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beeapocalypse · 3 years
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writing sophie pre bunnyfarm like you WILL get a metric ton of development and weird little lore that has absolutely no basis in canon and also a hundred issues that u ignore <3
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itsrubberbisquit · 3 years
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Fae Touched (1/?)
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Summary:  Victoria was halfway between her A-levels and her nursing degree when she ran into a stupidly hot actor named Henry while on vacation in Ireland.  Henry was enchanted with the beautiful red head and talked his way into her bed.  Things didn’t go … exactly as either would have liked.
Pairing:  Henry Cavill/OFC
Word Count: 2.4k
Warning:  Some minor second hand embarrassment and some bad sex.  Not assaulty sex, just bad sex.  Poor communication.  Vaginal sex, oral (f receiving), kissing, cute almost-fuckbois.  I am not British.  I will try not to write dialog like an American but it’s going to happen.  I’m sorry.
Author Note:  As always, this is a lot of background, set in 2008.  Our dear Henry would have been freshly-turned 25 and if you’ve ever seen season 2 of the Tudors, pretty fucking hot.  As always.  *sigh*  If only I’d gone to Ireland on vacation during my second year of Uni.  Le sigh.  I must be insane to be doing two active stories at once but fuck it.  We’ll see how it goes.  Hello to the new followers and the old friends.  Drop a line to say hi.
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Ireland, 2008
 Happiness was a crowded market place and the smell of the ocean blowing in from the beach, just on the other side of the buildings.  Tory tipped her head back and smiled up at the sky.  It was a beautiful May day and she wasn’t stuck in London.  The soft lilt of Irish accents carried on around her and she smiled even wider.  She was in Bray, a popular vacation spot from her youth, on a much needed break from reality.
 She’d just finished her second year at University College with top marks.  A lot of sleepless nights had been chasing her since she’d left Surrey and headed north along the Thames.  A lot of days without seeing any kind of nature that wasn’t perfectly cultivated.
 There was only so much walking around the city parks could do for her wild soul.
 Her best friend had suggested a quick trip post semester and Tory had agreed instantly.  This time of year, right before tourist season started, everything was cheap and it wasn’t too crowded.  Jecy had been arguing with a gentleman about a wooden trinket for the better part of ten minutes and Tory watched with a fond smile.  Her best friend was a firecracker and was very used to Jecy getting her way.
 She was about to rescue the poor salesman when a hand on her wrist had her pausing.  She turned to follow the grip and found an elderly woman with a kind smile.  “Oh, yes but look at ye.  A true beauty.  Beauty like tha’ should have a scarf to match, don’t ye think?”  Tory noticed the woman’s goods then, silk and wool fluttering gently in the breeze.  The old woman guided her towards the fluttering fabrics, dancing a little more madly now with stronger gusts of wind.  Tory frowned at the sky, dismayed to find that it had darkened significantly during their little shopping foray.  She had wanted some beach time that afternoon, but perhaps not.
 “Come now, girl.  Take a look.”  The old woman was insistent, tugging at her wrist and gesturing at the scarves.  Tory refocused on the task at hand, only mildly irritated with the woman’s tone.  There, towards the back, an emerald green number that was shot through with streaks of brown, fluttered less than the other scarves around it.  It made her think of her own eyes, the genetic mutation she shared with her mother making her eye color impossible to nail down.
 She reached her free fingers towards the shawl only to be drawn up short as the hand around her wrist tightened.  The elderly lady was staring her down, mouth twisted up in a tight grimace.  Where initially had been a kind, dark brown gaze, milky white eyes stared back at her.  Tory would have physically recoiled but the grip holding her was too tight.  “You’ve a long road ahead of you until you find love, Fae Touched Child.  You’ll find it tonight but then it will be stolen from many years.  When your gazes reflect yer true heart, know that you’ve found the one.”
 Anxiety uncoiled its cold grip around her heart and she gasped out a strangled, “What?” Tory was flabbergasted.  Her words interrupted whatever trance the old woman had fallen under and she was freed from the woman’s grip.  Tory took a few quick steps back, assessing the situation for any further danger or creepy fortune telling.
 Because that’s what it had been, right?  Her fortune?  What in the ever loving fuck had the woman meant by calling her a Fae Touched Child? 
 Jecy’s bright voice sounded at Tory’s ear and it almost sounded like a gunshot.  Tory was shaking when Jecy came to her side, a hand instinctively cupping an elbow at the look of panic on Tory’s face.  Tory turned to gesture at the old woman but found nothing but an empty alleyway.  Words escaped her even as Jecy gave her a few moments to collect herself.  Her friend rubbed soothing circles on Tory’s back and the younger woman was at a loss.  What the fuck had just happened?
 “Come on Kitten.  Let’s get a nap in before we go out tonight.”  Tory didn’t argue as Jecy led them away from the market and from the most unsettling experience Tory had in her life.
 That night was bright and full of laughter.  The Harbor Bar in Bray was packed to capacity with revelers enjoying the late spring Thursday evening.  Tory was four drinks in, her cheeks rosy with the alcohol and aching from laughing so much.  It had been the best idea ever to take this little mini vacation.
 She looked cute.  She looked fucking hot actually and it was time to kick back.  She’d convinced herself, somewhere after drink number two, that through alcohol all things were possible.  Particularly the ability to forget about the old woman in the marketplace and the burn on her wrist where she’d been held.
 Tory shivered when she ran her hand over the tender skin around her wrist and then shook her ruminations away.  This was not a night for creepy old ladies.  It was night for banging skin tight dresses and fuck-me heels.  In the crowded bathroom, she brushed the hair out her eyes and reapplied a bright pink lip gloss.  Although Jecy had promised that this was the place in town to find the hot guys, Tory has been underwhelmed so far and it was probably up to her to find entertainment for the evening.
 Her steps were a little unsteady in the heels as she returned from the bathroom.  Her eyes scanned the bar for her friend’s unnaturally bright red hair.  Every table had at least three bodies at it and she frowned.  If Jecy had found someone to take back to their shared bungalow and had left Tory at the bar . . . alone . . . she was going to kill the red head.  Jecy’d done this to her before, countless times at the pubs near their apartment in Fitzrovia. 
 A hand grabbed Tory’s arm right where the woman had grabbed her earlier and she instinctively recoiled.  Jecy’s blinding grin floated into her vision, a little guilty.  She blinked, recognizing her friend but irritated she’d been hiding.  “Hey!  Come and meet-“Jecy’s voice drifted as she turned to the two men who were also sitting at the table.  “-Max and Henry!  They’re actors.” 
 Tory took in the additional bodies at their table, the very reason she hadn’t noticed Jecy.  The two men were also grinning and she had to physically restrain herself from sighing dreamily.  They were hot, almost unfairly so.  And had a drink waiting for her.  Max looked really familiar and had settled into the seat next to Jecy.  Henry didn’t look familiar at all, but his smile was sinful as Tory slid back into her original chair.  Which was pulled up tight next to his.  The solid body she settled next to was intriguing.  Jecy shot her a wink at the thankful nod she shot her way. 
 How could Tory have doubted her skills, after knowing Jecy for so long?  She always knew how to pull in prime real estate. 
 Tory raised a glass to all three and took a deep drink of the Guinness.  “So, Tory.  Jecy was telling us you’re at uni for nursing?”  Henry’s voice was smooth in her ear and she turned to glance at him.  Deep blue eyes met hers and she was momentarily speechless.  She hadn’t noticed in the dimly lit room before but he really was beautiful.
 He raised an eyebrow at her lack of reaction and she mentally shook herself.  “Um, yeah.  Just finished second year.  Two more to go.”  She took another drink to cover up her sudden nervousness.  Jecy was good at pulling hotties but they weren’t usually this pretty. 
 The stout was hitting a little harder than Tory probably needed and she decided it would be prudent to slow down.  Henry’s gaze darkened as he watched her swallow.  Her tongue peeked out, swiping a wayward drop of liquid.  He licked his lips in response and her breath caught.
 So it was going to be like that?
 As if sensing her thoughts he raised his eyes back to hers and smiled lazily.  “Smart and gorgeous.  That’s a dangerous combo.”  A hand rose, brushing the hair back from her face.  The touch sent a shiver down her spine and she knew what he was offering with the motion. 
 He was one to talk about dangerous combinations.  Those eyes and those lips could cause a lot of damage.  “What about you?  Are you guys shooting a movie or something?”
 Henry grinned, his tongue peeking out teasingly.  “The Tudors.  It’s a TV show for an American channel.”
 Tory looked suitably impressed.  She had a vague notion of the show but hadn’t seen it.  She didn’t watch much media with her school schedule.  “Tudors?  Henry the Eighth?”  At his nod she tilted her head to observe him.  He certainly had the regal profile to portray a royal.  And he had a certain air about him that only came with money and privilege.  “Are you playing the king?”
 The question delighted him and she was equal parts enamored with the resulting dimples.  “Ah, no.  The best friend, actually.”  Tory’s knowledge of medieval history was lacking and honestly, she didn’t really care.  She just wanted to see him smile, preferably forever. 
 Across the table, Max had his face buried in Jecy’s neck as the redhead laughed.  “Is he the king?”
 Henry shook his head and leaned conspiratorially close.  “No.  One of the many brothers-in-law.”  His words were pure mischief as though sharing a joke but Tory didn’t understand.  She smiled anyway, loving the way the dim light cast warm shadows on the planes of his face.  He had one of those faces.  You know, perfect?  Dimples on his chin and his nose, even in his cheeks when he gave her an eager smile.  She wondered what his sharp canines would feel like on her breast, gently biting at a nipple.
 The thought had her squirming in her seat and made her panties damp.  
 Heat flashed in Henry’s eyes and he must have known the effect he was having.  A man didn’t look like that and not understand.  The heat radiating off of him was almost overwhelming yet she didn’t move away.  Instead she let her hand rest on his forearm in a blatant invitation to remain right there at her side.  He looked at her hand then up at her face and the lazy grin he gave her in return was intoxicating.
 Later, after a few more rounds that she knew she should have turned down, Henry cornered her on the patio.  She’d stepped outside to take a breather and found herself bracketed by his arms on the railing.  He was solid and smelled vaguely of Burberry.  Tory stiffened for a fraction of a second before she leaned her head to one side.  He took her invitation and his lips found her pulse.  She pressed back against his strong chest as his arms tightened.  He was doing delicious things with his mouth and she didn’t want him to stop.
 The other patrons faded away, her attention caught entirely by his lips and his hands and the small hitches of breath in the back of his throat as he worshiped her skin. 
 Jecy really did know how to pick them.
 They were a jumble of lips and limbs as they crawled into the back of a cab.  Tory pulled away long enough to give the cabbie the address of their bungalow but Henry belayed the order.  Giving his address, he pulled her onto her lap.  She could feel him under her, swollen and insistent.  And big.  Good lord.  Her mouth went dry when he locked the steel bands of his arms behind her back and ground her down into his crotch.
 Her hands grasped at his biceps, fingertips flirting with the edges of his sleeves.  He was so hard everywhere and it was making her light headed.  Thankfully the cab ride was short and she was pushed up against the door of his flat not 10 minutes after they’d left the pub.
 Tory missed the details of her surroundings as Henry bracketed and guided her through the darkened hallway and into his bedroom.  The backs of her knees collided with the bed and she fell back with a startled oomph.  Henry’s grin was bright in the darkness of the room.  That wasn’t enough though.  She wanted to see all of him.  She’d felt his muscles under his clothes.  She wanted to watch as he revealed them to her. 
 “Hey, slow down.  Turn on the light.”  She grabbed at Henry’s hair, short but just long enough that she was able to stop his forward momentum.
 He laughed at her, his hands pushing apart her legs so he could settle further against her.  She let out a deep groan at the contact.  The shifting drew the material of her jeans tight against her clit and it was making her brain fuzzy.  “I don’t need lights to see where I’m going.”  His tone was light and teasing and she sighed in resignation.  Fine.  Whatever.  She’d just feel everything.
 He made quick work of her pants and panties and then dove face first into her crotch.  Tory let out a squeal, her hands grabbing at his head again as he latched onto her clit and sucked.  Hard.  “Christ Henry, not so much.  It’s not a straw.”  He thought she was joking; his chuckle was low and dirty over her pussy.  He latched on again and she jerked away.  “No, really.  Gently.”
 If the lights had been on she would have probably seen him pouting up at her.  Instead he paused for a long moment.  She wondered what he was waiting for but then let out a low gasp when his mouth descended again.  Impossibly soft, his tongue mingled with excited exhales and yeah that was better.
 It lasted for moments, just mere moments, because as soon as she relaxed into the blankets to enjoy the experience, he began Hoover-ing.  Tory shot up, both hands pushing the suction from her clit.  He looked wicked pleased with himself as though he’d gotten an orgasm out of her that quick.  She frowned.  What was she going to do with this boy?
 “Um.  I guess I’m just not feeling oral tonight?  Can I . . . ride you?”  She winced at how childish the second the words came out of her mouth.  Well, geez Tory.  Why don’t you ask if you can borrow his crayons next? 
 Thankfully, Henry was receptive.  He stripped out of his clothes, far too fast, deriving her of any sort of viewing pleasure and then flopped onto his back on the bed.  In the dim light of the room she could make out the vague outline of his manhood; he was hard in the shadows and from what she could tell he was . . . going to take some getting used to. 
 Henry was sweet enough to fish out a condom and put it on while she settled on his thighs (way more solid than she’d expect from an actor doing a Tudor-era show).  Insistent hands guided her up and over his cock and then she felt the tip of him at her entrance.  It was . . . really big.  And she probably wasn’t as wet as she should have been but she sank down anyway.
