#i know we give georgie a lot of credit and i adore jongeorgie but maybe jon told her he was ace

[bluejayblueskies]

i am hmm.... having ace thoughts rn. about ace labels and how they don’t account for all the nuances of what someone’s ace experience can be like. how sex-repulsed and sex-neutral and sex-favorable are treated as firmly defined categories with one definition, but my way of identifying as sex-repulsed will be different than someone else’s because we are different people altogether. how sometimes more labels can help people feel at home in their identity and sometimes they can push people away when they can’t quite find one that fits. how asexuality is so intricate and complex, and there are so so many different ways to be ace, but sometimes it doesn’t feel like there are because things get thrown under the umbrella of ‘this is the ace experience’ and it feels like disagreeing means you aren’t ace.

this isn’t really about my own asexuality (though i have felt this way in the past), more just... something i’ve been thinking about wrt both irl ace communities and the way asexuality is treated in fandom. (tbh, especially in the tma fandom with jon.) asexuality is a spectrum and it’s a gradient--there aren’t clear dividing lines, there aren’t little boxes to fit into, there isn’t some checklist you have to complete or standard you have to meet. if you want to create labels for yourself, that’s great! i do that too, because I like labels! but it’s not like that for everyone.

#i guess i've just been thinking a lot about posts that paint asexuality in a very black-and-white light #or to be very on-the-nose: posts that insist that jon is ace in the way they want him to be #and that any other way is wrong/not supported by canon #when all we know from canon is that jon is ace and 'doesn't' #which is a) a bit of a cop-out writing wise #b) surface-level office gossip #and c) still ambiguous in its own right! #does 'doesn't' mean he's repulsed? #does it mean he's averse? maybe he's neutral? maybe he has a low libido? #i know we give georgie a lot of credit and i adore jongeorgie but maybe jon told her he was ace #and she just took that to mean he 'doesn't'? #maybe it's none of those things #i just get very... annoyed i suppose at posts that go 'yep jon is sex-repulsed canonically!' #'oh you want to write him as literally any other flavor of ace? well he's canonically repulsed so sorry you can't :)' #anyway. i was searching for the post i made a while ago that said this more succinctly but i couldn't find it #so i guess you get late-night incensed tag-rambling lol #discourse