#dysfunction

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#mental health memes #mental health #mental health matters #mental health awareness #dysfunctional family #dysfunction #dysfunctional relationship #toxic people #toxic household #toxic family

[contemplatingoutlander]

Some excerpts from this column by Michelle Cottle:

A healthy democracy needs its participants to accept a basic will-of-the-majority model. Fringe factions have rights, but they do not run the show. For years, the Republican Party has been shifting toward an anti-majoritarian, burn-down-the-system ethos. Time after time, the preferences and well-being of the many are abandoned in pursuit of the desires of the extremist few. Nowhere has this become more evident than in the House, where various slivers of hard-liners delight in holding the entire chamber — and on occasion the entire country — hostage. The Freedom Caucusers want this or that unpopular policy stuffed into a spending bill. Matt Gaetz’s rebels clamor for this or that procedural change. In some cases, the Venn diagram circles of demands overlap; in others, different gangs dig in on different priorities. Forget compromise or collaboration or collective governance within the conference. It is not even a question of might makes right so much as a contest to see who can grab the most attention for throwing the most disruptive tantrum.

Below is a graphic from the column that shows just how fart to the right Jim Jordan is compared to his fellow Republicans in the House.

#jim jordan #speaker of the house #republicans #dysfunction #extreme right-wing republicans #michelle cottle #the new york times

[escapism-from-the-real-world]

When I was younger, I thought I had a really big bladder. On 12 hour roadtrips, I’d only go to the bathroom like once and I’d rarely ever go at home. I thought I was built different.

Anyway, I have adhd and autism and I’ve been making myself drink water regularly and wow, have I always been this dehydrated? Have I been not going to the bathroom enough times to be considered healthy? I have overestimated my ability to gauge healthy behavior.

#god this explains a lot #adhd #autism #dysfunction #dehydration #adhd symptoms #autism symptoms #the inability to tell when we are hungry or thirsty

[stoicmike]

If I feel the need for drama in my life I go to see a play. -- Michael Lipsey

#drama #play #theater #real life #stress #dysfunction #hysteria #entertainment #art #relax

[family-trauma]

Lately I've been absolutely burnt out. Not only has my personal life been toxic and draining, my work has became the same if not worse. Trying to stay afloat and keep everything straight has been extremely exhausting for me.

I thought going to a new job will help reduce some of the toxicity of the previous one, well I was so wrong. The new job turned out to be 10 times worse. With too many managers and politics being played, the environment has been unnecessarily toxic even though the work itself is good.

Please send some good wishes my way so I have the strength to handle all of this. 🙏

#absurd #mentalhealth #mentalhealthawareness #mental wellbeing #toxic #toxicity #toxic people #toxic workplace #workplace politics #workplace #dysfunction #bad work environment #burnt out #burnout #family-trauma

[unladyboss]

SYD WAS TRYING TO FIGHT A FIGHT THAT WASN'T HERS TO FIGHT: Carmy and Syd dynamic

In the Review episode when the preorders got messed up and Carmy freaks out on her, Sydney doesn't leave right away.

She gets thrown off and tries to do some things to get her equilibrium back. Like do actual work, but she's still off and irritable.

So instead of confronting Carmy, she fights the biggest vestige of Carmy's past, Richie.

Because surely, the Carmy that she imagines in her mind, the one who she's admired all this time, isn't responsible for the behaviour he's exhibiting now.

No, most assuredly, it's Richie, who'd been egging it on, Richie who is the biggest and last remaining symbol of all the things that went wrong in Carmy's life, that caused this

Syd yells at Richie, she tells him she sees him, and what he's about, and he KNOWS that she sees him and that's why he's upset she's there.

Symbolically this is true.

Old habits and dysfunction die hard and anything new coming in to try and change a dysfunctional dynamic, get strong resistance and backlash.

During the whole confrontation with Richie, Carmy is actually checking on Syd making sure she's ok. He's angry, but checking on her

Symbolically he's left her to fight his fight (with some elements of his past) but he's making sure she's not getting destroyed by it.

At one point he comes out and says to Richie 'we'll fix it'. Jumping in the middle of it but only to placate the dysfunction of the past.

When Richie gets stabbed, Carmy is unsympathetic (the past needs to be destroyed), so he says ' probably f--kin deserved it' and Richie agrees!

