#infertility

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[figmentforms]

AToTR update will be a few days late

Sorry about this again. I got more bad news from the doctor and as a result I have really struggled to focus and I’ve gotten behind on my work.

Look for it around the 4th, hopefully it will be done sooner though. Thank you all so much for your on-going patience and kindness. <3

If people want to know details, I’ve put them below a “keep reading” line because medical stuff is understandably icky sometimes and I also talk about my bad feels with it and that’s... that’s kinda a lot. For those concerned, my life isn’t in danger. The removed tumor is still diagnosed as not cancer. It just did a lot of damage and I have a few more surgeries and drugs and a gamble to make and I’m freaked out about it.

 So the tumor destroyed both my fallopian tubes and now I’m going to need a few more surgeries to either: A-try to repair them, or B- remove them. One has fluid in it and that will poison the womb if I try to do IVF, so at least one tube will probably have to be chopped out. Not sure about the other yet. Plus IVF egg retrieval is intense too (They knock you out and jab you with a big needle for every egg they take out) and I’m weary of the drugs I would have to take for it too (self injecting hormones in my tummy to get multiple eggs ready to harvest. With my medical history, these hormones could give me a stroke). ON TOP of that, I’m not even sure if my womb is even in good enough shape to do IVF at all after all the damage that the tumor left behind, I’m still waiting to get another ultrasound to see for sure. AND even WITH IVF and my other factors in consideration, the chance of even getting pregnant at ALL is like a coin toss. Not to mention the HUGE medical bills. 

I know some people won’t understand why I’m going through all this. Lots of people choose to not have biological children, and there’s absolutely nothing wrong with that. People can have full and beautiful lives with or without kids and there should never be any judgement there. And adoption is a beautiful thing too, but it’s also a different journey and not one I feel ready for. In the US, it costs roughly 20 to 50 thousand dollars to adopt domestically, 75 thousand for international adoption. Fostering is MUCH less, but the goal is to get the child back to the bio mother, not for you to keep them. Even if the bio parent is a child abuser, I would be legally required to give the child back if the bio parent filled out a single simple scrap of paperwork within 3 years of having the child taken. My heart couldn’t take that.

 I’ve wanted to be able to get pregnant and have a child since i was a kid myself. I had names in mind. I had saved baby outfits. I got excited looking at maternity clothing. I feel like i have a huge hole ripped in my heart. I feel extremely broken, angry, and scared. Even if all this is ends up not working out, I still have to try because I can’t let my fear lead me to a life where I always wonder what could have been. To me, the regret of not trying is worse than all the pain, risk, and expense of trying.

Anyway, infertility can be really hard for some people. Please try to be kind to those who are going through this. I’m lucky because at least I have a loving and understand partner and a great support network of friends and family. Other people get abandoned over this sort of thing. My situation has been hard for me, but I also know I have a lot to be grateful for. Thank you so much to those who have reached out and shared your own experiences with this sort of thing. Even to people who just have kind words and encouragement to offer. I’m grateful for all of it and for all of you. <3

#Late update #tumor update #infertility #medical

[butchbarbieagainstterfs]

Yeah I’m sorry, if your fearmongering about a surgery is causing people to openly admit they view afab people as nothing more than incubators whose entire life must be revolve around having children, then you cannot in any way call yourself a feminist.

She literally tweeted this to me, an infertile afab person, too. Think how this shit affects me mentally. This person is essentially saying that my life and body is worthless.

#anti terf #infertility #personal #misogyny tw

[pommegrantaire]

I guess angels and demons really don’t mix…

My first piece for @ineffablefamfeb had to be a sad one using the prompt “Struggling to conceive / infertility” because i love pain!

I feel like after trying for a very long time, they eventually think about adoption. But then the idea of adopting a mortal child who they would outlive is a whole other painful thing to think about.

#ineffablefamfeb #ineffable family february #good omens #good omens events #good omens fanart #ineffable parents #ineffable family #aziraphale #crowley #anthony j crowley #aziracrow #air conditioning #ineffable husbands #ineffable partners #pomegrantArt #ready to be exiled by a big chunk of the go fandom the more ineffable family content i post but listen #cw infertility #infertility #pregnancy

[dennysbathroommetalband]

As someone who struggles with infertility, I *constantly* hear the defense from anti-choicers that I should be upset with abortion because I want a baby.

