#just let me be

[yannaryartside]

SYD DEREVES AN ACTUAL MENTOR

One of the funniest excuses Sydcarmy deniers use to say the relationship will not make sense is because Carmy is supposed to be a "mentor" for Syd. The reason why I think that is funny is because Carmy has not been her mentor for a whole second in the series. I speak about this as someone who had art mentors and teachers:

A mentor is supposed to be able to see the raw talent in their students and guide them to polish it and discover their artistic voices. The key to the whole situation is the word "guide." They are an external observer, providing clues, instruction, and evaluation but not pushing their voices so the students will become like them instead of following their own artistic impulses

Now, if I am honest, I don't think Carmy has been a mentor for a single character in the show. Maybe he recognized Tina and Richie's potential by sending them to places where they could learn new skills based on their previously displayed talents. But the only one actually supporting Marcus in his journey is Sydney, it is not like Carmy ever stopped to ask Marcus if he had any doubts about the fancy pastries he was making. Sending Marcus to Coppenage was Sydney's idea, which makes me wonder if he ever thought Marcus was ready for an experience like that or if he just approved it because he trusted Sydney's judgment. Besides recipe overview and leader of the kitchen flow, Carmy is not a teacher, and certainly not someone who has invested time in guiding people through individual creative processes.

Carmy has acted more as a counselor/motivator. He comforted Marcus on his mistakes. He has encouraged Sydney on her menu ideas (s2 only, we will talk about that later). He showed his belief in Tina's talent by gifting her the knife.

But he has not been a mentor, in the sense that Sydney's artistic voice is forever silenced by his lack of interest in deep collaboration or exploration of Sydney's unique talents. She provided a couple of recipes of her own creation, with some of his suggestions. But all of it has more the tone of a partnership than an actual mentorship. They were supposed to have equal weight on the menu before Carmy called it quits; he even let her suggest ingredients and finishes. He values her opinion. He is not trying to teach her things, if anything, he hired Sydney with a solid idea of her talents and used them to put keep his shaky shop afloat.

In season 1, she had to put all of her energy into guiding a staff that Carmy had previously failed to dominate, and it is not like it was easy, but she managed to put everyone on the same page. When it was time for her to show her skills in providing a simple and efficient menu idea, Carmy made a whole effort to introduce a complicated plate to the staff. It is almost like he is competing with her, but again, we will talk about that later. Needless to say, nothing in s1 was mentorship at all in my opinion. She managed with all the skills she already had. Even Carmy mentioned that managing the staff was something she had previously done but didn't like to do, and Carmy never provided them with support or advice, is almost laughable. The story repeats itself in 2 when he ignores how much she needs her presence at the restaurant; he was supposed to be a leader, and he wasn't.

Probably the thing that Carmy has taught Sydney the most is how much he believes in her, wich helps her to belief in hersef, even if his behavior rarely provides her with support for her to flourish as an artist. In 2, she picked up Carmy's work like crazy, which is not a space to create; she was merely surviving and going through a real creativity crisis.

All of this to say is that I really hope she gets the opportunity to shine in another place, even for just a bit, and maybe get another mentor, someone who recognizes her knowledge of chemistry and encourages her to explore her voice, a resolution to her creative block in s2. This is not something bad or something to think Carmy failed Syd; artists and mentors can be a rare match, and maybe because Carmy never wanted a student, he wanted a friend/partner, and ironically, he is not very good at that dynamic either. God, when defining their relationship, Syd is the first to say "partnership," I don't think she expects him to "molde" her or mentor her. Equal creative weight.

They have introduced other chefs that I think could be the mentor Syd actually needs. I am partial to Olivia Coleman's character because I think they have a lot in common. But these other two will be cool, too. Or any other chef they could introduce.

To finish here, I will say the only type of "teaching" I will like Carmy to give Sydney, will be of this nature:

Anyhow, thank you for reading. Nor credited gifs in order: @chefkids, @songkangsbottomteethcirca2020

#I will also like Syd to date Luca. #Just let me be #Sydney Adamu Character study #sydcarmy #sydney adamu #the bear #the bear fx #carmy berzatto #carmy x sydney #carmy the bear #the bear meta #carmen berzatto #sydney x carmy #the bear hulu

[cow-in-the-sunset]

If you see me “in the book”-ing under every Hunger Games TikTok comment section mind your business.

I have veterans rights.