But this fight is not Syd's fight. It's too much. It's Carmy's responsibility.

The past may be the cause of some of his behaviour, but his behaviour is his responsibility. HE has to control his behaviour, and fight the dysfunction of the past on his own. He can't let FAK and Richie and the old neighbourhood characters, feed his moods and use them as an excuse not to confront his feelings.

He threw Syd into the middle of his dysfunction by raging at her, then left her alone to fight imaginary constructs.

In reality HE is the one in front of her, holding on to the baggage of the past, letting it feed and fuel his behaviour towards her. The past has no power at all if Carmy doesn't give it power.

Something like that is too overwhelming for someone who doesn't know what they're dealing with.

So Syd had to leave. She had to bow out of that fight. Carmy is shocked that she's not staying, he wanted her to stay in the fight and be responsible, so he could take a break (much like he left her to do with the restaurant).

So when she leaves he is overcome.

He has to deal with his burdens on his own, but now he lost his glimmer of hope (also his temporary crutch).

She had to leave just then or that fight would have taken her down too.

Syd can be there for Carmy, but she cannot fight his fight for him. She's also got to hold him responsible for his actions

If she had not left, he wouldn't have been able to write and SEE in black and white 'my behaviour was not ok'

(he's gotta fix the fridge)

#sydcarmy #love #sydney adamu #carmy berzatto #carmy x syd #the bear #slow burn #romance #relationship #carmy x claire #richie jerimovich #fighting #dysfunction #carmyberzatto #restaurant #the past #passion #philip k. dick #philip k dick #time out of joint

[katimorton]

Everyone in life faces problems of different sizes and specifics. They show up throughout our entire life, and it's easy to get into obsessive thinking or become overly focused on our past mistakes or problems. Sometimes we can get stuck in obsessive thoughts about issues in our life, and we can focus too much on our problems -- trying to figure out how to solve them, what we could have done differently, or why the problem exists. While it's great to look at our problems or issues in life, we can get to a place where we spend so much time thinking about them that we start living our life fully in the problem. You may feel like you have too many problems in your life, find yourself obsessing over past mistakes, or thinking my life is so hard. When is it too much when it comes to focusing on your problems, and what you can do instead? Am I making my life harder? Am I the problem? I'll provide some mental health and life tips on how to find more freedom in your daily life and shift to the solution.

Doing inner child work may help your journey to healing. Explore my inner child workshop here: https://katimorton.com/the-shop/p/live-innerchild-workshop-cjtnc Or discover all of my workshops here: https://katimorton.com/the-shop

#am i the problem? #am i the asshole #am i making sense #mental health #therapy #kati morton #psychology #mental illness #obsessive thoughts #kati #therapist #katimorton #dysfunction #behavior #habits #counseling #Youtube

[catgirl-kaiju]

creating the main characters for my projects is just like... i am going to make a transfem that has so many issues

#scout's brain #writing #trans #transfem #queer #dysfunction

[sysmedsaresexist]

So, an interesting message was passed along to me and I'd like to talk about it

Thank you to the user for letting me post it <3

(none of this is at the user, btw)

I would like to think that when you typed this out, you realized how silly it sounded. I have so many questions, and I'm... Worried for people. This isn't the first time, by a long shot, that I've seen this kind of statement. I see it almost daily on my Twitter rounds. I see things that are so much worse, and things that are so much more subtle and insidious. This sentiment is so ingrained in the system community.

I'd like to first ask... What do people who think this way believe "disordered" looks like? Is it only the people in straightjackets and padded rooms? The people in hospitals? The people on disability, barely getting by? The people that are bed bound and have given up?

How do you think those people got there? Typically, it starts with what you've described.

Story time. Bear with me here.

When we ended up in the hospital the first time, we were working full time, engaged, paying rent and paying off debt in our own apartment. We were also unmedicated, exhausted, unhappy, and confused about why we were so... Broken. Why everyone could figure it out, but we couldn't. I loved my system, I would have already been dead without them.

That doesn't mean I didn't need any more help. Just because I was functioning, didn't mean I wasn't inherently dysfunctional. I was just as disordered then as I am now.

