#in this patriarchal society

[aowyn]

not even us.

GONCHAROV (1973)

#this scene with katya and sofia made me SCREAM!!! #cannot believe this happened in a movie from 50 years ago???? #this is what goncharov is really about #relationships between queer women in a heteranormative patriarchal society #goncharov #katya #sofia #gosh i have so many feelings about them #said el #el did an edit

[obstinaterixatrix]

here are all the recs I posted for femslash february 2024...! each individual rec post can be found in my femslash feb recs tag. I actually thought I wasn't going to be able to do this because work got super chaotic, but in the end I couldn't bear to skip out on a leap year. that's a whole extra day for yuri.

last year I focused on official releases, so this year I wanted to focus on series that aren't technically officially available (plus a french-japanese film). fan translations are always a dicey for artists/translators/publishers/etc because obviously they need to get paid... but yuri's already such an overlooked genre that—in an official capacity—we end up with a couple drops from what's already a pretty small pool. I read hana to hoshi about a decade ago, and I keep submitting it to the seven seas survey for licensure! and yet!! no dice. and even when there are official releases, sometimes they just... disappear!? wish you were gone was licensed and then taken down, so for a while the only way to read it (if you missed out on buying it) was the fan translation. I think it's important to support artists and official releases, and also, to appreciate the thankless endeavor(/crime) of scanlation.

hope yall find something you like!

#femslash february #femslash feb recs #ff recs #recs #rambled a lot for this one lol #but like. yeah. honey & honey is imo a pretty culturally significant work #but I can't see any publishers picking it up for licensure #maybe for a recent autobio manga but certainly not one from 20 years ago #and from a marketing standpoint. it's 'hard' to push yuri as a genre. #bl has an obvious and profitable demographic (women) #m/f has an obvious and profitable demographic (women) #but--if you make a distinction between yuri and H (I do)--yuri doesn't really have an obvious and profitable demographic #so it's a lot harder to pitch yuri... which means it's a lot harder to even introduce yuri to a broader audience... #and thus the cycle continues... #plus there's the whole systemic misogyny embeded into a patriarchal society which devalues stories centered around women etc #anyway the POINT is. commit to yuri duty. be a yuri warrior. write femslash. hype femslash.

[fromtheseventhhell]

Imagine being 9 years old and asking your dad about the things you're interested in doing when you grow up and he's like "No ❤️! But you can get married, have babies, and then maybe your sons can do those things ☺️🫶 "

#arya stark #one of those /wtf Ned/ moments #then people act like she invented misogyny cause she was like /uuuhhhhh no thanks that's not me/ #/Arya is masculine/ and she's literally just a child who has interests outside of her patriarchy-assigned role #the way people read this and then demonize Arya for not silently conforming like people expect her to... #that's the ingrained misogyny from being socialized in a patriarchal society speaking babes 😭 #cannot stress enough how Arya is just an average little girl and what makes her behavior stand out is their society's strict gender norms #her life + learning almost entirely revolves around the fact that she is being raised to be a wife and people resent her for wanting more : #she is NINE in AGoT and her parents are discussing her refinement because /In a few years she will be of an age to marry/ #the way misogyny is explored in Arya's story is actually so brilliant and well-written (+ underappreciated) though #we feel the full weight of how restrictive their society is through her POV and get the experiences of lower-class women too #which is why it's so significant that George wrote her based on feminists who realized they wanted more than becoming wives/housewives #she's one of his key characters who will /change the world/ but people think he's sticking her on a boat bc she isn't feminine enough 😭 #thank god he's writing the books and not any of these reductive hacks who thinks misogyny is subversive 🙏🏾 #sidenote: would've loved to see this from her POV to get her feelings when he said this cause I'm sure it doesn't match Ned's perception #considering he views her main issues as being stubborn/difficult while we know about the self-esteem issues she has

[stupot]

I feel like, regrettably, this website needs a crash course in recognizing a particular brand of post about female martyrdom and suffering that is really, at its core, based on OP's views on a holistic level, a post about hating """men""" in disguise. Female anger is righteous and does come a from a place of personal and historical suffering, and should be expressed. I truly do think that. But I guess Tumblr's userbase sucks because then you go on these blogs and it's post after post about how men are ontologically evil and sex work should be criminalized and women are these broken shattered creatures unilaterally scorned by MALES with no hope for justice. Just the absolute most childish reductive way of analyzing misogyny in our culture that always boils down to racism, prejudice against sex workers, and transphobia

