfortable going public before him #just bc he's more willing to be a spokesperson than colin is #like we know jamie he can take heat (see go back down south pretty boy and like. all of mom city in general)#and we know he likes a pedestal (see everything about jamie ever)#but. it's gonna take time. a lot of time.

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goldkirk · 1 year

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at least once a month I look up and go when the FUCK did I get a dog????? when the HELL did I get here? how did I end up in Seattle? what happened to my life? when did I get a DOG??????? why am I so shut out of my family? how did I mess things up? what carnage did I leave in my path? who said I could make decisions and move out here? why did I make a decision at all? What happened to me? How do I know any of this is right or safe? Why did I get a dog? Where are the kids? what caused me to finally leave? Why am I here? When did I flee? Why did I flee?

and then I remember who cares about the details if I’m feeling better here, and go merrily about my day knowing they’ll come back when they’re needed and someday the facts will stay.

#I have gone to a lot of therapy and read a lot of neuropsychology books to learn the simple lesson:#as a famous beatle once said: LET IT BE.#panicking won’t make ur brain give up the memories and neither will frustration and neither will a battering ram #so sit down and shut up and try out a paintbrush or some animal pets perhaps and have green tea and then maybe you’ll calm down #trust past you even if you don’t remember #it’ll come back if it’s important enough #sometimes…you need to not know things. that’s not okay but I’m learning it’s okay #better to not know day to day what you’re gonna know #than to you know. be dead #add to journal #personal #amazingly our brains like being left to process at their own speed and will in fact work more smoothly #if you just stop spamming the trackpad or left click mouse button all the time #dissociation

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whsprings · 4 months

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"it's okay to have mixed motivations, and it's important to recognize that you noticed something that could be detrimental to you, and you decided to change it. not everything is going to be straightforward; it's not as black-and-white as what treatment providers often make motivations out to be."

— lessons learned in therapy, the book I will never write

#ed recovery #lessons learned in therapy

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tarotoftheendless · 5 months

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Taking a quick break from my usual content...

Is the Disney movie Brother Bear a platonic brotherly love movie that follows a more healthy version of the Enemies to Lovers trope? I am watching the Cinema Therapy episode on YouTube that just came out and I realized the Brother Bear is Enemies to Lovers, without the romance of course.

Also, this movie makes me cry so hard. Even watching clips of it from the Cinema Therapy episode is making me tear up. Disney isn't what it used to be, that's for sure.

#cinema therapy #brother bear #tropes #enemies to lovers #brotherly love #life lessons #lessons learned

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iammamenow · 9 months

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"Things that are frightening can be beautiful, as well - The ocean is beautiful, space is beautiful; so is Mount Everest. And yet, all at the same time, they've collected their share of cautionary tales ... and bodies of those who don't heed them."

#lessons learned #quoteoftheday #therapy #mental health

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honeyblockm · 1 year

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1 8 and 21

1: the character everyone gets wrong

i just answered this but yeah it's fundy and ponk. come to think of it possibly also happyduo. the whole eggpire maybe.

8: common fandom opinion that everyone is wrong about

despite my best efforts i suspect i live in an echochamber but. spaces out for 10 minutes trying to think of common fandom opinions. you know i cannot really think of a take that has not caused awful awful discourse on my dash. i mean i guess re: the attachments advice that phil gave tommy that caused everyone to try to kill each other on my dash: i dont think it's that big of a deal? if phil gave some bad advice? if said advice was even bad in the first place? <didn't get too invested in that discourse

also i don't think las nevadas had to be destroyed for the. waves hand. narrative. or smth. it wasn't like. the root of all cquackity's evil or whatever. and i think it's good and reasonable that the LN arc ends with q deciding to build it back up again. sorry its my girlfriend

21: part of canon you think is overhyped

bedrock bros ^_^

#asks #las nevadas my babygirl my best friend my lover..#to clarify on both things in 8. the phil thing is more that i find a lot of objections to phil's character being based on whether u think #he's like. a good dad/person or not. or at least a lot of the arguments i saw were based around that #which is like yeah i think his character reaches into some touchy subjects so that's valid but i think he's fun. and the advice thing #is just. well you know that post that's like stop having your characters talk like theyre trying to get a good grade in #therapy? yeah and phil did not need to speak like he is trying to get a good grade in therapist #actually do i want to expand on the LN part. so the take i'm thinking of is the general idea that LN as a country was just #super super evil and had to be destroyed for q's arc to resolve and for him to 'learn his lesson' or smth #but i think LN can be multifaceted and i think having it be destroyed but Q choosing to rebuild with hopefully a new ethos in mind #isn't ridiculous or bad. he's all about ego death and remaking himself yknow

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ididoktoday · 1 year

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Mental illness is never our fault.

It’s nothing we did wrong in any way.

We may or may not feel like we have what it takes to navigate it.

And, it’s still our responsibility to find a way through it, no matter how slapdash or making-do we have to get.

It’s the same as life.

We start by cobbling together a solution that we know isn’t the best, but is the best we can do with the resources we have. A first coping skill.

This rudimentary solution is just the initial step; it’s a toehold that allows us to get our heads above water enough to gather our thoughts and decide what we would like to do differently moving forward.

Maybe we can’t afford/don’t desire help at this point.

We can still find a way to journal and figure out what our needs are, so that if the opportunity comes to receive help, we’ll know what we need to share with the people who would assist us.

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