#in yourself

[egberts]

I notice that fatphobia is something on your mind lately, so I am going to hope you are willing to indulge my questions. You see, I don't want to be an asshole at all so I try my very hardest to be as polite and accommodating as I can to everyone around me. It's usually not too hard, but lately people in my personal life have been calling me fatphobic due to putting myself on a diet. It doesn't matter to them that the reason I do this is for a combination of food allergies and an attempt to deter self-harming behavior (the weight of the fat on my body is a texture/feeling that sets off my brain to the point of mindlessly scratching myself until im covered in bleeding sores)

What I was wondering was whether or not I am wrong, and should abandon this diet to make these people more comfortable? I should say that I'm pretty clear about it not being an issue for anyone else to them, and that it's a me thing. As far as I'm concerned, it isn't my business what other people do with their bodies so long as they are happy. I just don't want to keep hurting myself.

diets are a personal choice, especially ones for medical reasons. that being said, I am and have been highly critical of certain diets and diet culture as a whole in the past. I'd be hypocrit if I said my fat ass didn't try to diet in the past too, but at the end of the day it is a personal choice. your friends might be shaming you out of concern, there are a number of reasons they could be associating your choice to diet with fatphobia. are you even a fat person or are you a thin person who just doesn't want to have fat? that would be my biggest red flag for calling it as fatphobia. it feels like you didn't really tell the whole story here and if you did then i'm sorry you have shitty friends but they could also just be concerned and not know how to voice it. all that being said, if you in your own skin personally feel that dieting is the only way to curb your self harm habits, then live your life. it is your life, you can hear other people's opinions and even outright facts and still be like "nah not for me in my life" and carry on.

#also not a dig at you personally anon but why do i keep getting these super long asks asking for my opinion about ur personal lives 😭 #if i post a general opinion that makes you feel the need to come get somw nuance out of me then please also consider checking the nuance #in yourself #eating disorder tw #self harm tw

[shitbrainratface]

I want to write a love letter to those with BPD and it will be written in the blood of the people who taught you that you need to heal because you're a guilty monster who needs to hide and control your unfixable self rather than because youre a trauma survivor who needs to unlearn coping mechanisms you grew up with to survive trauma but as an adult only harms you and others now that you're attempting healthy relationships with people who love you

#i dont have bpd but so many people in my life whom I love and cherish do #and almost all of them have been told their recovery needs to be based on fear and guilt and self hate #rather than self compassion and love and nurturing the child in you who never got nutured #a hard lesson i learned is that once you start forgiving yourself and treating yourself with compassion - you will be able to form #relationships easier #not pushing the ''you cant love others until you love yourself'' bullshit bc thats not true #but when you respect yourself enough to be open with boundaries (and be confident enough to speak up if someone accidentally breaks them) #you will form relationships with people who want to and enjoy respecting those boundaries #when you form a good understanding of your own boundaries then other people's boundaries dont feel as scary #when you are compassionate to yourself and your worth - youre able to realize that other people find worth in you even if you dont see it #in yourself #when you understand that your perception of yourself is flawed and heavily based on how you used to be treated #you understand that there is no one correct way to percieve you - and just because you struggle to see why someone is with you #doesnt mean they have that same perspective #its complex there is a lot #but base your recovery on compassion towards yourself and AFTER you start getting a hang of that you can also focus on others #if you go right from ''im a monster'' to ''i need to stop hurting others'' then it will be based on guilt #but if you go from ''im a monster'' to ''im a human'' to ''i forgive myself for how I acted when i was in the worst place of my life'' #to ''hey maybe I did end up hurting people but that doesnt mean im evil and horrible it just means i have things to work on'' to #''ok how can I make sure I treat my loved ones with respect and learn the mechanics of a healthy relationship'' #then your recovery will be about love and acceptance #not to preach or anything and this isnt to say that this is the right path for everyone bc different ppl do different types of therapy #but yeah i am just distraught at how pwBPD are treated #bpd #mental health #patient abuse #client abuse #ableism #bpd ableism #cluster b ableism

[seniouesbabes]

