#growing up a girl

[gunkmusher]

one thing i hate about being a woman is how everything you do is seen as some kind of a performance.

if you like video games youre “trying to be a gamer girl”.

if you tell a joke you’re “trying to be quirky”.

if you like to dress a certain way your a “*insert adjective here* girl” for men to commodify and desire.

if you express anything that does not conform to the stereotypical idea of what a woman should be you’re “trying to be ‘one of the boys’”.

weird girls no longer get bullied for being “weird” they get bullied for “trying to hard to be different”.

you’re constantly walking on eggshells trying to avoid coming off like youre “trying” to be a certain way. aren’t you sick of it?

#idk how to tag these posts lol #femenist #womens rights #women #growing up a girl #femenism #women’s rights #activism #activist

[folkloregirlfriend]

girlhood calcifying into this bruised adulthood.

nothing new, taylor swift // @seravph // drop kick aria, sally wen mao // the unabridged journals of sylvia plath // sugar, spice and everything nice, d.s. // girlhood, stevie edwards // jenny zhang // would've could've should've, taylor swift // churching, kristin chang // @nipplering // taylor swift // seven, taylor swift // girlhood is godhood, mimi evangeline @tenderfaery // everything is illuminated, jonathan safran foer

#web weaving #web weaves #parallels #quotes #lyrics #taylor swift #nothing new #drop kick aria #sally wen mao #the unabridged journals of sylvia plath #sylvia plath #stevie edwards #jenny zhang #would've could've should've #kristin chang #seven #everything is illuminated #jonathan safran foer #on girlhood #growing up a girl #adulthood #being a girl #excerpts #words #curators on tumblr #books #poetry #writing

[doelie]

Girlhood is hoping you break your leg when you fall off your bike so that then, maybe, your mother looks at you with care and worry and not anger and disappointment.

#girlhood #growing up #girlblogging #existential poetry #growing up a girl #it girl #mommy issues #don’t hate me

[yeah-ima-nerd]

Why can't they start themeing pads and tampons. Like I want to have marvel women themed ones. Or heck even star wars ? When will they start themeing them like they theme diapers.

#I was gonna add TMNT but that might be a bit umm- #growing up a girl #Pms #Rant #Periods #menstruation

[m0ss-head]

Being a trans man but growing up a girl is complicated. In the sense that I so deeply resonate with a lot of messages intended for girls or women. I am a man. I have no doubt in my body, mind, or soul. With that being, I was still a girl. I will always, in some way, relate or understand those messages. That doesn't make me less valid. That doesn't make me a woman. That just means I grew up experiencing girlhood, and that's okay. I know I need to learn to truly accept that, and I think I'm getting there, though every now and then, I still have to remind myself that:

I lived as a girl for a good portion of my life, I lived learning the lesson all girls do, so of course, I relate to posts about it. That doesn't make me less of a man.

#transgender #queerness #ftm #growing up trans #growing up a girl #self accepectance

[schizomatic3000]

my college essay <3

There’s always a debate about what really makes someone a woman; I believe it’s fear. The specific type of fear only women can have when they know that this interaction could end in an assault. It’s like when you get your blood pressure checked, they place the band around your arm and it starts squeezing. Only the band is put around your legs, neck, and heart; you can’t run away, you can’t scream for help, you’re about to become a statistic. The worst part is that most men barely realize when it happens. They’ll see a girl talking with their friend across the room and silently cheer him on, completely ignoring her darting eyes searching for help or her side steps to prevent him from cornering her. To be a woman is to always know you’re in danger.

One of my favorite musical artists is a band called Badflower. One of the main reasons I love them so much is because all four members are not afraid to talk about important social issues. In fact, their newest album, “This Is How The World Ends”, is all about social issues ranging from patriotism to the effect the pandemic had on politics. The eleventh track, "Tethered", keeps in line by following a young girl who ends up being drugged and raped at a party by a much older man; subsequently leading her to marry him and stay in the abusive relationship. Once the emphasis on her naivety is made, the following lines play in the third verse: "Then speech becomes a slur, She’s talking to some creep, Uncomfortable as hell, But too polite to leave" You can tell by the last line alone that it was a man who wrote this song; any woman would have said "scared" instead. 

The fact that men can write an entire song about this issue and still completely misunderstand it demonstrates how uniquely feminine this experience is; men will never understand our fear, pain, or solemn understanding of our place in the world. Every woman has, at least once, dealt with a creepy guy whether he was following her in the store, staring at her on the beach, or outright catcalling every girl has a story. Yet if you ask a man about his experiences with sexual assault, chances are he won’t have any. This isn’t to discredit male survivors but to highlight the disproportionate gap between sexes. Most men won’t even think twice about walking to their car after work but women are always told to go in pairs "in case anything happens".

