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larkral · 2 months
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Happy Wednesday! I've been writing! Thanks to @forabeatofadrum @emeryhall @nightimedreamersworld @artsyunderstudy @stitchyqueer @rimeswithpurple for tagging me today!
I've mostly been writing Holsom Timeloop, which I'm hoping to start posting in the next 2-3 weeks. And I've also been writing Simon's two mums, which at some point down the line I will post some of. Maybe I should post the first chapter and motivate myself by way of feedback. What say you?
Anyway, some mums up here, some timeloop and tags below the cut.
Simon POV:
"I just… do you think your mums would like… talk to me? About it? Like, how they knew." "Yeah. Of course. Do you want me to call them?"  "Maybe call, uh, Natalie? I feel like your other mum is too badass to ever have done something as common as realise she liked girls."  I laugh, then take my cell phone out of my pocket and press mum's face on the screen.  It rings.  It's a little bit cold out here. Keris shivers, and I shuck my blazer and hand it over to her.  "Simon, love, what's wrong?" Nothing's ever wrong, but mum especially always answers my calls in a panic—as though I'm calling to ask if it makes sense for me to go off and fight ogres or goblins or numpties. Which, to be fair, I did do a couple of times last year.  I had to fight with them to let me stay at Watford after that. And after the dragon. But nothing really bad has happened since [[redacted]]. There's only been that one time Goblins tried to get over the wall, and the time the worsegers tried to get under the wall. Otherwise it's been just school.  Though, you know, magic school, so it's hard to complain.
Holsom timeloop AKA Friday Prime:
He is in the kitchen, hoodie slung over a chair, two hot cups of Stop & Shop swill and a lottery ticket in front of him on the table.  "That's yours," he says, gesturing towards the second cup. "Coffee's shit, but the ticket's a winner."  "Mega millions?" "You got it. Put that somewhere safe."
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wasteofart · 10 months
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Ok but can you be ace/aro if you're yearing for things like romance and closeness and a relationship and all that? Serious question here.
I've been questioning myself for ages and while I never experienced any attraction to a real person I still long for what I see in movies or read in books to the point where I have a physical tightness in my chest.
Is my brain just not producing the right chemicals for me to fall in love? Is my trauma holding me back from forming any meaningful bond? Have my past experiences lead me to feel repulsed by the idea? Am I experiencing attraction but never realized it? Or am I simply ace/aro and my internalized gender/relationship thinking makes me want what is considered normal?
Please, if anyone has answers hit me up because I've been overthinking for years now
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kiwiskate · 7 months
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Word vomiting on this gay little place bc I dont know what to do:
Im a 19 year old baby gay with little to no experience. I have been identifying myself as Bisexual but for a few months, I've been like, hahah, but like, what if I was a lesbian that would be crazy. Now I am talking to a guy, and I think he is attractive, and I can see us going on cute dates and hanging out. HOWEVER, I can't really see myself being physical with him. So, Im like ok is this the lesbian idea? Or is this bc I have no experience and am scared/intimidated? Although on the flip side thinking about this with a girl, I feel more comfortable and that it would be easier being physical. Idk, man. I talked to my friends, and they are like, "idk have a one night stand and ask a guy to do it for the cause 🫡" I dont want to follow through the relationship because if I get physical and turns out I dont like it, it would be a tough situation. Idk man its frustrating.
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yearningforgays · 18 days
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aaaa we’ve met up twice now and the second time was on valentines day and he got me orange roses<3 (and some other really nice gifts) and we went to see a movie and it was really nice!!!!! but he’s got some stomach issues rn and when i asked him when ne has time to meet up again on monday last week he said he wants to but can’t cuz he wasn’t feeling well and i feel like i’m annoying if i ask again since i already asked for the two other dates…
but at the same time if he wasn't interested he wouldn't have given me those gifts right?? it's just confusing to me cuz he still went on a trip with his family during the weekend so he isn't too sick for that? but he could also ask this time i dont wanna be the person initiating everything cuz i feel annoyinggg esp cuz it sometimes takes rily long til he responds which just makes me more anxious-
sorry for the super late response anon! you probably aren't annoying him. depending on your n his age, he probably went on the trip unwillingly and all that. i would personally ask him if you were bothering him (if youd like) ^^ sorry im not the best the best with advice, i wish the both of you the best !! ✦
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princesspennigold · 4 months
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how do you get a date if your parents wouldn’t let you
I’m 15, I wanna a date, and I don’t even know how to meet anyone. Everyone I’ve had a crush on is already dating, and I’m not even gonna think about ruining someone’s relationship. I don’t really know many more people, and I don’t know how to many more. Most girls are straight, dating a girl, absolute jerks, or just don’t like me already because of my reputation as the awkward fat “boy”. Btw I’m not out at school
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kawamagi-crow · 4 months
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LESBIANS HELP ME IM GONNA ASK A GIRL OUT AAAAAA
Should i do it by note or by talking? note seems distant but talking is kinda scary hhhhh
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strawberryfemmesapphic · 11 months
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Any advice from other gays on telling their guardian about their long distance partner who they met on tumblr?
