Wei Ying loves Lan Zhan as a person. He doesn't fall in love after knowing "what great things LWJ has done for him". He loves Lan Zhan as an individual, admiring and appreciating his personality and ability. "NOT falling in love to the idea of LWJ's incredible love and dedication For him."
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Lan Zhan loves Wei Ying as a person. He doesn't fall in love with him after knowing "what kind of great compassion WWX has done and how much misery he was in". He loves Wei Ying as an individual, admiring and appreciating his personality and ability. "NOT falling in love due to guilt, of, how miserable and pitiful this flower is and how I have treated him wrongly in the past".
"When you're standing on their side, you're the bizarre genius, the miraculous hero, the force of the rebellion, the flower that blooms alone. But the second your voice differs from theirs, you've lost your mind, you've ignored morality, you've walked the crooked path." - MDZS
The story begins with Wei Wuxian's rebirth. In this life, he was summoned by Mo Xuanyu, who asked for him to kill his family. Wei Wuxian does not need to kill the Mos, they die on their own, and Wei Wuxian's debt is repaid without him needing to resort to murder. This concept of repaying a debt is also foreshadowing for what is to come in the story.
There is something of a turning point in Wei Wuxian's luck. He has repaid every debt that he needed to repay, he is now free of the three sins. He's rewarded by... Wangji, being free of worldly dust.
Jiang Cheng, the metaphor for worldliness or samsara keeps following him, trying to capture him, trying to get him to play his game, but WWX is now fiercely guarded now by the metaphor for his good karma, Lan Wangji. The worldly dust cannot touch him now.
Wei Wuxian now has changed. Not only has HE changed, but also, his circumstances have changed entirely. He's not going to be put into terrible situations anymore, because he has already repaid any debts he had.
Wei Wuxian stops approaching the world with pride or arrogance about what he's worth. When the Juniors insult him unknowingly, he just takes it, and gently earns their respect through his generous actions. He isn't attached to his material worth anymore.
Wei Wuxian sees the legacy he left behind with the ghost cultivation. The Juniors use his talisman for nighthunts, and it's positive. Xue Yang uses his techniques negatively, and Xue Yang also dies. Interesting to note that... it's not Wei Wuxian who kills Xue Yang. Wei Wuxian now has the type of karma where he doesn't need to do all that. His cultivation, too, now isn't used for cruelty, but rather, to give peace to spirits who have been wronged, such as A-Qing, Xiao Xingchen, and Song Lan. He has become wiser, as he got rid of his ignorance.
The story ends with the people who made Wei Wuxian's life worse getting their comeuppance. But, and crucially, Wei Wuxian does not take revenge against them. He does not care, and he sees the people he would have hated in his previous life, and approaches them with some level of empathy. He has no more aversion left in his heart, he is too tired to hate anyone.
The second part of Wei Wuxian's life is about getting comfortable with his new status quo, it's about healing. He has come out of a lot of trauma of a life that was frankly hellish, but this time, he gets to relax, be gentle, and enjoy a comfortable life with Lan Wangji. He gets to be taken care of, to be spoilt, to enjoy the comforts of life.
Lan Wangji is, undoubtedly, much better Teacher and Senior compared to the elevated Lan Xiansheng, Lan Qiren.
The juniors didn't merely listen to him out of his status but due to respect, as an admirable Senior. They didn't secretly badmouth him behind his back as pedantic, boring, etc, like how LQR was back then. He is the very example of mature man. Mature in age Mature in thinking Mature in deeds. Unlike how LQR who (childishly) targeting a junior inside a class due to personal feelings.
Lan Wangji's teaching and guidance are all straight to the point, concise, yet each words are of importance. In class or Nighthunts, his guidance never change. Whenever things got worse in his clan, Gusulan cultivators reflexively turn to find Hanguang-Jun. Everytime he appears the juniors aren't filled with trepidation but pure elation. That is how much of an accomplishment Lan Wangji has as a Teacher and Senior.
Lan Wangji is, undoubtedly, much better Father and Husband to Sizhui and his beloved Wei Wuxian, compared to his Father Qingheng-Jun.
His beloved died. He was beaten almost to death by the 33 discipline whips. His three views and morality over the years got overturned by the real implementation of the ridiculous justice ala the aristocratic clan. However, Lan Wangji didn't fall into despair and decadence. He grew up. He learnt from experience. He became better. He persevered to live. He became stronger. He tried step by step clarifying his beloved's reputation starting from his own clan. He taught the adopted Sizhui to be the best junior among his peers.
Very much unlike Qingheng-Jun who neglected his clan and his children, when he wasn't in as much despair as Lan Wangji was, when he's only in his 20s. He Didn't even try to investigate or clarify the old case of his wife. Fell to despair and chose to selfishly enter a seclusion.
Many people and even Lan Xichen in MDZS before Guanyin Temple, thought Lan Wangji was like his Father, afraid that he'd ruin himself for love.
But Hell No! He is a different individual who has chosen different paths in life.
Lan Wangji has never been ruined by love. On the contrary, He becomes better and becomes stronger due to love. Wei Wuxian didn't, and never will, ruin him. Wei Wuxian to Lan Wangji, is the person who gives him reason to change for the better, and bring him to see a better world.
He neither is Qingheng-Jun nor is he Lan Xiansheng.
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