ok I'll bite because you actually do seem to be talking in good faith, the thing is, a lot of (maybe even most) people who write dom atz do not tag or label it as such (whereas dom reader is almost always tagged as such or written at the beginning as a content warning so people who don't like it can easily avoid it), it seems dom male is so normalised that it's just kinda seen as the default and so it doesn't need to be labelled, honestly it wouldn't suprise me if half of these people don't even see what they write as d/s related and just think a man being dominant is just how "normal" sex is, you say if you don't like a fic don't read it, but the thing is a lot of times you don't know that you don't like a fic until you actually read it, because again a lot of people don't specify or they'll warn for degradation or something and not say who is receiving it, as if we're just supposed to assume it's the member because ofc it couldn't be the other way around, like yes don't read a fic if you know you wont like it but a lot of times you DON'T know that because there's nothing in the warnings that suggest it would be uncomfortable, but then suddenly midway in there's somebody talking about being a "real man" and how you couldn't handle his ginormous dick and calling you a whore. what I'm trying to say is, somebody being okay with reading about being penetrated does not mean they like reading about being treated as if being penetrated means the other person is being dominant over you or degrading you in some way, being okay with impreg or breeding kink does not mean they like reading about pregnancy being treated as a way to "claim" someone or as if it means the man now somehow has ownership or is dominant over the woman he impregnated, liking size kink with a smaller reader does not mean they like reading about being submissive, liking to read about somebody having a big dick does not mean they are in to condescending dirty talk that talks about how they can't take it or like dirty talk about how liking to have sex with someone with a big dick makes you submissive. when writers write such things and simply label them as penetrative sex/breeding kink/size kink/"big dick x" and nothing else, it's misleading about the true contents of the work. given the fact that a lot of people do this despite the fact that they're not the same thing, coupled with the fact that whenever somebody writes penetrative sex/breeding kink with a dom fem reader, it is almost always made upfront at the start that that is what it is, I can't help but come to the conclusion (and I admit I may be missing something but I can't see any other explanation) that a lot of people who do this do it because they do actually believe these things, that of course if you like penetrative sex and breeding you are okay with reading about being submissive and degraded and spoken down to, because penetrative sex/pregnancy/etc. are inherently submission, so any extra disclaimers would be redundant. THAT is the kind of sexism I'm referring to, and maybe you can say I'm being bad faith/cynical for coming to that conclusion but it's really the only explanation I can think of that explains the disparity. you can block people but again this is a thing that many people do and new writers that do the same thing are appearing all the time, like it's a community-wide problem you can't just block a few people to avoid it that's why I feel like I have to say something
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alright anon, ngl but that was a lot lol but thanks for explaining it. i get what you are saying and so basically i’m just gonna try and summarize what you are saying so that we are on the same page.
so, what you are saying is that when it comes to warnings in smuts, people will always put dom!reader in the warnings but never dom!ateez bc it’s the default and any other warnings like breeding/size is always assumed that it’s receiving (as in the reader) which will also make the reader submissive, right? and so i guess what you want to happen in fics is for dom!reader x sub!ateez to be “normalized” like dom!ateez x sub!reader is and for dom!reader to stop being seen as a content warning since dom!ateez isn’t seen as one OR for dom!ateez to be put in the warnings like dom!reader is.
okay, i can 100% get on board with that. i see what you are saying and yes, i can agree that dom!ateez has been kind of “normalized” in the community and that’s only because a majority of the people want dom!ateez as compared to sub!ateez. and also, i think if i got this correctly, you want people to stop linking certain kinks with dom!ateez because if so then i can also agree to that.
and like, anon, what you are saying and everything is a good point, but what i don’t understand is why you were so mean to @latte-fairytaekwoon and supposedly complaining about how she only write sub!reader when... its her blog and to be honest that’s what a majority of her want to read from her, so that’s what she writes. i’m sorry that sub!ateez isn’t as “normalized” as dom!ateez and i get that you want people to start treating them the same in warnings and when writing certain kinks, but you really shouldn’t be mean and criticize someone for what they write on their blog. and while she might not label the roles on her reactions, she does do it on her scenarios/one-shots.
also, like i’m still behind you starting your own writing blog and putting everything you told into your own fics. there’s a lot of people that like reading sub!ateez so you starting your own blog and writing about that will only add to growing stack of sub!ateez content and can even possibly help “normalize” it just as much as dom!ateez is.
but i hope i understood what you are trying to say and if i missed anything or got anything wrong then i would love to understand it! just as long as we remain respectful towards each other, okay?