#introspections

[chekovsphaser]

Thinking about emotional repression, gender, and parents who tried their best but failed.

My mother said she never taught her sons that boys shouldn't cry, so she doesn't understand their emotional repression. Speaking as her daughter-son, no, she did, indeed, never tell my brothers or myself that boys shouldn't cry. She did, however, yell at us if we got upset by things she didn't think should have upset us (which, with 2/3 autistic kids, turned out to be a lot of things). And huff and say "what now?" when we displayed most non-happiness emotions. This is utterly unrelated to gender or perceived gender of the child. So we learned that happy is the one acceptable emotion and all the other ones are annoying upsetting and embarrassing and should be nobody else's business.

She recognized a bad pattern (teaching men emotional repression through not allowing them to cry) and made a point never to invoke it with her own children. She was trying her best. But she didn't think about the other things that fed this pattern, not just the phrase "boys don't cry", and as a consequence, she effectively taught emotional repression to all of her children, not just the "boy" ones. She did a lot of things right- including a general genderless approach to parenting for most of my life - unfortunately, genderless parenting in this case ended up not as "all kids should be allowed to express their emotions, regardless of gender" and more as "no kids should be allowed to express their emotions, regardless of gender"

#life of dan #introspections #i joked with my therapist a while back that 'IM A REAL BOY NOW' #u know like pinocchio #because telling her how i felt felt like pulling teeth #but genuinely i was raised that way #in the strangest form of gendered neutral socialisation #also i have to say the way she dealt with her emotions #both positive and negative was always so intense i think all of us wanted to avoid it overall

[kavaleyre]

• The Hanged Man •

“Compared to what Falin went through? This is nothing.”

#my art #laios touden #dungeon meshi #delicious in dungeon #dunmeshi laios #hanged man #falin touden #dungeon meshi spoilers #cw blood #walk it off kid walk it off #I really thought hanged man was a good choice for this moment #hanged man is all about sacrifice and introspection and intuition #and a moment of trials that lead to clarity #also when he was falling??? with the blood out of the dragons mouth??? #stunning #i love him so much #the line art for this was so fast and then I colored and revolted the flats for like. 20 hours #like how it turned out in the end tho #kavaleyre

[closethikikomoriblog]

Common Cause: How Our Similarities Teach Us How to Love

When people, despite their differences, focus on what they have in common instead, the act breeds compassion. The perspective shift also grants them superpowers, strong enough to push back against evil. Here's my essay about Ray Bradbury's 1960s novel.

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[wolfythewitch]

Stop adapting the iliad and the Odyssey into movies. You'll never succeed. Adapt them into shounen anime, as is their god given right

#look at the amount of introspection in the Odyssey and tell me it doesnt call for an animated sequence of the character turning #to the screen with an exasperated and simplified scribble face #the Odyssey #the iliad #odysseus literally rips of his clothes before fighting people #nestor constantly complains about his age #hector literally tells paris to die #aphrodite tries to pick up aeneas and drops him after getting shot #and then apollo catches him #ares gets stabbed and goes whining to zeus who calls him a disappointment

[eelhound]

"The idea of reforming Omelas is a pleasant idea, to be sure, but it is one that Le Guin herself specifically tells us is not an option. No reform of Omelas is possible — at least, not without destroying Omelas itself:

If the child were brought up into the sunlight out of that vile place, if it were cleaned and fed and comforted, that would be a good thing, indeed; but if it were done, in that day and hour all the prosperity and beauty and delight of Omelas would wither and be destroyed. Those are the terms.

'Those are the terms', indeed. Le Guin’s original story is careful to cast the underlying evil of Omelas as un-addressable — not, as some have suggested, to 'cheat' or create a false dilemma, but as an intentionally insurmountable challenge to the reader. The premise of Omelas feels unfair because it is meant to be unfair. Instead of racing to find a clever solution ('Free the child! Replace it with a robot! Have everyone suffer a little bit instead of one person all at once!'), the reader is forced to consider how they might cope with moral injustice that is so foundational to their very way of life that it cannot be undone. Confronted with the choice to give up your entire way of life or allow someone else to suffer, what do you do? Do you stay and enjoy the fruits of their pain? Or do you reject this devil’s compromise at your own expense, even knowing that it may not even help? And through implication, we are then forced to consider whether we are — at this very moment! — already in exactly this situation. At what cost does our happiness come? And, even more significantly, at whose expense? And what, in fact, can be done? Can anything?

This is the essential and agonizing question that Le Guin poses, and we avoid it at our peril. It’s easy, but thoroughly besides the point, to say — as the narrator of 'The Ones Who Don’t Walk Away' does — that you would simply keep the nice things about Omelas, and work to address the bad. You might as well say that you would solve the trolley problem by putting rockets on the trolley and having it jump over the people tied to the tracks. Le Guin’s challenge is one that can only be resolved by introspection, because the challenge is one levied against the discomforting awareness of our own complicity; to 'reject the premise' is to reject this (all too real) discomfort in favor of empty wish fulfillment. A happy fairytale about the nobility of our imagined efforts against a hypothetical evil profits no one but ourselves (and I would argue that in the long run it robs us as well).

