#fuck fat shaming

[bakedbakermom]

The amount of self-fatphobia I encounter in my female friends regarding holiday treats is too damn high and it pisses me off. Twice this week I have told friends that it's okay to eat more in the winter (or when the fuck ever) because we are mammals and that's what we're supposed to do and both of them were like, "Teehee oh that's a great excuse!" And I'm like NO IT'S TRUE your body is responding to rhythms deeper than our modern concept of shame and it's absolutely fine to honor them and listen to your body! You don't need to generate some excuse in order to justify eating and being hungry and enjoying food.

I have had to do so much self-work regarding food and permission to eat and learning to be okay with enjoying food beyond its purpose as mere fuel. Like that was such a huge part of my recovery. My nutritionist once held my hand while I ate cheesecake and cried. And every time I encounter (milder versions of) those same food-phobic fat-shaming feelings in people I love I want to burn down the whole world because WHY ARE WE MADE TO FEEL LIKE THIS!?

Can we as a society just. Shut. The. Fuck. Up. about dieting and thinness and the morality of certain body shapes and just live in these physical bodies with their needs and desires and cravings!?!??

#i mean FUCK #fuck diet culture #fuck fatphobia #fuck fat shaming #especially when it comes from within #you are a physical being with physical needs MEET THEM DAMMIT #ed recovery #fat positivity #body positivity #bodypos #fatphobia #diet culture

[numb-little-bug92]

Tonight, I've been dealing with a fair amount of internalized fat shaming. I have rarely felt okay about my size, much less GOOD. Sometimes, the thoughts are short of a background thought, other times they feel all-consuming. Tonight has been sort of "middle-of-the-road."

The chorus for "I Know Victoria's Secret" popped into my head and ever since, 80(ish)% of my thoughts have been asking the lines of "If only I was that beautiful," "if only I had the frame of a VS Angel," "if only my stomach, thighs, etc. weren't so fat," "if only i had big boobs," "if only, if only, if only..."

Do you ever experience internalized fat shaming? What do you do to combat it?

#mental health #fat shaming #fuck fatphobia #fuck fat shaming #fatphobia #hate myself #learning to love myself #Victoria's Secret #victoria's sceret angels #victoria's angels

[angeloftheodd]

Pressuring anyone to diet or lose weight is abusive, regardless of whether that person is your partner, your friend, or a complete stranger to you. Apparently, a lot of people in the community are genuinely unaware of this. But an even greater and alarming number of people out there just pretend to be unaware of this fact so they don’t feel guilty about fat-shaming and food policing someone they claim to care about. 🧐

#abuse education #fat-shaming #food policing #fuck diet culture #diet culture #fat liberation #fat positive #body positive #fat positivity #body positivity #doelette #doelet #dollette #feminism #relationships #love #anarchy #anarchism

[silvermoon424]

#as a fat chick I'm kissing OP on the mouth for posting this #being a fat woman on the internet always leads to a bad outcome #you're either treated like a subhuman whale or objectified #meanwhile conventionally attractive women are also objectified or slut-shamed for no reason #basically being a woman online sucks #fatphobia #fuck fatphobia #fave

[sergle]

this might just be the pessimism talking but there are times when I feel the body positive movement is straight up Over. even stuff from now that’s meant to be body positive, or is packaged in that way, is of a lower caliber. like it feels like it’s gotten worse.

#this shit has LEFT #the standards are even lower rn than they have been before #and 'body positivity' has been overtaken by images of bodies that are already socially accepted #and commercially accepted #all the way up to and including bodies that are literally just like. plastic surgery shaped #and none of it is for fat people anymore #and where I saw people more openly criticizing shitty depictions of women's bodies in the past i don't see that shit anymore #and the term 'body shaming'. god how far that has fallen #that gets used if someone so much as implies that kim kardashian esque plastic surgeries that people get #are not fucking Women Empowering Operations #like it's gotten so bad that ppl are saying it's feminist and empowering that so many women are getting bbls #and conversations abt how people get pushed into WANTING to make these alterations w constant negative feedback about their bodies #gets put into a neat little 'smh not very body positive of you' argument #where AM i. #sergle.txt #plus size models are getting smaller. conversations abt body positivity have gotten worse. concerns get shut down faster.

[jerzwriter]

Body Positivity:

TW: body shaming, fatphobia, skinnyphobia, eating disorders, and the like.

I'm so fucking angry and triggered right now, and I need to vent. I was at what was supposed to be a fun family event, and because I didn't want to completely blow up, I stepped outside. But I am SO PISSED that I need to get this out. While trauma dumping on a toxic website is probably not the best idea, I literally have to vent, or I'm going to explode, and I REALLY HOPE someone will read this and learn something.

I think the body positivity movement has been great—and I wish we had something like it when I was growing up because, trust, it was non-existent. But, like many things, it's great on the surface, but a certain segment has morphed it into something that is as destructive and hateful as the behaviors/actions that led to the need for such a movement.

