#ex religion

[apostateoverrubies]

It's funny how certain religious people act like accepting LGBTQ rights will lead to paedophilia being normalized when they've already let that shit slide for centuries.

Then again, what else do you expect from people who value religion over the rights of children?

Don't let them trick you into thinking they care.

#ex religious #ex christian #ex religion #religious trauma #religious deconstruction #deconstructing christianity #ex pentecostal #deconversion #apostate #ex fundie #ex muslim #exvangelical #ex evangelical #christian fundamentalism #ex fundamentalist #ex mormon #ex catholic #ex jehovah's witness #ex jw #agnostic #ex upci #lgbt #lgbtq

[scarletspider-lily]

the isolation of still being in christian spaces (without a choice) and knowing you do not believe is... insane, honestly, something i wish more people knew about. because its not just being in church that feels isolating, it extends to the outside world.

anyone you talk to in your church obviously doesnt understand you. you constantly need to police your words around them to avoid saying something "sinful" or anything that can be read as liberal in any way. the mask must stay on at all times, and then when you're away from that space, you need to slowly adjust and become yourself again, somehow.

and in secular spaces, people just dont get it. which isnt always their fault! its just hard to explain to people who mean well, why "ill pray for you" sets you off and makes your heart race and makes you shudder. "why dont you love your family?? not even your sibling? damn." you see a coworker wearing a shirt with a bible verse on it, and run through several calculations in your head, none of them ending up anywhere because you distance yourself from said coworker, even though you know you should be talking to them before coming to conclusions. "hey, please stop talking about (criticizing) religion, its a bit of a controversial topic here. hope all that church stuff gets better soon though!" your friends do not understand what you are venting about, though they try their hardest.

you try so hard to find people who have left religions and/or cults in the real world. all you seem to be finding are people who are still in them, or people who have never come close to having an experience you have.

not to mention this all becomes approximately 100 times worse if you're queer.

#slight vent #exvangelical #ex religion #queer atheist #atheist #scarletspider-lily #religious trauma #deconstruction #feeling isolated in this dennys tonight

[isalisewrites]

Religion truly destroys and warps the heart, mind, and soul in ways you cannot comprehend while you're still trapped a high demanding religion.

When someone chooses religion over you, their closest family, it cracks a heart in ways a heart should never experience. How does one recover from such an absolute betrayal? If apologies are made, how does one forgive? How does one trust again?

You never gave me an honest chance to hear me out. But now that I think about it... I don't think you wanted to hear me out, now did you? Do you hold envy in your heart? What delusions have you created in your mind about me? How long have you secretly hated me? How long have you resented me? How has your heart grown so cold and so hard?

Why couldn't you accept my growth and evolution? Why couldn't you celebrate that with me?

Why did I hide? Because of this.

Why did I keep silent? Because of this.

This. This. This. THIS. T H I S ! ! !

This is why I despise Mormonism with every fiber of my being. Without Mormonism, we would never have been forced to this point. I wouldn't have had to hide anything about myself and you would've never chosen something else over me.

This is religious trauma, the very concept you mocked and belittled.

This is religious trauma.

This.

#pimo #exmo #exmormon #religious trauma #family trauma #fuck religion #fuck mormonism #betrayal #isa's ramblings #isa's thoughts #mormonism #ex religious #ex religion

[that-atheist-blog]

I feel like Christianity constantly teaches to you to “forgive”, even under the most heinous circumstances. The term “forgiveness” worms it’s way into abuse, murder, sexual assault, trauma, etc. Obviously none of this stuff is as cut and dry as “forgive and forget”, but Christianity (religion in general) makes it feel that way, and in doing so tends to make victims feel as though their reactions and feelings toward their trauma and or abusers (however acceptable) aren’t “Christ-like” and they should be ashamed. “Forgiveness is the only way to healing.”

Fuck that, you don’t have to forgive anyone. Like, work through the trauma, speak to people you trust and those can help you navigate the tumultuous feelings and don’t steep in anger your whole life but fuck it you do not have to forgive. Ever. There are other ways to heal.

I don’t “forgive” my abuser. What they did traumatized me, and it’s obviously not okay. It’s not something that is “forgivable” to me, nor do I have any desire to try and contort my thoughts and feelings into thinking I should forgive them.

But, in that same breath, I used to think that I did forgive them. My guilt for not wanting to forgive them ate at me, and I thought I was a bad person for it. I’m not a bad person, I’m a regular person with valid feelings.

This was a ramble, but that’s what this blog is for!

#ex religion #ex christian #religious trauma #apostate #atheist #ex religious #atheism #religion is toxic

[sky-daddy-hates-me]

I've been seeing a fair few Abraham and isaac posts lately so just thought I'd share one of my favourite songs.

