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#i want her to do an audiobook so bad stfu
troglobite · 6 months
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https:// twitter.com/chescaleigh/status/1704457124959637787
Thoughts re: that tweet and this whole topic and exchange, but i'm really fucking tired and need to sleep so i can't be coherent so i'm not joining the convo on there
chesca is a black woman and that 100% has something to do with this. people CONSTANTLY ask marginalized folks incredibly stupid, easy to search, simple, basicass questions and DEMAND that they spend their time and energy holding their hand and answering them thoroughly and catering to their millions of potentially bad-faith questions
so telling her that it's a normal wonderful human socialization i'm like stfu what are you even talking about
this is a manifestation of an already extant behavior that was learned because of social stratification and prejudice
it doesn't exist in a vacuum and it's ridiculous to act as though it does
ALSO
there's a difference btwn
'this is a really interesting topic! is there somewhere specific that i should start looking for more info abt it?'
and
'what is this book abt? does it cover x? where can i get it? does it have an audiobook?'
the first question recognizes a broader category of something that might be more complicated and nuanced and implies that you trust the person's insight--or the fellow commenters' insight--and so you're seeking guidance to start looking yourself, bc you want to make sure you're reading reputable stuff to begin with. important and cool, esp in this day and age w everything being completely fucked over by "ai"
chesca gives an example here too https:// twitter.com/chescaleigh/status/1704453512871264448
the second question is purely entitle to that person's time and energy and a lack of curiosity abt your own fucking ability to look shit up yourself
for example, a comedian who--on EVERY platform they have, on EVERY post they make--says "here are my current tour dates. to find out when i'm in your city, sign up for my text and/or email list"
and people comment "when are you coming to my city?"
MAYBE READ THE FUCKING TEN DOZEN CAPTIONS THAT FUCKING TOLD YOU WHERE YOU FIND THIS FUCKING INFORMATION YOU ENTITLED DIPSHIT
and also https:// twitter.com/JennyWHOA/status/1704348165426622465 this reply to franchesca
like ??? you have a world of information at your fucking fingertips but you won't do a quick google or other search engine search for a SIMPLE EXCHANGE? it would take, at most, 10 seconds. literally what the fuck.
i think the other part of this is like, mindless algorithm training.
everything has been automated and uses datamined bullshit. they simply purchase all of your information and i think gen z in particular has gotten into the habit of having everything fed to them
hence the whole thing w the use of ao3 and deleting/reposting their fics "for the algorithm" which again DOES NOT EXIST, AO3 IS A FUCKING ARCHIVE, among other things
i know we have joked in the past abt having to go past the second page of google results, but that was when it was an actually functioning search engine. and you'd probably find your answer within the first 5.
now? good fucking luck.
so on the one hand i can't entirely blame them, the enshittification of the internet is happening at the same time as they're being brainwashed and coddled by the algorithm training and all that shit
but it is ridiculously frustrating when ppl demand shit like this
get into the habit of looking shit up yourself, holy fucking shit
i cannot express the lengths i go to before asking someone a question
i think it through myself
i give it a few quick searches
i scout around a little bit more for context
and if i'm still somehow unclear and can't find anything, THEN--
i will evaluate whether this is crucial information or something useless and silly
and then if it's important or relevant to me, THEN i will ask what is going on
there's a chance that sometimes i swing too hard the other way bc i fear being irritating to other people, so ppl don't have to follow my example exactly
but also what i do really isn't that much and doesn't take that long
anyway the original video that it was all about/started by
https:// twitter.com/55mmbae/status/1703521133507862801
is this obsessive individualistic and entitled bullshit
this person apparently made a second video that was about how this is also emotional and moral immaturity and basically parading around trying to prove to other people how morally pure and perfect and superior you are by asking this kind of shit
and i think it's true, and also this sickening individualism and entitlement
like
"hey my algorithm is made exactly for me, so why is this video not made exactly for me? why didn't you think abt me before making it and appearing in my feed? >:("
i legitimately think that some ppl have so little thought abt this process that THAT is the way they approach these videos and this 'content'
the algorithm is for them, so why isn't everything? when the algorithm gets it wrong, it's like they considering interfacing w tiktok to be the same as interfacing w the specific person who made this ONE video
and i think this behavior has a more negative counterpart or flavor
and that is
"your positivity post made me, personally, upset, so i'm going to respond directly to you and to everyone who can see this post and tell you all to feel ashamed for enjoying it or having it make you feel better, bc it made ME feel bad, and you didn't consider that. how dare you feel positivity abt something that isn't actually harmful to anyone, but hurt my feelings personally and possibly hurt other people's feelings, too."
i JUST saw an example of this on here bc of how notifications work and it pissed me the fuck off, but i'll use something else as an example instead
the trend on here of the arguing over what counts as REAL self-care
that shit
someone will say "self-care is forcing yourself to do the chores and self-caretaking stuff you don't wanna do, bc it will actually help your health and help you feel better"
and someone goes
"wow this is so fucking ableist. i can't keep myself clean or brush my teeth and fuck you for holding us to this incredibly ableist standard."
doesn't matter if the original post said "in whatever way works for you" or didn't even mention specific methods of hygiene, this person gets angry and insecure and lashes out
and instead of making their own post about it to help other people like them
they respond to that post, where EVERYONE and op can see and will get notifs about it, and make them feel bad for sharing a piece of advice or a post that actually DID help them
bc like the video says: incredibly, sometimes, you are just NOT THE TARGET AUDIENCE FOR THAT THING
have i read a positivity post and gone "wow this made me feel bad about myself. welp, doesn't apply to me, i'm gonna process my own feelings and move on, bc the post itself didn't actually do anything wrong."
