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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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It’s all over now. I will come back because I enjoy writing and it helps me, but let all words I’ve written before these be a time capsule of the most emotionally intense period of my life. And the greatest person that I’ve ever had the pleasure of having be a part of my life. She was incredible, and she was everything I’ve ever needed. And she’s become just another victim of a terrible, cruel, unforgiving world. And as a result, so have I. If you’re reading this, I love you. I wish you’d’ve been able to see more value in us, enough to hold on and work things through. But I get that you couldn’t emotionally survive in this world if you let yourself care about others like that. And I know that there are many things far more important than some guy. I wish I could’ve been better during our time together; like I’d always promised you I’d become. You helped me through that time because we both knew I’d drop the depression and bad habits once I found my way, and the childish snags I hit would be a thing of the past, making way for someone worth loving and fighting for. And I’m doing just that. I’ll love myself as much as you loved me, for as long as I breathe. I’ll do everything I promised I would, and then some. And as much as I hate to admit it, while I’ll move on, I’ll always have the smallest wish deep down that we’ll meet again. It’s not something I will try to keep, but I can tell that that’s the reality of my feelings. And even though I have to move on and move forward, I will never forget or lose the effects that you’ve had on my life. From things as little as how to care for my skin and writing letters, to things as big as standing up for myself and how to find beauty and good during terrible times. You’ve shown and given me more than you’ll ever know. I’ll never forget that, and I will never forget you, for as long as I live. Who you were - and who you are - is far too important for me to be able to forget. I’m sorry you feel the way you do. I’m sorry for all that I’ve done wrong. I’m sorry for the things I put you through as a result of my depression. And we're both to blame for needless pain - By the end, I was expected to read your mind and to not be affected. I wasn’t given the respect of honesty and clarity, and it led me into a spiraling limbo that killed whatever chance we might have had for lightning to strike twice. But at the end of the day, we’re both unfathomably human. And I’m glad we shared what we did, when we did. I’ll never regret that, and I’ll never resent you, no matter how much of a dick you pretend to be. The sun is setting on a once endless day As the tremors begin to rise and smiles start to fade I clung on, and on, and on, far after you’d hopelessly gone I couldn’t bear to lose my strength, my goodness, my one. I know you’re a broken, shattered person, dear so I’ll carry the best parts of you in myself, and keep you near Your greatness won’t fade out with the love that we knew It will spark and show itself in every little thing I do.

~Cheesy, Clingy, Childish, Caring… Stupey.

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stumblingoverchaos · 4 years

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For the Get Messy Season of Reflection. Using Shane Koyczan's spoken word piece, "How To Be a Person" to practice with my bamboo dip pens: "One: Find your voice..." Gesso, Stabilo Woodys, waterbrush, collage, scrapbook paper, India ink, bamboo dip pens. #getmessyartjournal #getmessyart #getmessyseasonofreflection #gmseasonofreflection #artjournal #artjournaling #visualjournal #visualjournaling #quotes #collage #gesso #stabilowoody #artjournalpage #artjournals #artistsoninstagram #visualjournals #spokenword #shanekoyczan #shanekoyczanquotes #howtobeaperson — view on Instagram https://ift.tt/39fYRgJ

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wonkytonkmusic · 7 years

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#howtobeaperson #loveendures @littleboxesvintage (at Moe's Original Bar-B-Que Ft. Collins)

#howtobeaperson #loveendures

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howtobeapersonpodcast-blog · 9 years

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Here are our drawings of an old man, per Meredith’s instruction. My masterpiece is on the right, Mike’s horror show is on the left. Doesn’t it sorta look like the grandpa from “Hey Arnold!”? Anyway, a complete failure all around.

Meredith taught us that to make a face appear younger, draw the eyes lower on the face. Look at this cute noseless babychild. So young! So full of life!

She also taught us that a good way to sketch someone is to sort of squint and use that vague impression of their face as a guide. Here is my sketch of Meredith’s face and an actual photo of what she looks like. See if you can spot which one is which. I know, it’s hard.

#comedy podcast howtobeaperson #art #comedy #podcast #howtobeaperson #drawing #madskillz

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shekiki · 12 years

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How to Come Out of the Closet

This is great! I hope they do more. They've done one on vomiting at parties also.

Also, I can attest that the car tactic works.