Lyrics

Abraham took isaac's hand

And led him to the lonesome hill

While his daughter hid and watched

She dared not breathe she was so still

Just as an angel cried for the slaughter

Abraham's daughter raised her voice

Then the angel asked her what her

Name was she said i have none

Then he asked how can this be

My father never gave me one

And when he saw her raised for the slaughter

Abraham's daughter raised her bow

How darest you child defy your father

You better let young Isaac go

#abraham and isaac #ex jw #ex jehovah's witness #jehovah's witnesses #religious trauma #exjw #cult survivor #ex christian #ex cult #apostate #possible tw #ex religion #exchristian #ex mormon #ex catholic #ex fundamentalist #ex christian songs #Youtube

[connieaaa]

God was the most consistent adult I had in my life as a child, and God was a projection of my own psyche. No wonder I always felt like a grown up.

#ex fundie #ex fundamentalists #ex fundamentalist #ex christianity #ex christian #cptsd #child neglect #ex religious #ex relationship #ex religion #apostacy #apostate #inner child #childhood is hard #maternal narcissism #covert narcissism #covert abuse #emotional abuse

[deservedgrace]

i have been out of religion for 5 or 6 years at this point, but i still feel like the critical thinking portion of my brain and my ability to be skeptical is diminished. i'm feeling discouraged about it bc i really thought i would be farther along at this point but tbh i still sometimes struggle to see how bad even just xtian apologetics are unless someone else is blatantly taking the claim apart and examining it. i'm getting better and can recognize some bad claims xtians make based on pattern recognition because xtians use the same 8 arguments every time but i feel like i can't recognize it in other areas and it's frustrating

#anybody have any tips? #or am i just like... doomed to not be able to think critically about things lmao #ex christian #ex religion

[vampyr-tea]

☁️Being forgotten creates better memories☁️

#☁️What I mean by this is…When you’re pushed aside by people who no longer give a damn about you and treat you like me shit-☁️ #☁️once you’ve gotten away from their toxicity. you become free☁️ #☁️you’re no longer trying to plz them you’re not under their grip there is no one to fucking care☁️ #☁️it will be scary and terrifying at the beginning but I promise you. it’s a blessing in disguise☁️ #☁️if you have toxic friends or whatever and they don’t dm you or talk to you or want to hang out. GOOD☁️ #☁️it’s their FUCKING LOSS. THEY DONT KNOW WHAT THEYRE MISSING. AND YOURE GONNA DO A LOT BETTER WITHOUT THEM☁️ #☁️toxic people don’t need to stay in your life so it’s best they forget you instead of terrorizing you all the time. get the fuck out.☁️ #personal growth #self healing #words of encouragement #Truama #healing #trauma healing #self care #treat yo self #ex Christian #ex religion #ex religious #religious trauma #childhood trauma #venting #encouraging words #i love you 💕 #you can do this #☁️When you find friends. your new family who care about you…Keep them close.☁️ #☁️those are the diamonds that make digging through this shit we call life worth it☁️ #☁️LIVE YOUR LIFE IN FREEDOM☁️

[alienbycomics]

Gender Nonconforming Jesus: A look at art history. CW: religion, transphobia, artistic nudity, depictions of open wounds (Long post)

#long post #trans woman #trans man #transgender #cw transphobes #cw wounds #cw religion #exvangelical #ex fundamentalist #ex religious #art history #trans artist #transfem #trans history #lgbtq history #gender nonconforming #cw artistic nudity

[the-abstract-atrocity]

For Valerie, guilt is caused by vulnerability. To be vulnerable is to make others aware that you are burdensome — you feel guilty for unmasking the weakest parts of yourself. You are a problem and you waste people's time — that is why you feel guilt. That is why vulnerability becomes religious.

Most guilt is associated with religion and most things that we do are, in a way, religious.

- The Abstract Atrocity

#writers on tumblr #writing #quotes #guilt #ex religion

[seraphimfall]

i’ve read so much tradcath bullshit the last two years. i can confidently say tradcath men fit into one of two categories:

“protestant-raised and converted to catholicism because of his crippling porn addiction and racist tendencies. reposts crusader and conquistador memes. is hated in his local parish.” tradcath

“catholic-raised band kid who ate his lunches with the religion teacher. smells like mildew. cut off all his friends that came out as gay after high school. now larps as an aquinian scholar and cries after jerking off.” tradcath

#|| the disciple || #ex catholic #ex christian #religious trauma #exvangelical #deconversion #apostate #apostasy #ex fundie #extian #deconstructing christianity #ex religious #ex cult #ex cath #religious deconstruction #deconstruction #catholic guilt #progressive politics #leaving the church #losing my religion

[apostateoverrubies]

Children don't need religion to develop good morals. I'd argue that certain religions get in the way of that because they encourage you to do things because a deity approves and it will lead to you having a good afterlife or whatever. And I don't know about you but I find that to be self-serving.

Not to mention, the fact that religion can advocate for immoral things.

