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nu-so · 2 years

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Percy Weasley; My thoughts

Hello!

This is basically going to be me ranting about Percy Weasley, and I am a fan of this man, btw. There might be future add-ons to this, but idk yet.

So, my boy is around 18, right? He graduates Hogwarts, which is basically equivalent to maybe a private high school. It's not college, but y’know it's a good education. Not enough for him to be running ministry departments only a year or 2 later.

Percy, while he was Headboy and a Prefect, shouldn’t have been able to run that so well. So, we know he’s intelligent and he can manage group stuff.

However, how in gods name did Arthur Weasley, not defend Percy when the imperious stuff came out. Percy should not have been blamed, for not recognizing the imperious.

For many reasons, which I will list:

1) He did not know the guy imperiled (his names slipping me), for nearly long enough. Even so, you don’t go up to your boss and say they’re acting funny if you wanna keep your job. You don’t, sorry. Plus, the imperio is probably not the thing people immediately jump to when someone is acting weird. It's an unforgivable curse, so we can assume, aside from Death Eaters, it wasn’t used much.

2) Percy has had shit DADA professors. Hell, every one after tom riddle cursed the position probably did. Lupin did a decent job, but that was only one year, and he had his problems, which I won’t get into. So, the chances that Percy learned a proper amount of information is very unlikely. It’s possible that he did self-studying to make sure he didn’t fall behind. That would be in character as well, and we can assume that, but we don't know for sure.

3) Percy was literally 18, or 17. I don’t know the specifics, but if you’ve met a 17-18 year old, like percy at least, they don’t go denoucing authority figures. Granted, many do, but for people like Percy who turn to authority its not likely. Plus, Molly had been talking, and encouraging - at least one of her children - to go into the Ministry. Why would he doubt the goverment, that his mother so wanted to go into? no reason.

Now.

Why did Percy leave the Weasleys?

I don’t necessarily think it's because of the differing political opinions. I think it's because of the cracking emotional relationships with his parents, and the toxic relationship with the twins.

Let's discuss Molly Weasley. This is not a bash of her, I love her. She’s obviously a loving mom, and I understand that a lot of the fandom bashes her, as a plot device, but that is not my aim here.

Molly Weasly just has a very cemented and protective view of how her children should be, and a problem enforcing proper punishment.

By this, I mean that Molly expects all of her children to grow up a certain way- she got into what we’re told is a huge fight with Bill over him growing out his hair, and going to Egypt. She didn’t like when Charlie became a dragon tamer-person. However, Percy did exactly what she wanted him to do. He had perfect grades, got 12 OWLS, and he got a stable, safe job in the Ministry.

In his eyes, Percy had done everything his mom had wanted him to. He’d been the ‘perfect child’. But then Molly’s vision had changed. Now, she wanted them to be on her side, and safe, hidden.

With her problem of enforcing proper punishment, it’s not that she doesn’t do it. She grounds Ron, and the twins after they go help Harry escape from the Dursleys, and she seems to punish them for other things. However, the punishment isn’t efficient.

By that I mean, she allows the twins to bully Percy. Before you say, ‘oh it's just sibling stuff’, I’m a sibling. I’m a twin. I have 3 little cousins. Never would the kind behavior the twin's exhibit be allowed. When my cousin tries to steal, or damage something from their siblings, they get punished, and they get scolded, and they learn that what they did was wrong and why.

Molly does not teach this to these twins. She just yells at them. Which does nothing but build resentment, and damage respect.

Percy’s reaction is by no means good either. He should learn how to control his emotions better, so he doesn’t explode, but this behavior has been going on for years at this point, with no end in sight.

Molly clearly loves her children, and just wants them to do well, and be safe- however, she doesn’t do a good job of parenting them.

As for Arthur,

he’s just absent as a parent. He’s in the background. He’s your average 9-5 workman, who doesn’t seem to want to ever stop working. He gives more attention to his job than he does to his children.

It’s obvious he loves his job, and that's good, that's great, good for him. But it's not an excuse for him to be distant from his children, and leave all the parenting to Molly. he backs the twins up, so they feel justified as if Molly and Percy are in the wrong.

