#i need it today

[modelsof-color]

ITS MY BDAY 🥳🎉🎁♈

#send positive vibes if you believe in it #i need it today

[foolsgender]

manifesting that someone will bring cookies or donuts to my office today

#🕯🕯🕯🕯 #i need it today

[whitecatindisguise]

💝💘💯😘💋💝💘💯😘💋 Send this to 10 or more people you value and love so much here 💝💘💯😘💋💝💘💯😘💋

I was saving this ask for another time and it's a good time I did, because I so need this today. Today's have been rough and I really could use some love and appreciation right now.

I won't be continuing the chain though. People who I value and love know that and I'm not in the right headspace to wander around my mutuals list to send ask to every single one of them.

Gah, sorry. Bad time and all that. I'm gonna stop talking now. Thank you for sending this, Wiz *hugs* love you back.

#i need it today #life's been hard lately #so that #love all my mutuals I guess #you know who I am talking about #kitty mom answers

[littlelonelytree]

"Just because you see I smile...

... don't think you know what's going on underneath."

#hazbin hotel #alastor #radio demon #charlie morningstar #i don't feel like feeling anymore today your honor #i dont need slEEP I NEED ANSWERS

[sga-owns-my-soul]

reblog to give ur mutuals a soft lil kissy on the head

#i can't reblog this from everyone so this is just me giving all my mutuals a soft lil kissy on the head #if u see this #*muah* #soft lil kissy on the head #and if u don't want one u can have a head pat #or i can lovingly send soft lovey vibes your way #all options are valid #idk i just #need to spread some love today #i'm tired and sad and stressed #so i'm giving u all some love #bc i need to fill myself with more of it #love u all hope u have/are having a good day #mutuals #not stargate

[adventures-in-poor-planning]

prayer to whichever dead catholic person is most appropriate: may I not have to run a whole week of surprise camps on crutches. in a knee brace.

#playing 'which strain injury is it today' roulette and its the kneecap :c #bro i am going to be working LONG days i dont need this shit rn

[tizzymcwizzy]

can you tell the brain rot is coming back

#I CANT STOP THINKING ABOUT THEM #I WORE AN ML SHIRT TO CLASS TODAY #WHO AM I #mlb #miraculous #miraculous ladybug #chat noir #marinette dupain cheng #marichat #comic #ml #ml comic #mlb comic #my art #i need to go do my homework goodbye #fbbfhfjdjshshdh HELP

[parakavka]

my partner has about 3 genres of youtube video they watch, so I've decided to combine them all into what would be their Ideal Video

#i need a W today so please enjoy my highest performing tweet ever #yes my partner (to whom I am now married) still watches this flavor a video

[esr10]

DEVASTATING! Woman does task she's been putting off for weeks, finds out it's pretty easy

#IF I DO EVERYTHING I NEED TO DO TODAY PLUS BUY FAIRYLIGHTS... THEN WE ARE SO BACK #AND I CAN RELAX BEFORE MY TRIP

[obsob]

love and kindness and hope makes the world go round !!

#mine #original #i am sending love and hope!! to everyone !!!!!!!!!!! #be kind and generous where u can ! <3 #i need to do Two cat drawings this week i can Do it. i however cant do it today bc i was too vigorous in my knitting this weekend ksdbkdbk #hand hurty......punishment for my sins

[mxwhore]

i love you lab grown diamonds i love you slavery-free chocolate i love you community gardens i love you fact that the insulin patent was sold for $1 i love you locally produced meat and milk i love you streets turned into walkable parks i love you little reminders that Things Do Not Have To Be This Way and there are people working to build a better world!!

#having sad feelings today i need to remind myself that things can and will get better #tessas txt

[happyheidi]

#cottagecore #a messy lil moodboard that makes me happy #like truly. I can look at it forever. #having a rough day today and these pics helps a little #nature #escapism was much needed #naturecore #flowers #flowercore #warmcore #photography #cozycore #cosycore #plants #cats #animals #books #alternative aesthetic #vegetables #food #chaotic aesthetic #chaotic academia #alternative academia #messy moodboard

[lemonadeandlanguages]

It's honestly so weird seeing trees with yellow leaves and ads for pumpkin spice lattes and a million tweets and posts about how fall is finally here, only to step outside and be hit with a wall of humid summer-like heat

#were almost at 30 degrees today #the average temps for this time of year is 15 degrees #i hate this #fall is already the shortest season it doesnt need to be shorter!!!

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[gold0kapi]

141 party

#gif #gifset #call of duty #soap mactavish #simon ghost riley #john price #kyle garrick #gaz #warzone #i needed this today #god bless whoever decided to add this into the video lol #(not actual gameplay) #i'd play way more if it WAS though

[toherlover]

#me to my boss today #anyways boop me #i need more boops #barbie #boop #boop o meter #toherlover #elle talks