Some background, so you understand my perspective. I've struggled with my weight my whole life. I've been everything from a size 6 to a size 22. I'm very tall, and when I was at my thinnest (mostly because I was starving myself), people came up to me constantly to tell me how amazing I looked. I'm talking friends, family, co-workers, people at the club, and strangers on the street. I was literally dangerously underweight. My family doctor, who had treated me most of my life, was begging me to get help.

I wound up getting help for what turned out to be an eating disorder and moved past that as much as I could. Since that time, my weight has fluctuated from average, to "a few extra pounds", to very overweight. While I am usually OK with myself and try to be positive about my body, it can be hard. I don't like the way I look right now, and I’m ashamed to say that because I don’t feel that way about others. Beauty is not a number or a size, and I know that, but I am my own harshest critic. It doesn’t help to have the voices of many people, people who were supposed to love me, in my head constantly at these times.

“Do you think you should wear that?”

“Oh, that dress is so becoming on you!” (Meaning: it hides some of your fat!)

Or my favorite, coming home in an outfit that I felt so good about that I thought I looked adorable in, just to have my mother (and later my husband) say something like:

"Perhaps you should retire that until you lose some weight." or "You actually went out in that?"

(PS - I am divorced and barely speak to my mother)... I'm doing so much better, but I know I'll never be 100% comfortable, and, as with most things, the voices seep in when I'm at my lowest. So I GET IT. I get it big time.

But - on to today.

We have a wedding taking place later this week, so the family has descended like the buzzing locusts they are. The ten women in the bridal party, of all shapes and sizes, are at my house for a get-together, and they began complaining about how ugly the dresses are. (They really aren't the nicest dresses.)

The eight anti-dressers were commiserating when one, we'll call her Obnoixous Bridesmaid (OB), loudly announced that another bridesmaid had to shut up and leave the conversation because she's thin (we'll call her Thin Bridesmaid—TB), and therefore has no business being there. I should point out that TB's contribution to the conversation was the dresses were cheaply made and "is so damn shiny" and, for the record, OB is not thin but not overweight.

So another bridesmaid, who is extremely close with TB, jumped in to defend OB, going on and on about how much she "hates" TB for complaining when "everything" looks good on her. TB looked like she was going to burst into tears but stayed silent. It morphed into four grown-ass women bullying TB, so I stepped in and told them all to shut the fuck up. Minutes later, TB left the room, and I found her in the bathroom in tears, saying she wanted to go home and skip the rest of the events - up to and including the wedding.

I went back to the room where the 4 were still mocking TB, and I told them I was appalled by their behavior and they could shut the fuck up and apologize, or they could leave my house. I was told I should understand because I'm a "big girl," too, and therefore should be on "their" side.

Are we fucking kidding me here?

I should point out that 3 of the 4 asshole bridesmaids are well aware that TB has dealt with a serious eating disorder that stems from being body shamed by grown-ass men in her family when she was a mere child. She's dealt with outright abuse and trauma, and they know how bad it's been. She doesn't walk around mocking other's bodies or bragging about how "good" she looks; in fact, she struggles to feel positive about her looks at all.

Body positivity should be about everyone loving their body, no matter its shape and size, and never subjecting ANYONE else to shame because of theirs. When the fuck did it became "fat chicks have to stick together and fuck them skinny bitches."

I'm so on fire I had to step away before I ended up on the evening news. On a micro-level, I'm disgusted with these people, and this has put a total damper on the wedding events this week.

But on a macro level, I have seen this time and time again. Yeah, our society is fucking horrible when it comes to how it treats fat people, especially fat women, and that should change. But it's as fucking wrong to be skinnyphobic as it is to be fatphobic. Perhaps, ESPECIALLY AS FUCKING WOMEN, we should be uplifting and supportive of one another. PERIOD. Don't we see that the obsession to be thin and eating disorders stem from the same fucking toxic place that shames fat people? That's where it is BORN.

I'm so sick of seeing this trend in everything. Every movement I'm involved with is dealing with this... YES, be proud of YOU, ESPECIALLY if you're in a marginalized or maligned group. YES! DO IT! I've got your back in every way! But don't fucking turn it into an us vs. them... even with people you supposedly love! Don't become the fucking monster you profess to hate.

Is asking for human decency really too much? I'm literally shaking.

We really, really have to do better than this.

#elsa rants #body positivity #fat shaming #skinny shaming #STOP THE FUCKING BULLSHIT #tw: eating disorders #tw: fatphobia #tw: skinnyphobia #delete later

[stupid-sloot-headcanons]

In JJK the likes like Satoru, Mahito and Sukuna WILL fatshame chubby Darling, but Geto, I think, will totally do it too, as he is grown up, he became a lot meaner and petty and if you are not sorcerer it will tad worse for you chubby self

I had the dumbest thought of Mahito going "I can get rid of your excess body fat if you want! Here 😊" And he literally removes chunks of your fat and turns it into a Curse by imbuing your fear, pain, and body shame. Like it's a walking lump of fat just waddling around and bc it can tell it came from you it treats you like a parent. And Mahito has the gall to ridicule you for being so freaked out after he fucked up your body proportions and put your life at risk (imagine liposuction but without a sterile environment and no attempt at preparation or outpatient care). "Whaaat? You said you wanted to lose weight! I helped! It's a lot faster than dieting or exercise. And if you gain more weight again, I'll just make another one! It's a nice little incentive to not get that size again."