 It burned.  There was no good way to describe it as anything other than full and burning.  She let her body weight carry her down to his root and then waited for her body to adjust.  A few experimental dips of her hips had her gasping.  Fuck this was like standing barefoot on hot cement in the summer time.  All sensory cells were focused and heightened where he filled her.
 Henry was patient beneath her at least, perhaps understanding that he couldn’t just go around sticking his giant cock in women without preparation.  She was about to call the whole thing off when he licked two fingers and brought them to her clit.  Okay, yes, she thought.  That did not suck.  That did not suck at all.  He had her writhing in a surprisingly short amount of time and perhaps she hadn’t given him enough credit.
 Until he started to push up into her and it was all too much again.  He sensed the tenseness in her body and came to a stop.  “Is it too much?”  He didn’t even sound surprised.  Just resigned.
 She nodded and then remembered he couldn’t see her because he hadn’t bothered turning on the light so she croaked out a yes. 
 Henry was gentle when he pulled her up, slipping free.  His lips met her in a passionate kiss, hands drawing her down to the bed.  Her legs slipped open again, welcoming him back into the cradle of her thighs.  When he slid back into her body at this angle, it wasn’t as bad.
 Tory would come to decide that it had been embarrassment and a need to finish that had led to the five short pumps before Henry had groaned into her neck.  She lay spread out with 200 pounds of an attractive male sprawled over her form, and with a deep, rude ache in her very soul.  She’d had unfulfilling sex before but if he didn’t finish her off this whole experience was going to take first place.
 He shifted and Tory caught the tell-tale smell of spilled cum on the air.  Oh.  Oh fuck.  She pulled away quicker than she should have, Henry telling her to slow down.  She couldn’t though because if they’d just had unprotected sex, she was going to kill him.  And then herself.  Maybe not in quite that order.
 Her hand fumbled for the bedside lamp, clicking on and causing them both to groan at the sudden light.  There was a condom, sure, still holding on for dear life but it was split halfway down Henry’s cock.  Which was still tall and proud as the night was long. 
 The two looked at each other, as much as they could in the dim lit room.  And then Tory did the absolute most responsible thing she could think of at that very moment.
 She ran. 
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veroniicaflores · 4 years
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task 001: character introduction.
(admin tangerine, 21, est) ☼ who’s that hottie, standing outside the love hotel? it’s VERONICA FLORES, a BISEXUAL CIS FEMALE, who looks a lot like NATHALIE KELLEY! NIKKI’s insta bio says SHE is a STYLIST and is looking for a fun time this summer. SHE is into DADDY KINK & GROUP SEX, but not into SCAT & BLOOD PLAY. by the way, SHE reminds me of ORANGE POPSICLES & COLORFUL SUNSETS.
quick infos:
full name: veronica eleanor rosemary flores (i swear i have never watched dynasty EVER and i was told this is the last name of nat’s character.... too late)
dob: august 23rd 1988 (she’ll turn 31 this year)
pob: las vegas, nevada.
kinks: daddy***/mommy kink, mild roughness,  group sex, public sex, receiving oral (eat her out good and she’ll marry you... too soon) although she enjoys giving oral to girls and/or strap-ons/dildos, mutual masturbation, nipple play, hair pulling squirting, spanking, consensual somnophilia.
anti kinks: blood play, wax play, electric stimulation, bondage, very rough sex, scat, foot play, humiliation & extreme anal (fingering and butt plugs are fine, but there will be very rare anal sex).
3 favorite things: dancing naked at 2am to some electronic music or old rock songs, italian gelato (she’d give you a handjob for a raspberry gelato) & puppies videos on instagram.
3 things she hates: spiders or bugs of any sorts (excluding spider man or ant man or black widow wink wink), people who lack of respect & compassion, bad hair days.
+2 positive traits: easygoing & compassionate
-2 negative traits: gullible & jealous
wanted connections:
ex-husband: idk where i’m going with this, but i have a feeling this would be so interesting if he’d come back to the hotel and they’d reconnect after a few years of being apart and not speaking. bonus points for high sexual tension and cute stuff! 
daddy and/or mommy: just that “caring, loving but also can please all your needs” vibe. spoiler alert, she won’t be the mommy, she’s too much of a sub for that.
femme fatale: just a woman, preferably younger whom nikki just can’t resist. someone with dominant tendencies. or someone around her age too! 
friends with benefits: GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS GIRLS 
sexual tension: it says it all. 
headcanons
childhood + teenage years + early twenties:
only child of a loving family of restaurant owners, veronica inherited the best conditions to become a traditional girl from a just as typical and traditional family. she was loved by her parents, she loved them. she learned to cook at a very young age and had a noticeable talent. she was the preppy girl from the picture perfect family. she had a dog, alfredo, that she rescued from the streets and who became her only friend for most of her childhood.
in high school, she bonded with a pair of twin siblings who came from a completely different background. from what she knew, their parents were big gamblers and lost most of their savings in casino nights. these people had that edge and gave that down to earth vibe nikki admired yet could not completely comprehend. they were a dynamic trio that balanced one another perfectly. jack (npc) was a total artist who encouraged nikki to express herself, valerie (npc) was very analytical and had a talent at reading through nikki while nikki herself was that sweet figure who was easy to please and could easily please everyone.
when they graduated, valerie confessed she had no idea what she would be doing with her future with no money at all. they were sitting in nikki’s family restaurant and drinking beer in cask with nostalgia and a part of sadness. jack had big plans, he found an apartment in san francisco and wanted to become a graphic designer. nikki, however, was torn between taking over the family business or making a living of her own. that was when valerie drunkenly suggested to work at one of the newly opened strip clubs nearby their neighborhood.
so she did.
she turned 18 when she realized she had lost so many years to living in a mold she no longer fit in. she was more than just preppy church outfits and cooking sundays with her mother, she was more than a daddy’s girl who washed tables when the restaurant was closed. what did adults always say? a good education promised a good future, so, veronica applied to the college of southern nevada for a degree in communications with a minor in women’s studies. she had no idea where she was heading, but it was a start.
her parents contributed by driving from class to home every day, they paid her more adult looking clothing and they finally gave her the freedom she never knew she needed until she reached majority.
although jack disappeared from her life, valerie remained very present. they did as they agreed and found a job at a high end strip club in vegas. they made good money instantly without having to do nasty stuff nikki had never been introduced to. within a few months, they saved enough to get matching tattoos, new jewelry and pay for valerie’s apartment. the club provided a living area a few blocks away, but valerie felt better living on her own. nikki tried to mingle and fit in with the other girls, but they were too different. maybe it was the education, maybe it was the background, but the trashy side of this job did not interest the italian girl more than that.
veronica worked as a stripper during college until she graduated with a degree that would soon become irrelevant and useless. with contribution from her parents who never even judged her for her job (it was true nikki did tell them it was just a dancing studio) and with her savings, veronica moved out of nevada and headed to california.
now
she worked in clothing stores, in malls and eventually in expensive boutiques. the other sellers and all the clients noticed she had a talent for matching outfits, accessories and every details making sure the person who wore them would be at their best. eventually, she started doing this as a side line. she promoted her skills on social media and got quite the hype. she worked for magazines and influencers. she became a private stylist as well. no rest for the wicked! 
along the way, she met the man who would become her husband. they really had a perfect marriage. being career driven and uncertain of being able to meet her parents’ expectations, she could not lie to herself. the marriage ended in a peaceful and respectful divorce. she is still convinced he is the love of her life. 
at 26, she started a youtube channel when she became a bit bored of her casual job. on her channel (youtube.com/user/floralpatternslover), she does a lot of hauls, diy accessories, storytimes, recipe tutorials and various challenges. she has 2 millions subscribers and just as many instagram followers. nikki lives off of that more nowadays. she tries to post at least once a week on youtube to keep the ad revenue coming. 
she makes a lot of money, but she really doesn’t act like it. she thrives on late night trips to 7/11 or on dollar store snacks and stuff. she gives a lot of money back to charity, and clothes back to other organizations as well. similar to chris klemens, 
headcanons
BIGGEST SUB AND BABY ENERGY YOU HAVE EVER MET. she’s just... so willing and vulnerable, it’s crazy. make sure your muse can handle that!
she will never take the lead, or, well, almost never. if she feels really needy, she might initiate things and suggest certain positions and actions, but otherwise, you choose and she obeys.
she works with clothes all the time, love clothes, sleeps on her bed covered with clothes because she’s too lazy to put them back in her walk-in closert... yet she would live naked 24/7 if she could. she goes from 0 to 100 real quick when it comes to exhibitionism!
she LOVES sex. passionate sex. sex for sex. group sex. watching sex. she’s really into it. it takes her mind off everything else. 
once again i repeat i have never watched dynasty and now i’m playing two fcs from the show TALK ABOUT A COINCIDENCE i’m sorry about the last name thing, i just thought it fit 
alsoooooo i was very attached to lea as a fc generally, but especially for nikki. it was hard choosing someone else :( i hope nathalie can fit!
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theliterateape · 3 years
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If Yogi Bear Were God, I’d Have This Thing Wrapped Up
by Don Hall
From a Letter from Pontus Pilate to Tiberius Caesar:
...from that moment I was convinced that the conquered had declared themselves the enemy of the conquerors; and I would warn the Romans to beware of the high Priests of this country. They would betray their own mother to gain office and a luxurious living. It seems to me that, of conquered cities, Jerusalem is the most difficult to govern. So turbulent are the people that I live in momentary dread of an insurrection.
At first I was apprehensive that his design was to stir up the people against the Romans, but my fears were soon dispelled. Jesus of Nazareth spoke rather as a friend of the Romans than of the Jews. One day in passing by the place of Siloe, where there was a great concourse of people, I observed in the midst of the group a young man who was leaning against a tree, calmly addressing the multitude. I was told it was Jesus. This I could easily have suspected, so great was the difference between him and those listening to him. His golden-colored hair and beard gave him the appearance of a celestial aspect. He appeared to be about thirty years old. Never have I seen a sweeter or more serene countenance. What a Contrast between him and his hearers, with their black beards and tawny completion!
I extended to him my protection, unknown perhaps to himself. He was at liberty to act, to speak, to assemble and address the people, and to choose disciples, unrestrained by any Praetorian mandate. Should it ever happen {May the gods avert the omen!} should it ever happen, I say that the religion of our forefathers will be supplanted by the religion of Jesus, it will be to this noble toleration that Rome shall owe her premature death, while I, miserable wretch, will have been the instrument of what the Jews call Providence, and we call destiny.
Pilate knew that he was witnessing a new religion forming when he saw Jesus speak. He could see the demise of Roman rule at the hands of this new prophet and gave him the freedom to speak publicly about it. People believe in things that inspire them or provide them with a road to dominance because religion is both a way to codify behavior for oneself and to then enforce that behavior from everyone else.
Back in college, I really wanted to date Diane. OK. That was coy. I wanted to jump her bones. There was chemistry but she was Mormon. Like, full-on Mormon. Her father was an elder at her church. She told me before we could date I had to talk to him first. He invited me to meet at the church.
“You want to see my daughter socially?”
“Well, yeah. Uhm. Yes, sir. I would.”
“We don’t allow dating outside of the church. Would you be interested in coming to some classes and workshops before I give permission?”
“I’m a college student. Classes and workshops are all I do right now, so sure.”
For six weeks I’d go to Mormon school. Diane would check in with me at lunch in the commons area to see how it was going. I sat through spiritual exercises, hour-long seminars on the history of the church, and workshops designed to indoctrinate me into this odd belief system. If something they told me was not unintelligible, it was vague. If neither unintelligible or vague, it was unverifiable.
Yet these decent people believed. They believed in the absurd story of Joseph Smith and his magic glasses and disappearing golden tablets. They believed that multiple marriages primed them to live as gods and goddesses in the afterlife (even though officially they denied this, the classes sure made polygamy seem like the path to follow). There was the whole thing about binding underwear.
“Well, Mr. Hall. You’ve passed your classes. Any thoughts about what you learned?”
I wanted to get into Diane’s pants but not enough to stop myself from being honest.
“Sir, no disrespect intended but I’d sooner believe that Yogi Bear was the Divine Creator before putting my faith in this nonsense.”
While leaving me with a six week case of blue balls the time was instructional although not in the manner expected. I wondered what was going through the minds of people who believed Smith when he told them his bullshit story? I’m certain some thought he was a loon, others thought he was maybe an idiot, but enough people believed that it started a new branch of Christianity. That’s big. A new religion in the midst of so many.
Like Scientology, the Branch Davidians, the Aetherius Society, the Gentle Wind Project, and the Reformed Druids of North America, it seems so many are looking for answers in cults so cults are born on the flimsiest of reasons with nonexistent means to verify their connection to truth.
Turns out it isn’t difficult to start a cult and gain followers.
Step 1: Choose a set of grievances and attribute them to an amorphous enemy.
In the odd quirk of being the only truly conscious animal on the planet, each one of us is the hero (or anti-hero) of our own private movie. Each of us, whether we choose to acknowledge it or not, believe that our struggle is the Greatest Struggle (often in spite of all evidence to the contrary). The Cult of Personality functions by breaking that quirk down, effectively convincing people that someone else is the real hero and themselves pawns to his or her victory over the Other. The Cult of Personal Anguish exploits this quirk, enforcing that each of us has Greater Pain than anyone else and by attacking the Other, we each receive our due.
So pick one. Pick some slight you feel personally. Anything that makes you feel all the bad feels. You know, because you are misunderstood and treated with less...whatever you think you deserve. Hell, pick a couple that seem related.
