#it's fine tho. i'm fine

[inkskinned]

so one of the things that's so horrifying about birth control is that you have to, like, navigate this incredibly personal choice about your body and yet also face the epitome of misogyny. like, someone in the comments will say it wasn't that bad for me, and you'll be utterly silenced. like, everyone treats birth control like something that's super dirty. like, you have no fucking information or control over this thing because certain powerful people find it icky.

first it was the oral contraceptives. you went on those young, mostly for reasons unrelated to birth control - even your dermatologist suggested them to control your acne. the list of side effects was longer than your arm, and you just stared at it, horrified.

it made you so mentally ill, but you just heard that this was adulthood. that, yes, there are of course side effects, what did you expect. one day you looked up yasmin makes me depressed because surely this was far too intense, and you discovered that over 12,000 lawsuits had been successfully filed against the brand. it remains commonly prescribed on the open market. you switched brands a few times before oral contraceptives stopped being in any way effective. your doctor just, like, shrugged and said you could try a different brand again.

and the thing is that you're a feminist. you know from your own experience that birth control can be lifesaving, and that even when used for birth control - it is necessary healthcare. you have seen it save so many people from such bad situations, yourself included. it is critical that any person has access to birth control, and you would never suggest that we just get rid of all of it.

you were a little skeeved out by the implant (heard too many bad stories about it) and figured - okay, iud. it was some of the worst pain you've ever fucking experienced, and you did it with a small number of tylenol in your system (3), like you were getting your bikini line waxed instead of something practically sewn into your body.

and what's wild is that because sometimes it isn't a painful insertion process, it is vanishingly rare to find a doctor that will actually numb the area. while your doctor was talking to you about which brand to choose, you were thinking about the other ways you've been injured in your life. you thought about how you had a suspicious mole frozen off - something so small and easy - and how they'd numbed a huge area. you thought about when you broke your wrist and didn't actually notice, because you'd thought it was a sprain.

your understanding of pain is that how the human body responds to injury doesn't always relate to the actual pain tolerance of the person - it's more about how lucky that person is physically. maybe they broke it in a perfect way. maybe they happened to get hurt in a place without a lot of nerve endings. some people can handle a broken femur but crumble under a sore tooth. there's no true way to predict how "much" something actually hurts.

in no other situation would it be appropriate for doctors to ignore pain. just because someone can break their wrist and not feel it doesn't mean no one should receive pain meds for a broken wrist. it just means that particular person was lucky about it. it should not define treatment.

in the comments of videos about IUDs, literally thousands of people report agony. blinding, nauseating, soul-crushing agony. they say things like i had 2 kids and this was the worst thing i ever experienced or i literally have a tattoo on my ribs and it felt like a tickle. this thing almost killed me or would rather run into traffic than ever feel that again.

so it's either true that every single person who reports severe pain is exaggerating. or it's true that it's far more likely you will experience pain, rather than "just a pinch." and yet - there's nothing fucking been done about it. it kind of feels like a shrug is layered on top of everything - since technically it's elective, isn't it kind of your fault for agreeing to select it? stop being fearmongering. stop being defensive.

you fucking needed yours. you are almost weirdly protective of it. yours was so important for your physical and mental health. it helped you off hormonal birth control and even started helping some of your symptoms. it still fucking hurt for no fucking reason.

once while recovering from surgery, they offered you like 15 days of vicodin. you only took 2 of them. you've been offered oxy for tonsillitis. you turned down opioids while recovering from your wisdom tooth extraction. everything else has the option. you fucking drove yourself home after it, shocked and quietly weeping, feeling like something very bad had just happened. the nurse that held your hand during the experience looked down at you, tears in her eyes, and said - i know. this is cruelty in action.

and it's fucked up because the conversation is never just "hey, so the way we are doing this is fucking barbaric and doctors should be required to offer serious pain meds" - it's usually something around the lines of "well, it didn't kill you, did it?"

you just found out that removing that little bitch will hurt just as bad. a little pinch like how oral contraceptives have "some" serious symptoms. like your life and pain are expendable or not really important. like maybe we are all hysterical about it?

hysteria comes from the latin word for uterus, which is great!

you stand here at a crossroads. like - this thing is so important. did they really have to make it so fucking dangerous. and why is it that if you make a complaint, you're told - i didn't even want you to have this in the first place. we're told be careful what you wish for. we're told that it's our fault for wanting something so illict; we could simply choose not to need medication. that maybe if we don't like the scraps, we should get ready to starve.

we have been saying for so long - "i'm not asking you to remove the option, i'm asking you to reconsider the risk." this entire time we hear: well, this is what you wanted, isn't it?