#howtobeaperson #how to #coming out

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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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Lessons you taught me: True love

Thanks to you, I learned first-hand exactly what true love is, what it means, and why it's something we chase so often. Love is confident. Love is understanding. Love is fun. Love is a warm hug on a rainy day. Love is scary, in both good and bad ways. Love is sticking with someone as hellfire rains onto them, choosing to let it scar you both instead of allowing them to endure it on their own. Love is going to McDonald's at midnight because why the hell not, it's the weekend and there's car karaoke that needs butchering. Love is seeing passion and life where others see cracks, and hope where others see hopelessness. Love is feeling comfort at the sound of their voice. Love is lovely. Love is good. And the love I was coaxed into feeling is now my reason for fighting. Thank you for teaching me this.

#lessons #lessonsfromyou #poetry #howtobeaperson #spilledink #spilled thoughts #thoughts #truelove #love

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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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Lessons you taught me: Turning Trauma into Change

Through nothing but example, you demonstrated and taught me exactly how to take an unfortunate, unfair, or traumatic situation, and make it work for you. Allow it to change you, mold you, strengthen you.

I’ve been utilizing this knowledge well, since you’ve been gone.

Thank you for teaching me this.

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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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Lessons you taught me: Life is Short

I learned from you that life is too short and unfair to go placing your care into things that don’t need it

Thank you for teaching me this.

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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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Lessons You Taught Me: Worth

I learned from you that I’m someone worth loving. Someone who deserves to be loved. Someone who shouldn’t stand for anything less. Thank you for teaching me this.

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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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Lessons you taught me: That love is scary

Love is incredible. It makes you feel perfect, content, happy, warm. This also makes it the scariest thing I can imagine, because something that can be found can also be lost. Unfairly, suddenly, permanently, unforgivingly lost. No cosmic horror or depiction of large, grotesque demonic evil can come close to capturing the dread of such a loss. And if everything eventually comes to an end, does this mean loving is an inherently bad thing, and should be avoided, as it comes with the promise of such pain? I'm not sure. What I do know is this; to love is to get on your knees and beg that the universe embeds itself into the deepest part of your soul and do it's worst. (And for the record... I'd gladly do it again.) Thank you for teaching me this.

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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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Lessons you taught me: Why love is terrifying

Love is incredible. It makes you feel perfect, content, happy, warm. This also makes it the scariest thing I can imagine, because something that can be found can also be lost. Unfairly, suddenly, permanently, unforgivingly lost. No cosmic horror or depiction of large, disgusting monsters and demons can come close to capturing the dread of such a loss. And if everything eventually comes to an end, does this mean loving is an inherently bad thing for your own self, and should be avoided, since it comes with the promise of such pain? I'm not sure. What I do know is this; to love is to get on your knees and beg that the universe embeds itself into the deepest part of your soul and do it's worst. (And for the record, yes... I'd gladly do it again.) Thank you for teaching me this

#lessonsfromyou #howtobeaperson #poetry #lessons #spilledink #spilled thoughts #thoughts

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ruminationsandbrainbugs · 3 years

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Lessons you taught me: How to be better

You taught me many valuable lessons in how to be a better person - Through demonstration, explanation, and then through giving me no other option but to simply do it. As a result of this, I’ll always, unfortunately, tribute most of the best parts of me to you and your light and your influence. I know full well that each time I look deeply at myself and peer into the cracks of who I am, I’ll always see you there, being the glue that keeps me from shattering But that’s okay. I’d much prefer to continuously carry the tinge of pain that comes from catching glimpses of your remnants when I look at myself in the mirror, than to have never been so magically touched by you. Thank you for teaching me this.

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josephbinningyoumatter · 3 years

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Boundaries: What We Do Not Tolerate Cannot Hurt Us

Boundaries, we all know what they are. As children, they teach us what a boundary is. How far we can go before we get in trouble. Where the line is that we just can’t cross. They have taught us this for our own protection. To keep us safe. We sometimes even put up with things that annoy us, bother us, concern us, or even scare us and completely ignore the lesson of boundaries. As we grow and learn to spread our wings, we, as humans, forget the lesson of boundaries. We can be more forgiving, possibly even be more tolerant in some situations to be a good person. According to IPFW/Parkview Student Assistance Program: “A boundary is a limit or space between you and the other person; a clear place where you begin, and the other person ends... The purpose of setting a healthy boundary is to protect and take good care of you” (n. d.). Boundaries: What We Do Not Tolerate Cannot Hurt Us — Joseph Binning When we don’t have a strong sense of self value or identity, it may show that we have not set proper healthy boundaries in our lives. Boundaries, what you will or will not tolerate, protect you. Words lead to actions. Actions lead to results. Results lead to consequences. Sometimes terrible consequences. Boundaries can be emotional, physical, or mental, depending on the situation we need them for. Boundaries are self-care. You can read more on this here:https://www.josephbinning.com/why-the-message-you-matter-even-if-you-dont-think-so-is-so-important-now/ Setting up healthy boundaries can have many benefits, including helping people decide based on what’s best for them, not just the people or circumstances around them. So, what are Boundaries: What We Do Not Tolerate Cannot Hurt Us. Boundaries are the separation you keep between yourself and another person or a particular circumstance for your own wellbeing. When we ignore our own wellbeing over another person’s we are telling ourselves that we don’t matter. We tell ourselves the other person is more important, or worthy, than we are. We send ourselves the wrong message.