#tw: fat shaming #plus size darling #Mahito is best when hes fucking horrifying and inhuman #what the FUCK is empathy and compassion they sound cringe. look at the flesh monster i just made. lookit. #.jjk #.mahito #yandere jjk #yandere mahito #tw: body horror

[s4dstr4wberry]

NEWS FLASH: FAT PEOPLE KNOW THEY’RE FAT

LEAVE THEM THE FUCK ALONE

#my grandma talking about how my mom’s cousin is getting fatter and she keeps telling her to cut out fast food #how about you fucking don’t?? cz youve admitted that it’s made her cry #shut the fuck up just shut the fuck up #they used to shame me like this when I was fat too #theyll tell you its not shaming theyre just concerned #FUCK YOUR CONCERN #ITS SHAMING

[pastafossa]

Don't worry, ladies. The Men Designers have heard our cry for bigger better pockets, and have decided what we REALLY mean is that our tiny lady pockets make us look fat, so we still get tiny ass, useless pockets, BUT NOW THEY SQUISH YOUR PESKY BODY IN, YOU'RE WELCOME.

#tw: fat shaming #in other words i went jean shopping today #and saw this tag while shopping #and briefly went 'secret pocket???' like damn if i can't get bigger ones i'll at least take more #but no #because they have heard our cries for bigger pockets #and decided #that what we really want is SLIMMING pockets #YOU GODDAMN MOTHERFUCKERS I JUST WANT TO PUT MY PHONE IN MY POCKET #OR MY FUCKING KEYS

[batwynn]

Why are 90% of the horoscopes that I see (against my will) formulated like this???

#horoscopes #fatphobia #ablism #what is this #why is this #literally every time I fucking see one #that and them begging Scorpios to be less #violent #but it’s almost always #people born in may eat too much? #people born in July too sad #?????? #stop? #fat shaming #sad shaming #idfk #it’s gross #sick of it #stop fucking showing me these things anyway #not to bash on anyone who enjoys horoscopes #I do like reading nuanced actual adult with a brain ones #not Buzzfeed bitch mcDietculture’s ‘horoscope’

[ysabelmystic]

I don’t care what the information is I will not trust a health documentary that uses negative language surrounding food consumption and weight gain.

I don’t mean like “obesity is correlated with a greater risk of developing diabetes”

I mean like “this study examined the brain differences between two groups of people who were given a milkshake. One group enjoys stuffing their faces with ice cream. The other consumes a healthy diet” (proceeds to show a fat person and a thin person).

Fuck. All the way off.

#I had to watch it for school and I’m fucking irritated about it #tw fatphobia #tw fat shaming

[angeloftheodd]

I said what I said. 🍒🤘

#abuse awareness #fat shaming #food policing #fuck diet culture #diet culture #fat liberation #fat positive #body positive #fat positivity #body positivity #doelette #doelet #feminism #dollette #fat nymphett #nymphett #nymphcore #nymph aesthetic

[lightasthesun]

massive fuck you to all the people that bodyshamed me in school when I had a great body and gave me whiplash by calling me fat and flat-chested in the same breatht. coz I'm still struggling with that now and every time I look at pictures of me from a prior year I realize I didn't actually look as bad as I thought but I still can never let myself accept that in the present. I still always think I'm too fat and I still simultaneously think I don't have enough curves.

#bodyshaming #tw body dysmorphia #fat shaming #skinny shaming #tw bullying #fuck you especially to men #personal post #ok to rb

[mikereads]

Okay so I wasn’t looking for spoilers but the fact that none of you warned be about that certain scene with Eddie and Marisol shame on you. Like yes I was aware of the bts pic of her in a robe and the doubling down on him being straight was a high possibility but none of you mentioned it actually happened

#eddie diaz #buddie #911 abc #anti Eddie/Marisol #like it’s so awkward #and it’s funny in a way cause Buck and Tommy are so amazing #and the chemistry feels so right and perfect along with the writing and than we have whatever the fuck this is anyway #EW!!!!!!! 🤮 #can Eddie just be single forever pls like at this point I don’t care as long as I never have to see that again #anyway yeah #shame on you buddie fandom a jump scare warning would have been nice #we are doing that before I moved it 🤮🤮🤮🤮 like I get you have straight sex #literally stop enough enough enough- fat Amy vibes literally like shut the fuck il #up and Eddie oh Eddie the nester you are why babe #I know this was going to happen double down and stuff but really guys you are in your 30s calm tf down or something like do that shit off #screen so I don’t have to see it and can pretend it doesn’t happen thank you

[sk1n-t1ght]

body check 💗

thighs are a bit big but nothing ana can’t fix!

#body ch3ck #ana female #low carb #fat shaming #tw ana stuff #fuck my body #i am starved