It divides family up into teams.

But beyond their less than stellar parenting, Arthur tells Percy to quit, because the only reason he got the promotion was that the Minister wanted to spy on their family.

One, this insults Percy’s capablabilty to do his jobs. The man basically organized the Triwizard Tournament, and sure he was young, but it wasn’t especially weird for him to get that position. Still, this is kind of suspicious, it just should've been approached in a better way.

Two, this says that Arthur thinks Percy would give information about their family- that he would sell them out.

Which is incredibly hurtful.

As for the twins, they obviously treat him like shit. I think they either want his validation, as Percy is a lot more present in their lives than Arthur is, or they want a sort of revenge, I guess. The second reason would be because Percy is the perfect child, who they are endlessly compared to by Molly.

So, yes, while Percy did leave the family, and was by no means perfect, Arthur and Molly, the adults in this situation should’ve done better. Percy was not abandoning the ‘good side’. At the time, he was simply doing what was best for his emotional and mental health as an individual. At that time, he had no idea there was going to be a war.

So yes. Percy Weasley, everyone.

#percy weasley #molly weasley #harry potter #rant #Percy Weasley Defense Squad #:)#arthur weasley #thank you expectocrucio for catching that

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thatyanderecritic · 4 years

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i really like the yandere dynamic but i dont openly post or reblog about it anymore cuz i've had people give me a hard time over it being problematic. and i get told im terrible, get called a freak... idk. do you have any advice for dealing with this...?

Hey anon, sorry for not getting to you sooner. We have a lot of questioned queued up to be answered but I decided to put you first since this is a pretty big issue.

To be a yandere fan, we’re in a rather precarious position. Like any fandom, we are plagued with bad apples that end up painting the community’s face as a whole. You know the type of bad apples that all fandoms have: the overzealous stans that either attack those outside the community for not sharing a view or catering to our fandom. We also suffer from infighting/bullying between yandere fans because not everyone shares the same views on what a yandere is or even for something as stupid as a yandere headcanon for a character that never was a yandere, to begin with. But unlike most fandoms, the works that we support tend to go against us at times. That is to say... since we’re a bit of an under “funded” (e.g. don’t have enough yandere media. Especially for male yanderes) fandom, people tend to quickly put CrAzY characters on a pedestal without question. And this hurts our credibility, ALOT. Having group within the fandom worshipping some non-yandere, psychotic girl as a yandere just because she’s kawaii while the more “sane” fans try to explain, “No, we swear yandere’s aren’t like that” doesn’t look good for our case.

Is there anything we can do about people attacking us for our preference? Not exactly, I’m sorry to say. The moment humans gained self-awareness and free will, universal mental unity became a myth. There will always be a disconnect, even on concepts that all humans should be in agreement on. Would you believe me if I say that some people don’t believe that people should be allowed to have a livable wage? Of course, people will have their reasons as to why they think a certain way regardless if it sounds logical or not. Just because they have a reason doesn’t mean it’s reasonable but in a world where emotions is king, logical will never win.

People who attack you for liking yanderes most likely were victims of abuse and went through some sort of trauma that yanderes are usually identified/linked with. If they weren’t direct victims then they know someone who is a victim. And if it isn’t either of these two, then they’re most likely a bleeding heart with a “higher than thou” sense of morality. Regardless of the reasoning, they all have their hearts in the right places but rigid in their perspective of the world. Already, the decision is cemented and may never change. To most, we’re as egregious as pedophiles and incest-lovers just because we like villains. After all: “How in the world could anyone remotely ‘like’ such awful people?! Clearly, there is something wrong with THEM.” Of course, we have our reasons for liking yanderes but most people close their ears and eyes since they already judged us based on our interest. For those who were victims of abuse or know someone, I understand that they’re reaching out to attack those who seem to defend characters that may or may not be similar to their assailant/abuser. They attack, they defend invisible victims, and in a way, looking for purpose... looking at how they can turn their trauma into a positive. But most of the time, they overstep their boundaries and try to enforce their authority in something they don’t understand.