Lily Maymac 🌸🍒💋🌸 A reminder to believe in yourself & your dreams ❤️

#lilymaymac #beautiful #sexy #babes #models #instagram models #fashion #selfie #october 2022 #australia #sydney #home vibes #wednesday 12 #remix magazine #fashion shoot #sexy smile #believe #in yourself #dream big

[reality-detective]

1963 Refrigerator 🤔

#pay attention #educate yourselves #educate yourself #knowledge is power #reeducate yourself #reeducate yourselves #think about it #think for yourselves #think for yourself #do your homework #do some research #do your own research #ask yourself questions #question everything #american history #history lesson

[lucidloving]

@roach-works // Melissa Broder, "Problem Area" // Mary Oliver, "The Return" // @annavonsyfert // Koyoharu Gotouge, Demon Slayer // Haruki Murakami, Dance Dance Dance // David Levithan, How They Met and Other Stories // Tennessee Williams, Notebooks

#theme: saving yourself #my favourite thing about myself is how i always pick myself back up #and make things better #again and again #web weaving #webs #poetry #aesthetic #prose #prose poetry #art #collage #literature #books #book quotes #novels #novel quotes #poems #quotes #words #positivity

[doccywhomst]

#i’ve been thinking abt that cringe post #i think the latent feelings behind ‘cringe’ are shame and sometimes envy/bitterness #same vibes as when six year olds say ‘those toys are for babies’ if they’ve been shamed for their age by older kids #anyway. i think part of the healing process is realizing that shame puts you at war with yourself bc part of yourself is a social being! #and that part of you wants community and acceptance (maybe love). shame is the absence of acceptance #unlearning shame means learning self-love and gaining the confidence to find your people #jerma #cw jerma #(someone asked me to tag lol)

[sirguyofdykesborn]

how are you a lesbian but he him

please... the pronouns is all i have left of my father

#ask tag #lesbians are the only people allowed to have he/him pronouns anon. educate yourself

[dameronalone]

oh gee discord should I try adding numbers? should I try that???? should I try adding numbers to the end of my username so that it's individualized and only mine???? should I try adding numbers??????????

#discord #I hate this #congratulations you played yourself #we're at the exact place we were before only worse #thanks. go fuck urself

[twinwound]

mary shelley writing about a monster rejected and abandoned by its creator and dedicating it to her own father i need to smoke a blunt with her i need to give her head

#there are parallels even in the creature’s journey to geneva to find frankenstein and matilda’s fantasies of a pilgrimage across the world #in search of her father #searching for eden finding yourself in hell #the fall into monsterous womanhood #and so on

[silverspleen]

Every time I see that G--gle phone photoshop commercial my heart is filled with infinite sadness, like, yeah it's cool you can have a good family photo, it's cool you can do that, but god, there is something to be said for the honesty of a family photo where you're blinking, or crying, or have ugly wrinkles.

What is too unsightly for you? Would you swipe-click-replace out the image of my cousin crying on our Florida trip family reunion photo? Would you remove the plastic snake I have clenched in my grip, which I still have to this day? Would you scoff at the wrinkles around our eyes and the strands of hair on our faces as we squint into the wind, the day before the massive storm? Would I remember it if I didn't have these reminders, if the picture was perfect and clean, all children in a row with perfect gleaming white tombstone tooth smiles? No tears. No plastic snake.

Everyone is beautiful and no one looks genuine.

#like it's cool it's cool but also IT HURTS. #BE UGLY #HAVE AN UNFLATTERING PICTURE OF YOURSELF #it's who you are #people are often unflattering and it's genuine #anyway stupid candid camera shots will always be my favorite pictures of myself #I like to see how I look when I'm not posing #the dragoon diaries

[thunderon]

so my roommate is completely straight edge like no drugs no alcohol etc and so im sure y’all can imagine my surprise when i saw she brought home this sign

so i immediately inquired

and now you may ask. what the fuck did my roommate think that sign meant? well

anyways i moved the sign so it’s now front and center in our living room and ive been laughing every time i pass it

#the SERENITY PRAYER IN LATIN #life is about surrounding yourself with the dumbest people imaginable so you can get some occasional laughs #i also don’t smoke #so this sign is extra funny to put up in our place #op #also my roomie is actually very very intelligent contrary to this post lmao #bestof

[bloodybellycomb]

One massive, legitimate way to improve as a writer or artist or in any creative endeavor really, is to become absolutely obsessed with something and to allow yourself to be weird about it. Genuinely mean this btw.

