#i thought i was aro but im now reconsidering

[spidey-bie]

I didn't know I hc Hobie as a-spec until I saw everyone else writing him and I'm like ?!!! Why is he so horny!!!!!!!

I mean he's got I get it but tbh Hobie is REALLY attractive, tall, and a guitarist. I feel like he gets flirted at all the time. And he either doesn't notice or doesn't care, and if he does notice that means they're trying REALLY hard (too hard for his taste)

I mean... I could see a version of him who has one night stands (in a respectable mutual way) but even then I don't feel like he'd be very verbally vulgar or anything until alone with the person IDK Why

PLEASE tell me about your A-spec Hobie hcs cause so much as this smut is not computing for me!!!

HAHAHAHAHAHA IM SO NORMAL ABOUT ASPEC HOBIE. *cough* I mean I have a lot of thoughts about this one. He never even did anything remotely flirtatious in the movie or the comics so idk where the flirty sex maniac came from. He seems more of a goofy and playful person in my eyes (like all my male friends were growing up.) But to each their own ig. I'm gonna split this in half and talk about my HCs for his Aromantic Identity first and then discuss his Asexual Identity. This has been on my mind for a while now. TW for sex mention.

Aro Headcanons

I love the way that @ministroni portrays him as feeling alterous attraction.

(In simple terms Alterous Attraction is when someone forms a deep emotional connection with a person. It borders between platonic and romantic. However it all depends on the person.)

He genuinely doesn't give a single damn about the norm regarding romantic or platonic relationships

He will kiss his friends.

Ace Headcanons

For the life of me I can't see this man shagging anyone.

I'm sorry I just can't.

However after speaking with the masses (my mutuals) I've reconsidered and have come to terms with the fact that he probably has had sex at some point but doesn't see the point in it.

Quoting @cqcophobiq he'll probably be like, "yeah it's fun but it isn't that big of a deal. Don't get society's obsession with it." And I have to admit that they're right.

(The closest thing that I can relate this to is him being Greysexual or Demisexual)

He'll probably never be the first person to ever initiate tho because it's not something that's important to him

His sexual attraction ebbs and flows. It's never consistent.

(You see what I did there 🤭)

However he's probably more likely to feel sexual attraction towards someone he's emotionally close to.

A/N: Sexuality is so fluid so it's hard to pinpoint my exact thoughts on this. I kept changing things throughout writing this post so it took me so long to come out with it. And even still I feel like there's still more here that I wanna look into here. Like why he's been hypersexualized in the fandom despite him never being shown as flirtatious. Even if you look in the comics he's never written as someone who's really interested in a romantic relationship (I'm ignoring his wife lol). But I'm not the one to write that post.

#ace hobie #aro hobie #ace headcanons #aro headcanons #hobie brown headcanons #hobie brown hcs #atsv headcanons #hobie brown #atsv #jay webs words #my fuzzy friends [🕷️]

[lovingitaromantic]

update on fya 1:For anyone wondering what exactly was said to start this. Instead here is what I should have said orginally in the now deleted post. If we imagine the imperfect image of a ven diagram to describe aspec spaces, the importance and focus on the specific words we use can actually harm a piece of that ven diagram in a way that was not intended.

update on fya 2: What I orginally said was not that, it wasn’t anything helpful to that topic and implied a heavier burden on allo aros, then to aro aces or romantic aces. That wasn’t fair. I absolutely see how I did the exact thing I was saying was a problem in the first place and was wrong to do so. I am absolutely sorry to anyone hurt or confused by an action that did not show enough care.

update on fya 3:And I absolutely will make sure I put more thought into how things are worded so this does not happen again since it shouldn’t have happened originally.I will also work on being better to not start or engage in a conversation unless I believe I can see it through even days later as the post gets spread along and new comments are added because the pain is most felt in the moment when someone first sees it and how needing a moment can appear as if the other person isn’t listening.

update on fya 4: Thank you for allowing that moment, and I’ll endeavor not to need one in the future.

so! i cant tell if youre a mod of fya or a follower trying to update us. if you’re a follower thank you! if youre a mod you are not welcome here until you fix your aromisia!

i’m going to start with this:

this apology is fucking shit. it wasn’t just an issue of bad wording, it’s an issue of ideas that are held and the constant aromisia! everything about the post in question was fucking aromisic and full of cowardice!!! and previous posts have also reeked of aromisia. there has been so much said about this whole fucking shitshow so that’s where im leaving this off, so we can finally leave the fucking circus.

in conclusion: your apology is not accepted and we can reconsider that after you have worked a considerable amount on your aro and alloaromisia.

-mod Sea🌙

#mod sea #anon #answered #fya #alloaromisia tw #aromisia tw