I saw the future, full of exhaustion and frustration, and I hated it. I would rather have just... Not. I'm lucky that I'm Canadian and that our health care system has better access and coverage. Not everyone has the same privilege that I have. So I checked myself in, got on medication, got therapy.

I had more energy, I was powering through life now, married, college loans paid off, saving to buy a house, I got a promotion and a raise, but the meds had the side effect of making my anxiety and OCD worse. I finally snapped. One of my alters had spent the night scrubbing at the same spot on the carpet that we had been scrubbing EVERY night for the last few week. The next day at work, I said to myself, "why am I taking this medication?" That was it, back to the hospital I went, checked in, re-evaluated, and on a new medication, and back in therapy.

Now I'm still tired, but not as tired, my anxiety and wildly fluctuating emotions are (mostly) under control. I have good days and bad days, good weeks and bad weeks. I'm still functioning, and I'm still dysfunctional, and I'm still disordered. And that's not a bad thing, it's not my fault, it's not my doing, and it's not always related to being a system. It's fixable, it can get better. I can be better. My life can always be better.

In what world is what you're describing NOT dysfunction? In what world do you NOT deserve help and resources? Are you playing Disability Olympics with yourself? There are people worse off then you, so you must be doing pretty damn good? Is that as good as it's going to get for you? Are you way more functional than those miserable DID systems? Because on my meds, it sounds like I might be a bit more functional at this point than you.

People start off like you, saying that they're just fine, totally functional, couldn't possibly be disordered, and it wears and it tears and it beats you down until you become what you think dysfunction looks like. Meanwhile, you were always dysfunctional, and you were always deserving of help.

When did we, as a society, decide that miserably getting through life, day to day, WAS the functional norm? When did we decide that disorder is only for the worst of the worst types of dysfunction?

The DSM certainly never said that. It says that disorder doesn't always mean distress and dysfunction, but society decided they were synonymous. You saying you're not dysfunctional or disordered is like saying people don't deserve therapy unless they're suicidal. You know how you stop people from getting to that point? Early intervention.

We don't do this with other disorders (at least not to this extent). If someone is depressed, we believe them (usually). We don't call them functioning depressionists and say they're not disordered. When people with depression go on meds and get therapy, we don't call them cured and take their diagnosis away. Why is DID treated any different?

Why do we ignore that clinicians say that disordered doesn't look like anything? It looks like you and me and everyone else who needs a leg up to be on even ground with other people-- to compete in life to the best of our abilities.

Dysfunction will come and go, some days it'll be better, some worse, but disorder is forever, and it's a label that protects me for when things get real bad again. For when I decide I need more help and I'm struggling-- be it tomorrow, next year, ten years from now.

Please note: this post isn't to push anyone to get a diagnosis-- a diagnosis isn't required to get any kind of help, and there are many valid reasons why people might decide against getting a diagnosis. Whether someone is diagnosed or planning on getting diagnosed is none of your damn business. The point of this post is to talk about the stigma around relating to the diagnosis of DID/OSDD, and how dysfunction and distress might present in more subtle ways than we typically think.

It's about how being disordered, or considering yourself disordered, isn't a death sentence.

#syscourse #actuallymultiple #actuallyplural #actuallyosdd #actuallytraumagenic #actuallydid #did #osdd #dysfunction #endogenic

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#dysfunctional family #dysfunction #toxic people #toxic relationship #toxic family #dysfunctional parents #mental health #mental health memes #mental health matters

[thebl00dyparallels]

Imagine if Blitz and Stolas had this conversation since Blitz and Lucifer’s both have self-hatred and was brought up in dysfunction with neglected fathers. Then Stolas tells Blitz to forgive himself the same way Chloe had to Lucifer

#I just died thinking about this! 🥰 #holy shit this is a revelation! 😱 #i can see this happening #tom ellis #stolas of the ars goetia #gay #lucifer morningstar #bisexual #neglectful parents #chloe decker #lauren german #blitz buckzo #satanic shows #dysfunction #pansexual #helluva boss #the parallels #deckerstar #stolitz #self hatred #4x09 #Youtube

[i-might-be-weird-barbie]

I miss having someone to talk to everyday

To check in throughout the day

To send silly stuff to

To just be myself with

I have no one to share my secrets with

No one to laugh with

No one to love

I have no one

Now most days I feel like no one

I can’t show up anymore

Not to work

Not to my family

Not to myself

#personal #lonliness #dysfunction

[cynthiabaileyrug]

