Acceptance of interracial relationships is one of the key measures sociologists use to examine and measure levels of racist attitudes in society. This recent infographic from Gallup shows encouraging real-time progress over sixty years in the US.
My mom fucking insinuated that I'm somehow forcing my (black) partner to do everything for me like a slave and that he's my "caretaker by force" like I've somehow tricked him into doing everything for me. Not like he has FREE WILL to decide to help me because he loves me and knows how hard I try and wants to make it easier on me. No it must be because I'm white and he's black. Why else would he hang around such a burden?!?
So apparently saying fuck off in response to that makes me the bad guy. Not her getting drunk and ragging on about how I'm abusing my poor boyfriend with my fake disability. My dad yelled at me right in my face about it.
I did talk with my boyfriend after this and he said it was ridiculous and he actually feels he doesn't do ENOUGH for me. I love this man to death and I help him with less labor-heavy tasks all the time. It's not like he's the only one who gives in our relationship. And relationships aren't always 100% equal! Recently he's been helping me more because I've been cleaning out my room which is very labor heavy. But even still he only really does the heavy lifting that I can't do.
But apparently there's no other reason a black person and a white person would be together. No it has to be some sick fucked up racist and abusive relationship.
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I’m writing a fantasy piece involving romance between a white man and a black man who end up living together and eventually married. Would it be inappropriate for the white man to learn how to help his husband with his hair, specifically with stuff like braiding? He would be learning how from his brother in law. I just think the idea of them playing with and doing each other’s hair was cute but I realize that the white husband may have to learn some things before he is able to reciprocate well. I worry that this may come off as something other than him doing it out of love for his husband (although I don’t know what that would be so that may just be paranoia).
Thank you!
Can my white character braid their black partner’s hair?
Absolutely, they can. A white partner or even friend can definitely braid their Black partner’s hair. There’s a certain amount of cultural sharing that goes into having a close relationship with someone of another background. Common ones I see are the sharing and exchange of food, language, traditions, and at times helping and learning about one’s hair and how they care and style it. And I would expect no less from a white parent that has Black children.
I agree with you that it’s a cute. bonding moment to see. (And if I knew how to braid and style well myself, maybe I'd teach my husband, although sometimes I have him help me wash and detangle..!)
Marvel’s Misty Knight and Danny Rand in Secret Wars: Secret Love Vol 1 #1 (2015). Danny is putting Misty’s hair in bantu knots. Story: Jeremy Whitley, Artist: Gurihiru
I only find it weird when it’s hyped up like an amazing feat when a white person can do things that BIPOC do on the daily. Appreciation and being impressed at their skillset is fine, but just remember that it doesn’t make them some celebrity [insert the cringe proverbial cookout invite]. It could also just be a discussion and casually happen.
Love this man, his wife is so lucky. These are the type of white boys I like. The ones that are socially aware and will stand up and defend their girl from anyone. That is what an alpha truly is.
TikTok is a crazy place when it comes to bullying. When someone leaves me a racist, sexist and hateful comment, that doesn't get flagged. Yet if I respond to them with that same energy, my comment gets flagged. That's absolutely crazy to me. That basically encourages bullying and doesn't allow for people to defend themselves.
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