#where's the word woman in this u might wonder if u suck #good news i am nonbinary and have a uterus so that is something that can happen #im also gender fluid tho which means im immune to certain psychic damage bc if u call me a woman i'll be like <3 okay <3 #writeblr #the tightrope of ''ppl need access to this'' #and like also #''what the fuck is going on over there'' is like. so difficult as an activist #i was <3 punctured <3 during mine #and almost bled out on the table :) they didn't have anyone standing by bc it's ''just a little insertion'' #so i started crashing and i vaguely remember apologizing for the fuss as i heard my heart rate monitor start going <3 tachycardic <3 #she wasn't even a bad doctor tbh #ps btw the reason i even HAD a heart monitor is that i have a genuine heart condition and they knew GOING IN that there was a chance #i'd crash on the table #like my heart just likes to do fun little tricks and <3 stop working <3 (i do not want to discuss the specifics ty i am okay im ontop of it #and they were like 'oh u will be fine' and then she did do a puncture thru my uterus . pop! #and im sitting there dizzy and feeling my heartrate start to drop bc it feels almost. beautiful. like. the whole ground just #woosh! out from under you. and shit is like grey's anatomy. i'm looking up at her grey eyes #she's old she wears this nice shawl she's like got Cool Lesbian vibes and people are sprinting into the room #from other parts of the clinic unrelated to me. while the monitor is like a little aria singing #and shes like hey youre okay stay awake stay with me something went wrong we have to keep trying #and i remember thinking - i was trying to think of nice things. i have so many beautiful places that now overlap #with this terrible memory #i became dimly aware that there was too much on her wrists and hands. like #that was too many liters #and then when they had finished all this. i packed up and drove myself home #i have had (bad thing) happen to me. and the same feeling happened after #that numb almost lamblike bleating. you cry without noise. like. ur body is so shocked and ur mind so empty #you just stare at the road and everything everything is happening behind glass and static and you are standing so far away from it #while you hold ur hands at 10 and 2. and something in ur brain is SCREAMING at you - IT WAS BAD AND IT SHOULDNT HAVE HAPPENED #and ur just watching the alarms in your body going off and youre thinking. a little pinch! ha. i think i just lost something important.

[bsdtual]

This looks a little too much like the ability that killed Kyouka's parents... Asagiri you wouldn't, right??

#I CAN'T STAND THIS MANGA #i'm going crazy #when we think everything is fine then BOOM #((not complaining tho #bungou stray dogs #bsd #bsd spoilers #bsd 114 #bsd manga #kyouka #fyodor #rant post #mari.txt

[raptorrobot]

i feel like i'm fighting for my fucking life here

#ultrakill #hollow knight #risk of rain 2 #baldur's gate 3 #there are absolutely more out there these are just the primary ones from games *i* play #it's totally fine to hc other pronouns tho like it's very obvious when it's just queer ppl having fun #i'm talking abt the ppl who default to he/him pronouns when referring to nonhuman characters #it's always he/him too . like what's up with that #i am an any pronouns user but it/its are my favourites #and i dunno Feelsweird when it/its is pretty adamantly used for characters ingame and ppl just throw it aside #'oh but it/its pronouns are dehumanising' that's the POINT !!!!! grrr #i like it/its because it makes me feel LESS human . i connect with these characters because they are inhuman and monstrous fundamentally #. you know #this is all in good fun btw i'm not that serious about this #just felt like it needed to be pointed out

[radiance1]

Danny and (a recently revived) Jason move into an apartment together, they live right next to each other too.

The thing with this, however, is that the both of them?

They goddamn hate each other.

If murder was not illegal, they would genuinely kill each other. But since it is, they settle for the next best thing, just beating each other up on sight.

At least, until the landlord told them to not fight on their property and if they were to do it out of sight, so they don't scare away any more potential clients.

They've already scared away more than 10.

#dc x dp #dp x dc #dpxdc #dp x dc crossover #dcxdp #dc x dp crossover #You know that one comment that thought I was genuinely hating even though I put (This is just for dramatic effect) near the top of the post #Yea I'm still thinking about that and maybe the slightest bit salty over it #Doubt they'd ever see this though since it was resolved pretty fine in my opinion :D #but if you do see this #You know who you are #Anyways #Danny and Jason fight like feral cats in my opinion #Even though Jason is a highly trained fighter #Okay maybe Danny fights like the feral cat and Jason fights like a more refined version of that #Still feral tho

[thatswhatsushesaid]

psa that the day there are no jgy stans left on tumblr dot com is the day i am dead

but rest assured i'll go to my grave exactly as i lived: obnoxiously proclaiming to everyone within earshot how great lianfang-zun is. narratively, metaphorically, spiritually. sexually, too, like why limit myself. i like to keep my options open

