#idealization

[pandagobrr]

It just be like sometimes

#funny #mbti #mbti memes #infp memes #infp #memes #fantasizing #idealization #daydreaming

[liftingthesea]

I love little notebooks and their wonderous potential to be my secret cave

#writing #journaling #journal #thoughts #notebooks #idealization #franz kafka

[meladyguizado]

Vemos lo que queremos para sentirnos como mejor nos conviene; y ¿qué es la conveniencia si no aquella con antítesis naturaleza resultante de sus maneras subjetivas?

- Melady Guizado, El precio de la idealización (2024).

#tumblr #mis citas #mis notas #mis escritos #melady guizado #frases #escritos #amor #citas #desamor #idealization #idealizar #idealism #idealistic #idealización #notas de dolor #notas de vida #citas reflexivas #citas de reflexion #reflexiondeldia #frases reflexivas #notas de amor

[astrosky33]

People always talk about how looking online at girls and wishing you were as pretty as them is draining and bad for you or whatever but idc what they say it’s so fun

I love obsessing over them and admiring them 😭 Is it my Venus in the 8th house idk?

I also have Pluto in the 7th house I guess it could be that

#venus in the 8th house #venus #8th house #astro community #astrology #zodiac #astro placements #astrology tumblr #astro chart #birth chart #idealization #idolize

[me--do]

#actually mentally ill #actually bpd #mental illness #mentally fucked #bpd #borderline pd #bpd problems #borderline #memes #lovesick #unhealthy love #in love #crush #obsession #idealization #attachment issues

[sweetmelancholy777]

Hug me till I forget that you don’t want me like I want you.

#situationships #frases #life quotes #love quotes #heartbroken #casi algo #idealization #relationships #relationships quotes #words #feelings

[unwinkyselvatico]

#idealization #parole #frasi e citazioni #citazioni #frasi #frasi sulla vita #frasi tristi #citazione amore #frasi e parole #frasi libri #parole d'amore

[asixnfr0g]

" 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓑𝓸𝓽𝓽𝓸𝓶 "

I've come to the realization

That I'll never be everything

Or anything to someone;

For I'll always see those I meet

With gold etched into their soul.

The bottom is where I reside.

With that being said,

I'll make it home here.

I'll put a blanket down

Where I rest at night,

Plant roses all around

The garden bed at daylight.

It hurts knowing

My worth isn't something

That'll be acknowledged.

But the bottom isn't always a ghetto.

~ asixnfr0g

#poetic #poetry #poets on tumblr #writers and poets #writers on tumblr #original poem #writing #poem #writeblr #writer #poet #the bottom #idealization

[vizthedatum]

The idealization goes both ways.

When I've been idealized at the beginning of a relationship, the really big problem from my end is... I idealize them, too.

I want to believe in the chemistry, intense attraction, the "alignment," etc. SO SO BAD - and I wear extremely rose-colored glasses hoping I've found a person I could build a life with.

It's hard for me to see the person they are because I'm falling for the person they *could* be or the person they *want* to be (often mirroring me to varying degrees).

I get swept up, you know? It feels so good, and I'm craving the love and attention so badly - I can't resist it - I dive right in.

And I do think that my love is genuine. When the initial fire starts going down, I do justify to myself that I'm in love with a person, not a caricature... and often, I end up loving them more, when I see their humanity.

I think that's when I can't apply all my previous lessons - what do I accept as part of the process of relationship and connection? what do I NOT accept?

Something I'm really understanding/realizing now: I need to accept a person for who they are at the current moment, with the information I know from past experiences, throughout the whole relationship.

When you're a person who often had to set aside their own feelings and needs (especially in childhood) to keep the peace, it becomes SO EASY to just let things slide in a relationship (and I'm not talking about when someone is sick or has a legitimate excuse for something... I'm talking about when someone feels hurt or feels like their trust in the other person goes down - stuff like that).

You justify to yourself that it won't happen again, or it was a mistake, or even that the issue is resolved...