#just let me be #I waited for so long and now it’s finally backkkkk #the hunger games #fandoms #peeta mellark #katniss everdeen #mockingjay #books #everlark #catching fire #thg #hunger games #tiktok #katniss and peeta

[consult-sherlockholmes]

Please, just leave me alone @consultjohnwatson and @atamh. Stop tagging me, stop sending me messages and stop harasssing me. You wanted me gone, kicked me out and replaced me, so why are you still tagging me? I am trying to move on and find another John since you informed me about replacing me on Monday. But seems I will have to find a new Mycroft as well. Just let me be. Stop including me in this discussion I am no longer part of. Just block me and move on. I am done with this.

#ooc #it might take a while until i can post again i need to recover from what happened #everything is a dumpster fire right now with toxic fumes everywhere #i do not want to be involved with any of it #just let me be #rp #roleplay #sherlock rp #sherlock roleplay #sherlock holmes rp #sherlock holmes roleplay #sherlock #i might have to take a mental health break after all of this

[flusteredracoons]

*Friend gets me to play FFXIV in behest of him. Does it, finds a character and loves them*

Me: I'm gonna say something wildly stupid but I need a romance mechanic because I need Haurchefant in my life-

Him: Not you too 🤢

ALRIGHT THEN, DAMN

#just let me be #i physically cant consume media without eventually simping for a character #let me love my little ishgardian elezen sunshine #haurchefant greystone #ffxiv

[yumejoshi1]

Bobby and JuanaFlippa revival? 🤩🤩🤩🤩

#qsmp #qsmp eggs #just let me be

[imjustwritingg]

I hate not seeing that damn ring on her finger and I refuse to believe we won’t see her wearing it again.

#hailey upton #chicago pd #upstead #Jay is gonna come back and we’re gonna get our happy ending and all will be right in the world again #just let me be

[kassylin]

Please.

#the witcher season 3 #the witcher #henry cavill #geralt of rivia #geralt #cirilla #ciri #freya allan #just let me be

[nosleepgummitato]

It occurs far too much 😔

#kpop #kpop memes #stuff #tato nonsense #im sorry but im just trying to find who asked. #does anyone see them? no? #traditional art #the same happens with jpop #🥲 #also #i know the dance doesnt match the song #i just wasnt thinking of that at the moment- #C'mon people #just let me be

[siriusly-remu]

no, i haven't been having a good day. yes, i've been stuck in my head all day. no, i haven't told anyone that it's been a bad day. yes, i do keep forgetting that people are real and have feelings. and yes, i am still utterly terrified of being outed again.

#just let me be #i don't want it #bad day #negative thoughts #serious post #negativity #vent #lgbtq+ #outed

[immax-maybe]

My psychologist said I may have ADHD.

No no no no no. I'm too old for that

I can't find out NOW that there was something I could have done about it ALL ALONG

#just let me be

[joels-shitty-puns]

Every time someone says something about my crush on a celebrity in a way that hurts my feelings, I descend further into this app and use it like my diary. But I should probably just go to therapy instead.

#my feelings hurt #but this community understands me #why can't i love him #pedro pascal #just let me be #i don't need your brutal honesty

[boltlightning]

i couldn't fix haytham kenway; he would make me worse. is that not the appeal

#yes i'm still replaying ac3 #when i talk about sexualizing that old man he's who i'm talking abt btw #i don't need anyone to point out he's another dark haired tricorn blorbo with a fucked sense of duty. i know. i know #just let me be #bolt plays games

[parcequecestnotreprojeeeet]

Hair is looking half decent today!

#emmanuel macron #yup it’s me #the hair obsessed #just let me be #😎

[otbvinyls]

so last night i was just about to start the last episode of criminal minds s9. and i got so excited bc the plot was pretty interesting….until reid got shot. the way i just turned it off and sat there trying not to cry

#this is exactly why i am so hesitant to watch any more episodes #because i KNOW the prison arc is gonna put him through hell #and i cannot stand the idea of seeing him in pain #I KNOW HE’S JUST A FICTIONAL CHARACTER IN A FICTIONAL SHOW OKAY??? #JUST LET ME BE #like c’mon #you’re telling me i’m holding back tears at the sight of him getting shot?? #you think i won’t be bawling my eyes out and having a meltdown when he goes to prison???? #s9 ep 23 #criminal minds #spencer reid #derek morgan #aaron hotchner #emily prentiss #jenifer jareau #penelope garcia #dave rossi #alex blake