#the spirit of su minshan possessed me for a minute there but like. i'm fine with it #jin guangyao #he did crimes??? good for him 😌 #editing this post to add that while the tone here is clearly joking #i really am fundamentally still engaged with this fandom #and with this book #almost exlcusively because of my enjoyment of jgy #even xiyao is secondary for me like i love it and i'm ride or die for it obvs #but jgy as a character is the main draw for me. and he would have me by the throat even if there was no zewu-jun #(tho i think jgy's life would be more depressing for his absence obviously) #but he is just. /clenches my fists!!! #THE most compelling character in the story and i cannot stop thinking about him!! cannot will not!! #who else in this book has his range? who else can be the doe-eyed idealist AND the spy with blood on his hands who ends a war? #who else is two different greek tragedies and at least two separate shakespearean tragedies rolled into one antagonist #an antagonist who but for the POV of the novel could very easily have been the protagonist #whose moral event horizon is so deeply entwined with his own trauma and abuse that there is no way to meaningfully separate #the violence he does to others from the systemic violence that was done to him for his whole life? #who else in this book manages to get five separate sect leaders utterly obsessed with him no matter how you choose #to interpret that obsession? #no one!!! that's who!! #ain't no one else in the jianghu doing it like lianfang-zun and that's just a goddamn fact

[starflungwaddledee]

maybe a little bit generic of me, but i adore the dream land four!

magolor and bandee are tied for tippy top favourite, but this whole group just mean everything to me and i am extremely normal about them. after these guys it's probably a very close galacta knight and marx!

king dedede was actually my first ever played exposure to the franchise (through smash multiplayer at a party where i picked him due to Bird) and marx was my first 'character i recognised + played + was obsessed with outside the mains' in star allies so i still consider him my original Little Freak (affectionate)

ask answer for @trainerbob23!

#i actually had to really fight with myself not to make dedede even more Penguin than this. a stylistic compromise Was Reached #and i'm happy to compromise!! ha ha! ha!! totally fine!! *squints grumpily at the yellow bill in bird nerd* #changes on meta knight and magolor however are from the events of awtdy. consider this a happy ending snapshot! #*obviously* meta knight gets back to his loved ones. that's not a spoiler right? we wouldn't leave him rock-candied forever. #a little softer and a little more protective tho. definitely makes sure to tell them that he loves them more often. (even magolor) #awtdy au #my art #meta knight #king dedede #kirby #magolor #bandana waddle dee #and also on account of it being at the end of the au i'll tag this -> #bandee x magolor #🍎

[icantdothistodaybruh]

Them!!

#I'm going to my first ever market as an artist in a month! #tiny Ciel a couple of posts back was a lil keychain #this one is an acrylic stand (a bit unfinished tho) #I'm kinda exited but more scared of not having enough merch and other artist not liking me and just generally fucking up :') #rationally I now it's probably going to be fine though I still worry and draw non stop to worry less so here we are #want to draw more serious stuff but brain ain't cooperating with me on that for now #sorry for rambling #kuroshitsuji #black butler #ciel phantomhive #our ciel #sebastian michaelis #sebaciel #my art

[linktotheheart]

I feel like so many people misunderstand BOTW/TOTK Link especially (Zelda too, but that's another topic entirely)

His lack of expressiveness IS a personality trait. It's a direct result of the pressure on his soldiers to be a perfect soldier, hero, and savior. No, he's not Skyward Sword Link, and never will be, because his story is completely different.

"But [other Link] hugged Zelda when he got her back!" and this Link maintained a respectful distance as his princess's subordinate - but ALSO out of respect for Zelda as a person, because she spent her whole childhood having her agency denied and he wants to let her initiate even something as simple as platonic contact whenever possible. He's being kind!

(And yes, I know that primarily only the "he is a knight and she is a princess" part is directly supported in the actual game, but I'll remind the people making comparisons that the dynamic was COMPLETELY different in their favorite comparison game, Skyward Sword. But also... look at the gentleness with which Link interacts with Zelda, the tenderness that he shows so few other characters - Mipha probably being the closest example. Look at the way he looks to her first to see what to do in every scene they're in together, unless he's protecting her from an immediate threat to her life. Notice how outside of that, Zelda IS usually the one to initiate any physical contact)

I also personally hate it when people describe quiet, not very expressive people as "lacking personality" because... my partner IRL is like that. If she expressed herself at all around most people, it's in a very flat, reserved way. I've seen how it hurts her that people treat her like she doesn't have a personality, like she isn't even a full person - and I know that's real life and Zelda is fiction, but come on, do you think all the people that aren't highly expressive and extroverted don't hear that about very popular characters and internalize it?

Being reserved is a personality trait. Being cautious and not impulsive is a personality trait. In fact, I'd even say just because you as an expressive, extroverted person see Link as a blank slate to project your own personality onto, doesn't mean he actually is or was even intended that way.

(I also think this is a very US-centric point of view, honestly. There's plenty of cultures where even BOTW Link would be considered at least close to average - Finnish culture specifically comes to mind, even if he's still slightly exaggerated in that regard as, y'know, a character.)