When men are talking to a creepy guy, he doesn’t want to end the conversation out of fear of being seen as rude. If he abruptly ends the conversation and moves on to do something else, the other person might be offended and not talk to him again. But when women are talking to a creepy guy, she doesn’t want to end the conversation out of fear. If she abruptly ends the conversation and moves on to do something else, the other person might be offended and follow her to the bathroom to get her alone. Growing up young girls are constantly taught how to protect themselves, not to walk alone at night, never leave your drink unattended, and always share your location when on the first date. It is never presented to you as an "if this happens to you" scenario, but rather as a "when it happens" scenario.

Sexual assault is always on women’s minds as it is the only thing we all have in common; the fear of it happening to us. Men can never and will never be able to experience that level of systematic terror. When women are feminists, it's because they will literally die without it. When men are feminists, chances are they just want girls to think they're hot. Even if they truly do want a change in how women are treated, they can't even begin to understand what it means to be in that position. The feminine experience of fear is what defines me as a woman, but it will never define me as a person.

#collegeessay #writing #badflower #tethered #tw sa #this is how the world ends #what makes a women #female solidarity #trans #transgender #trans culture #growing up a girl #writematic

[personal-blog243]

I hope this isn’t a spoiler for “that 90’s show” but I like that they don’t have as many sexist jokes that didn’t age well.

They don’t have any “milf” jokes or jokes about walking in on women changing clothes. They don’t have any jokes about stealing girls underwear like in the original “that 70’s show”

It’s a nice change.

For the record I don’t know if the original 70’s show actually justified bad behavior because I think the women were portrayed decently for the time. Donna is a feminist icon. I’m not saying it should be “cancelled” I’m just saying they were teens in the 70’s 🤷🏼‍♀️

#sexism #Hollywood sexism #feminism #feminist #yes all women #me too #times up #growing up female #growing up a girl #misogyny #what sexism looks like #that 70s show #that 90s show

[kevindayslefthand]

Getting drunk and helplessly rambling about how acutely painful the female experience is in your diary that you write in once a month era

#women #gender binary #gender is a social construct #wlw #growing up a girl

[myheartachesthoughts]

Nothing waste a girl’s youth like male validation

Being told that my mirror would fall in love with me

But why fall with me when I have stars on my body?

What I hate about myself I love it on you

“I’m 18 I hope it doesn’t bother you”

Of course it doesn’t if you call me beautiful and praise me for the body I hate

The only reason 12 years old look like 17

Is because we were told since the beginning

That our body is the greatest weapon we have

And that catching a man’s eye is our greatest victory

#poem #poetry #my poem #poets on tumblr #original poem #my thoughts #sad thoughts #spilled poem #spilled poetry #spilled thoughts #thoughts #i need to be validated #validation #male validation #kids #growing up #growing up a girl #i wrote a poem #i wrote some words

[meganspublished]

from 'Disabled Femininity'

#excerpts #non fiction #disability #chronic illness #invisible disability #femininity #feminism #growing up #growing up a girl #misogyny #epilepsy

[im-on-staygaytion]

I remember growing up and being absolutely devastated when i was told girls weren't allowed to whistle what the fuck was that about

Was it because boys catcalled girls when they whistled?

Again what the FUCK was THAT about

#growing up #growing up a girl #Growing up trans #trans egg #egg talks #childhood memories #What the fuck was that about #personal #me

[alligatorpie1945]

Season 3 is off to an amazing start! Im so proud of our girl and I cant believe how much she has grown since season 1. (And Im laughing at all the people who thought she was annoying in the beginning) She has been awesome this whole time!

Prints are available here

#the bad batch #fanart #tbb #star wars #art #omega #season 3 #our girl is growing up #i just want their family to be reunited

[doelie]

Reading mafia romance books at the ripe age of 14 was probably not the best idea. I now crave the love of a dangerous man.

#books #dark romance #gaslight gatekeep girlboss #tumblr girls #reality #wattpad #books and reading #growing up a girl #girlblogging #girlhood #i’m mentally unwell

[yeah-ima-nerd]

Ah yes old men, the top tier of people who make me uncomfortable

#I just freaking went into a gas station #This old dude started talking to me #Making me really uncomfortable #Get me off this planet pls #growing up a girl

[corantus]

happy bday anthy !!!!!

#revolutionary girl utena #anthy himemiya #drawing her thriving bc its her birthday. i think she grows up to be a tacky shirt enjoyer

[personal-blog243]

Conservative religious parents: I WILL VIOLENTLY MURDER ANY BOY WHO HAPPENS TO BE GLANCING IN YOUR GENERAL DIRECTION BECAUSE YOUR VAGINA IS MY PRIVATE PROPERTY TO SAVE THE PROPERTY VALUES OF!!!!

Also conservative religious parents: why aren’t you married yet???

#just girly things #just girly thoughts #just girl problems #growing up a girl #growing up female #feminist #feminism #me too #times up #sexism #sexist #sexist bullshit #purity culture #misogyny #what misogyny looks like #what sexism looks like #what feminism looks like #this is what a feminist looks like #yes all women #yes all men #this is what feminism looks like #this is what sexism looks like #this is what misogyny looks like #this is purity culture #misogynistic bullshit #equality #true love waits #I kissed dating goodbye #dad’s against daughters dating #D.A.D.D