#grooming survivor

[starksurvivorthoughts]

There are certain people who should be gently reminded that literally anyone they talk to may be a SA survivor. In my experience its VERY likely (I'm pretty open and find people will disclose to you if you disclose yourself).

And it should be considered, I think! A lot of people's entire behavior and treatment of me shifts when they find I'm a CSA survivor, and I know others who have similar experiences. It feels isolating, but the change is normally for the better! Boundaries are more clearly laid, and discussions around sexual violence get shown more care.

However, I do feel the isolation this causes can be curbed by creating a culture where that attention is paid naturally.

#csa survivor #sa survivor #grooming survivor #vent #actually traumatized

[nothing0fnothing]

My mom always used to tell me that I was so much more mature than the boys my age because "girls mature faster" and always told me to date older when I started dating.

The men in my family would tell me that the best way for me to succeed was to 1) get really thin 2) get really hot 3) marry an elderly man months from death 4) inherit his money after he died.

Constant discussions about how I shouldn't be dating teenage boys because teenage boys "only want one thing" and I should be waiting to date till my mid 20s when they've "calmed down".

But yeah it was totally my fault when a man in a position of power over me in his late 20s started dming me when I was 13 and I thought it was normal.

#narcissistic abuse #raised by narcissists #vent post #toxic parents #complex trauma #parental abuse #childhood trauma #dysfunctional family #dysfunctional household #grooming victim #grooming survivor #tw grooming #trigger warning: grooming #adult survivor of csa #tw csa vent #csa survivor #tw csa mention #tw csa #toxic mom #toxic family #child abuse survivor

[moriphile]

I'm watching a video and this fucking "predator hunter" just asked a GROOMING VICTIM if he "just wanted attention." That's so fucking stupid and insensitive on a hundred different levels.

Like, yeah. I wanted attention. I wanted my groomer's attention. Because no one else cared about me. Fuck yes I wanted attention, I wanted to feel loved and cared about. I wanted to feel important to someone. That's how they GROOMED ME. That's how PEOPLE GET GROOMED. This person even confirmed their parents were EMOTIONALLY ABUSIVE. YES, they are going to seek love elsewhere.

Are you. Like. Dense??? Do you not understand grooming????? For a supposed "predator hunter," that's kiiiiind of an issue.

#cw grooming #cw csa #cw child abuse #grooming survivor #csa survivor #I keep up with a lot of youtube drama so what #it gives me serotonin to watch people get dunked on #m.beingpissyagain

[pastelalleycat]

It's been about a year since I had a difficult breakup with a close online friend. Other online friends who knew them were really concerned about me. The relationship had become codependent, and after a huge fallout with everyone, the friend ended up abandoning me. I blamed myself for everything for months. I showed my former therapist our texts and she didn't think this person intended to hurt me.

But after extensive thought, and wondering whether it would be a good idea to post about this and what people would even say to a confession like this- I'm just going to say it. Me and this friend didn't have lewd conversations- nothing we said or did was explicitly in the realm of sex- but they pushed my boundaries and got me to be okay with some things I heavily regret now.

I was groomed.

#mint's posts 💛 #tw grooming #confession #grooming survivor #personal #very personal

[karmabloo]

Rant. Tw: SA

It makes me so mad when a predator’s wife learns that he has abused children and stays with him anyway. Even with proof she stays. Even though they have small children that he could harm she stays. Part of me feels bad for her because he has probably abused her and she depends on him financially so I’m sure leaving is hard. I think the thing that makes me so mad is that she tries to blame me for what happened while also telling me that I’m just delusional and nothing happened at all. Even though I sent her proof she still tries to deny anything happened. I hope she accepts the truth soon and takes the children away from that creep.