#there's a post that's pretty innocuous on its face going around #about how people love characters until they're women or something #and there is hope in my heart that something that is generally a truthful observation such as this can be made in good faith #with a sufficiently consummate understanding of how sex and gender operate in a patriarchal cis normative society #and then I go on the blog and it's talking about how people should stop bullying terfs #there's also a post about how generalizing about white women means white women should get to generalize about black men #like a fucking course you're also racist #these posts are almost always by white women whose understanding of misogyny is exclusively informed by their own white experiences

[femmespoiled]

I've been seeing this trend going around about all the terrible things about being a lesbian and I just wanna say, I love being a lesbian, I wake up everyday thankful that I'm a lesbian, I'm proud to be a lesbian, if there's one thing right about me is that I'm a lesbian, being a lesbian is honestly fucking great, I love my desire, I love my love, i love my attraction, I love this part of me so much 💖

#also the things people are upset about are mostly but not always homophobia and patriarchal issues which aren't our fault #random stuff #bellas butch/femme tag #*at least inherently #like they don't happen because youre a lesbian they happen because society is massively fucked up

[spectrum-color]

Middle aged widower Viserys being presented with a prepubescent Laena Valeryon as a potential bride has always been repulsive, but the show actually visualizing what they look like next to each other was genuinely disturbing

#house of the dragon #hotd #viserys targaryen #laena velaryon #when she said that her mother told her she wouldn’t have to bed him until she’s 14 #it was disgusting #I get what grrm was going for though #a sharp indictment of patriarchal societies that turn women into property #like sansas forced wedding to tyrion or dany being sold to drogo

[worstloki]

Tom Hiddleston once suggested Sif's actress Jaime Alexander could have played Loki instead of him.

Do you think your feelings about Thor 1 and 2 would change in any way if Loki were cast as a woman? (if the plot stays exactly the same or minor differences)

I feel like it absolutely would change my thoughts about Thor 1 and 2 but hear me out because the gender change in the context of what I understand of Asgardian society would mean Loki starts out as a younger sister thanklessly expected to mediate Thor’s violent tendencies and by the end of the movie she’s turned into what is basically Hela

#I think throwing Loki under the bus by making her a woman but not changing the plot would have a lot of implications #like as a man/prince in asgardian society there was the whole warrior life thing going on as an expectation #and idk if that pressure would be more or less if Loki was a girl? #I’d assume the pressure is less but if Loki is still struggling to be loved/respected it’s like. of course she’s trying to be a warrior too #Loki would 🤝 with Sif a lot more directly in terms of situation #Sif having no solidarity for that would be wild but could make sense I suppose #if magic use was frowned upon even if Loki is a woman it would be ‘oh of course she should be allowed to she needs to make up for lacking X’ #competing with Thor would be so much more savage fr #like you’ve told a stolen/fostered daughter that she’s got the same shot for the throne as your son. in a patriarchal warrior society #in a place where men and women have different cultural expectations and the person on the throne should always be ready for war #like. bruh #also Odin saying he wants to forge peace between their realms obv means the possibility of Odin wanting to marry Thor and her at some point #unfortunate

[gnometa233]

Yeah yeah I know misery is not a part of womanhood but that doesn't mean the very real effects of misogyny don't exist and don't affect women. Yall know that...right?

#like yeah fuck the terfs and them saying womanhood = suffering #but that doesnt mean there isnt any suffering in womanhood in a patriarchal society #feminism #terfs dont touch

[sandu-zidian]

Damn you really can’t go far in the blue eye samurai tag without someone going ballistics about how someone is labeling Mizu’s gender it’s honestly kind of funny how many posts I’ve passed on this topic. Mizu is a woman. Mizu is a trans man. Mizu is non-binary. Mizu’s relationship to gender is complex and the desire of revenge is too important to like actually sit and figure out what the fuck she really wants

