I wanted to do something a bit different this tgirl tummy Tuesday. So here's some sexy and informative stuff!
A lot of people tell me something like "how the fuck do you boymode?". My response is usually some combination of A, the parts of my face I hide are very masculine, and B, people are primed to see me as masc in day to day life so just don't think about it much.
And those are true, to an extent. But boymode vs girlmode is a bit more than clothes, and I wanted to do a video that can show that a bit. And hey, why not have a little fun and show off a little tummy with it?
There's a lot more I could be doing for the girlmode here. This is no makeup, still wearing a very compressive sports bra, and I didn't even adjust how I'm wearing my pants or the tightness. It's also not the most femme of outfits, just a woman's cut tank top. I could also do an actually femme looking ponytail that hides the hairline better- all ponytails in this post look pretty masculine, though. But I think this still shows the contrast pretty well.
The hairline does a lot of work here, but it's less than you think. Mostly, that's just a "primer" to get you to read the rest of me as more masc or femme overall.
If you're curious, here's some other pictures of each factor individually:
Boymode:
Girlmode:
😳🥺😳🥺😳🥺 mode:
Hopefully this was fun, and gave a little insight into my boymoding! Hopefully I won't have to deal with this in a couple months.
@lilithtransrights @xenasaur @godless-of-the-hunt , how was my analysis here?
Reminder that associating hair length with gender is not a culturally universal concept and that many indigenous folks in North America don’t cut their hair for cultural reasons that have nothing to do with gender.
Reminder that a native guy should be allowed to wear his hair in long braids without people calling it gender nonconformity or saying he’s breaking gender norms, because hair length has nothing to do with his gender norms.
Reminder that a queer native woman should be allowed to wear her hair long without being automatically read as femme presenting, that she can be butch with long hair, because long hair is not associated with femininity in her culture.
Reminder that many native folks cut their hair for solemn reasons, usually mourning, and remarking on it as a reflection of personal style or gender presentation can be deeply disrespectful. No, she didn’t just get a fierce butch haircut - she cut her hair because someone died. No, he didn’t cave to a gender conforming haircut - he cut his hair because someone died.
Reminder that this is not universally practiced by native folks and, like all cultural practices, some people are more strict in their adherence than others.
For anyone who's dysphoric about their chest oversized hoodies are gonna be your best friend. Just saying, I speak from experience. It's like a big dysphoria be-gone thing.
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To be fair, people who loudly, publicly identify as non-binary are cool
And, also to be fair, are rad people.
when i look for trans people online i see all these awesome trans guys with muscles and hoodies and short hair and beards, and no hate to them! i’m so proud of them for being who they are! but…i don’t want to be a manly man, i want to be a pretty boy. i want to be a boy and wear makeup and dresses! i want to be a boy and still be cute and pretty and feminine!
but i’m scared that it’ll make me seem like less of a boy. i’m scared that no one would see me as a “real” boy if i’m feminine. even though i am a boy.
The most awkward part of being GNC is the fact that TRAs consistently designate you as “not a woman.” I work in a setting with an androgynous uniform. I’m occasionally asked by customers (usually either older or more rural) whether I’m male or female. The answer, always, is “I’m a woman.” The reaction from young, progressive coworkers nearby is invariably along the lines of “...You are?”
It’s not that they don’t realize I’m female. They just don’t get that I’m okay with that fact, because I’m clearly not “trying” to look/act like a woman. Every time I get a haircut, people ask my pronouns all over again. Because it must be a statement about my gender, right? It can’t just be that I was bored and had a pair of scissors around. Women don’t do that!
The worst response I’ve had was when a nonbinary manager heard me tell a customer that I’m a woman and corrected me.
“Actually, knightingael doesn’t identify as a boy or a girl.”
They went on to explain how I felt - about my body, about my identity, etc. All completely wrong and based on nothing but my appearance and other “gender” markers. This is what radfems resent in TRAs. Even outside of extreme examples like I’ve described above, there is an implicit statement about sex/gender in everything they preach - one that radical feminists have been fighting to dismantle since the movement’s earliest days. And TRAs argue that it’s compatible with gender nonconformity, but is it? It’s bad enough that even if I come out and explicitly say, “I am a woman,” I’m not believed. I must be hiding something. I must be in denial. I must be shy about expressing my “true” self.
God forbid I exist happily in my female body without conforming to gender norms. Is this really the direction we want to be moving in?
REMINDER THAT THE WAY YOU PRESENT YOURSELF HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH YOUR GENDER!! You could look like the most feminine person on the world and be a boy. It doesn’t matter. And also even if you prefer to dress like your agab you could be trans/nb/gq/ag/etc. or if you dress different from your agab you could still be cis. The way you dress is gender representation not your actual gender. Clothes shouldn’t be gendered at all but that’s a whole different topic. I think realizing that no matter how I dress my gender won’t be affected is something that helped me a lot with my self discovery. Now I’m not saying to dress different than your gender I’m just saying if you’re questioning focus on how you feel not the way you like to look (although that can be helpful too it’s all about the specific person!!)