Signs Of High Functioning Depression

Depression is not always easy to spot.  People with high functioning depression may appear to be successful & happy on the outside, but inside they are struggling with a constant battle against negative thoughts & emotions.  This type of depression is sometimes referred to as smiling depression, as individuals may appear to be “very together” but are struggling on the inside.  One of the most…

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#C-PTSD #complex #depressed #depression #depressive #disorder #dysfunction #dysfunctional #emotional #functioning #health #high #illness #mental #post traumatic stress #PTSD

[beautifleye]

I spoke to silence

Don’t say anything They don’t know We are family though No need to share our woes Keep your silence don’t allow any weakness to show Honesty is the key to this mystery The dysfunction that flows through Masks the psyche of the new generation I want to break this unnatural point of view Silence is golden haven’t you learned Who am I truly Do I even know my own worth In the mirror I…

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#dysfunction #family #generational #love #lupus #pain #poetry #self-esteem #silence

[justanothersyscourse]

Are alters a problem?

Firm no.

Can they be the problem?

Hard yes.

Listen, my alter that keeps having mental breakdowns over memories they're FAR too connected to is a problem, their methods of handling those emotions are a problem, the alters CAN be a problem when they shove their way to front at the first sign of a trigger. They can be a problem, just a like friend or a sibling or a parent can be a problem in your life, except you can't just walk away from them. But they (people like Cambrian and Sophie) all seem to have main character syndrome, where those problems only seem to matter when it's happening to THEM SPECIFICALLY.

If THEY, the host with main character syndrome, are not a problem, and not actively having a problem, their alters aren't a problem. As if they don't have problems outside of the host.

But it's just fact that sometimes they fucking ARE.

And we should be allowed to talk about it without everyone jumping down our throats about whether it's REALLY about hating being a system, or hating having alters, or whether you can be dysfunctional and still love your system.

These people are so deep in main character bullshit that they act as if saying alters can cause problems in your life is some cardinal sin.

I still love that alter dearly, I love my system, I love my life, I want to help him so badly, I want to take that pain (that I am INCAPABLE of seeing as my own, thanks, dissociation), and ease that hurt. Unfortunately, we can't seem to, not yet.

My alters being dysfunctional is MY OWN problem. It's my own dysfunction presented through a dissociated part.

If they're dysfunctional, so am I.

Edit, apparently someone in the notes of the other post is talking about how they only have amnesia during meltdowns to cope, so they're not impaired.

... Do these people hear themselves? If you need to cope in that way, there's some kind of dysfunction and impairment happening. Someone in your system IS dealing with those emotions and memories. If you need to dissociate because you can't handle stress or events, that's dysfunctional and it's impairing.

Forgetting the hurdle is there doesn't remove it.

Thank you to everyone to helped add to this post ❤️

#syscourse #dysfunction #actuallydid #actuallyosdd #actuallytraumagenic #did #osdd #sophiecourse

[unladyboss]

MIKEY

Carmy looked up to Mikey, as any little boy without a dad would look up to his older brother.

But we have to remember that Mikey was an addict. Apart from being an addict he seemed unable to concentrate for very long, or follow through on most of his ideas. Even Carmy said so IN Fishes

Still, Carmy thought he was something.

He was loving and caring, although he gave Carmy a hard time

Mikey didn't seem to think that of himsef

He's at bars at 6 in the morning, laughing at things that aren't funny

Pretty sure he had a wild dark side.

On the other hand he was tight according to Marcus

He could handle his mom to a certain extent, which is no small feat.

He's hot. Very hot.

He's popular. He can deal with people.

He was running his own business (I don't care about him borrowing money, even the biggest corporations borrows money)

So it wasn't the Bear that sent him over the edge.

Despair.

We could say it was drugs, but he was using drugs to cope

I think it was this. The final straw. I dunno what all happened to him as a kid but the culmination and this...

You could see he'd made his decision final just then.

#Mikey #mikey berzatto #thebearfx #the bear #love #sydney adamu #carmy berzatto #carmy x syd #slow burn #sydcarmy #romance #relationship #carmy x claire #desire #fantasy #dysfunction