The only way we can approach these types of people is to send an open invitation for a diplomatic talk in trying to reach a middle ground. While a change of opinion would be nice, it would be nearly impossible since a lot of people are grounded in their personal moral compass. If they are open for a conversation, then all hope is not lost. Ideally, if a conversation is open then the most important thing is to validate their emotions invested in this situation. 9 out of time 10, people are stubborn in an argument because they feel like they’re getting personally targeted either by their identity, their pride, or their emotions. Therefore, they double down and become louder in their argument, not because of their view but because they believe they are defending themselves. From there, once the other recognize that you aren’t attacking them, you shift the conversation onto yourself and point out how they were making you feel the same away but they were actively attacking you; not only that, treating you as less than human just because you prefer villainous FICTIONAL characters. Ideally, at this point, the other recognizes their hypocrisy and you both agree in staying in your own lanes. If by some miracle they’re open of a different perspective, then you’re given a platform to say why you like yanderes... typical reasons being the idea of unconditional love or coping.

But this is all hypothetical and the most desirable outcome. But more than often, people are more than comfortable at screaming at you every time you try to open your mouth... most likely something they learned because someone shut them down in such a way. Not only that, they most likely formed their own counter-arguments already since a lot of yandere fans have the same reasons as to why they like yanderes: unconditional love or coping. The counter-argument can usually be boiled down to two reasons: unethical and risking future victims seeking a “yandere” partner. Ethicality... this is a low hanging fruit to argue. Everyone (well the majority of people, again it’s universally impossible to be on the same page) would agree that it’s bad to stalk a person. Even a yandere fan would say never to stalk a person IRL. But because of this, they think they got you in an “ethical checkmate”. It’s a cheap argument and they’re just trying to make you feel like a monster for your preferences in fictional characters. Funny enough, this is a tactic that abusers would use to shame their victim into compliance... hm...

The second counter-argument people use is “think of the youths!” Let’s be real... it’s scientifically proven that kids and teens are easily impressionable because of their underdeveloped brains and lack of experience. Not only the concerns of the younger members of society, they fear that by allowing us to enjoy our media, we are “normalizing” abusive relationships in society. Considering the state of the United State’s government, I understand where the fear is coming from. But they’re barking up the wrong tree and especially using the wrong method in preventing this dystopian future. I always see these people bring up the ‘Jaws’ case as to why there should be no yanderes and no support for them. You know, the case where there was a sudden increase in shark hunting due to public fear which pushed certain shark species into endangerment. It’s always this argument, I swear... anyways, they always toss this without never diving in deeper as to why this happened.

Before Jaws, people didn’t know anything about sharks in general. There just wasn’t any interest in sharks because we humans just didn’t find time interesting at the time. They were there and we can’t really eat sharks. But, there were already tales about sharks being “man-eaters” from those stranded out at sea or curious citizens. The stereotype was already there. But Jaws brought sharks to the forefront of public scrutiny and shark hunting competitions came up because “what’s the harm? Sharks are man-eaters”. This dropped the shark population, but because of this there was an interest in sharks, funding to research them suddenly increased. Scientist turned their attention on sharks while later on fed to informing the public, making them educated and less scared of shark attacks. Jaws came out in 1975... Shark Week on the discovery channel came out in 1988... there’s a reason, folks. People became interested in sharks. Yes, Jaws hurt the shark population but it’s slowly been going up. Damage takes time to repair. But it also brought about awareness. While the stereotype isn’t dead (that’s just humans at this point and it’s always been a stereotype ever since man was on a boat), it opened a conversation. And that’s the key point here. (Here’s a link. But you can go even further if you research)

Abusive relationships, manipulative people, toxic actions... these are nothing new. “Getting rid” of yandere fans will not solve this issue, just like telling your kid “there are kids starving in Africa” will not end world hunger. For the Jaws example, I point to the argument that politicians make about how video games create violent people. We know that it’s nonsense, you know it’s nonsense. But there is a fear of the “unknown”. People back then thought that cartoons like Tom and Jerry would cause kids to grow up violent. And even further back, people thought that reading books created lazy people. The fear on what’s on TV is a fear people had since the beginning of time. People aren’t as soft as they believe they are but they can lack information... Instead of shutting down people and censor what goes on TV, use it as a stepping stone for the bigger conversation. It’s a lack of knowledge and fear of the unknown that killed the sharks but it is knowledge that is now protecting them.