#christian moore #sa survivor #grooming survivor #former foster youth #stop csam #trauma survivor #vent

[henryisabigfatbitch]

Hello, you can call me Asher, Henry, or Micah

I am a physical nonhuman

I am a werewolf, fish, werebat, and dragon

Sometimes I feel like I'm not a proper system because they go mild-dormant for a long time, they're only usually there when I'm experiencing psychosis

I am a Holothere

I am trans masc and homoromantic(?), omnisexual

I am diagnosed with schizoaffective depressive type, so please be kind

I am a system of many, I have (undiagnosed but I did a shit ton of research) Polyfragmented OSDD and have 200+ fragments (all are very small and cannot speak to me but I know they aren't me, ya get me?) and my main Fronters are me (the host, Asher/Henry) And Chip (first fragment ever, somehow I remember) who technically isn't a complete fragment anymore, he's almost completely un-fragmented somehow.

There is also Alastor, Fae, Sasha, and Gore. They also front from time to time

A lot of my "OCs" happen to be fragments so be polite when talking about them

Post my shit to r/systemscringe and I will fucking obliterate your throat, fuck off.

DNI:

Public proshippers (proshipping publicly and for non coping reasons)

Terfs

Anti kink dni, y'all don't understand that people can consent at all lmao.

Anti Reality shifting, I will fucking block you dude

Anti-therian

Anti-otherkin

Anti alterhuman

Homophobes

Any people with extreme harmful paraphilia who think it's okay to force yourselves on others, I'm not getting groomed and molested again, fuck off

Anti-furry

Anti-cringe (I AM CRINGE BUT I AM FREE, FUCK OFF HATERS)

Anti-Holothere

Elon musk supporters

Political blogs (war is not political, I will do anything I can to help save victims of warfare)

Ai bros (I'm fine with you using AI for personal stuff but stay the hell away from me please if you use publicly)

Sorry if I offended you but I have a no-hate policy here

If you have any questions, send an ask

Me (might update sometimes)-

#grooming tw #grooming survivor #molestation mention tw #Holothere #pinned post #intro post #Werewolf #therians #therian #otherkin #DNI homophobes #pro endo #endo safe #endogenic safe #Polyfragmented osdd #actually a system #actuallymentallyill #actually traumatized #actually abused #actually plural #transmasc #transgender #furry #dragonkin #terfs can suck my balls #anti endos fuck off #anti endos dni

[bottomoftheninthcantfindmysocks]

Sometimes I feel like reaching out to you.

Not because I miss you, but because I want to know who you are now.

I want to know if you've changed or if you still hold the same rigid, ignorant and hurtful beliefs that you held back then.

When I was a kid, and you were an adult.

I'd never let you speak to me today the same way you did then.

#grooming survivor #grooming #ex #if you can even call him that #relationships

[starksurvivorthoughts]

Sometimes people go through this blog and like a bunch of my silly vent posts.

I hope you're doing so well and am sending you a beam of sunshine 🌈

#csa survivor #abuse survivor #vent #actually traumatized #sa survivor #grooming survivor #🌱.txt

[nothing0fnothing]

Hey remember when that grown man molested and groomed me into thinking it was okay for like, almost 3 years and when everyone found out I got treated like I, the 13 year old child, was the bad one who broke the rules? And then I spiralled down into a pit of rage issues and bad mental health because nobody thought it might be necessary to get me help after such an ordeal so I just had to tough it out and work it out alone? and not just regular alone, like truly alone, because I was pulled out of every social extracurricular I was in and had all my hobbies taken off me as punishment so all I could really do was sit alone in my room thinking about everything I'd just gone through and how bad it was? and it was especially bad because it was summer and my parents were so angry at me they didn't talk to me basically at all so it just became normal that I went days to a week at a time without speaking to a human being the whole time, essentially leaving me alone in a time I should have been having conversations about what happened to me and how I can heal? And nobody talked about it at all for like 5 years and pretended it didn't happen to me and I had no reason to be sad and depressed and mentally ill because I had a perfect life? And literally the only evidence I had that what happened to me wasnt just forgotten was brought up was as a joke at my expense when I was 20 and moved out? And when I, a then 20 year old who still wasn't healed from that experience because why the fuck wouldn't I be? Said that the joke wasn't funny and acknowledged for the first time that it wasn't my fault I got met with some weird remark about how it was actually another 15 year olds fault because she also got groomed?