for example
"i hope everyone knows that there's no deadline for relationship/dating experience or life milestones! just bc you haven't kissed someone by 25 doesn't make you immature or bad or anything!"
now am i 28, almost 29, and still have never dated someone? yes. did this fictional example post based on some stuff i've actually seen make me incidentally feel kind of shitty? yep, it did.
however--
25 was an arbitrary age they chose as an example. there's nothing in the text of the post that suggests they think that's "too old" or THE cut-off point, past which you're pathetic
the post itself was positive, and is likely aimed at ppl who think life is over at 25 bc they're super young and everything feels high stakes
and at one point, that would've been me--
but it no longer is, and so i am not the target audience.
and so what do i do?
i ignore the fucking post and move on with my life.
what do i NOT do?
reply to the post, so that it appears in the notifs of op and whoever rbed the version i'm seeing, to say
"WOW how fucking dare you cut it off at 25. so what, ppl who never have a relationship are failures? we still have to meet all these life milestones, period, to be considered a decent and successful person? what the fuck is this."
to do that would mean that i fully, in bad faith, read WAY too much into what they were saying, and made it about MY feelings and emotional reaction to a COMPLETELY INNOCENT POST THAT WAS MEANT TO HELP MAKE PEOPLE FEEL BETTER
now before anyone does a bad faith "but what about" response to my own fucking point
a post that says
"it's okay to get married after the age of 25, a lot of ppl do it, the important thing is that you find someone and are married and can start building your family :)"
is a shitty post that holds people up to social norms and standards and has a lot of VERY CLEARLY baked in assumptions and judgments.
it would be totally fair, if you wanted to, to reply and say "hey dude have you considered that ppl don't actually have to get married or have a family to have a fulfilling life?"
bc you aren't responding to your own personal reaction/feelings abt the post and how it's not FOR you
it's about how this is a general standard that they are applying to ALL people, so EVERYONE is the target audience, and that is fucked up
there is a DIFFERENCE
BETWEEN THOSE EXAMPLE POSTS
i just think it's shitty to take someone's post that IS positive and does NOT perpetuate incredibly harmful assumptions about how life should work, and respond publicly to make them feel BAD abt not having psychically predicted that you in your specificass situation would NOT find the post helpful or positive
like hey if the advice or perspective is not helpful for you, then it's not for you. if it's helpful to other people, they don't have to ignore shit that's actually helpful for them just so it doesn't hurt some imaginary possible person's feelings.
like that is a ridiculous fucking thing to expect.
if positivity makes your teeth hurt and makes you angry? hell yeah be angry about it. get irritated! complain!
on your own post or with your own friends/acquaintances/groups/family who Get It
bc unless someone has actually done something hurtful and wrong, the post was just not targeted at you.
but bc you saw it and it pissed you off, you can (and should!) complain abt it somewhere else bc complaining and processing is fucking GOOD, man.
just don't fucking dump all over everyone else's nice, supportive time with each other.
or as the video says
don't fucking comment "but what if i hate beans" on a video about HOW TO MAKE A FUCKING BEAN SOUP
i really need to go the fuck to sleep i'm so tired
also here i am complaining about and sharing thoughts about other posts and stuff that i've seen because it irritated me or whatever
SO I AM CLEARLY IN FAVOR OF DOING THAT
JUST DO IT IN A PLACE WHERE YOU'RE NOT NEEDLESSLY SHITTING ON OTHER PEOPLE WHO HAVEN'T REALLY DONE ANYTHING WRONG
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tashabilities · 11 months
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Whasian audiobook narrator makes ‘six figures’ Was opera trained, but gave up music to read for a living. She says she kicked off her audiobook narrator career with ACX, and I just can’t read bad writing, bruh, like, my brain literally cannot read the self published, unedited bullshit that’s on ACX. She said she actually gets most of her business from making content on social media, and I’ve heard this a hundred times, but I’m a Black woman, and I can’t bring myself to do it, doll. I don’t want anybody to try to take anything away from me because I ALSO use social media to tell the truth about race, and jobless, broke, worthless bitches HAVE tried that on me before. I’m Ancestrally protected, I shouldn’t be afraid. But I really feel like people gotta STFU more often when it comes to how they make their money, anyway, like,  These kids fresh outta college get on TikTok and talk about working two and three corporate, remote jobs at the same time, only for the employers to figure it out or find the TikTok videos and they end up fucking up they own bag! SHUT UP! Like, this girl is whasian, and white folks, Asian folks, might can make content out of their vo job, But I just don’t see where my Black ass can do that.  We live in a society where, because I’m a Black woman, I’m expected to TOIL for every li’l crumb, and to toil for the good of everyone else. VO isn’t toiling, it’s a specialized skill, But seeing ME, a Black woman, doing it, is a problem for a LOT of people, like,  I’ve had SEVENTEEN YEARS of seeing motherfuckers’ reactions to me telling them my job.  The jealousy and disdain and the How Did YOU, A N_____, Get THAT Thing That I’VE ALWAYS WANTED BUT NEVER EVEN TRIED TO PURSUE? Men I was interviewing for a spot in my personal life couldn’t stand the fact that I was not toiling, asking me do I stand up or sit down when I do my work! And 9 times outta 10, I’M SEATED like a cashier at Aldi, bitch. If I make my job into content for social, I know some white women are gon HATE that shit and try to take away everything I’ve worked for,  And because they’re white and have the power to do so,  They might succeed. I can’t risk another Katy.  I have no one to protect me or hold me and comfort me should someone succeed in harming me, and harming my money, my career, is harming ME, directly. I just can’t do it. 
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maraczeks · 3 years
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abundant acreage available thread pt 1
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