I'm going to tell my grandma tonight and will show her a picture of my partner and explain how we met and that we have similarities and they make me really happy and are good for me and we want to mail each other things.
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sappy-queer · 11 months
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Queer Tumblr, I need your advice!!
My partner and I (cis women) have been hearing of this thing where a wlw couple find a mlm couple and both couples agree to ‘fake marry’ to live safely within their communities without having to cut family off.
I think these are called a ‘lavender marriage’ or ‘mixed-orientation marriage’ and are described as “a male–female mixed-orientation marriage, undertaken as a marriage of convenience to conceal the socially stigmatised sexual orientation of one or both partners”.
If anyone has any information or ideas on where to look and/or how to find a like-minded couple, we would be very very grateful! If you’re not sure, please reblog so maybe someone with information may be able to offer some advice. Every bit of information will be greatly appreciated.
If you need any more information from my side, please ask!
Thank you all so much in advance!
Much love ❤️🙏🏽
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mikithehands · 1 year
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akira's been acting really strange lately and im genuinely concerned for him. it's like he's hiding something from me. the fact that he's in gay love with his other friend? i know this already. he doesn't need to hide this from me! how should i talk to him about this?
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camfruitbat · 1 year
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i have these two friends, one of them is the bi girl i talked about a few months ago and the other one is a cishet christian (lets call them L and R respectively )
so ive decided that im gonna come out as a lesbian to R and i want to do this as soon as possible but at the same time im so nervous to do so kfjdkdjksjs
like i dont think she would care that much about it since she has a gay friend and she talks about him very fondly, and also theres two lesbian couples in our class and she never said anything bad about them BUT gay people on my phone, yall understand why i feel like this right?
its just,,,, the uncertainty of this you know,,, i CANT be sure how shell react when i tell her im gay and this uncertainty is fucking killing me my guy
aaaand also theres the fact that she thinks im a christian as well cause i have to pretend i believe in god when im with my parents so literally everyone thinks im a christian except for L
anyways yall have any tips on how i should come out to her 🥹👉👈
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bi-radiance · 2 years
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I am moving to a new city soon, and I’m really interested in finding some local lgbt organizations that I can join. I’ve seen people talk about how other cities will have hiking groups for bi and lesbian women, or knitting clubs for all lgbt people, and I want to join a group like that so badly. But I have no idea how to search for these things. Do I just Google “lgbt clubs near me”? I feel like whenever I do that, I don’t find any good results. Is there a specific site that people usually use to post these things???
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achillessson · 2 years
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How can you tell if a hot guy is using you???
There is a very hot guy that I'm like sorta dating, but how do I know if it is too good to be true?
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dynamopsychism · 1 year
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I only like men and for some reason I’m having a hard time with it.
I think I’m gay, not bisexual. And I have no issue embracing the word “gay.” But I’m having a hell of a time breaking down my internalized homophobia.
I question myself about what a gay man is “supposed” to look like. What life are gay men “supposed” to live? And when I answer them honestly to myself I see my deep rooted homophobia surface. I feel less normal, almost less of a person. Like a bad person, dirty even. And I know these feelings are wrong but they attack me.
not sfw: After having sexual encounters with both cis and trans men and a trans feminine person, I’ve realized that my attraction doesn’t include someone’s genitalia like I once thought. Even though the transfem person had a penis and the sex was similar to that of when I’m with cis men, I couldn’t get my mind off of how she wasn’t a man, that she was partially a woman. I like boobs and am attracted any genitalia, regardless of agab. But I’ve discovered recently that the attraction is only there when the person is somewhere on the spectrum from trans masculine non-binary to binary man. It has nothing to do with their bodies, it’s only based on gender.
sfw again: All this to say that I need help. I need someone to talk to. I don’t know where to go with this sort of thing. I feel wrong. I thought I was bi for so long, an entire decade. I know sexuality is fluid but it still hurts.
I apologize for the long post and how personal and venty this is. I’m just so lost.
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ted-vz · 2 months
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Question for all the lesbians on the app. How do you know a date is platonic or romantic because someone asked me out for valentine's day, but when we kiss we say it's for a joke?!?! Help!!!
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kiwiskate · 6 months
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Update for those who saw my baby gay word vomit a few weeks ago:
I got a boyfriend. I gave in to the guy that I like even tho idk if I am bi or a lesbian. Long story short, I experienced some things, and I just feel indifferent. I dont think I'm supposed to feel this. Idk man its weird and frustrating. Maybe I am a lesbian who knows. I like him and attracted him, but I just think I am supposed to enjoy things more, and I dont. Im just talking into the void and hoping something will help.
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zenbivia · 9 months
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I want to paint my nails again and pierce my ears but I’m home for the summer so my parents are already asking why I want to pierce my ears. Im so fed up with several things right now that I almost want to just come out to them and rip the band-aid off now.
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