#dr. nicole lepera

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#Dr. Nicole lePera #depression #quotes

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Psychologist Dr. Nicole LePera makes short Tiktok videos about toxic dysfunctional dynamics between parents and their children or between romantic partners so that the viewer can better understand how diverse trauma developed and how it can look like. Good for people who think they had a normal childhood but they now have anxiety, depression, addictions, low self esteem and so on.

On Tiktok: the holistic psychologist / Dr. Nicole LePera

#her videos are so good #psychologist #tiktok #Dr. Nicole LePera #advice #learning #research #self help #anxiety #healing #addiction #low self worth #low self esteem #attachment issues #attachment styles #fearful avoidant #dismissive avoidant #anxious attachment #trauma recovery #trauma healing #mental health #therapy #mental wellbeing #childhood #psychology #emotional intelligence #emotional instability

[adalua]

#nervous system #emotional dysregulation #mental health #trauma #cptsd recovery #complex ptsd #ptsd #emotional healing #dr nicole lepera

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We don't do compulsive behaviors because we lack willpower. We do them because it's the only way we know how to self soothe. Soothing is an instinctual behavior, not a moral one.

~Dr. Nicole Lepera~

#Dr Nicole Lepera #compulsive behavior #willpower #soothe #self soothe #what we lack #compulsive behaviors #instinct #morality #compulsive #soothing #instinctual behavior #fly #quote #mental health #mental health quotes #instincts #LHA #1introvertedsage #quotes #reality #compulsivity

[goddess-of-alchemy]

#alchemy #authencity #self awareness #compassion #wellness #quotes #dr nicole lepera #the world needs you #do the work

[supermaui]

#psychology #Twitter #Dr Nicole LePera #quotes #favorites

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Hoe u de liefde kunt zijn die u zoekt: doorbreek cycli, vind vrede en genees uw relaties!

https://www.bol.com/be/nl/p/how-to-be-the-love-you-seek/9300000145237413/ Een gids Breek Cirkels, Vind Vrede, en Genees Je Relaties, is een gids om je relaties te genezen, te beginnen met de relatie die je hebt met jezelf. Het boek biedt een nieuw pad naar heling van onze relaties door gebruik te maken van het nieuwste wetenschappelijke onderzoek. Het leert ons om te herkennen hoe onvervulde…

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#Dr Nicole Lepera #gezondheid en psychologie boek

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Feminine Reads

Here are some book recommendations for those thinking about starting or currently on their feminine journey (I've read majority of them!)

Remember femininity isn't about the external only but to truly rest in femininity is to heal from within and knowing that it's a lifelong journey of insight, reflection, self love and self care🤍

• Feminine Genius - Liyana Silver

• Manifest - Roxie Nafousi (she's releasing a new book Manifest -Dive Deeper in 2023 focusing on inner healing)

• How To Do The Work - Dr Nicole LePera

• Healing is The New High & Good Vibes, Good Life - Vex King

• 101 Essays That Will Change The Way You Think - Brianna Wiest

• Sacred Woman - Queen Afua

#black femininity #feminine beauty #feminine black women #feminine aesthetic #femininity #leveling up #self love #soft life #level up #it girl #feminine #feminine journey #divine feminine #elegant #elegance #grace #black princess #princesscore #femme

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A cycle breaker is the visionary of the family. The person who can see the dysfunction and believes there’s a different way to experience life. They tend to be seekers who are open and curious yet willing to be misunderstood.

Dr. Nicole LePera

#nicole lepera #family #quotes #life

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I've just cut and pasted the replies instead of posting all the images and then having to add alt text, but the thread is linked above

"Here's some signs you might be dysregulated: - you struggle to sleep even when exhausted - you instantly feel tears come on when angry or upset - you startle easily - you have 'overreactions' to minor things - crowds overwhelm or scare you - you feel anxious (maybe even plan escape routes) in new environments - you feel fear or panic when you can't control a situation - you use yelling or screaming as a way to protect yourself when you feel threatened Ultimately, we're constantly overstimulated. This makes it difficult for us to focus, to sleep, and to connect with people around us emotionally. Some people raised in this environment are drawn to careers that also are over stimulating. This could be nursing, hospitality, or any environment that is consistently stressful. It's important to make our home environment a place that cues safety to our nervous system. This will send signals to our body that the stress is not constant, and that the nervous system can stabilize. How To Create A Secure Environment: 1. A no screaming policy: screaming by nature sends danger dues to the body. If you live with people, have a policy that if screaming does happen, a break is taken to cool down. 2. Use the song "Weightless" by Marconi Union: this song was created by a professional sound practitioner and a study concluded that it reduced anxiety by 65% in participants with 3 minutes of playtime. 3. Use skin to skin touch: skin to skin touch is a nervous system regulator. Laying in quiet with someone after a stressful day can help the body recover and process the stressful event. 4. Turn down that social invite (if you need to): sometimes when we're overstimulated, we feel like we have to keep going and going. Taking time to rest, to recover, and to just be is important. It might feel uncomfortable before it's relaxing. 5. Get outside: listening to birds, the wind in the trees, and the natural sounds of nature has a calming effect on the entire body. Spend time time in the sun just listening to the world around you. 6. Noise cancelling headphones: if you live in a busy area, or around a lot of people, noise cancelling headphones can help block out the over stimulation, allowing your body to recover. 7. Meditations or soothing voices: use Spotify or YouTube to listen to voices that are soothing and calming for you. Just by hearing a regulated voice, our nervous system will co-regulate. With repeated practice, your body will learn that it can relax and does not have to be on guard. You'll sleep better, have more control over your emotional reactions, and feel overall more at peace."