Let's just teach children to be good just because.

#ex religious #ex christian #ex religion #religious trauma #religious deconstruction #ex pentecostal #deconstructing christianity #ex fundie #ex muslim #deconversion #agnostic #ex catholic #ex fundamentalist #ex jehovah's witness #ex jw #ex jew #ex mormon #ex evangelical #exvangelical #ex hindu

[scarletspider-lily]

#exvangelical #ex christian #ex religion #religious trauma #tumblr polls #legit didn't hear about this until i made this blog and like i have so many blaring sirens in my head rn

[isalisewrites]

i've found terrible but great back when it had i think around 50000 words, but for some reason stopped for a while--to know that it has 100k plus words now and more on the way is insane and i'm so so happy about it!!

but my question really is this, since i haven't read it for a while and last i checked your author's note had that you had escaped a cult? i hope you're doing better now! and hope this isn't a little too personal to ask but what happened?

(absolutely feel free to ignore really)

Hello, anon!

I never left Mormonism; I am an active nonbeliever. I never told my family about the change in my beliefs either and I still attend church every Sunday to support my family. I have been in a very good mental place surrounding Mormonism and I am unaffected by whatever is taught in church.

I kept silent about my beliefs because no one ever reacts well to it. I didn't want to break their hearts either.

Your eternal salvation hangs by the thread of your belief and faithfulness to Mormonism.

My unbelief would be devastating to them.

But sometimes a new chapter is opened, even against your will.

A close family found my Isalise identity two weeks and found out about my nonbelief status a couple of days after going on a deep dive on me behind my back. Extensive texts where exchanged where I was bombarded with falsehoods about my intentions and my actions. I tried to respond in calmness, shared something sacred and personal, but I only got a cold reply in return. When I responded with firm unwavering language defending myself and called out inappropriate behavior, this family member effectively cut me off. As of last night.

I must admit, I grow weary of Mormonism taking from me what does not belong to it.

But I will not apologize for my actions; I did nothing wrong. I will not waver. I will not collapse. If a single person sees this, who is deeply hurting because their family chose religion over them, then I hope to be a beacon of hope, love, and kindness. I will do my utmost to share my strength with you.

It will be okay. You will be okay.

You are strong.

You are wonderful.

You are good enough.

You are spiritually free.

You are beautiful.

You are powerful.

When I experience an influx of negativity or cruelty against me, my natural inclination to reach out to someone who is hurting and try to ease some of their pain. May all who are hurting feel the unconditional love of a random woman on the internet who just wants to spend her days writing stories about gay wizards.

Hey, you are loved. Don't forget that.

Keep your chin up. Keep doing the best you can. Be kind when you're hated, but do not coddle or appease. Spread love when hatred is thrown at you, but don't roll over and take it. Follow your highest excitement, no matter how small it may be. Follow the path of what brings you joy.

What's the best that can happen?

Show us how good it can get.

And create.

Create. Create. Create.

Bring into life what was not there before. Your creation will enrich the lives of others in an never ending cycle.

#anon asks #god bless anons #pimo #exmo #exmormon #ex mormon #ex religion #ex religious #ex christian #ex jw #mormonism #religious trauma #isa's thoughts #isa's ramblings

[that-atheist-blog]

I might write a longer, more in depth blog post about this, but for all of my ex-religion fellows, if you like alternative rock music I’d highly recommend Quiet Company’s album “We Are All Where We Belong”.

It’s a heart bearing album with songs that go into the lead singer’s (Taylor Muse) loss of faith and religion. Backed by the band’s background from Texas, the album was incredibly cathartic for me growing up while I was losing and rejecting my own faith. It was comforting knowing that this wasn’t something only I was experiencing, especially as a teenager.

Anyway, if you give it a listen for the first time or if you had a similar experience with it, let me know ♥️

#ex christian #ex religion #apostate #atheist #religious trauma #atheism #ex religious

[sky-daddy-hates-me]

Well today has been a day 🙃

Just go block the user @/ghostlylivingforgod

There's no reason for that behaviour, there's no justification for what they've said and there's no forgiveness in me for people like that.

If you were triggered or affected by the content they sent me and I shared publicly, I'm so sorry. I didn't want that to happen.

But I do want people from outside the ex-cult and ex-religion community to see what happens to the victims of abuse and brainwashing. From both ends of the spectrum, a victim (myself) who has left the cult and someone who firmly believes that they're right and will do anything to defend it, I don't know what faith they have but it sure does sound like they're in a cult or are at least a right wing american with nothing better to do.

#if you're triggered by threatening langauge #invalidating trauma #suicide baiting #religious language #then dont look for the posts im talking about please #look after yourself #ex muslim #ex mormon #ex catholic #ex religion #ex jehovah's witness #ex jw #jehovah's witnesses #religious trauma #cult survivor #exjw #ex christian #ex cult #apostate #possible tw