#for any of y'all curious this was referencing a meta post i wrote if you want to find it search the tag i put in my bio

[i-dreamed-i-had-a-son]

Hey so I loved your post about Sam and Bucky, and as an middle aged aroace, I wanted to reach out to you about something you mentioned in it - the bit from "This life can be so long, and so lonely" to "When I have nightmares, who can I tell about them?" I promise you that you do not need love or romance to have those things. I have built a found family of very dear friends, just like you will find your people in time. (continued in next ask)

...They have driven me to the ER in the dead of night, sat vigil with me for my cat on her last night on earth, listened to my fears when I had a cancer scare, held me while I mourned family members, brought me food when I was struggling to put it on the table. They have been there for me in the darkest moments of my life, reminding me that I am not alone, that I am loved, that I have support.

And they have been there for all of the good times too. They have celebrated many birthdays with me, helped me build a professional wardrobe for a new job, gone with me when I adopted my new cats, accompanied me to movies and festivals and day trips and restaurants.

I am not lonely. I have never regretted living alone. I have made my apartment a home, warm and comfortable and full of everything that I love. And I want you to know that *this is your future*. This is what you have to look forward to.

When the world tells us "you'll be miserable all your life and then die alone" - that's a lie. You will find your people, and they will be your family, and that is where you will belong. They will be there for you when things go wrong, and they will want you to turn to them because they will care about you and want to help. They will celebrate with you and mourn with you, they will keep you company and listen to your hopes and fears, and you will not be alone. Just like Bucky :)

I hope you don't mind me sharing this, because it is so wonderful that I had to let other people read it as well. I am speaking from my heart when I say this touched me very deeply, and gave me a piece of encouragement I will not be letting go of any time soon.

Thank you for reminding me that things like what you have, things that I dream about, aren't just fictional. They're not things that only exist in some movie or TV show, they're not impossible or unbelievable--finding a place to belong, being loved, is not too much to ask or to hope for. Thank you for telling me there's more to this life than loneliness. Thank you for reminding me that the future is longer than I think it is, and that that's a good thing. There are many more places and people that I will see and meet, and somewhere, somehow, I'll find where I'm meant to be.

Thank you for helping me mean it when I say there is a place, not just for all of us, but for me.

I won't forget that. 💚

#and real talk when i got to the 'just like bucky' part i made an audible 'awh!!' #like bruh i didn't realize how much i meant what i was writing until you sent me this. i really needed it. thank you #responses aka the ramblings of my brain #aromantic #aro #asexual #ace #aromanticism #my aromanticism #asexuality #my asexuality #aroace #right in the feels #bucky barnes #for any of y'all curious this was referencing a meta post i wrote if you want to find it search the tag i put in my bio #you'll probably want to click on it on an actual post bc tumblr sucks at searching but that ought to pull up something you can find it from #my ultimate favorite posts