Some examples might include:
You feel objectified by _____. You feel unheard by _____. You feel left out by _____. You feel criticized and shamed by _____. Your choices in life have left you with LESS than _____. _____ are happier or more fulfilled than you
Step 2: Use language to pre-emptively invalidate all criticism or questioning.
This is key. The idea is to take an already agreed upon set of words that denote injustice or abuse and gradually expand the meaning until your specific anguish is cloaked in them. That way, when anyone questions your logical conclusions, you can throw out those words and phrases and shut down dissent.
If someone is critical of a war, they are automatically supporting terrorists. If someone tells an off color joke in the office, he is automatically a sex offender. If someone points out the obvious connection of a flag to slavery, she is automatically attacking your cultural heritage.
By expanding the umbrella that words mean, you destroy the nuances of language. Like when the word "rape" — defined as sexual intercourse without consent — is attached to the word "culture" and suddenly paints a broader brush that covers pretty much anything men say or do. Attaching the word "verbal" to the very specific "assault" amps up the calling of names to felony territory. Add "heritage" to a long standing bigoted "culture" and it seems goddamned noble.
More importantly, let these words and phrases completely dominate your discourse. Find ways to attack anything and everything through the prism of your pain. Eventually you and your followers will begin to lose the ability to see the complexities of living on a rock with seven billion fucking people and only see society through that kalaidiscope of personal misery. The mere opening of a door can be construed as sexist. The practice of women's basic health 97% of the time is completely eradicated because of a legal surgical procedure. Everything a white person says or does is automatically racist in intent.
A Cult of Personal Anguish requires a huge degree of fealty to these horse blinders, this narrowing of the world within the tunnel of your personal oppression or it falls apart under scrutiny.
Step 3: Recruit others who either feel that grievance or gain something by identifying.
In the Age of Constant Connectivity, this is a breeze. White Supremacist groups would be pocketed away in small, dark corners if not for the internet. With this tightening of the world via digital communication, being heard by others who hurt the same hurts as you is easier than ever before. 
There are also on the periphery those who, while they don't exactly feel your specific pain, gain a sense of validation by identifying with it. These "allies" to your cause are good for numbers but don't count upon them if things get tough. While they can assist in many ways, these are just groups of seekers who feel that things aren't quite fair enough for them but have no esoteric pain to attach to. Your cause is like a t-shirt they can wear and feel included in something bigger than themselves. 
Speaking of, sell t-shirts. Your "allies" will buy them. That's how you can tell them from your True Believers and you can make a couple of bucks in the process.
Step 4: Create an “Us vs Them” Mentality
Essential. Without an enemy to blame your grief upon, your cult goes nowhere. Focus lots of energy in pointing out the differences rather than similarities. The similarities weaken your cult. The differences are the fucking gas on the fire. Using Step 2 to amp up the discord, be on a constant attack on the Other. Ignore those other groups who, perhaps, have some of the same grievances because YOUR cause is FAR more important than theirs.
Remember the propaganda of WWII that reduced all Germans and all Japanese to evil caricatures. Observe how FOX News demonizes anyone who doesn't fall in line with their narrow worldview. Find your version of Bobby Jindal or Ben Carson to turncoat against those you see as Them. Remember, this is WAR (because if you attach the word "war" to anything else, it automatically becomes a Big Deal).
Become a Single Issue Proponent. Anyone who is not completely loyal to your cult becomes a part of the cause of your hurt. This is a broad strokes, scorched Earth approach that has succeeded for thousands of years.
When called out on this focus, obfuscate the issue by claiming a broader definition of the problem/oppressor:
"I love all sinners but hate the sin." "When I say 'white people are racist' I mean the system is racist." "I'm not saying Mexicans are the problem. All illegal immigrants steal our jobs..." "I'm not attacking the Good Policemen just the 'bad apples' when I say Kill the Cops." "It's not a war on women. It's a war on what's inside of women."
Once you have these four steps nailed down, go organize. Get a non-profit status or a Super PAC to support you (I mean, while you are out there sowing the seeds of revolution, someone has to pay the bills, amiright?) and legitimize your cult as either a political movement, a righteous cause, or a religion. Look around — there are legal organizations surrounding the pain Christians feel about abortions they don't have, the anguish Southerners have when removing their flag, coercing airlines to increase seat capacity for the Differently Weighted, the misery certain people have when their kids read about evolution, and Online Bullying.
A generation of citizens with crushing debt and few genuine job opportunities can feel bereft of transcendence and meaning, and “becoming woke” fills that spiritual hole. “Woke” is religion without God which strips away all the trappings of what we know of religion, simplifies the complexities of things like racism, income inequality, and the environment, and is really easy. Like Christianity, you profess your wickedness, confess your sins, and tithe to the church and you go to heaven.
Like early Catholicism, you wage war on those unbelievers and call it conversion. Create a moral binary that dictates a ‘with us or against us’ scenario and hammer it home. Spin the soft bigotry of yesterday and make it antiracism. No one likes to be called a racist and with no way to demonstrate that one is not racist, the moral binary takes hold.
I’ve read the books and heard the arguments. I believe most in the current cult are decent people who somehow believe in their movement.
Should it ever happen {May the gods avert the omen!} should it ever happen, I say that the religion of our forefathers will be supplanted by the religion of Kendi and DiAngelo, it will be to this noble toleration that America shall owe her premature death.
As for me? I’d sooner believe that Yogi Bear was the Divine Creator before putting my faith in this nonsense.
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Review: Stranger Things
(TV mini-series/Netflix)
Slick, nostalgic, pitched almost perfectly and so full of holes it could have been made in 1983...
There has been a buzz recently about a new 8-part Netflix series called Stranger Things, starring Wynona Ryder and some other people. Set in a backwater US town in the mid-1980s, it has a group of pre-teen ‘misfits’, a bunch of pre-college Jocks, an outsider/loner, a confused teenage girl, rogue cop, distraught mother - all the things that made 1980s ‘blockbusters’ from Steven Spielberg to the teen angst of John Hughes. Throw in a decidedly odd mix of Stephen King and Clive Barker and then don’t bother to think things through too much or you’ll end up picking it to pieces.
If you do start picking it pieces you begin to notice that it’s all style over substance and while it either allows or expects the viewer to fill in the necessary missing pieces, it also constitutes very lazy writing when some of the characters are literally just there to facilitate a plot thread.
There have been comparisons - justifiably - to Spielberg’s 80s movies such as ET, CE3K and his co-scripted The Goonies film and the homage flies thick and fast and any film buff worth their salt will be reeling off references faster than a teenager can have a wank and around the third episode I realised this was a production trick - a way of diverting the viewer’s attention away from the glaring lack of credibility and almost total lack of reason.
Plus - bleeding eyes? Really? Hasn’t this been done to death? Plus, why do film makers insist that people would bleed out of their lacrimol caruncle? Do you know what happens if you get a bleed in that part of the eye? Blood - a liquid and the surface of the eye, also a liquid/lubricant - mix and you get red, streaky eyeballs, especially when you blink. In a series that largely used 21st century special effects, this was one of several 1980s special effects they could have done without (but it was used as a plot device...).
The main story begins with the disappearance of an 11-year-old boy, mysteriously in some local woods. This in itself was handled like a baby with a hand grenade. I know this is the 1980s, but I’m fairly sure even the most red-necked and ignorant of US town sheriff’s would a) treated a missing child case with a degree of seriousness and b) done his searching during the day when flashlights were not required. Kid goes missing and townsfolk all do a day’s work before going into the woods with halogen lamps... This wasn’t the first thing in the show that puzzled me (unless it was an X-Files reference and therefore a decade too early) to the point of annoyance.
I’m going to stop being linear here because I’m not just going to spell out the eight-episodes for you. We are also introduced to 11 (played by Millie Bobby Brown) a young girl with closely cropped hair and a hospital-styled smock who is wandering around the countryside; she is met and befriended by the three friends of the boy who has gone missing. She has mysterious powers and doesn’t talk much.  We are then introduced to what I feel is arguably the weakest and the part of the story that prevents the series from actually working...
Matthew Modine plays the head of some weird scientific project based in a building completely cordoned off not too far from the place where the boy went missing. No one, not even the sheriff seems remotely bothered or even knowledgeable about an apparently top secret facility, with armed guards, is situated so close to their town. It would appear this place and its employees might as well be in a completely different country - or dimension - because in a town that is portrayed as being small enough to know everyone else’s business, the top secret facility obviously was doing it’s job well.
Modine appears to be working for the US government and using a telekinetic child to locate and spy on Russian/Soviet officials - all very cloak and dagger and all very superficial. The problem for the girl doing these experiments - 11 - is that to be able to link with whoever her keeper’s want her to, she has to go through a place where monsters live - which she later describes as ‘the upside down’. Using your own powers of deduction, it appears that by using this incredibly powerful girl to spy on people it starts to break down the barriers between dimensions.
We’re then treated to more film and novel homage with nods to Poltergeist, Stephen King novels about dimensional barriers and at times Labyrinth. There is also a tree and this tree is obviously the portal that the creature (or creatures) on the other side of it uses to come to our world and abduct its food. This allows one of the supporting cast to do something totally totally out of character and then allows the series makers to do something almost ridiculously 1920s in its cliffhanger execution. 
It’s the fact that the characters when the series is set up in the first episode don’t really express much after that first episode. We’re introduced to a group of young friends, but we have no real back story for two of them; the general conversation is that Mike the ‘leader’ of this gang of misfits and Will - the missing child - are best of friends and telephone conversations between their mothers’ (Ryder and Cara Buono) suggest the two women are also best of friends, but that never materialised. The thing is - no one talked to each other. It was like the 1980s was this period of time when everyone was just doing their own thing and no one else was remotely aware - maybe it was, but I can’t help thinking if Stephen King has written this - because it fits in with so many of his town-themed novels - it would have been more realistic in its characterisation.
It is so wonderfully crafted, it looks and sounds like it was made in 1986, even down to crowd scenes - the hair and clothes are all spot on. The dialogue, at times, veered into the wrong era - the expression ‘sick’ for something good was a few years away and began in a different part of the USA. Even the government as secret above-the-law agency was handled well, except... it wasn’t at all. The slightly bogus secondary antagonists - Modine’s security detail - were unconvincing and inconsistent - Spielberg did ‘sinister government’ spot on and believable; this lot just looked like a cross between crooks and psychopaths.
However many plot holes and things that were just badly written, it did have some really clever things going for it, there were some really unexpected performances and it fairly rattled along once it got going. Millie Bobby Brown stole the show for me and her tone and way she drifted through the series was possibly the best thing about it. Imagine a girl that has been kept as an experiment all her life, her lack of love and parenting, no nurturing, just used as a weapon and then being released into an unsuspecting world. The mixture of rage and confusion was set very well as was her ability to kill if she felt it was necessary. 
Wynona Ryder was a revelation in the kind of role that Dee Wallace or Melinda Dillon excelled at in the 1980s, but with little or no real back story about her life, looking at her house, compared to her peers, and judging by her general hippy-ish attitude in flashback scenes, you get the impression that histrionics, drama and crisis has never been too far from her door; had this been emphasised a little more clearly, you might have understood why no one seemed that overtly concerned about her son Will’s disappearance. The fact that another town youth also disappears soon after generates about as much interest as an apple-bobbing party at the local church. Ryder plays the in-denial grieving mom very well up to the moment she starts playing with lights, carrying an axe round and smashing walls open because Will was trying to communicate with her. How he was managing to manipulate the electricity in a mobile home in the middle of nowhere from ‘the upside down’ was never explained, not even looked at, it was just thrown in there to emphasise to the viewer that Ryder wasn’t just bonkers.
There are some excellent scary bits, but once the suspense is done with and you’re given the idea that 11 and the monster are more than just linked, it might just be the creature of her id (created by the thing she was using to do the government’s bidding) it becomes a bit of a slaughter-fest with 11 and the monster dispatching large numbers of faceless agents. The’upside down’ is a mixture of creepy and Silent Hill and at times it had tremendous atmosphere, but none of the main characters are particularly likeable; even the kids are an odd mix, with the black kid being the most overtly bigoted and the fat toothless idiot as the level-headed one, despite being a (low-grade) buffoon. Spielberg gave you emotional attachment to specific kids inside 2½ hours; this series never manages to really make you care about any of the kids, because they’re all dislikeable in certain ways. Only 11 (or El as the boys called her) seemed exempt from this and not enough time was spent on her ‘re-education’ to life and too much time spent on Modine glowering over her and showering her in fake love.
So much, like a 1980s film, is left to the imagination and that, now, is a problem. Setting it in the 1980s circumvents such irritants as mobile phones, the Internet and transparency, but that doesn’t necessarily add any authenticity to it. Maybe viewed weekly this might have worked better, allowing the viewer to not remember clearly certain bits, thus allowing the imagination to fill in the blanks; but as a box set it just falls down in places.
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Hi there, I am going to borrow a car from a friend for one day and since I am not at his insurance policy, I will have to obtain one day insurance for my own name, am I right? I have my own car which is insured but I cannot use it at that day. Can my own insurance cover that single day? If not, where and how do I get that one day insurance? Thanks for answers!""
""Can I purchase a car, and tow it home without insurance?""
I want to purchase a car from a small car place, the man puts 30 day tags on it and mails the title to the DMV, but my father cant get off work to come put insurance on the car for me. So can I buy the car there, have the title put in my name, but have the car towed home and stored off the street until I can add it to insurance and get my own tags? or is it illegal to tow a car without insurance on it?""