When we ignore our own wellbeing over another person’s we are telling ourselves that we don’t matter. At work, for example, always keep your personal life separate from your work life. That means when others gossip about someone you might know, politely, but firmly, inform them you do not wish to hear such things. Will this cause you tension with co-workers, possibly. In the workplace, people forget that we should always strive to set a professional standard. These things backfire, especially when someone finds out from someone else that someone has been gossiping about them and you are in the middle of it. If this happens you will have wished, you would have set a boundary. In a relationship, be it friendship or romantic, always set boundaries of what you will not accept. If for example you do not appreciate being spoken to in a loud voice, politely, yet firmly, inform the other party that that is not acceptable with you and be willing to draw a line in the sand on the issue. You can read more on this here:https://www.josephbinning.com/relationships%e2%9c%b5are-not-about-sex-theyre-about-you/ People will not respect you until they see what it is you respect. — Joseph Binning People will not respect you until they see what it is you respect, especially if it’s you that you respect. By communicating your boundaries to the other person, you will prevent resentment and or possibly anger from arising in either of you. Stand firm in your boundaries. When you set a boundary with someone you do not need to over-explain the reason why you set it with them. Briefly, say why it is not acceptable to you and expect them to honor it. By drawing a line in the sand and saying to the other person “you can go this far before we have a problem” you are communicating your boundaries. This is Boundaries: What We Do Not Tolerate Cannot Hurt Us. If they know where the line is that they cannot cross with you, they cannot hurt you. It's when we fudge the line, when we erase it and draw another trying to be “flexible” that we lose sight of why we set the boundaries. We dishonor ourselves and the peace we deserve in our lives when we do not honor our boundaries. With all boundary violations must come a consequence if we are to honor ourselves. “When one person is in control of another, love cannot grow deeply and fully, as there is no freedom” (Cloud & Townsend, 2002). As parents, we set boundaries for our children. It's for their protection. “No Johnny, you can’t play catch on the freeway”. Sounds silly saying it, but it’s a good example of a healthy boundary. Johnny really wants to play catch, but you as a parent do not want to see the consequences of what might happen should a car speeding should hit him. For the same reason we need to set similar boundaries for ourselves, to prevent the consequences of what might happen if there were no boundary set. When we set boundaries for ourselves, we become more secure. Secure that we are honoring ourselves, possibly for the first time in our lives, because we matter. Because we will not tolerate what we do not wish to have manifest in our lives. “What we don’t tolerate, cannot manifest in our lives.” — Joseph Binning Boundaries work both ways. We need to set personal boundaries within our own lives to maintain a level of peace within ourselves. Knowing we re-think a boundary, or re-shape it, or just plain old forget it entirely negatively affects our self-esteem and our sense of self-worth. When we do not honor ourselves, first, we cannot be honorable or be worth honoring by others. In my recently published book titled You Matter, even if you don’t think so which you can purchase on Amazon here Amazon You Matter, even if you don't think so I discuss Boundaries: What We Do Not Tolerate Cannot Hurt Us. If you change the way you look at things, you will change the way you see things. — Joseph Binning You can read more about change and why you need to do it here:https://www.josephbinning.com/change%e2%9c%b5why-its-necessary-and-how-to-do-it-well-2/

If you have enjoyed this article, please visit me at www.JosephBinning.com for more helpful tips and articles. You can also get more helpful information in my book You Matter, even if you don’t think so which you can purchase on Amazon here Amazon You Matter, even if you don't think so For my free report Happiness Is A Choice click here: Happiness Is A Choice Free Report Remember: Happiness is a choice, so choose to be happy.

Nelson, D. (2016, December 8). Self-Care 101: Setting Healthy Boundaries. Retrieved from http://www.dananelsoncounseling.com/blog/self-care-setting-healthy-boundaries/ Cloud, H., Townsend, J. (2002). Boundaries in Marriage. Grand Rapids, MI: Zondervan. Read the full article

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