#dc comics #disco elysium #shakespeare #hamlet #scott pilgrim #<- all this things have made me a better #writer and artist for both fan creation #and for my own original work #literal life hack #allow yourself to become obsessive and cringe to a certain degree #birdy chirps

[willowparkfanclub]

zeus is so bold commenting on poseidon having a forbidden kid as if he doesn't have TWO: one who is currently a tree and the other who's being raised by wolves. be serious

#at least poseidon only had one.... #like check yourself bud #pjo #pjotv #percy jackson #percy jackon and the olympians #zeus #poseidon #me yapping

[cozylittleartblog]

cant tell you how bad it feels to constantly tell other artists to come to tumblr, because its the last good website that isn't fucked up by spoonfeeding algorithms and AI bullshit and isn't based around meaningless likes

just to watch that all fall apart in the last year or so and especially the last two weeks

there's nowhere good to go anymore for artists.

edit - a lot of people are saying the tags are important so actually, you'll look at my tags.

#please dont delete your accounts because of the AI crap. your art deserves more than being lost like that #if you have a good PC please glaze or nightshade it. if you dont or it doesnt work with your style (like mine) please start watermarking #use a plain-ish font. make it your username. if people can't google what your watermark says and find ur account its not a good watermark #it needs to be central in the image - NOT on the canvas edges - and put it in multiple places if you are compelled #please dont stop posting your art because of this shit. we just have to hope regulations will come slamming down on these shitheads#in the next year or two and you want to have accounts to come back to. the world Needs real art #if we all leave that just makes more room for these scam artists to fill in with their soulless recycled garbage #improvise adapt overcome. it sucks but it is what it is for the moment. safeguard yourself as best you can without making #years of art from thousands of artists lost media. the digital world and art is too temporary to hastily click a Delete button out of spite

#not art #but important #please dont delete your accounts because of the AI crap. your art deserves more than being lost like that #if you have a good PC please glaze or nightshade it. if you dont or it doesnt work with your style (like mine) please start watermarking #use a plain-ish font. make it your username. if people can't google what your watermark says and find ur account its not a good watermark #it needs to be central in the image - NOT on the canvas edges - and put it in multiple places if you are compelled #please dont stop posting your art because of this shit. we just have to hope regulations will come slamming down on these shitheads #in the next year or two and you want to have accounts to come back to. the world Needs real art #if we all leave that just makes more room for these scam artists to fill in with their soulless recycled garbage #improvise adapt overcome. it sucks but it is what it is for the moment. safeguard yourself as best you can without making #years of art from thousands of artists lost media. the digital world and art is too temporary to hastily click a Delete button out of spite

[toss-a-coin-to-your-stan-account]

being a student during peak pandemic was so fucking surreal like. "it's not an excuse to fall behind" I cannot stress enough to you how much A Worldwide Plague Upending Life As We Know It is literally one of The Top Three Reasons to fall behind

#you go upstairs to hear the news talk about the death toll hitting 100k. you get some frozen waffles bc its all you've got stocked up #and you wont risk going to get groceries or takeout. you go back downstairs because you have a 3 page essay due. #you stare at your word doc with lofi playing and wonder why you can't just buckle down and work like normal. #or really. you pretend to wonder #because you know the reason you cant work like normal #you just refuse to allow yourself to believe its reason enough #mine #academia #covid mention

[epicsauce]

learning that self deprecation isnt cool and just makes the people around you uncomfortable unironically improved my mental health a lot. like if you just stop saying negative shit about yourself you will genuinely like yourself more and other people wont be repulsed by your attitude and you will have more friends. it's true.

#people will fr go ''god im such an ugly loser LOL i suck at everything i do and i should just kms“ #and then go “why does no one want to be around me” #maybe because your attitude sucks. maybe because i said 'those mean things you say about yourself arent true' #and you spent five minutes arguing with me about how im wrong. #00