Bay City Michigan Cheap car insurance quotes zip 48707
Bay City Michigan Cheap car insurance quotes zip 48707
What can a car finance company do if you no longer have insurance?
I bought a 2004 vehicle (from CarMax) about 3 months ago. The finance company (Capital One Auto Finance) would only approve me if I started an insurance policy before I left the dealership. I did, but have since let that policy go, for different reasons. The finance company is now sending me letters to give them updated insurance info, or they may take appropriate action to protect its interest . What exactly does that mean??? All my payments have been on time, actually 2 weeks or more early. So, what can they do if I continue not to have insurance, since my payments on the vehicle are all in order? Since guessing or assuming won't help me, sources for your answers would be helpful. Thanks.""
How do you get health insurance?
im 16 and i dont have any health insurance. i wanna try out for the wrestling team this year but i dont think the school will let me because i have no health insurance. how do you apply for it and how long does it take to get it?
Does anyone know the average insurance quotes for 2007 Nissan Altima in Wisconsin?
Does anyone know the average insurance quotes for 2007 Nissan Altima in Wisconsin?
Insurance question HELP PLZ?
On the insurance to get a quote, it says to list all the violations within the last 3 years. I have got one speeding ticket but was cleared because i took the Stop Class. So do i have to put this down as one of the penalities""
Who does the cheapest car insurance?
Who does the cheapest car insurance?
Which Car Insurance is good - any advice?
I need a car insurance very soon. But i am not sure which insurance i should take. Whats your advice? Thanks.
How does Progressive compare your insurance rates with top companies?
How is that possible? I've applied for Progressive quotes before (and wasn't impressed at all), but how are they able to do that? Insurance companies all have complex formulas that are used to calculate rates using several factors, including driving history, location, credit, household drivers, vehicles, etc. Unless they have robots online that steal competitors' bandwidth and automatically fill out the forms, it doesn't seem possible. If that was the case, you would think other companies would block Progressive from abusing their servers. Any ideas?""
Plz recommend good/affordable health insurance for 55+?
Looking for a good health insurance for my parents who are 55+. Is there such a thing as good and affordable??? Thanks!
Refused car insurance for being?
a house husband (was told by insurers ) so could i word it as being a child carer (without telling lies) for insurance purposes
Do you think health care should be more affordable? If you answered yes....?
Does that mean you support Obamacare??? The Dems and THEIR pollsters say yes....... That's the only way the White House can claim that 66% of Americans support Obama's ...show more
How much does Mercury insurance cost for new teenage drivers?
my family already is on mercury (4 people)...how much more is it with mine included? (im going to have to pay for it)
How much my insurance will go up?
How much my insurance will go up? I had an accident which totaled my car. I am 100% at fault for that accident and my car worth 15000$. I have clear driving record and no tickets in past two years. How much will my insurance go up I am paying 900$ for six months
Approximately how much will my car insurance cost?
I am a 16 year old male, I will be getting my liscense soon. I'm going to have my own car(probably an old Honda civic) and ill be added on my mothers insurance policy. And I live in San Diego, and my grades are B's and C's""
Why are my insurance quotes so high?
I am trying to get car insurance and all the quotes I'm getting are about 100 dollars a month. I'm in highschool and any of my friends get theirs for like 60 a month. I have a perfect driving history and still it's too high.
Forcing to get car insurance?
Two years ago, my ex and I bought a car under her name. It was registered in her name, and the loan was in her name. The insurance was in mine. We split up, and now neither of us ...show more""
Motorcycle insurance for 18yr old first vehicle(sportbike)?
I am considering purchasing a 2007 Kawasaki ninja 250r. I was wondering how much insurance would be for me(18) if it was my first vehicle . I have no prior car insurance history. And I just got a motor license.
Around how much is car insurance for a 19 year old new driver in the uk?
Around how much is car insurance for a 19 year old new driver in the uk?
Are there any groups you can join that offers group health insurance?
Or some insurance co that does not ask for a ten year history?
Insurance Company Policy Number California?
I was rear ended and I obtain the person of interest's driver license, license plate, name, and policy number, but did not get the insurance company's name. I tried calling the suspect and came into her work (subway) to find out the number I was given was incorrect. I tried calling the new number and still no response. I remember seeing that the insurance company was from the Bay Area. The policy number is 1053121297. Could anyone help me connect this policy number format to a company?""
Car/insurance sixteen yo?
I'm sixteen and I'm thinking about this car: http://www.autotrader.com/fyc/vdp.jsp?ct=u&car_id=296014776&dealer_id=100012676&car_year=2002&systime=&doors=&model=&search_lang=en&start_year=1981&keywordsfyc=&keywordsrep=&scarid=296515424&highlightFirstMakeModel=&search_type=both&distance=25&min_price=&rdm=1303705998432&drive=&marketZipError=false&advanced=&fuel=&keywords_display=&lastBeginningStartYear=1981&end_year=2012&showZipError=y&make2=&certified=&engine=&page_location=findacar%3A%3Aispsearchform&body_code=0&transmission=&default_sort=priceDESC&max_mileage=&color=&address=72076&sort_type=priceDESC&max_price=&awsp=false&make=AUDI&seller_type=b&num_records=25&cardist=22&standard=false How much do you think it would cost a month for insurance? I'll have a job and my parents have offered to pay a lil each month and help me out. Sorry, I'm completely new to all this and I just need a ballpark estimate.""
What is the cheapest individual health insurance plan in California?
I am young and healthy and need a health insurance plan for myself. Essentially, I just need health insurance in case of a freak accident that will land me in a hospital. Any suggestions? The cheapest so far has been $51 a month. I don't care about deductibles or any of that. Just that it has the lowest monthly fee. Thanks!""
DWI SR-22 and Insurance?
I recently got a dwi in Texas and I have heard about a lot of times that your insurance company won't notice your dwi on your record for a while or that it will never end up on your driving record because of lack of communication between the court and dps. What i am wondering is does Texas make you get a sr-22 form so that your insurance company does find out? if so with state farm and a otherwise clean driving record how much will a dwi effect my insurance cost?
Cheapest car insurance in florida?
i am looking for a good and cheapest car insurance in Florida...Help plz
What do liquor liability insurance papers look like?
Like if you need to confirm that you have it, what do you show people?""
How much should I be looking for to pay for car insurance?
Its a 98 ford escort with 127,000 miles and it has a salvage title""
Bay City Michigan Cheap car insurance quotes zip 48707
Bay City Michigan Cheap car insurance quotes zip 48707
Roommates car insurance company wants my car insurance info?
My roommate just changed her address told her car insurance provider she moved in with a friend. Her insurance company wants my car insurance info. Why? Do I have to/need to supply this? What are the positives and or negatives to doing this? Could it make my insurance go up? Note: We are not under the same company or policy for that matter. Thanks
Can you get life insurance if you smoke marijuana?
My husband's 20 year policy is up and I am renewing us one together. He smokes it occasionally and I do not. We have to do a medical screening to the get insurance, so do they drug test? What is the outcome of smoking marijuana? Does that automatically cancel the application? We have 6 months to take the exam, so I am sure he can stop until then, but I am just wondering about the rules.""
Is it possible for a UK resident to get car insurance in the US?
I am planning to travel to the US for 2 months and was hoping to buy a car in California and drive it to New York. I have been trying to find out if will be possible to get insurance since I am not a resident of the US and it is looking increasingly difficult. I contacted Progressive Insurance company in the US and they said that I would have to have an address plus they would be unable to write a policy as the laws change between states and I would be travelling between states. Is there anything I can do to get around this?
Would using a motorbike for a year make insuring a car cheaper?
i'm at college and i am looking at learning to drive a car and i was wondering that if i used a motorbike or moped for a year without claiming on insurance would it decrease the cost of car insurance? because that is what my friends have been saying
Gerber life insurance company?
is this even worth doing has anyone ever done this...i need feed back and ideas i have a one year old little boy and i want him to have something to fall back on when he gets older, weather its college or whatever The insurance says they can cash it out for the premium. So should i sign up or just get him a savings account?""
Drive without car insurance?
i can't afford car insurance right now... i just have too many other obligations. does anyone else care to comment on what its like to drive without insurance? what happens if you get caught?
Insurance Cost?
what is the monthly insurance cost for a new cadillac escalade for a 32 year old driver with a perfect record
Could someone please explain health insurance to me?
Difference between PPO HMO DRG Private insurance, and deductibles I read it in my textbook but all these terms I'm not very familiar with so no matter how much I re-read the paragraphs I'm still a bit confused... I might sound stupid but oh well! Clarify for me please! Thanks for all who answer""
Auto insurance..??
I'm trying to get just PL&PD, and the insurance websites are really hard for me to understand at the moment... I'm 19, just got my license, no experience on the road good or bad, good grades, and my car is a '96 Ford Taurus... about how much will my insurance be?? just a guess is what I want, and also if you have what company you got your estimate from, that would be really nice. Thanks :)""
Why do insurance companies base rates on credit?
Illness hurt our family financially but we recovered and are on the credit mend. Funny thing is we have never missed an insurance payment - nor have we lapsed policies. We have been steady insurance users for 19+ years now. Our driving records and insurance record is also clean. Why is it fair for insurance companies to use credit against you - when they can't possibly know the circumstances.
Pregnant and no health insurance - Maine?
I am canadian who just got a visa to move to maine to live with my US husband - I still work in Canada and cross daily. 3 nights ago I found out I was pregnant. I called my blue cross to see what it covered in the USA and when I told them I moved from NB they promptly cancelled my insurance. My husband doenst have insurance and because of my salary in Canada we dont quality for medicaid or mainecare. so no insurance, no mainecare and no money...... I also cannot have the baby in Canada now as they cancelled my medicare when I moved...... so this is worst situation I have ever been in...... I have wanted to be a mother for years but I cannot afford 15000 to have a baby ...... I am honestly contemplating an abortion.....""
File auto insurance claim or pay out-of-pocket in NJ?
My 17yo daughter just got her graduated NJ license, skidded on wet corner, causing $1300 in damage to wheel & susp. We have $500 deductible. Can we ask our insurance co. how much our rates will go up if we file a claim, or will that automatically flag her for additional points?""
""Diamond Car Insurance? gave the cheapest quote, anybody use or used them?""
I am 21 year old female wanting to start my own insurance policy instead of being 2nd driver on my mums car. I have a Toyota Rav4 Sport, which insurance companies are good with younger people please (the car is 8 years old, so not worth a great deal)""
Am I paying to much for car insurance?
I like in Tempe, AZ. I am under my parents insurance and I'm paying $200 a month for car insurance. I drive a Toyota Yaris 2007. At first I thought what I'm paying for was wayyyyy to much, but I got some quotes from other insurance company's and they want me to spend more?! What the heck? Can anyone help me out?""
How much did you pay for car insurance on your first car?
I am going to be 17 soon and will get a car, the car i will get is Vauxhall Astra Mk4 1.4, i went on a car insurance quote comparison website and the cheapest they could find was like 5,500, there's not a chance im gonna pay that, i was wondering what you all paid, oh and i live in the UK.""
Which is the cheapest car insurance in Louisiana?
Which is the cheapest car insurance in Louisiana?
Car accident/insurance.?
Okay, three days ago I got into a car accident, I drive an SUV and the other party drives a Toyota Camry. Save for a few scratches on the bumper, my car is fine, the other woman on the other hand says she can't open her door and the front right light and part of the bumper is damaged. I told her I would cover the damages if we could keep this from the insurance companies. She agreed, but is now saying she is in pain . No one called the cops and she was at fault, I CAN NOT afford to have an accident on my rec as I'm only 18, what to do? I said I'd pay as my car is fine and as a thanks for staying mum. Now shes called her insurance company and claims she got an estimate of $3,600 for the car and medical.""
Can I drive my new used car without insurance for 30 days?
I just bought a new used car today. I have insurance on my old car still (in my mom's name). Does that insurance cover my new car (in my name) for a bit do you think? Or should I just not drive it at all until i get it insured?
Can you claim your car insurance if your car needs repairs not caused by an accident?
If you have fully comprehensive insurance can you make a claim even though you have not been in a crash or other accident? The car in question has an MOT however it needs extensive repairs and is not drivable. The repairs are going to cost more than the car is worth and so it really just needs to be scrapped or sold for a ridiculously small sum of money to someone who can fix it up. The problem is that there is still a huge outstanding balance for the loan repayment of the car! Can anyone help please?
How much is car insurance for a 19 year old female in south carolina?
How much is car insurance for a 19 year old female in south carolina?
Does having big bore kit affect the insurance cost?
Im looking at buying a vespa scooter registered as a 50cc, im 16 years old, and was wondering because it has a 110cc big bore kit fitted on it how this would effect the insurance cost? Thanks for any help.""
What is an average cost of IUI without insurance?
What is an average cost of IUI without insurance and what is the success rate?
Cheap Insurance? For Young Driver?
I am looking for a cheap insurance company. I'm 17 and the cheapest quote iv had is around 2100. Anyone no of any cheaper? Thanks.
Do Americans really believe democrats & Obama want to give affordable insurance and not socialist medicine?
affordable insurance for 50 mil more people doesn't just grow on trees, or does it? in Canada too, the gov in the 60s and 70s first fooled people in as only an INSURER, then within 20 years, it grew to become the monopoly MANAGER, to the point where ALL PRIVATE CARE IS NOW ILLEGAL IN CANADA. Should we be fooled by this cheap attempt? Sources: http://www.brianday.ca/canada-health-act.html http://www.theadvocates.org/freeman/8903lemi.html""
Health insurance just for the baby?