Idk, this is as much a silly little vent post as anything, it's not that serious, etc, but whatever

(and don't get me started on "oh Zelda got no agency in TOTK and she learned the powers she was struggling overnight". No, it's called a time skip, and just because she learned her powers before the 13th hour this time - which yeah, she would get them easier this time with a mentor who could actually use the same powers, and having already learned to use her light powers - doesn't mean it just "happened overnight". And... she didn't express agency? She was actively influencing the entire flow of the timeline, changing the actions of her ancestors by convincing her ancestors to act, learning to control her powers and fighting Ganondorf, and finally expressing the ultimate form of autonomy in choosing to sacrifice herself to save the world. Some of the criticisms of TOTK didn't even seem to play the same game. Just because a heroine isn't a pop feminist badass who *gasp* wears pants and easily and perfectly kicks every villain's ass, doesn't mean she "has no agency" and is being sidelined. Like, a princess engaging in courtly politics is neither powerless nor "doing nothing")

#totk #botw #tears of the kingdom #breath of the wild #link #zelda #I'm a multishipper so I can see Zelda and Link as romantic or platonic tbh #vent post #I mean you can reblog but like #even if you disagree don't be an asshole about it #botw/totk haters tho just like. don't. criticism is fine but I'm not interested in debating w/ppl who don't bother to engage in good faith

[ptr-sqloint]

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#art #digital art #my art #it's man-made horrors beyond your comprehension time #i'm sure it's fine tho #flesh and meat and such #angels #computers #gore #? #machines

[wildmelon]

im having such an identity crisis about my editing lately

#ts4 edit #sims 4 edit #ts4 #sims 4 #i feel like i don't love anything i do? #unless im mixing it up lol #like changing my cas bg and reshade and using new cc etc #which is fine i guess change is scary tho #even just a change in my style #it's just been so long that i had a creating/editing routine and i was always happy w the result but lately i'm not :( #i like this though i think im gravitating towards a slightly darker style? #ts4 portrait #sims 4 portrait #ts4 cas #sims 4 cas #create a sim #my sims #sim: theodosia kay #wm: ts4

[sapphire-drawings]

You gotta survive, Wilson

No explanation, just wanted to draw him bleeding and take a break from grinding other stuff

#dst wilson #dont starve #dont starve together #Now if you'll excuse me I'll grief my dog a little more #I'm fine tho Don't worry

[catsharky]

Been playing The Quarry recently and drew this fast last night to send to a friend.

And I mean, I love all of them (though Emma is on thin fucking ice) but I couldn't help but be extra charmed by the tired old man who hasn't had a day off in 6 years

#Jacob is an extremely close second tho ok #they made him cry and I was just #FINE. OK. I'M SOLD #also I think I just started chapter 9 is where I'm at if anyone's curious #the quarry #sharky life #comic #sharky art

[hajihiko]

Physician/therapist/chemist/etc, heal thyself

#hajime hinata #He has off days too. it's hard when the worst part of your life is when you were bored as hell and now it's real easy to get bored again #Sdr2 #Super danganronpa 2 #An art #Who here cursing their brain chemicals or lack thereof tonight? #I am. It's taking all willpower not to drink 5 monsters in a row just to see what happens #Dwbi tho it's fine I'm not gonna this is not a serious threat

[kosukenitoh]

sometimes you just gotta imagine your f/o holding you close to them, petting your head, hearing their voice speak to you softly as they remind you that everything is gonna be alright, that you're gonna be alright, no matter how much you feel like you aren't, no matter how much your mind tells you that you aren't. your f/o is here to remind you that you can and will get through it and you will be okay, especially with them by your side. and they will stay with you until you feel safe again, no matter how long that takes.

#sorry i had a HORRIBLE mental health night last night and was convinced i was dying #its nice to try to tell yourself youre gonna be okay in ur f/os voice idk #I'm fine with ppl reblogging tho <3 #self shipping community #self ship imagine #self shipping #f/o imagines #f/o community #f/o comfort #f/o

[ilovemesomevincentprice]

House of Wax (1953) dir. Andre De Toth

#vincent price #phyllis kirk #house of wax #1950s horror #classic horror #horror classic #i fucking love this movie #his acting is top tier #i love him your honor #why is he so hot tho #hes so sexy #sexy #sexy actors #I'm fine #this is fine #bicon #bisexual #god #horror #old horror movies #vintage #movie #actor #handsome #gif #gifs made by me #gif set #gifs

[ex0rin]

5SF: Gift of the Jack-Guy | Instagram

Problem is, you can’t return them to the store after they go at it. Best Guy has a whole clause in their refund policy about that.

#same tbh #this is 100% what i would do also #jack quaid #merr chrismas #cara gifs #the ripping off wrapping paper with that finally tho #i'm so fine and normal about this #what if i wrote it