That's why it's so important to feel what you're feeling, EVEN IF YOU FEEL ABSOLUTELY UNHINGED AND UNSAVORY. Losing connection with who you are, your values, and how you're feeling... only snowballs all of this.

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Then, when you can share your hurt with your partner (which is something all people in a relationship will have to do at some point), that's when the real test comes in: how do they react?

Remember how they react and how you feel afterward.

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And honestly? If the other person thinks you've hurt them or something... and they're not satisfied with the resolution both of you came up with? Ask yourself why they want to be with you if you can't necessarily change that behavior. Ask yourself if you're okay with continuing to impact their trust and/or hurting them?

#love bombing #the idealization phase #idealization #misaligned relationships #how it all falls apart later #trauma #attachment #relational love #relationship #connections #healing #neurodivergence #queer #love #self love #healing journey #thoughts #reflection #prose #harm reduction #repair in relationship #v

[trogo-auto-egocratico]

Muchas veces sufre por haber perdido una versión del otro que nunca existió.

#escritos #reflexión #pensamientos #frases #escritor #libros #cuentos #citas en español #filosofía #filósofo #libros filosofía #spanish #spanish quotes #literature #literatura #literary #idealization #idealizar

[idealization-vn]

I redid tf out of Caelum's design, because he kind of had the eyes of the devil and if I saw his past design irl I would run away. <3

#18+ only #idealization vn #visual novel #yandere #yandere visual novel #Caelum Lyre #idealization

[whats-in-a-sentence]

The post-war idealisation of a balance of external work and domestic work for women led the queen of England, Elizabeth II, to release photographs and film of her with her family, even washing up at a family barbecue.

"Normal Women: 900 Years of Making History" - Philippa Gregory

#book quotes #normal women #philippa gregory #nonfiction #post war #ww2 #wwii #world war two #idealization #work #domesticity #queen of england #elizabeth ii #girl guides #washing up #publicity #pr

[maalediossa]

Cosas que aprendí este año:

Los planes no siempre salen como esperas.

El tiempo pasa muy rápido.

Que las personas NO son eternas.

Que cuidar de tu salud mental es muy importante!

Que pedir PERDÓN es de valientes.

Que no todas las personas son buenas.

Que llorar esta bien.

Que las personas van y vienen.

Que debemos valorar el tiempo que tenemos.

Que NO hay que volver a lugares donde no nos volarán ni aprecian.

Que debemos cuidar a las personas que amamos.

Que mi valor lo determinó yo; no las demás personas.

Que no le caes bien a todo el mundo y eso está bien.

Que no es necesario correr, a veces solo hay que dar un paso.

Que las acciones siempre serán más importantes que las palabras.

Que nunca debes acostumbrarte a una persona y menos idealizarla.

Que no se puede obligar a nadie a quedarse a nuestro lado.

#escrituras #citas tristes #notas de amor #vida #idealization #cosas de la vida

[magicbeansoftheuniverse]

Advice for people trapped in the Venus archetype:

Question beauty, try and dissolve the illusions of the collective unconscious.

Loving love is completely different from loving real living people

#venus #astrology #life #love #idealization #pisces venus #Venus archetype #venus in the 12th house

[corvianbard]

#5752

In a fantastical idealization, I've found only imperfection That will be my damnation.

#my poem #poem #poetry #idealization #imperfection #damnation #5752

[kaizenin21stcentury]

"..... if we seem to be idealists and are overestimating or overrating man and looking at him that high here above, you know what happens, we promote him to what he really can be so we have to be idealists in a way because then we'll wind up as the true the real realist....... if we take man as he is, we make him worse but if we take man as he should be, we make him capable of becoming what he can be....."

https://youtu.be/loay2imHq5E?si=NIVedhXxFNB6Ofx3

#food for thought #philosophy #quote #quotes #life lessons #think #human #life #victor frankl #video #old #archive #thinking #man's search for meaning #ideal #idealism #idealization #idealized #idealist system #realism #realistic #reality #book #book quotes #video quotes #philosophical #philosopher #psychology #psychotherapy #human life