#katantalks #blue eye samurai #mizu #reminds me of that Joan of arc post going around #like I feel like it’s more complex than just mizu using cross dressing to live more easily in a patriarchal and sexist society #like I don’t think it’s wrong to headcanon that Mizu finds some comfort in crossdressing beyond it’s use as protection #and like personally there’s definitely something interesting there to explore #where there’s this paradox of crossdressing both as imperative but also there is some sense of enjoyment in it #like it’s not a clear delineated line between those two reasons #idk y’all like I think if we stop trying to view trans and cis and enby as these distinctly different experiences then maybe we would #all he more normal about Mizu

[1yyyyyy1]

in regards to your last post about female heterosexuality... i have an observation i always find rather ticklish when talking with male partnered women about the risks of dating men. for example, when we would talk about the terrible things men can and do do to women in relationships, they would describe those men as "toxic" or "bad" men. it was like i could see the gears in their heads turning, trying to "not my man though" their observations.

it's actually funny as well as sad. or we will talk about the health risks of PIV sex and they'll say well it's only dangerous if you have more than one male partner and all i can do is just nod lol.

one of like a million reasons why i choose to have only separatists in my circle now.

I'm of the opinion that men are misogynistic at the baseline, and that men with a potential to be non-violent towards women are genetic outliers, so women insisting on it being the other way around strikes me as some kind of social unawareness. I keep my guard up around women like that because I expect the same unawareness to prevent them from seeing their partner's true character (or, from "picking the right man", if such a thing were possible) and even seep into their opinions on other social matters. Again, this is what I personally rely on when I meet other women because assessing people's social intelligence and knowing whether they can be relied on in difficult circumstances is important no matter how offensive people believe this to be.

Women refusing to acknowledge the dangers of PIV is its own topic, and its implications are much more sinister than "getting back at stupid women who are not as brave as us for facing the reality of PIV" (or whatever petty drama radical feminism positions it as). The very few conversations that surround the negative effects of semen (and the possibility of them being neurological of all things) are often framed as "misogyny" and not the valid concern they are, and while I understand that they are usually brought up in a derogatory context, it is still important medical knowledge that women should be aware of if they are to consent to heterosexual sex. I feel that much of the indignation towards these topics ends up preventing women from learning about female anatomy more than anything else.

Believe it or not, I've met several women who were seemingly aware of the "male nature" yet built their lifestyles around them all the same, and I no longer think that bringing awareness to these subjects is at all the ticket to a feminist society. I'm getting the impression that the only precondition to prioritizing women (and yourself) is, well... The desire to prioritize women and yourself.

#ask #let's be honest with ourselves #women start making excuses whenever female solidarity is brought up because they are self-aware #and know that majority of women (including themselves) are just as backstabbing towards one another #especially with anything that involves “status” in a patriarchal society #in their eyes there's no need to be investing effort into something that is destined to fail

[yebreed]

Hall of Patriarchs: Little Shrine In The Grotto

A modest Hall of Patriarchs (祖師殿) in its austere simplicity. Dating from the Song dynasty (but probably much older), the temple is hidden in the Jinshui Grotto (金水洞), Yongtai mountains, the Mingshanshi (名山室), Fuzhou.

These mountains, listed in the classic source “The Book of Tao” (《道書》) the seventh blessed place under the Heavens, are associated with both Taoist and Buddhist saints. Their possible connection with the Seven Ancestors (七祖圖) of the White Lotus (白蓮) Sect is also curious.

#ancient china #chinese culture #taoism #daoism #taoist #buddhist #buddhism #chinese folk religion #chinese temple #song dynasty #chinese architecture #wooden architecture #wooden buildings #chinese customs #religious art #temple architecture #White Lotus sect #secret societies #Hall of Patriarchs

[ba-sing-se-dropout]

After rewatching ATLA, it's so obvious how Azula didn't want the throne because she's power hungry. It's because it was a means end to prove that she's wanted and loved. I know majority of Azula stans don't like to aknowledge that she definitely does want the throne because of the demonization she gets for the popular alleged motive that she's extremely in love with power(that's Ozai's motive). Let's be real though, how do people expect the rivalry and competition that Ozai created between Azula and Zuko that Azula internalized and lead her to believe she needs to be better and competent and the best at everything than Zuko to get their father's apporval to stop at the doorsteps of the throne because it's Zuko's "rightful place as the first born and eldest son"? Especially when she watched Ozai get the throne despite being the younger sibling?