What health insurance is out there that i can just get for the baby? My current job offers family coverage to what i have now but it will be $83 EXTRA per WEEK for family...thats over $300 per month! i was wondering if there was a health insurance program that would do just the baby. THOUGHTS ANYONE?
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Sweet Pain
05/28/2018
Sweet Pain
05/28/2018
The first full day of the new eating lifestyle has come and gone and I’m in such need of a piece of strawberry licorice. I not sure if I should call it a diet(actually you don’t lose weight this time around), a lifestyle, torture, etc. It’s official name is The Whole 30, another food fad that attempts to right the wrongs of the American diet. This time sugar, specifically processed sugars,(you know everything that tastes great and is addicting), preservatives, starches are the enemies and the Whole 30 commands you to get rid of them, cold turkey. Instead you are beholden to meat, nuts, fish and other proteins and fruit for thirty days.
My wife, a worse junk food junkie than me, is on the hunt for the latest ways to curb her yearnings and this was her latest find. Having long waged the secret inner war with my sweet tooth face it almost all of us do, I signed up and even after the first day I’m craving good old fashioned sugar. Lord, what would we do without it in this country? Maybe not be so fat? I’ve decided to keep this online journal of my progress and my pain over the next 30 days.  
5/29/2018
I feel lethargic, my mouth is constantly watering, and my head is fuzzy, . This marks the second day of the Whole30. Food, once reliable comfort, has become a antagonist. The kitchen is a mine field where I must step carefully. It is so easy to pluck out a sensual chocolate covered marshmallow from a red colored box and bite into it. The food I can eat sits like a bag of sand in my gut. It keeps me sustained but not happy.
I’ve read some of the literature and what I’m going through is quite normal and it will get worse before it gets better. My body is converting slowly converting from sugar based fuel to fat fuel (apparently good fats) however it doesn’t know how to do that yet so I am sluggish. I think I will accompany this blog with some research on the story of Americans obsession with sugar and processed foods. Writing will help distract me.  
5/30/2018
Here I am two days behind. I’ll try to catch you up. I’m going to try to focus on not what I and my wife are doing this meal plan but why we’re doing it. Why this radical life change? I found this list symptoms from a website of a fitness expert. Guess what these refer too. 
Anxiety
Changes in appetite
Cravings
Flu-like symptoms
Depression
Mood changes
Dizziness
Fatigue
Headaches
Shakiness
Changes in sleep patterns
Weight loss
Stomach flu? Food poisoning? Nope. These are the symptoms of sugar detox. Yep, that’s right. This is what happens if you take sugar out of your diet and I’m not talking about cookies and ice cream and chocolate. This plan goes much deeper: bread, pasta, beans, etc. All of these types of food are broken down into sugars in your body and sugars are being linked to inflammation, bad skin, poor mood, etc.
Now America is the land of diets and eating fads as in the end we as a society have little idea of what to eat and what is good for us. If this meal plan sounds like one the many movements out there that finds its enemy: fat, gluten, carbohydrates, etc and profits off getting people worked up about it, your right and I agree. More to come on this.  
6/8/18
It is now day 11 of the Whole 30 food plan and clearly my attempts to keep up with this blog on a regular basis have failed. This is a conglomerate of previously mentioned twin infants that need near constant car and the mission to find not only summer employment but full term employment.  I can easily recap most of what has happened in those missed days.
First, I feel I must break away from food talk only and integrate my career story as it is the other side of the coin that is my life right now and it is in trouble.  My job history has been a floundering mess. I won’t go into all the gritty details as I feel they’ve been with me for at least a quarter of my life here on earth and they can get repetitive and depressing.  Let’s say I had little idea of what I wanted to do coming out of college. I tried a few different fields usually based more on “this interests me” than real research. This tactic did not work very well. The pile of temporary, part time, and “road not taken” jobs grew and grew and, at forty two, I have yet to have a steady full time job. I discovered a love of teaching in my mid thirties, specifically freshman composition at the community college level, but I have remained woefully underemployed as an adjunct for five of the six part years.  This lack of opportunity is a combination of the need for excessive education and experience for even entry level positions, the ongoing deterioration of the the writing career field, and the heightening level of competition.  I also believe my subdued personality does not help my chances.  I now have a family that depends on me and I’ve been able to do no better than a one year contract for the small Onondaga community college in upstate New York.  Since then I’ve tried to shift into high school teaching. Once again the need for degrees and certification is rigorous. I have a master’s degree, albeit not in education, and was led to believe by the recruitment people of Anne Arundel community college master’s in education program that I could potentially land temporary teaching employment while gaining my certification. The Baltimore County public school systems didn’t seem to see it this way.(go figure) I’ve also had little to no help in figuring out what to put in my application packet to make me a more attractive candidate.  Since the Onondaga success, my job search has become a rather dark cycle of sending out applications and getting rejections.  Being a daddy doesn’t allow me much time to network and I tend to be poor in this area. I’ve sought out help from the state career program, but it is painfully slow.  I take time to write about because I think the cumulative effect has become a mixture of depression and anxiety. Depression? That word is scary what with two celebrities having recently committed suicide in thew news. I have a family history of it. I have felt worn down and isolated lately but could it be that? Not knowing for sure is more worrisome which might lead to more depression. I go to bed anxious over money, anxious that my family will be well off, and wondering how many more years I need to struggle. II worry about retirement of course. I’ve scraped and saved what I could but without a solid income it’s going to be woefully inadequate. Could it be depression? I keep searching out some signal of depression in my consciousness as if I might uncover it but people who are depressed generally aren’t good at diagnosing their own condition. It’s hard to link the physical symptoms to something mental. 
So what do I do? Well, I’m working hard to stay focused, to get more organized, but I need the help of others and that help is hard to find. I need career help. I’m leary of the integrity of paid career consultants but how long can I keep floundering? I can see this summer will be tedious. It will be about slowly piecing together the knowledge to get a foot in the door in high school and probably working a part time job that is a poor fit to get there. I will need strong doses of positivity and support in my life and a real sense of direction. I’m not sure where to find that right now. I love Aurora but she is not strong at being emotionally supportive, at least not for me.  I will have to do some research on where I can find the help I need. I will leave my story there for now.
Whew, one of the best functions of writing is catharsis, to get one’s thoughts out there. It’s not pretty but it’s necessary. I wrote the previous section because it captures what is happening outside of the Whole30 and being a father and is vital to how I have been feeling over the past four days both mentally and physically. At first I’d naturally thought my symptoms were linked to the change in eating habits, but last Wednesday they took a real turn for the worst. I hadn’t felt that strange in a long time-just heavy and thick headed with blurry vision and shortness of breath. Each day I’ve felt a little better thankfully. I went to the doctor today to rule out physical cause. She didn’t find anything obvious but I still have blood labs pending that the neglected to get done. The intense labor of the Whole30 hasn’t helped my mood. No single meal is a simple grab and go and the constant preparation is taxing. in fact, I must bring this blog to a close now.
6/23/18
We are a nation of sugar addicts. “Two hundred years ago, the average American ate only 2 pounds of sugar a year. In 1970, we ate 123 pounds of sugar per year. Today, the average American consumes almost 152 pounds of sugar in one year. This is equal to 3 pounds (or 6 cups) of sugar consumed in one week” (www.dhhs.nh.gov). Sugar is everywhere in our diet slipped into breads and bacon to make them more desirable so we eat more. Here’s the little secret that is not really a secret: these foods are desirable while not satisfying so we eat more and more so we buy more. Food companies figured this out a long time ago. It’s good for business and bad for people. These are one of the tenants of the Whole 30, to become aware of how we are being manipulated this way. Whats more, like many business influenced trends, these machinations only become really effective when they are normalized by culture. Just think about how many American cultural norms involve sweets and processed food of some form: cakes at birthdays, drinking alcohol at social gathering, cheap vending food at sporting events. If you want to stand out at just about any social gathering  American society, try avoiding foods with sugars and processed foods.  Many conversations this way leading inevitably to discussion of the Whole 30. This was one of the most surprising side effects of being on this meal plan. I and my wife had to educate the waiter of a expensive steak house in Washington D.C. on the guidelines of our meal plan. Most dining out experiences will be this way. Sorry, but we can’t eat ninety five percent of the food on the menu. 
Just walking into a grocery store, I was shocked by how much was off limits: pasta, cereal, juice, etc.  That was one of the great challenges of this diet. What could we eat? Obviously, there was meats and vegetables and fruits but what about diary? beans?. They don’t have added sugar, right?  While diary and things like beans did not have added sugar they include sugars and other chemicals that aren’t necessarily healthy.(For more on this read the accompanying book It Starts With Food).  If you’re skeptical at this point, I’m understand. I’m still a skeptic. After all, the Whole 30 is another lifestyle program, one of many products that is being marketed to the public in the age of food confusion in this country.  
7/1/18
Promises, Promises...
“Systemic inflammation” seems to be the catchphrase behind the Whole 30. (There’s a lot of food science behind this that I won’t go into. Again read the book). The jist of systemic inflammation is that bad foods silently hurts your body. Over time this damage shows up as illnesses including allergies, depression, and diabetes. Eating foods that contribute to both physical and psychological well being can lead to better health. This idea seems legitimate enough but then the authors also include anecdotes by people with illnesses ranging from lyme disease to diabetes whose symptoms disappeared after being on the Whole 30. You can practically hear the credibility of the writers straining here. I had eczema before the Whole 30 and and I still have eczema after it. All in all, taking sugar out and adding more protein is beneficial to people but let’s hold off on the miracles.
While I’m on the topic of veracity, I can understand the authors of the Whole 30 exaggerating the effects of their meal plan- after all maybe one person out there with lyme disease did experience an improvement in their symptoms and, if this doesn’t happen, no one would necessarily be worse off-since their plan seems sound and is self directed for the most part. I didn’t need to constantly by products from the authors of the Whole 30.  But what about those companies that, for all intensive purposes, are influential on our health, what about the stories that the food industry tell? 
“the post-crash world appears to have become much more cynical about the behavior and motives of corporations.” (Beatte).  Unless you’ve been “off the grid” for most of your life you’re probably all too familiar with the constant avalanche of ads that are forced upon Americans everyday so much so that, like me, you’d do anything to get away from them. Now I’ve already covered the influences of advertising in another part of this blog; however, the food industry holds a special place among advertisers as, for better or worse, they often determine what we put in our bodies in this country and this isn’t necessarily due to their popularity but a well designed combination of market control and addiction.
The master plan
The current state of the American diet is, like most institutions, a result of the interaction between corporations, the government, and the individual where each party is both influential and under the influence.  However, what is key here is that the influence of the individual has eroded significantly over the years unless they happen to be wealthy enough to be influential. Government has responded more to these wealthy and corporations creating more and more of a corporate dictated agenda.   
The Food Guys
If you do a little research you’ll find that thanks to constant mergers and take overs about ten mega corporations control most of the U.S. food production. Think about that, just ten! Some are well known like Pepsico, which owns Tropicana, Quaker, Lays, while others are more obscure like Unilever that owns Knorr, Good Humor, and Skippie. Regardless, you can bet you’ve eaten something made by one of of these ten companies recently.  Much like health care and airline travel, a key aspect of weakly regulated capitalism is that power in the form of market control can be consolidated in the hands of a few major players and this is scary especially when it comes to our food.  These companies may not necessarily set out to give people cheap, poor quality food  but this arises out of an effective business model that calls for high profit and low cost and if one is successful they can dominate the market. This model may work for computers or cars but not necessarily food. 
Now before I go on lambasting corporations there are some important details to cover.  A good capitalist would probably argue that companies are simply responding to market demands. This is one of the classic “pass the buck” phrases business people use to recuse themselves(and it drives me crazy)but it is important to consider. Keep firmly in mind the question: “Who has helped create these market demands?”
Today, people have less free time to prepare and consume their meals. Yes, this seems to be the trend ever since the post World War II years when consumer culture took off in this country and packaged, processed food along with it. Appliances became more commonplace in the home, woman started to go to college and get jobs outside the home, and the car became more available. One of the largest changes in the household was the television. Now with the help of the tv dinner one could watch their favorite shows and eat at the same time. Over the years the cost of living has increased, wages have stagnated, and people have to work more than ever to keep up. Business stepped up and what started with the tv dinner has slowly blown up into a full industry of packaged, processed food. These foods were tasty and easy to make. How many times has these phrases been uttered in a food commercial?  Consider though who has influenced many of these lifestyle changes? Who has increased the working day, kept wages generally flat, and increased costs? The general picture is that businesses have either through direct influence or through influence on government public policy and today Americans are probably more stressed and less healthy than every before.
Consider how foods are advertised in this country. Let’s take the Coca Cola corporation. Coca Cola is best known for their soda but they also control a large percentage of what we drink: Perrier water, Minute maid juice, and Nos energy drink. Coca Cola often uses images of young, hip looking people smiling and drinking their soda(Heck, what company out there doesn’t use young, hip, ethnically diverse people to sell their product? That is a generalization...let us continue). These ads remind you that drinking soda (pure sugar and other flavorings in carbonated water) can be fun and social, so much more than just soda. There is of course no mention that soda with destroy your teeth and probably cripple your health over time. An advertiser would have to be insane to let on such information about their product. But imagine if they did. If there was a disclaimer at the end of soda commercials. Would it make a difference? I’m betting not and this is where the addiction factor comes in. Look at smoking. It is well known that smoking can cause serious health problems and even death.There are commercials and prints ads constantly advertising these facts yet people continue to smoke because it is addictive. In the information age, people generally know the health threats of drinking soda over a life time yet they still do. This is where individual choice does come in(more on this later) and, as mentioned before, sugar is another addictive substance and companies rely on this.