Let me say this loud and clear- going through infertility, IVF, and a miscarriage has only further strengthened my support of abortion rights.

Why?

Because I know how it feels not to have the right to choose.

Sure, it’s different in that I want a baby and some don’t. But I know the feeling of not being in control of your body. The fear of what the future looks like and how all of your goals and dreams are now murky and uncertain. The horrible depression and anxiety that comes with knowing no matter how hard you try or what you do, you don’t have control of your reproductive system.

Nobody deserves that.

“But, you could have had those babies for adoption!!”

No. Absolutely not. Adoption has never, could never, will never heal infertility. Whatever your opinions on adoption are, adopting a child doesn’t suddenly fix that trauma, and expecting that of them is downright cruel and abusive.

My infertility does not warrant a person to have to endure a pregnancy they don’t want. My infertility does not make their trauma “worth it.” My infertility absolutely doesn’t mean a child should go through adoption trauma all because I want a baby, and someone else doesn’t.

Stop using infertility to defend your bigotry.

#pro choice #infertility #ivf #adoption #abortion #miscarriage

[littleflowerfaith]

Please pray for my husband and I that we are able to have a baby ❤️‍🩹 we want so badly to be parents but are so far unable to have children. It’s heartbreaking

#prayer request #prayer #pray for me #infertility

[ipsogender]

Mesosex

EDIT 2023-11-23: the term has been revised to:

Mesosex: a person who has an intersex variation, but one which does not conform to perisex (non-intersex) ideas of what intersex is. For example, people who have intersex traits that are considered "mild", or who have variations such as PCOS Hyperandrogenism and Poland Syndrome.

Meso- for middle/in between, to refer to the state of being in between what the intersex community accepts as intersex and what the broader public (mistakenly) thinks intersex is.

More info on why the revision has happened: https://www.tumblr.com/ipso-faculty/734822362966540288?source=share

For archival purposes, this was the original post:

Mesosex: somebody who identifies with intersex people but not as intersex, and also feels perisex does not quite apply to them either. Meso- from Greek mesos (middle), to indicate that one feels in between having the intersex experience and the perisex experience. For example, people with reproductive disorders who feel they have common ground with intersex people but not so much common ground as to feel they are intersex.

There are conditions like PCOS and Poland Syndrome that exist on a spectrum from definitely intersex to perisex-ish, and I hope this term gives people on the perisex-ish side of the spectrum more useful word for themselves than the current language of "intersex-adjacent".

I want to be clear that people with conditions like PCOS and Poland Syndrome are completely entitled to call themselves intersex and that there is broad agreement within the intersex community that anybody with these conditions who feels they are intersex is intersex.

In coining this term I am hoping to validate and connect people who would otherwise call themselves perisex yet not feel it is quite accurate for them.

Mesosex people can have any gender, similar to how intersex people can have any gender.

In designing the flag our goal was to give an impression of something in between the intersex flag and cisperinormative gender colours whilst also including nonbinary people. The salmon background is chosen as a colour that is not quite pink, and the periwinkle ring is chosen for being not quite blue, but still reminiscent of the purple ring of the intersex flag. The white centre, put inside the purple-ish ring, is chosen to reflect how the nonbinary flag has white and purple in its middle.

The term and flag were workshopped with @scifimagpie. I had been thinking for a while that it would be useful to have a term for people who feel in between intersex and perisex, and these recent posts by @queercripintersex on identifying with rather than as not only convinced me there is actually an audience for such a term but also inspired me to get this done! PS. If you are questioning if you are intersex, check out this post by @intersex-support with a big list of intersex media, which you can use to get a sense on whether you resonate with intersex experiences. (Also check out their FAQ! And their past posts! They're really great!)

#mesosex #intersex #perisex #mogai #mogai coining #pcos #hyperandrogenism #poland syndrome #infertility #mogai new term #new pride flag #mogai flag #new term #mogai term #intersex adjacent

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