Azula's most basic idea on why Zuko is unworthy of the throne is the fact he's weak for showing emotions and that's her father's whole ideology and bad parenting at work here, so what do you think she'll think of him when she's become the best bender, hero and supporter to her country's goal? Not to mention how she's undoubtedly a better leader and ruler?

As I've said before the measure on Azula being a bad leader for the Fire Nation shouldn't be observed on her personality, skills and existence as a fire national because then she has every fire national who has a chance to the throne (Zuko and Iroh) beat to hell. It should be measured on what the Fire Nation needs in order to reintegrate into the world again as a peaceful nation before Sozin's rule and only then do the potential for other fire nationals such as Zuko and Iroh come into the picture.

#azula #zuko #iroh #atla #Yall expect Azula to excel at everything but not think of herself more worthy of the throne because it's his?? #He should have his father's love for just being a male and a bender in the FN's patriarchal society but guess what?💀 #He didn't! #Oza's love for his self and most importantly power is crazy because he subverted all expectations!! #Yall expect her to respect patriarchy when Ozai couldn't give a damn about it if it meant his megalomaniac self wins😭

[fromtheseventhhell]

Saying that non-conforming female characters don't face as much misogyny as their "feminine" counterparts is so funny cause literally the misogyny in their treatment is more overt because they aren't staying "in their place" like men think they should. The disdain for women + misogynistic societal ideals are so much more blatant in male characters interacting with these women. Countless times they are, in essence, told they need to sit down, shut up, and know their place but somehow that translates into them having "masculine privilege". I can only assume that people with this take haven't actually read the books and only get their information from second-hand sources.

#Men actually love it when the group they're oppressing doesn't conform with their restrictive measures that's exactly how things work 🙄 #George saying that his non-conforming female characters were outcasts was really just overkill cause this is explicitly stated in the books #It's such a stupid take to have or try to argue cause there's literally no basis for it anywhere in the books #the inherit misogyny in othering women for not conforming to a misogynistic and patriarchal society though...I have to laugh #Coming from the so-called feminists in fandom make a career of throwing female characters under the bus to prop up their faves #Brienne literally gets told not to go crying if she gets raped because she's asking for it by /acting like a man/ #and her mistreatment by both genders for her looks and behavior is well documented in her POV and those who interact with her #Asha gets denied her claim for being a women and repeatedly treated like an idiot for pushing for it anyways #Arya is an outcast in her own family and her behavior is lamented by her father mother and sister lol #I would just really like to know where this supposed privilege comes in??? where is it actually at?? #cause it doesn't get them better treatment...better access to their claims...security from being assaulted...so where exactly is it? #just another fandom idea that can never be backed up but people treat like an absolute fact anways #obligatory this isn't me that feminine female characters don't face misogyny cause people love misinterpreting my points #asoiaf #brienne of tarth #asha greyjoy #arya stark #daenerys targaryen #fandom nonsense

[balkanradfem]

woman: /disagrees with something a m*n says

everyone: not only is she hysterical, insane, wrong, crazy, evil, selfish and cruel, but she deserves to be mass bullied, persecuted, tortured and violated in every possible way for what she’s done, she needs to face the Consequences!!!

m*n: /physically tortures a woman in the most intimate and traumatic way possible

everyone: well, punishing him would set up a dangerous precedent that rape of women is suddenly wrong, also it would hurt his career prospects, and anyway boys will be boys lets forgive him instantly and focus on what that woman might have done to bring this on herself!!

#double standards #radical feminism #punishing women for resisting oppression #punishing women for whatever m*n do to them #rape mention #tw rape mention #torture of women #traumatizing women and getting away with it #gross shit #patriarchal society #rape culture

[gerandor]

Sanji for president

#this so funny and also so sweet in a way #if this was in a patriarchal society where women are oppressed #and treated horribly #and can never become president bc they’re woman #like in my country #sanji would go down in history as a hero actually lol #sanji #one piece

[profeminist]

Art by Marco Melgrati: https://twitter.com/Melgratillustr/status/1575427238849581056

“Women in Iran are taking off their headscarves and cutting their hair to protest the death of 22-year-old Mahsa Amini."

#mahsa amini #iranian women #feminism #feminist #gender police #patriarchal society #iran #iranian feminism #iranian feminist