I like that the ficto and selfship community has only continued to grow since ye olde days of internet.
I remember that fictosexual wasn't even a major term, so there wasn't much of a way to look for others. Hell I remember getting dogpiled a couple times for using the term because people assumed it was attention seeking. So I couldn't use the term and find any actual results for many years.
We all just kinda stood around thinking we were the only people like this, and maybe there's something severely wrong because no one else feels this way. Hell, even when asking my therapists they thought self shipping sounded like a wonderful thing for me and coping with trauma or stress. So being unable to find others like me was so frustrating because I just wanted to know I wasn't fuckin alone in my passion for fiction.
That was like, 20 years ago, the Internet has exploded since then. And now look, the community has grown so much, selfshipping is more common enough we can actually find content on a tag filled to the brim. We can fucking TALK about self shipping and being ficto and attracted to fictional characters. Hell, just able to say I'm fictosexual feels nicer than it did years back. Is everything perfect for us? No, people can still be douches and say mean things, but we have far more folks doing their best to spread the fun things about being ficto and self shipping.
It makes me smile that I can type in ficto or selfship and be witness to the gorgeous menagerie of people loving their F/Os or folks saying their fav things about self shipping. To see people going feral over their loves and gushing about every detail. Seeing folks finding themselves and exploring their ficto feelings, seeing people create things because they love their F/Os so goddamn much. It just makes me happy to see it. Things aren't perfect, but I'm glad we're all able to find that we're not alone.
You're not alone or weird for loving fictional characters, there's plenty more of us out there and you don't have to stop when you get older. It's not just a phase for many, it's how we are and how we love and you don't have to grow out of it. I'm in my goddamn 30s and the only thing that's changed about my selfshipping is I got even more F/Os to love from the past few decades.
It's just nice to be ficto knowing others are also out their loving and selfshipping with fictional favs. <333333
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80+ selfship questions to answer, whether in a post* or a reblog! feel free to pick the ones you want to answer or just answer for all – this is not an ask game :3
a few of these are romantic, but ofc, there are ones you can answer for your platonics!
* if you do it as a post i’d loveeeee if you tagged me so i could see your answers!
what’s something you do to feel closer to them? fanfics, listen to songs, etc.
how did you get introduced to your f/o and/or their media? do you like their source?
what’s one or two things you especially like about your f/o? can be a headcanon!
what’s one or two things your f/os love about you? ( self positivity time babey )
how do you express your love to them? how do they express their love to you?
a gift you’d like to give them if you could, and something they’d give to you!
what do you celebrate together? like halloween, christmas time, easter, etc.
do you sleep together? is it peaceful or filled with snoring? do you both stay up? tell us more! ( how you sleep, when you sleep, do you wake up at the same time? )
what’s one thing you can’t do well that the other can, vice versa ( e.g cooking, playing video games, so on and so forth )
do you have similar tastes in fashion? aesthetic? food? tell us about their taste!
how do they tend to comfort you? how do you tend to comfort them?
if you have a rival or nemesis f/o, why? are there any lore reasons or is it just because?
what are some uncommon headcanons you have for them?
what is your favorite fan theory/headcanon about them?
if you live together, how’s domestic life like for you both?
do you have any scent hcs for them? ( sweet, something like coffee, etc )
is there anything commonly misunderstood about your f/o?
one thing you don’t have in common, and one thing you do
how do you resolve conflicts? how do you both typically react when faced with conflict or whilst dealing with an argument?
have you met their friends/family? how did that go? do they even keep in contact with their friends/family?
tell us as much (or as little) as you'd like about any of your self ship lore/bg! the timeline!
if they have variations (timelines, skills, voiced languages, etc) which one is your favorite?
your favorite outfit/costume of theirs! if they don’t have any official skins or anything, show us something you think they’d look good in!
who confessed first and how did it go?
did anyone know about your f/o’s feelings before they confessed? how did they find out?
if you have multiple f/os, do they fit into any “type?” ( e.g coincidentally they’re all smartasses, blonde, villains, etc. lol )
do you have any favorite scenarios you like to imagine your f/os in? ( domestic fluff, angsty, etc. )
have you ever thought about ( platonic or not ) marriage? would you consider it a good idea? why or why not?
^ if you're planning to get married, then tell us all about your wedding! the honeymoon! the planning!
if you live together, how does your home look like? who decided on the decor?
do you, or plan to, have f/o kids? ( pets and plants count! ) bonus: if you have pets, do they show any favoritism?
what was it like when they first said ‘i love you’? how did you reply? where was it?
if you could make one thing 100% canon about them, what would it be?
how do you kill time with them when bored?
your favorite thing about your f/o, appearance wise
your favorite thing about your f/o, non-appearance wise
what’s your dynamic like? any tropes you fit?
the most iconic/memed on/quoted line or event associated with your f/o
who’s more likely to be the sappy, cheesy romantic in the relationship?
who gets flustered the easiest?
if you were in an emergency or stressful situation, which one of you’s the best at staying level headed keeping the other calm? who is the one absolutely freaking out?
what nicknames do you call each other?
with phones or modern au : what would your contact names be?
with phones or modern au : how do they use their phone? do they have a billion screenshots in their gallery? whats their wallpaper?
favorite memory involving them ( whether in your lore as a scenario, a scene from their media, or another physical experience like when you received merch etc )
are they physically affectionate? if so, how do they express it? vice versa!
any funny or awkward moments you've experienced with them?
who’s more likely to get into, or start fights? whether with each other or with others.
what were your first impressions of each other?
do you have an anniversary date? how was it decided & how do you (plan to) celebrate it?
.... would you still love them if they turned into a worm
how did their personality or lifestyle change after befriending/getting with you?
something you know about them, that many others don’t?
how do they reassure or affirm their love for you?
what’s your funniest or most embarrassing memory together?
what’s their sense of humor like? how easy is it to make them laugh?
what inside jokes do you share?
if necessary, how do you wake them up? how do they wake you up?
any daily routines or habits you two follow?
what do others in source say about your relationship? do you keep it a secret?
if you have more than one f/o from the same media, which one were you drawn to first? any lore connection like did they introduce you to the others? did one make you fall for the other?
dream piece of merchandise or f/o-related experience you’d like to have
how are they like when vulnerable?
describe your f/o in 6 words or less
describe your f/o using only emojis
would you rather go to their world, or have them come to yours?
do you care about ship lore? feel free to tell us about it if you’d like!
if you have a s/i, how’d you go about creating their design? what went into their lore? how do the others in the source feel about your s/i?
does your s/i hold similarities to you, is completely like you or completely different from you? do you even have a s/i?
thoughts on AUs/canon divergent things? do you prefer to stick as closely to canon as possible or no?
quick! your f/o’s just spawned in front of you, now what do you do?!
do they have any superstitions they believe in?
would you or your f/o ever get matching things? ( keychains, tattoos, shirts, etc ) do they find it cringy or cute?
who’s more the scaredy cat out of you two?
what kind of things is your f/o into? games, music, decor, whatever!
the most random thing you associate with your f/o (foods, shapes, even textures! anything that’s not an obvious)
anything your f/o absolutely hates, but you absolutely love?
any aesthetic or -core you associate with your f/o, whether it be due to their design or personality?
who's more likely to die first in a zombie apocalypse lol
do your f/os have any long term wishes or goals? what about your s/i?
your favorite f/o fun fact or bit of lore
which animal represents your f/o the best?
does your f/o run hot or cold?
free space to gush about whatever you want ♡
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