This is especially important for our younger peers. Raise of hands, who actually changed their minds as a teenager after someone called you stupid or told you “no” with giving a logical reason besides “because I say so.” I’m going to guess we got an empty room here. Attacking our younger peers or those who are older just because they like a character trope IS NOT HELPING THEM AND ESPECIALLY NOT MAKING THE ATTACKERS LOOK LIKE HEROES. THEY LOOK LIKE JACKASSES. Fuck man, the younger ones want acceptance and looking a supportive group by joining a fandom. Calling them toxic just pushes them to the edge these people never wanted them to be. The same applying to the older ones. We all got our issues and y’all never know what it is. That’s why I hate seeing people in our fandom gatekeep against our younger peers. They’re going to come in even though you say crap like “Lmaooo, my blog/game is 18+! Okay, byeeeee!” If you want to protect them then be their fucking guide, my dudes. You can have a mature conversation with them and explain the difference between fiction and reality and what’s wrong and right. “Yanderes are pretty cool, ay sport? But notice how that guy gaslighted the girl? That is a common tactic people do IRL. Be sure to recognize it as a red flag.” Fuck, is that so fucking hard for everyone? Some people act like they never grew on the internet during the early 2000s.Y’all were a teenager once. If what you’re doing wouldn’t help teenage you in the past, then you’re doing it wrong. Smh.

Finally, I do want to make a point for those who use coping reasons. While I do understand where you’re coming from, you guys are our most vulnerable to these attacks but also the reason for the attacks as well. It’s the mindset of “How could you support something like this?! You must be a horrible person.” I know a lot of people aren’t like that but also, we got bad apples... people who take this for coping reasons way too far. To them, I ask them to come back from the edge and let’s look for help together. Using yanderes to embrace “yandere tendencies” or rationalizing your abuse as normal isn’t the way. Use it to help you breathe and help you feel grounded but don’t let it define you... especially don’t make it a lifeline. As for those who know the difference and can separate fiction from reality, I applaud you but you got some work in helping those who are too deep. I’ve seen some of the yandere Tumblr group chats on the app. I’ll be real... YIKES. It’s a bit of an echo chamber. I ended up having to message a user on a side since I saw red flags in the group chat when I was lurking. People were trying to give the wrong help by encouraging their actions. Just... don’t do this y’all. I get you relate but don’t get your homie in jail or a court date for a restraining order.

Anyways, I’m sorry anon for pulling farther and farther away from you specifically since this is a big issue that everyone tackles and I’m also sorry that I can’t give you an “end all” answer. First, you can try having a civil conversation with these people. Try for the middle ground and if you feel like you can push further, then try to do a change of mind. But I know this is hard, especially when tensions build and emotions get heated. But it’s important to never explode that anger... or at least direct that anger into a logical response. The moment you explode and made an error of judgment, you will lose and suffer publically. If a conversation isn’t possible, then encourage these people to stay in their lane and unfollow you. Why the fuck are they following you if they hate the things you reblog? Sounds unhealthy... suggest some hobbies or blogs to follow instead. From there, if they try to continue the hate, just block them and delete the messages. As they say, don’t feed the trolls. Y’all may think you’ve seen all the hate anons we get but we get a lot more than what we answer. We just delete them because they’re typically incoherent or stupid. They don’t come back lol.

From there, anon, surround yourself with people who you find agreeable and who you relate to. A lot of yandere blogs are down for a talk, I’ll be real. Just be sure you open up that you want to be friends lol. So... yeah. I’m sorry this isn’t perfect, but I hope it helps. Don’t be afraid of being yourself!

#anon #yandere #male yandere #female yandere #feel free to reblog or share it with people #post it where ever you want #we aren't afraid of responses #Anonymous

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