The Coca Cola corporation doesn’t claim their product is healthy but many other companies do. Take cereals. Breakfast cereals are often so processed that there is little nutritionally value, yet companies put labels on like “part of a balanced breakfast”, “containing vitamins A, B....”, “5 whole grains”. Companies attempt to replace some of the lost nutrition in these foods but they are far from healthy. Also any nutrition is offset by the amount of sugar in these cereals. This is especially tragic when one realizes that some of the worst cereals are marketed to children with flashy cartoon characters, logos, and commercials. I admit it wouldn’t take much for me to eat a bowl of Count Chocula even now knowing how bad for me it is. That is growing up in this country. I hope different for my children, but the corporate machine is hard to escape.
The Men in Black
“Read the farm bill, and a big problem jumps right out at you: Taxpayers heavily subsidize corn and soy, two crops that facilitate the meat and processed food we’re supposed to eat less of, and do almost nothing for the fruits and vegetables we’re supposed to eat more of.” (Haspel)
Healthy food like fruits and vegetables are usually more costly to grow and transport and organic food can’t use chemical pesticides,herbicides, or genetically modified organisms. Since the 1930′s the United States government has subsidized (helped pay for) farming in this country to protect our food sources as raising food can be unpredictable.  The Farm Bill began with good intentions but the money has slowly been funneled to supporting a few crops like corn and soy that are versatile and can be broken down and used in many processed and unhealthy foods. Consider that our government is supporting the production of poor quality foods? What does this mean for us? It means the commonly cited downsides of the the American diet: diabetes, obesity, heart disease, etc. all given a stamp of approval by politicians who are pledged to watch out for us. On the plus side not being subsidized is often favored by farmers as they don’t need to meet the regulations set by the government but it still means people will pay more.  People do have the choice not to eat these foods, but realistically not everyone can afford these costs and, if they can’t, people become trapped eating unhealthy food cycles not to mention deepening the already aggravated class divide in America. It’s much easier to get potato chips than organic fruit. Organic apples are on average three dollars a pound(which means about two) while potato chips are three dollars a bag. You can eat a lot more chips for the same money but the chips are sad, empty calories but, as I mentioned earlier, people will buy and eat them not because they are healthy but we have slowly become wired to do so. Currently slashing or stalling social welfare programs is the trend in government. Public policy has become heavily influenced by corporate interest over public good due in large part to funding of campaigns by companies and the wealthy ergo there is little possibility right now.
Choice of the People
Our American class structure can be seen in our food. The neighborhood I currently live in, which shall remain unnamed for reasons of privacy, is considered marginal. People are more often working class and black. This neighborhood was also known as a urban food desert for some time.(One neighborhood over is a wealthy, mostly white neighborhood with a high end, albeit expensive grocery store). Food deserts are areas without a decent source of healthy foods. They exist in the poorer sections of many major U.S. cities including New Orleans, New York, and Memphis. 7-11′s and corner bodegas often don’t count. In fact, the convenience store is one of the greatest offenders concerning food choice. They have made food too convenient. Just look at the shelves of any convenience store.
A low end grocery store finally came to this neighborhood. They stack most of their products on the floor instead of on shelves, their staff is poorly trained, and, while the store does sell fresh produce and even a little organic food if you look hard, the majority of the products are standard processed foods: Drakes desserts, chips, processed meats, etc. I’ve watched people in line with carts filled with soda. I can’t be too critical as I was making poor food choices all the same, but not on this level. Why does anyone would need ten bottles of soda? The evidence is in the obese bodies and poor skin. Yet, people consume these foods. This can be for three main reasons: they are aware but apathetic, they aren’t aware, they are aware but not doing enough or following one the ineffective “diets” out there. Often the poor and working class fall in the second category.
Back to Biology
Early humans had to eat what they could kill or gather(Raising crops for a stable source of food came later). We subsisted on meats, berries, nuts, etc. These were necessary, nutritious sources of protein and fiber. Fats and sugars were rare and highly desirable as they meant easy calories especially for lean times. This is where our evolutionary biology was cemented and still functions this way, but now we are provided a plethora of cheap fats and sugars everywhere. They taste good and give us a quick boost. But these foods don’t provide sufficient nutrition so we are constantly needing to eat more and more while gaining mostly empty calories and health problems. This makes sense if you stand back and think about it. This is the “addiction” factor that aids companies in getting us to eat poor quality food. The food makes us feel good in the short term, but in the long run we crash and need more. Thus, the “addiction” factor.
Apple or Ring Ding?
While sugar, fat, and salt can be addictive and some people have financial problems, ultimately people choose what they put in their bodies and their bodies will hold them responsible. This is especially true when we are people who know or suspect what we eat is bad for us and continue to do so.  I believe this is tied to an idea I’ve brought up before, our culture. America is the land of opportunity where we can all have the American dream that are really just that for most of us, a dream that we continue to cling too. This ability to better ourselves is both beautiful and tragic. America is a society whose people struggle to face it’s darker sides instead burying them in indulgences or placing blame elsewhere. This collective denial makes us extremely malleable. We are already primed to believe in our food, our politics, our society.  No matter how self destructive over time vices become misconstrued as personal rights. By buying gas guzzling vehicles, shopping, indulging in poor quality foods, collecting dangerous guns we declare our freedom from the system when it’s the system that is providing these.  This beautiful psychology that companies can only cheer us on and count their money. Buy more. Eat more. Excess is wonderful. Be rebellious and trendy by buying phones and drinking soda. Companies let us down, cheat us, and we still buy their products and elect officials who take their money.  We grumble when the government doesn’t punish these companies but we don’t either. Despite having mentioned the short comings and influences of corporations and government, it is up to us to determine what is good for us. I believe what we’ve lost sight of the most in this country is the sense of personal advocacy and a sense of unity to stand up ourselves, the power of the customer, of the voter. Instead we fight and criticize and go along.
The experience of the Whole 30 has helped me be a healthier person, but it has really helped me take action and reconsider my perspective concerning the food I eat. I’ve tried to relay the many facets of what I’ve learned here for others who may be curious. Also I should end with there are some positive changes on horizon.  Organic food is now available in more grocery stores than ever before. The fast casual restaurant offer healthier choices that have eaten into the profits of fast food companies like McDonald’s, all because educated customers have demanded it. However, changes need to come from the top down, from the government and that is where the real hard work comes in because first we need to heal the rifts in our society. Then maybe we can eat better.
7/5/18
The Results.
The end of the Whole 30 has arrived, well, it actually arrived more than a week ago so clearly I’m not a dedicated diarist. I’ve also done the “reintroduction” portion of the meal plan where by I bring back the foods I’ve given up.I’m going to discuss both the small scale and bigger picture results of this experiment.
The results:
I can taste more, For example, fruits are sweeter and meats are richer.
I have more consistent energy.
I don’t get as hungry between meals.
I don’t have the craving for added sugar that I once did but I can tell from sampling foods with added sugar that it is quite easy to go back.
Diary is hard on my stomach.
Alcohol gives me a headache even after one glass of wine
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alright. so today was pretty chill. I woke up to my alarm at 11:30, which I intentionally set 15 minutes earlier than I normally would’ve because it was going to be 80 degrees out and I knew I had to lug my giant suitcase in from our back porch area (it’s not really a porch) and dig through it until I could find a tank top and some shorts. luckily it didn’t take me very long to do so, so I just had some breakfast and chilled out for a bit. I opted to walk again because the bus options were like 12:09 and 12:38, which obviously neither work for me to arrive at 12:30. I loosely timed it today and it took about 15 minutes to walk there, so not bad (at least when you’re used to living in a city without a car and walking everywhere). PT session was good, I think I’m gonna have to tell the guy that the exercises he has me doing right now are too easy haha because he’s like “okay do 30 bridges’ when at the other place I’d moved up to doing single leg bridges with a 15 pound weight on my chest, so I could do 30 normal ones in my sleep lol. but other than that it was good, I like it there, it’s a bit smaller than the other place but everyone is very friendly and cordial, so that’s good. Got out of there are 2, walked home, had some lunch and tried to get some studying done. I did the remaining two secured transactions lecture videos from the bar website back to back, so I could get the rest of that info into my brain, then I downloaded an outline from outline depot, which I was slightly irritated about because none of the outlines I uploaded had been reviewed yet, meaning I didn’t get a credit for them, so I ended up having to shell out $20 for the outline (which, like I said last time, is really a fair price compared to other options, it’s just annoying when you know you could’ve gotten it for free). I can’t really blame them though, it’s finals time and I’m sure they have a ton of people like me trying to submit outlines last minute so they have a ton to go through. I had decided I wanted to make vanilla pudding and an apple crisp, the pudding to use the two egg yolks I had in my fridge that were left over from me making the meringues the other day, and for some reason I just wanted apple crisp. the pudding was simple enough, milk, sugar, cornstarch, egg yolks, vanilla and butter (and a few other minor things) and that all came together quite nicely. After that I went back to my computer and made a table of contents sheet for the outline so I don’t have to waste time flipping through it trying to find stuff during the test (or at least have to waste less time doing so). I had gotten a new ink cartridge from amazon, so I went ahead and stuck that in there, then printed the outline. I decided to print my notes too, just because it’s better to have more information, even if they’re pretty sparse because I didn’t quite pay attention for most of the class. So I printed all that a hole punched it so it’s ready to go in my binder. I then wanted to make the apple crisp. I had three granny smith apples in my fridge, so I found a recipe that could work with that. Peeled and sliced the apples, made the crumb topping (which turned out super good, not entirely sure why, but it was heavenly) made a flour/butter/brown sugar mixture to coat the apples in, then stick it all in the pan and put it in the oven. It was ready around 6:45, perfect timing for me to get some and go watch The Flash. apple crisp is obviously a solid dinner choice. As far as The Flash goes, well, it was definitely not my favorite episode, by a long shot. the whole council of Wells thing is a great example of just because you can doesn’t mean you should (which is what I tweeted while watching it), it’s just so overdone at this point and I really don’t want to see Tom Cavanagh playing any more ridiculous versions of the character. so that was not my favorite. I liked the stuff with Iris getting back to being a journalist FINALLY (we’ve only been asking for that for like, 2 seasons now), but I can’t say I was too into the whole Amunet Black storyline, I just didn’t really care about her, and the entire goal they were aiming towards was kind of nebulous and the stakes weren’t really there. Not sure what to make about the Caitlin/Killer Frost storyline at this point, I am very much against character attacks on both Iris and Caitlin, especially when it’s because of a ship, and I’ve seen some WA shippers attacking Caitlin for being selfish, and I feel like, at the very least, that is lacking in empathy. I very much ship WA and love them together, but I don’t harbor any ill will against Caitlin, a fictional character, who shouldn’t be demonized because some people ship her with Barry. But anyway. Not sure how I feel about that whole thing and where they’re going with that. When that was over I switched over to Rise, which was a very intriguing episode. First off, I have to say I kinda hope Lilette’s mom gets arrested for child neglect, because she is very much guilty of it at the moment. like, you can’t just walk out and leave your teenager alone for days, doing nothing to take care of them during that time, I don’t care what you’re going through or what happened between you, you’re a fucking adult and a parent, you don’t get to just storm off and leave your kid alone. So obviously that bothered me a bit, for reasons that I would think are pretty apparent at this part. The whole plot about cleaning up the show I found to be rather amusing, because to cut all the things they wanted to there would like, be nothing left in the show lol. All of it is so essential to the characters, and hearing them sing “YEAH YOU’RE HOSED ALRIGHT” was really fucking amusing, I was legit laughing at that. Being that next week is the season finale and the night of the show, it’s pretty obvious that they’re gonna end up saying fuck it and do the correct version of the show, though I’m sure that will have repercussions. The storyline about Maashous gave me a lot of feelings (again, for obvious reasons) and I hope they play that out in a way that is doing justice to the source material and the many real children who end up in these situations. When that was over I switched over to Amazon Prime Video and watched a few episodes of The Good Place before starting to get ready for bed. At some point during the day, I don’t remember when, I checked my email to find one from the tech company I had done the two phone interviews for, stating the classic “thank you for applying to this position, we’ve decided to go another way” rejection letter style. I was honestly somewhat relieved, because if I ended up there I was *very* concerned that if I got it I was going to end up hating the job and just being miserable. Of course though, that knocks out one of my Illinois prospects, leaving the only active one to be the DV clinic, which isn’t exactly a job prospect, but I’m really hoping if I just knock everyone’s socks off I can turn it into one. Whether I stay here or not is still going to end up turning on what happens with the NYC job, which I should be hearing from any time now, but it does make it somewhat harder to justify staying in Illinois on the basis of having more prospects and opportunities here when one of those is gone. At the same time though, job prospects in New York would also be quite limited, there really aren’t any active possibilities, the only somewhat active one would be interning at the county attorneys office (they do the job the ASA’s do here in child welfare court) unpaid until I get officially sworn in as an attorney in November/December, then *maybe* they’ll hire me, as they are currently stating they’re only looking for licensed attorneys for their positions. I’m kinda disappointed I didn’t hear back from any of the other jobs I sent all those applications to, mostly because I felt like a lot of them were very strong and would give me a good shot at the job, but I guess being straight out of law school is just not something they’re looking for right now. So yeah. that was a massive tangent. I still have mixed feelings about the NYC job, because I don’t want to leave Chicago, but I want that job, and there’s not (currently at least) any options for that job here, and who knows when OPG will lift their hiring freeze, it’s already been in place for over a year, so hedging my bets on that it’ll be lifted soon doesn’t seem like a good decision. Sigh. I keep praying about all of it and saying if you want me to go to New York then make this job happen and I will, if not don’t make it happen and I’ll stay here, so I’m hoping that job with be somewhat of a sign of what I should do. I am somewhat of the opinion that “God’s Plan” for our lives isn’t one set path, that we have free will to make decisions, and (as long as it’s a good decision) He will find a way to bless the path we take. That idea was first told to me by one of my theology professors in college, after I went to her with a very broken heart after certain events, and was broken up about what was meant to be and who I was meant to end up with. She said there was a book, I don't remember the exact name, but something along the lines of “Good news for the anxious Christian” basically communicating the idea that God will find a way to bless whatever positive decisions we make, and that really stuck with me. Sadly enough, the next semester, that professor happened to be one of “The 8″ that had been terminated by the school in the incident that led to the whole “Support the 8″ campaign where basically the entire undergrad study body was infuriated and the administration was very, very shook. So when they were collecting letters I wrote one supporting her along with the one I wrote for Derek (theatre professor that was the heart and soul of the undergrad program who they carelessly fired) and emailed her to let her know I had done so, she was out on maternity leave at the time (which of course makes it that much worse that they fired her). I just wanted her to know that the students were actively supporting her, and she responded very thankfully. That was all such an unfortunate incident...I’m really, really off a tangent now, and it’s past 1 am, so I think I will take my leave now. Goodnight dear friends. Be blessed.