Yeah me neither idk why I brought it up.

#narcissistic abuse #raised by narcissists #vent post #toxic parents #toxic mom #parental abuse #complex trauma #dysfunctional family #childhood trauma #dysfunctional household #grooming victim #grooming survivor #tw grooming #trigger warning: grooming #grooming #tw csa vent #tw csa mention #tw csa #csa survivor

[victoriasaint]

"I wonder how much worse it will feel when I'm twenty-two going on twenty-three. Already at twenty, it's hard to believe that someone could ever see a sixteen-year-old as anything more than a child. How was he able to see me as a sexual object? Still shedding the remains of the prepubescent body, I had been forced to carry. Still wrapped up in high school drama and school dances. Still so naive to the experiences I was to gain later in life. Still enjoying the lack of responsibilities that come with depending on your parents. Unable to vote, indulge in alcohol and cigarettes, or drive a car without a supervisor. Unable to consent."

~Victoria Saint

#creative writing #writeblr #writers on tumblr #writing #writers and poets #original content #original post #spilled thoughts #grooming survivor #healing #safe space

[nerevarbignaturals]

"but he's so highly regarded-" yup. most abusers are.

"but he's a family man-" yup. most abusers are.

"but he's such a good community advocate-" yup. most abusers are.

time and time again, you will find that people who groom, manipulate, and abuse are charming. they are, often, the most bubbly, bright, and fun person in the room. you might never have expected that they could do whatever it is they did.

because (and i say this as someone currently being isolated from my community for daring to speak up about being groomed by a school staff member) THAT IS HOW THEY GET AWAY WITH IT.

believe us. god, i hate that it feels like i am begging into the void, but survivors who speak up about these experiences have everything to lose. and, regardless of how it might look, their abusers almost always have nothing to lose because they know that nobody will believe that such a "great" person could cause such harm.

#beef speaks #welcome to the inside of my head it is terrible here #survivors #abuse #tw abuse #tw mentions of abuse #tw grooming #believe survivors #i hope at this point in your life you know that survivors are almost never lying #but if you don't: #survivors are almost never lying #because why would you lie about something that could get you ostracized from the community? #and again speaking as someone who's currently going through this shit #i spoke up publicly barely over a month ago and since i've lost half my friends and professional contacts who are on his side #i have lost that for being honest #grooming #grooming survivor #abuse discussions #survivors speak #important things #lgbtq #trans #queer #autism #actuallyautistic #tagging the shit out of this because honestly #if any of my posts were going to escape containment i feel like this is the most important one to do so

[pastelalleycat]

The person who helped me gain confidence in my gender identity when my family was being so queerphobic- the person who kept me company, who comforted me, who I thought loved me, was grooming me. I was a vulnerable young adult and they groomed me. My queer self-discovery is tied forever to my abuser. Isn't that just pathetic.

#tw vent #tw grooming #grooming survivor #tw queerphobia

[xxcoffeepotxx]

the weird thing is my love language is phyhsical touch but bc of my trauma i can barely stand it.

#csa survivor #grooming survivor #physical touch #vent #whats going on

[traumaontumblerdotcom]

Seeing your mom follow a Twitter page called gays against groomers when she groomed you is so

#vent post #actuallyabused #nccsa #tw nccsa #grooming survivor #this grooming survivor is pro trans

[bl33ding-rats]

want someone to hurt and abuse me again so bad :(

#radqueer #rq 🌈🍓 #pro rq 🌈🍓 #endo safe #transid #transplural #endogenic #pro endo #traumaendo #complex ptsd #grooming survivor