Dr Nicole LePera

#learn you a thing #take care of yourself

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#Dr. Nicole lePera #quotes #relationships

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Traits of (an) Emotionally Immature Parent(s)

● Highly defensive/reactive - low frustration tolerance, emotional outbursts, unpredictable behaviour, blame other for feelings. ● Emotionally unavailable - ignore childs feelings, dismiss childs interests, expact the child to raise him/herself, show no affection. ● All focus was on them - expact the child to never upset the parent, blaming the child, childs thoughts and feelings don't matter. ● They're obsessed with appearance - praising the child in public and critical in private, no interest in childs feelings.

#psychology #emotionally immature parents #emotional abuse #parentification #dr nicole lepera #immature #frustration #emotional #unpredictable #blaming #dismissive #attachment styles #Youtube #childhood trauma #repeated micro traumas #emotional well being #feelings #parents

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mutuals I want to know better

I was tagged by @rachaeltad. Thanks! I love being tagged in stuff like this haha.

Last song I listened to: Bela Lugosi's Dead by Bauhaus.

Fav colour: I live in shades of green.

Currently watching: Honestly I am so bad at consistently watching and finishing tv series that I usually opt for low commitment things from YouTube or Dropout instead. I am trying to watch One Piece though, ironically.

Currently reading: How to Do The Work by Dr. Nicole LePera. Not usually a psychology book kind of person, but this was recommended by a friend. It's a good read so far!

Sweet/savoury /spicy: I have the largest sweet tooth that causes me the most dental problems.

Relationship status: Married :)

Current obsessions: Zelda. It's always been Zelda lol. I'm obsessed with Studio Ghibli! I've been listening to Joe Hisaishi soundtracks nonstop for the last several months.

Last thing I googled: “how to pronounce bibimbap" because my husband and I sound like morons every time we try to pronounce it on our own lol

Currently working on: a canon-divergent Zelda fic about a former Yiga member who is suddenly forced to wield the Master Sword through divine intervention. I have never written a canon-divergent fic, let alone original characters, so it's been a big project for me. I'm having lots of fun with it! My goal is to have it finished and uploaded to Ao3 by Halloween (fingers crossed).

I'll tag (but have absolutely zero expectation to participate, just want to say hi mostly) @zeldadiarist , @dykevirgo, and @hometownbard

#personal #tag game #rachael’s rambles #I do enjoy these but I feel self conscious posting them every time lol

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5 Ways To Create Emotionally Healthy Relationships

@the.holistic.psychologist 

Appreciation (for who they are, rather than what they do) 

Sounds like: 

“I love how passionate you are about things you are interested in”

 “You always take a minute to appreciate the simple things, it’s special” 

“You’re so kind to anyone you interact with, I love watching it” 

Open Curiosity (curiosity around their emotional state, their internal world) 

Sounds like: 

“what’s on your mind or in your heart?”

“how are you feeling about all of this?”

“i’m here if you want to talk about anything or process it all.” 

Simple Connection (intentionally making time to do things together) 

Looks like: 

playing music in the kitchen + making a meal together 

going on a hike or sitting together in nature 

trying a new restaurant together, taking a class, or doing something new for the both of you 

Energy Awareness (awareness + consideration of their emotional state) 

Sounds like: 

“I’m going through something, do you have the space to listen?” 

“are you looking for feedback or advice, or just a space to be heard?”

“i want to acknowledge i’m not really in the space to socialize recently, it’s nothing personal at all.” 

Freedom To Be Self (allows for authentic expression) 

Able to: 

take time and space for self when needed 

say no or have limits without fear

fully be yourself without hiding or denying parts of your reality 

encouragement towards growth + mutual evolution 

The Holistic Psychologist, Dr. Nicole LePera 

#the holistic psychologist #nicole lepera #selfhealers #holistic psychology #healthy relationships #emotionally safe

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What have you been reading recently?

Aw hi friend! I started reading Viola Davis’ book “Finding Me”! It’s a bit intense but there’s a lot of great lessons and advice for strength in it 😌 i just finished “How To Be The Love You Seek” by Dr. Nicole LePera and it was a beautiful, eye-opening book.

But for funsies, I’m reading “The French Gift” by Kirsty Manning and it’s got me hooked lol thank you for asking! I loved this question ☺️

#book worm alert

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Get to Know Me Tag Game

Tag game: answer these questions, and then tag people you want to get to know better.

Tagged by: @typhoidcandy (thanks honey 🤍)

3 ships: this is so hard lol Harringrove, Cunningrove/Calicheer, and Hellcheer!

First ship: Probably Drarry! I’ve always been a sucker for Enemies to Lovers 🤭

Currently consuming: I just had a Sugar Cookie Hershey’s Kiss!

Last movie: Puss in Boots: The Last Wish. please watch it if you’ve been thinking about it, it’s hilarious and the story is so so good!

Last song: Starring Role by Marina & the Diamonds

Currently watching: Reservation Dogs on Disney+! As an Indigenous person, I feel so seen and every episode feels like an inside joke!

Currently reading: How To Do the Work by Dr. Nicole LePera (I am trying to better myself and her book is very interesting and has been helping!)

Currently craving: a kiss 💋

No pressure tags: @akioukun @hephaestn @chrisbitchtree @aleksaidraws @thissortofsorcery @disdaidal @gracethieved @greyghoulclub @dragonflylady77 @robthegoodfellow @memes-saved-me & whoever would like to!

#tag game