But in addition to being morally evasive, treating Omelas as a puzzle to be solved (or as a piece of straightforward didactic moralism) also flattens the depth of the original story. We are not really meant to understand Le Guin’s 'walking away' as a literal abandonment of a problem, nor as a self-satisfied 'Sounds bad, but I’m outta here', the way Vivier’s response piece or others of its ilk do; rather, it is framed as a rejection of complacency. This is why those who leave are shown not as triumphant heroes, but as harried and desperate fools; hopeless, troubled souls setting forth on a journey that may well be doomed from the start — because isn’t that the fate of most people who set out to fight the injustices they see, and that they cannot help but see once they have been made aware of it? The story is a metaphor, not a math problem, and 'walking away' might just as easily encompass any form of sincere and fully committed struggle against injustice: a lonely, often thankless journey, yet one which is no less essential for its difficulty."

- Kurt Schiller, from "Omelas, Je T'aime." Blood Knife, 8 July 2022.

#kurt schiller #ursula k. le guin #quote #quotations #the ones who walk away from omelas #trolley problem #activism #introspection #discomfort #reform #revolution #suffering #ethics #morality

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[otaku553]

Thoughts on being aroace

#I like doing these little introspective thought comics they’re pretty fun #I didn’t get to include this in the comic but I do feel like loneliness is maybe not quite the right word #it’s not quite jealousy or envy either #more like #the sad knowledge that you are lower on someone else’s list of priorities than they are on your priorities #something like that I guess #if this seems like a sad comic don’t worry! I am ok :) I have my best friend and we’re both very clear on how much we care for each other #so I’m never really left needing or wanting more love or anything #love is so weirdly defined anyways

[voltaical-art]

im in agony. a little self indulgent but I think wyll deserves to be told he's loved and have a small breakdown about it

#bg3 #wyll ravengard #tav #wyll x tav #baldur's gate 3 #voltaical ocs #bishop #finally downloaded one (1) font bc i had too much dialog for this #i dont even hate ulder taht much i just thing wyll should talk about ANY complicated feelings he has about him. #also the way wyll always seems to be quoting him like pls what are YOUR THOUGHTS not some cryptic thing your father told you 10 years ago #and rlly if you take the way wyll describes the situation as hard truth #ALL the justification Ulder had for banishing his son #are conclusions WYLL has come to on his OWN since ulder only said ‘one word to him’ #LIKE his relationship with his father could have been SO interesting but wyll isn’t allowed to have ANY introspection at all #so he just apologizes and wyll continues to try and please him

[sangled]

ship dynamic i eat up every time

#sang art #sketches #ship dynamics #meme #specifically it's 'coping with feelings through complex pained introspection' x 'coping with feelings through no thought whatsoever' #also hi sorry for the radio silence #trying to post and draw again #1kn

[jaggedjawjosh]

You asked for my trust, then marred it with betrayal, wondering why the faith was lost.

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[cametotheshowinsd]

Midnights Era || how it started / how it ended

#taylor swift #tswiftedit #tswiftgif #midnghts #a beautiful era #farewell our introspective but bejeweled sister #it's been the most fun ever

[traaansfem]

Just remembered the time the lesbian throuple in theater class back in high school asked me when I was going to go on HRT, and how one of them offered to help me get on it. Those lasses weren't just pre-ordering, they were trying their best to fund the damn kickstarter.

#trans #transgender #transfem #queer #lgbtqia+ #trans pride #mtf trans #intersex #every day I look back in introspection and go “WOW. Uh. That was obvious! particularly with the benefit of hindsight.”

[sharpibees]

weird night, strange men🏜️

#the cowboy brainrot has been so real that I saw this guy in my dream #gave me introspective words while we watched a wierd movie on a small vcr tv. im not normal!!!! #cowboy #drawing #inks

[histrionicscribbler]

my fav parts of the epilogue:

knives in sex bob-omb! the keyboard really adds something to that track!

ACTUAL STUNT DOUBLE RAMONA

todd and roxie!! mlm wlw solidarity

barista lucas. flashy ass. /pos

wallace and his bf w the SPARKS!!!

ramona's blonde and teal hair

HEY GORDON WHAT DID YOU MEAN BY "THE REAL GAME"? IS THAT A HINT AT A POSSIBLE S2?

#EDIT: NOOO STOP REBLOGGING THIS WITH THE TYPOOOO #overall I LOVED IT I LOVED IT I LOVED IT #it's not at all what i thought it was gonna be. it took a risk and it SERIOUSLY PAID OFF #i like to think scott goes thru all his necessary self reflection and introspection between the end and the epilogue #oh my goddd #scott pilgrim anime #scott pilgrim takes off #scott pilgrim #spto spoilers #spto liveblogging #spto #peeb post #1k

[sporesgalaxy]

he's so normal and I'm so normal about it

#toh spoilers #toh #the owl house #spacecreate #colorful stuff #wish i had the technology to do a proper rei introspection shot reference *has the technology & refuses to use it* #hunter whittebane

[ddbyron]

Break

I need a break from being alive I need a break from feeling I need a break from loving I need a break from being human Thoughts of yesterday Play in my head Good memories Fond times All overwhelmed By the dark cloud of uncertainty Of tomorrow I think a lot Of the now How my life Feels like It has lost meaning The things that brought me joy Before Don’t anymore Dreams of tomorrow Are all gloomy…

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#death #Depressed #depression #introspections #life #mental health #mentalhealth #poetry #Suicide #therapy #uncertainty #youth