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How To Stop Worrying About Your Child’s Future And Start Enjoying The Journey
Ever since publishing, The Fear Of Screwing Up Our Kids As FIRE Parents, I’ve been brainstorming how we can give our kids everything without giving them everything. The worst thing we can do as parents is take away our children’s sense of accomplishment. I pity the kid who starts off driving a BMW to school instead of walking or biking.
But recently, I’ve been losing enthusiasm for writing because I’m often too tired due to full-time fatherhood. If I had a mundane job that required little thinking, work might be easier. Besides, how hard is taking care of a child if you’re gone for 12 – 15 hours a day, right?
Unfortunately, even as a stay at home dad with an online business, it’s difficult to be creative when you lack sleep. It’s as if creativity uses a different chemical in the brain that is finite in supply.
Hitting the 10-year business anniversary mark in 2019 can’t come soon enough. After that, I’ve considered becoming Keyser Söze, never to be seen or heard from again.
But I realized instead of lasting until 2019, I’ve got to last at least until 2042. Why? Because the absolute best benefit of owning a business is creating a life safety net for our children. Not only does a business provide insurance they don’t fall through the cracks, a business produces a perpetual teachable moment for all our kids to apply what they’ve learned in the classroom to the real world. 
The Real World Is Brutally Difficult
Imagine spending almost $500,000 in private K-12 tuition only to see your child go to an average university anybody could have gotten into. Because the school is average, he will likely land an average job or no job. Now imagine the best case scenario where you send your kids to public grade school and they get into a top rated university. You still have to pay out the wazoo, yet there is no guarantee they’ll get a great job.
Related: What If You Go To Harvard And End Up A Nobody?
The world is now a hyper competitive place. Even if your child is “perfect,” s/he will have a difficult time getting ahead. But what if they have some challenges? Here are some things you may worry about for your child that can be overcome by owning your own business:
Your child may be a minority who will face racial discrimination her entire life
Your child may be a minority who is required to score higher on standardized tests to have the same chance of getting into a university
Your child may have a learning disability
Your child may have a physical disability
Your child may get into an accident, resulting in a disability
Your child may be small in stature and get picked on by bullies because their parents are terrible
Your child may be unattractive, even though you think he’s the cutest ever
Your child may get in trouble with the law
Your child may get suspended or expelled from school
If you own a business, you ensure that your child will always have something interesting to do no matter how much they try and fail on their own. Getting straight A’s or going to an elite university no longer matters as much, so long as they are learning.
Further, you don’t have to wait until your child graduates from college before introducing her to every facet of your company. You can start in elementary school or middle school so that by the time she goes to college, she’ll have a much better idea at what she wants to study.
One of the biggest problems with education is that we learn a bunch of subjects and forget everything we learned years later because we don’t see the relevance, nor do we apply what we learn to the real world. Therefore, we’re only teaching our children how to listen, follow instructions, study, and take tests. What a shame to only create an army of “yes sir, yes ma’am” in society.
When I went back to Berkeley for business school part-time, it was amazing to use my professors as business consultants for my job in finance. Suddenly, theory turned into application, and education became super impactful. The same can be said for getting your child involved in your business. 
The Ultimate Business Expense
My wife and I were going over our YTD numbers and realized that our tax bill is going to be high because our revenue growth accelerated YoY. Because running an online media company has relatively low fixed costs, there is huge operational leverage where the majority of revenue flows straight to the bottom line. As a result, we started brainstorming ways to keep our taxable income down.
Some fun things we thought about included: 1) creating a conglomerate to buy real estate to flip or lease (See: How to make your business last forever), 2) hosting a business conference in Hawaii for a month, 3) hiring friends and relatives in a lower tax bracket to do some work.
Then we thought to ourselves: wouldn’t it be awesome to hire our son to help us with so many things we’ve been wanting to do? Too bad he’s not even a year old.
When I graduated from The College of William & Mary with an Economics major and a Mandarin minor in 1999, I had zero job offers. I got rejected from every single consulting job I interviewed for. There was only one company I was hanging onto, and that was an investment bank in NYC. But after over 50 interviews, the investment bank still hadn’t made me an offer prior to commencement.
The same thing happened with my then girlfriend and now wife. Although, by the time she graduated, she was determined to come out to San Francisco to be with me. I was looking to get any job anywhere that would hopefully pay more than $35,000 a year. She somehow had confidence knowing that everything would turn out OK on the job front after she arrived in San Francisco.
Our post college unemployment story is not unique. According to an Accenture study below, 78% of college graduates don’t have a job offer upon graduation. Further, Accenture found that 51% of graduates from the classes of 2014 and 2015 said they are working in jobs that do not require their college degree.
The Pay And Awesome Jobs We Could Offer Our Son
Let’s say our son ends up exactly like his old man, unemployed at college graduation. So long as he’s done his best to find a relevant job, that’s all that matters. Instead of having to feel depressed for a long period of time without an offer, he’s now got options.
As of now, we could comfortably pay our son a starting salary between $50,000 – $90,000, which would make his salary competitive to the Googles, Facebooks, Apples, and Procter & Gambles of the world. We would also offer him equity in the business, with similar 3-5 year vesting periods that match any promising startup out there. If he performs well, we can also offer a year end bonus just like the investment banks and strategy consulting firms.
If he joins our company, he would have the best mentors possible teaching him every aspect of running a business. And if we do our jobs right as parents, he’ll be able to hit the ground running because we’ll have already taught him about the business for the past 10 years.
Here are some jobs our son could do that may be applicable to your business as well.
Business Development. This is a revenue generating role for bringing in new business. He would be responsible for finding new synergistic products and advertising partnerships with Financial Samurai. Business development is the most common and coveted role every post-MBA graduate, who isn’t a founder, wants to land. Maybe he can develop a tie-up with Financial Samurai and the NBA. Or maybe he can reach out to the fast-growing Chinese and Indian advertising market. The possibilities are endless.
Multi-media Director. This role would expand communication beyond writing and into audio, video, virtual reality, and so forth. People consume information differently. The role of the MMD is to reach out to as many different types of consumers as possible to grow traffic.
Marketing / Advertising Director. The marketing director is responsible for not only organic marketing, but also paid marketing. The marketing director knows that if he spends $1 to get $1.01 in profits, he should do so all day long. He will become an expert in PPC, CPL, CPM, and organic marketing, which is vital for all companies who have an online presence.
Head Of Content. The head of content will be responsible for editing all articles, coming up with the editorial calendar, staying in tune with current events, and potentially hiring and managing a team of writers. It takes a shrewd eye to produce topics that resonate with people at the right time.
Director Of Finance. The Director of Finance will be responsible for conducting monthly financial reports, paying attention to areas that need optimizing (reducing expenses, maximizing revenue in the podcast channel etc), raising money if necessary, and providing financial optimization presentations. He will also be responsible for tax filing.
Head of Engineering. The head of engineering will be in charge of creating the best online user experience possible for Financial Samurai readers. He will create new features on the website, manage the back end systems, make sure the website is always online, experiment with new technology delivery systems, and more.
Head of Public Relations. PR is responsible for generating as much buzz around a company’s product as possible. One way to do so is by pitching to journalists and TV producers. Another way to create publicity is to work with creative agencies. A PR professional will also write press releases and spend as much time explaining a product to consumers and investors.
Director Of Community. One of the no brainer expansion opportunities for Financial Samurai is to start and grow a personal finance forum directed towards financially savvy individuals. He would be tasked with managing the forum installation, growing the community, setting the guidelines, managing conflicts and spammers, and eventually creating a business opportunity.
Anything. When you run your own private business, you can literally create any role you want for your son or daughter. Let’s say your daughter majored in Art and eventually wants to get into a career that has everything to do with art. You can hire your daughter as the Artistic Director for your company in charge of branding, imagery, and display. Or, you can pay her to create great images for your business. The possibilities are endless.
Your son or daughter doesn’t have to work for your company forever. But I’m sure s/he will learn way more about each job role than if s/he were to work for another company.
A Business Provides Better Solutions
Think about these two common scenarios:
Traditional Scenario One
Your son gets a set weekly allowance, if he’s good. Maybe he’ll do some chores here and there, but that’s it.
Business Ownership Solution
Your 7th grader only gets an allowance this month if he creates an advertisement flier, stuffs them into 500 envelopes, and mails them out to prospective customers. He gets a $10 bonus for every response above five. He uses his art and writing skills, while also developing operational efficiency and grit. You get to explain to him about conversion rate metrics for gorilla marketing and teach him why he is targeting a certain demographic.
Traditional Scenario Two
You take your 9th grader on her first trip out of state to Williamsburg, Virginia to learn about American history and check out The College of William & Mary, a public university. She’s bored out of her mind and forgets about her summer once school starts.
Business Ownership Solution
You tell your daughter this is her first business trip. Therefore, she must save her receipts and work within a budget. She must take notes about what she learns, take insightful pictures, and write a post about whether it’s worth paying up for private school or the benefits of risk-taking after King William & Queen Mary decided to expand in a new land. She will earn 10 cents for every pageview her article generates (1,000 pageviews = $100), incentivizing her to learn about A/B testing and write convincing prose. After publication, she just might get extra credit from her high school English class.
What’s also great about the business ownership solution is that you don’t even need to have an established business to help your kids. You can just create a business together with your daughter when she is of age so long as you can afford the time and money. This is my plan just in case Financial Samurai doesn’t last until 2042.
The sooner your child can launch, the sooner s/he can find happiness. With a good job, a heart full of gratitude, and a healthy amount of self-esteem, your child can then spend more time focusing on health and finding a life partner. What’s there left to worry about after money, career, health, and love are taken care of?
Just make sure as parents, we do our best to nurture a great relationship. What a shame it would be if our children wanted nothing to do with us once they graduate.
Related:
The Top 10 Best Reasons For Starting An Online Business
How To Start A Profitable Blog
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Readers, what is a better reason for running a business than being able to educate our kids and provide them direction? What are some other things you do that allow you to worry less about your child’s future? With so much anxiety about getting into good schools to get a good job you don’t like, isn’t owning a business a fantastic way to eliminate all this worry for the next 22 years? Do you experience similar levels of worries and anxieties as a parent?
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Who's Teaching Black Women About Financial Literacy
It’s 2017, and yet girls are nonetheless combating for equality. Information indicates it’ll take till 2152 to shut the gender wage hole, but it shouldn’t take a century to get what we need. We need greater, and Refinery29 is right here to assist — due to the fact one hundred thirty-five years is just too long to wait what we deserve nowadays.
Growing up, I had no hassle discovering my ardor for writing and literature, or losing myself in my creativeness. but when it came to finances, I used to be suddenly alone. Forget now not knowing in which to start — I didn’t even know what I needed to research.
As a teen,
I had a part-time task at the mall, and that I used that paycheck to shop for clothes or visit the films. however outside of some hundred bucks in financial savings, I didn’t have a clue a way to make myself financially comfy, or how crucial it became. while I used to be applying for university, my mom sat me down and defined that I used to be now financially responsible for myself. She is a very smart and ingenious lady, but she didn’t go to college — and in an age, while you need an undergraduate degree to get most access-degree jobs, my mother wasn’t able to offer me with lots assist as I took that next step in my existence.
My story isn’t particular
It’s the norm among my Black friends to warfare to talk about money. Systematically and traditionally, the Black network has been left disenfranchised and disempowered. Even with the upward push of focus surrounding the gender pay hole, there’s still overwhelming silence surrounding the significance of such as race and other intersectional identities into the verbal exchange approximately cash. The median internet well worth for unmarried Black women is simply $five. If we want to exchange that, it’s essential that we have monetary planners who apprehend how vital intersectionality and race are for their clients.
Methods of Teaching In Schools Adopted By Teachers
Teaching methods are various ways of providing understanding to students or pupils in schools. Teaching is one of the fine careers inside the global because the majority of professions and careers derived their beginning from Education. Consequently, we need to undertake in lots of approaches to Teaching in order that the students can without difficulty assimilate the subjects as soon as viable. The most problems encountered through instructors nowadays that affect college students negatively is techniques of Teaching followed by using teachers.teaching strategies gold.definition teaching strategies
The lecturers realize the problem and topics very well but discover it hard to teach and transmit this understanding and ideas to college students which make it hard for the students to understand commonly technology orientated subjects and mathematical topics.
