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#he did that. he chose to do that. a hallmark of abuse is how unpredictable it is i suppose. but now for the first time in my life
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Got my own place!
#i moved out a few days ago
#which is (partly) why i've been relatively quiet lately
#apologies for the
#personal
#content i know it's not terribly interesting but this is fairly major for me and there's...
#well. it's my blog i suppose i'm allowed to post about myself once in a blue moon right?
#anyway what's absolutely wild is that for the first time in my life going on high alert at every sound isn't actually justified
#like. for the first time in my life i'm having like... a disordered level of trauma-hyperawareness
#like i didn't really realize until now just how exhausting it was at home. knowing it was unhealthy and unnecessary
#to be on high alert all the time (every second of the day especially when dad was home)
#but even if it wasn't *necessary* in recent years it always MIGHT have been. i learned from my entire childhood that i could never be safe
#he did that. he chose to do that. a hallmark of abuse is how unpredictable it is i suppose. but now for the first time in my life
#i'm. safe
#i'm safe
#and i don't quite know how to cope with that
#how do i live when every sound is a safe one? how do i live when i know there's no one waiting for the opportunity/inclination to hurt me?
#one thing i'm realizing is that i remain significantly more fucked up than previously assumed
#(or at least. than i'd previously assumed. or than i'd allowed myself to acknowledge for my own protection)
#i don't want to see him again i know that much
#and i also know i can't avoid it
#what right do i have? he hasn't done anything in years
#no. that's a lie. he pinned me against the wall barely months ago
#he's fucking abusive and i don't care that he isn't anymore he has never been sorry or tried to make amends and i don't want to see him
#hm. that's a conversation to have with the sisters i think. and then mom
#god i have no idea how to do this
#might be wiser to just suck it up and keep on faking it
#...no. that's no way to heal. i can't keep doing that. not when i have a choice
#well. i'll think it through
#i'll think it through and choose my steps as wisely as i can. what more can one do?
#linden's originals
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