Horrific methods of Teaching discourage college students from understanding the subject as well cause their disasters in the examinations.teaching strategies my account
Now let us study the diverse techniques of Coaching
1 DESCRIPTIVE strategies-The lecturers begin by using describing the topics and challenge to the scholars. E. G the desk has four legs and flat tops. It’s far used for writing, studying and eating and for serving dinners. The teacher describes in info all he knows approximately desk, house, or any subject topics.
2 EXPLANATORY strategies-In this technique the teacher begin Teaching with the aid of explaining the subjects to students in sorts of definition. Examples are money-She or he defines money as anything this is commonly suitable as means of payment and agreement of money owed. It’s far a legal gentle.
The teacher provides an explanation for into info all he is aware of approximate cash for college students to apprehend.
3 QUESTIONS AND Solution methods-The academics start Coaching through asking the students questions regarding the topics and based on the subjects and subjects at fingers whilst the scholar’s replies by finding solutions to the questions asked. E. G What is Biology?while the students give back Answer by using defining biology as the subjects that study s dwelling things which include flowers and animals.
The instructor then went further to deliver his Teaching via explaining in info the meaning of biology and requested them greater questions referring to the issue matters at the stop of the Teaching or lecture.
4  EXPERIMENTAL techniques-
The teacher makes use of the test to train and impart understanding to the students. it is usually accomplished in the laboratory or study room with lots of experimental gear and equipment. It creates lasting reminiscence when you consider that students are uncovered to practicals that more desirable they’re getting to know a price. They even exercise it themselves to examine stages of know-how whilst The lecturers correct where there are mistakes.
five PLAYAWAY strategies-That is a technique whereby using the instructor plays with students in form of making a song and rhymes recitation whilst the scholars or pupils sing along and dance with the instructor.
Advantages of Non-Financial Performance Measurement Over Financial Performance Measurement
Monetary Performance Dimension
The motive of every business is to reap the lowest line of most Monetary advantages. On the way to comply with the equal, agencies have come up with Financial Overall performance Size techniques. The very concept is to make sure that regardless of what the assets do and the way they feature, they could have to expose profits within the income and loss statements. It is accomplished usually in three one-of-a-kind steps. They had been noted as follows: Capital one financial
First of all, it encompasses choosing the dreams of the agency.
Secondly, and also as an essential component, It’s far to consolidate the Measurement of data with admire to the Performance.
Sooner or later, the desired changes made by way of the managers so as to function a treatment over the susceptible hyperlinks within the Economic charts of the agency. So, you could say that the Economic elements of Overall performance Dimension are basically income driven. There are certain milestones that businesses set for employees. A deficiency in being able to fulfill even a positive procedure may be dangerous for the location. So, this approach of Overall performance Dimension is likewise recognized to show certain insecurity for the employees. As a result, it might not deliver the most authenticated results. commercial enterprise Performance Management is by means of and massive measured through the Economic components of Performance Dimension. The particular strategies for the identical had been stated as follows:
Processes to Monetary Overall performance Dimension
Financial Values Brought.financial planning
This approach deals immediately with the Economic earnings of the corporation that goes immediately into the stability sheets. This approach, in other words, may be used to measure the Net Running income after Taxes. There also are certain changes that are made in the calculation of Financial cost Introduced so that the corporations could make it greater synchronized with the profit entry within the profit and loss statements. This method is normally used by decrease stature organizations these days. The reason for the same is that for the time being, the corporations can have enough money to look at the enterprise functioning handiest from the Economic perspective. There’s a whole lot extra to obtain.
  Health Literacy: A Strategic Marketing Asset And Corporate Social Responsibility
Fitness literacy may be described as humans’ abilities to get entry to, recognize, appraise and practice records to make Health choices in ordinary existence. It allows people make healthy choices in instances where the bounds among paintings and lifestyles aren’t so clean anymore.
When human beings fall sick, they seek the nice remedies viable. However, how ought to they realize about those treatments if they are not provided with smooth-to-apprehend statistics in the first vicinity? Pharmaceutical companies develop limitless drugs and devices to help human beings in coping with their circumstance, But handiest on a few occasions are advertisements provided in a manner that educates the patient. By spending more time in making sure that everyone their communications are clear to people of any training degree, pharmaceutical companies can improve Health literacy.
Challenges Confronted With Health Literacy
Consistent with the Office of Disorder Prevention and Health Merchandising (Fitness Communication Sports), over 3rd folks adults-77 million human beings might have problem with commonplace Fitness obligations, together with following directions on a prescription drug label or adhering to an early life immunization agenda the usage of a well-known chart.1
A report supplied Via the Institute of medicine suggests that ninety million humans, almost half of the grown up US population, lacks Fitness literacy competencies needed to recognize and act on Fitness data and Health gadget needs.2 Healthcare advertising has a protracted manner to move before patients can discover it easier to relate and apprehend the data they are receiving from those organizations.
The present day strategies getting used to the marketplace to people with Health conditions is making patient schooling fall Via the wayside. humans find actors and models less relatable While as compared with real patients. If patients lack the Health literacy that is had to apprehend the ads, the statistics provided could mislead them or be misunderstood.
Only 12 % of Adults have talented Fitness literacy”
America Branch of Fitness and Human Services pronounced that most effective 12 percentage of adults have proficient Fitness literacy.3 Terrible patient schooling may want to result in Terrible control of continual ailments and even purpose setbacks. humans may additionally pass their lots-required appointments or exams, lack the capacity to manage situations, get hospitalized often and face accelerated Healthcare costs. If sufferers aren’t aware of the questions they need to ask approximately their drugs, in essence of ways the medicine could act or react, they could experience negative outcomes.
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Who's Teaching Black Women About Financial Literacy
It’s 2017, and yet girls are nonetheless combating for equality. Information indicates it’ll take till 2152 to shut the gender wage hole, but it shouldn’t take a century to get what we need. We need greater, and Refinery29 is right here to assist — due to the fact one hundred thirty-five years is just too long to wait what we deserve nowadays.
Growing up, I had no hassle discovering my ardor for writing and literature, or losing myself in my creativeness. but when it came to finances, I used to be suddenly alone. Forget now not knowing in which to start — I didn’t even know what I needed to research.
As a teen,
I had a part-time task at the mall, and that I used that paycheck to shop for clothes or visit the films. however outside of some hundred bucks in financial savings, I didn’t have a clue a way to make myself financially comfy, or how crucial it became. while I used to be applying for university, my mom sat me down and defined that I used to be now financially responsible for myself. She is a very smart and ingenious lady, but she didn’t go to college — and in an age, while you need an undergraduate degree to get most access-degree jobs, my mother wasn’t able to offer me with lots assist as I took that next step in my existence.
My story isn’t particular
It’s the norm among my Black friends to warfare to talk about money. Systematically and traditionally, the Black network has been left disenfranchised and disempowered. Even with the upward push of focus surrounding the gender pay hole, there’s still overwhelming silence surrounding the significance of such as race and other intersectional identities into the verbal exchange approximately cash. The median internet well worth for unmarried Black women is simply $five. If we want to exchange that, it’s essential that we have monetary planners who apprehend how vital intersectionality and race are for their clients.
Methods of Teaching In Schools Adopted By Teachers
Teaching methods are various ways of providing understanding to students or pupils in schools. Teaching is one of the fine careers inside the global because the majority of professions and careers derived their beginning from Education. Consequently, we need to undertake in lots of approaches to Teaching in order that the students can without difficulty assimilate the subjects as soon as viable. The most problems encountered through instructors nowadays that affect college students negatively is techniques of Teaching followed by using teachers.teaching strategies gold.definition teaching strategies
The lecturers realize the problem and topics very well but discover it hard to teach and transmit this understanding and ideas to college students which make it hard for the students to understand commonly technology orientated subjects and mathematical topics.
Horrific methods of Teaching discourage college students from understanding the subject as well cause their disasters in the examinations.teaching strategies my account
Now let us study the diverse techniques of Coaching
1 DESCRIPTIVE strategies-The lecturers begin by using describing the topics and challenge to the scholars. E. G the desk has four legs and flat tops. It’s far used for writing, studying and eating and for serving dinners. The teacher describes in info all he knows approximately desk, house, or any subject topics.
2 EXPLANATORY strategies-In this technique the teacher begin Teaching with the aid of explaining the subjects to students in sorts of definition. Examples are money-She or he defines money as anything this is commonly suitable as means of payment and agreement of money owed. It’s far a legal gentle.
The teacher provides an explanation for into info all he is aware of approximate cash for college students to apprehend.
3 QUESTIONS AND Solution methods-The academics start Coaching through asking the students questions regarding the topics and based on the subjects and subjects at fingers whilst the scholar’s replies by finding solutions to the questions asked. E. G What is Biology?while the students give back Answer by using defining biology as the subjects that study s dwelling things which include flowers and animals.
The instructor then went further to deliver his Teaching via explaining in info the meaning of biology and requested them greater questions referring to the issue matters at the stop of the Teaching or lecture.
4  EXPERIMENTAL techniques-
The teacher makes use of the test to train and impart understanding to the students. it is usually accomplished in the laboratory or study room with lots of experimental gear and equipment. It creates lasting reminiscence when you consider that students are uncovered to practicals that more desirable they’re getting to know a price. They even exercise it themselves to examine stages of know-how whilst The lecturers correct where there are mistakes.
five PLAYAWAY strategies-That is a technique whereby using the instructor plays with students in form of making a song and rhymes recitation whilst the scholars or pupils sing along and dance with the instructor.
Advantages of Non-Financial Performance Measurement Over Financial Performance Measurement
Monetary Performance Dimension
The motive of every business is to reap the lowest line of most Monetary advantages. On the way to comply with the equal, agencies have come up with Financial Overall performance Size techniques. The very concept is to make sure that regardless of what the assets do and the way they feature, they could have to expose profits within the income and loss statements. It is accomplished usually in three one-of-a-kind steps. They had been noted as follows: Capital one financial
First of all, it encompasses choosing the dreams of the agency.
Secondly, and also as an essential component, It’s far to consolidate the Measurement of data with admire to the Performance.
Sooner or later, the desired changes made by way of the managers so as to function a treatment over the susceptible hyperlinks within the Economic charts of the agency. So, you could say that the Economic elements of Overall performance Dimension are basically income driven. There are certain milestones that businesses set for employees. A deficiency in being able to fulfill even a positive procedure may be dangerous for the location. So, this approach of Overall performance Dimension is likewise recognized to show certain insecurity for the employees. As a result, it might not deliver the most authenticated results. commercial enterprise Performance Management is by means of and massive measured through the Economic components of Performance Dimension. The particular strategies for the identical had been stated as follows:
Processes to Monetary Overall performance Dimension
Financial Values Brought.financial planning
This approach deals immediately with the Economic earnings of the corporation that goes immediately into the stability sheets. This approach, in other words, may be used to measure the Net Running income after Taxes. There also are certain changes that are made in the calculation of Financial cost Introduced so that the corporations could make it greater synchronized with the profit entry within the profit and loss statements. This method is normally used by decrease stature organizations these days. The reason for the same is that for the time being, the corporations can have enough money to look at the enterprise functioning handiest from the Economic perspective. There’s a whole lot extra to obtain.
  Health Literacy: A Strategic Marketing Asset And Corporate Social Responsibility
Fitness literacy may be described as humans’ abilities to get entry to, recognize, appraise and practice records to make Health choices in ordinary existence. It allows people make healthy choices in instances where the bounds among paintings and lifestyles aren’t so clean anymore.
When human beings fall sick, they seek the nice remedies viable. However, how ought to they realize about those treatments if they are not provided with smooth-to-apprehend statistics in the first vicinity? Pharmaceutical companies develop limitless drugs and devices to help human beings in coping with their circumstance, But handiest on a few occasions are advertisements provided in a manner that educates the patient. By spending more time in making sure that everyone their communications are clear to people of any training degree, pharmaceutical companies can improve Health literacy.
Challenges Confronted With Health Literacy
Consistent with the Office of Disorder Prevention and Health Merchandising (Fitness Communication Sports), over 3rd folks adults-77 million human beings might have problem with commonplace Fitness obligations, together with following directions on a prescription drug label or adhering to an early life immunization agenda the usage of a well-known chart.1
A report supplied Via the Institute of medicine suggests that ninety million humans, almost half of the grown up US population, lacks Fitness literacy competencies needed to recognize and act on Fitness data and Health gadget needs.2 Healthcare advertising has a protracted manner to move before patients can discover it easier to relate and apprehend the data they are receiving from those organizations.
The present day strategies getting used to the marketplace to people with Health conditions is making patient schooling fall Via the wayside. humans find actors and models less relatable While as compared with real patients. If patients lack the Health literacy that is had to apprehend the ads, the statistics provided could mislead them or be misunderstood.
Only 12 % of Adults have talented Fitness literacy”
America Branch of Fitness and Human Services pronounced that most effective 12 percentage of adults have proficient Fitness literacy.3 Terrible patient schooling may want to result in Terrible control of continual ailments and even purpose setbacks. humans may additionally pass their lots-required appointments or exams, lack the capacity to manage situations, get hospitalized often and face accelerated Healthcare costs. If sufferers aren’t aware of the questions they need to ask approximately their drugs, in essence of ways the medicine could act or react, they could experience negative outcomes.
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