#dont let people manipulate you

[mintharasthrone]

i wish people would stop calling your 20s the best years of your life

#that is not how it's gone for me....even for a year #it's weird to tell people like life will never be as good as it is now rarely #and so many women are filled with dread already in their 20s because of men saying our life is over and we've hit the wall #there's so much awful shit going on like how... #i also hate when people say that about AGRS like yes don't let predatory men take your youth but we dont have to say it will be the best #but they are important years where you grow and learn a lot and men will want to control mold and manipulate you #you get to develop yourself #with more autonomy now that you're not a teenager but im just saddened when i hear it. for lesbians it's even worse like look at the world #and when you're disabled or don't have basic needs...dont have privileges like what do you do... #idk it's for more people privileged or lucky people

[unforth]

Saw a post where people in the notes were arguing that behavior is only manipulative if it's intentional and planned, and tried to "prove" it with, like, Baby's First Example Of Manipulation ("if you don't do xyz, I'm gonna do abc.") and it's been ten minutes and it's still giving me hives. They were literally like "do we need to take 'manipulative' away and put it on the shelf" because they don't understand what manipulative behavior is.

Look if you (generic) think manipulative behavior has to be conscious, intentional, and planned, you are absolutely clueless and ripe for being manipulated. People can be i.n.s.a.n.e.l.y. manipulative without realizing they're doing it, and not recognizing that is, frankly, dangerous.

Signed, someone who has been repeatedly abused by people who certainly thought they weren't manipulative BUT ABSOLUTELY WERE.

#unforth rambles #babys first idea of manipulation is why i didnt recognize my ex was a manipulative jackass and stayed with him for 5 years #seriously its dangerous #you dont help yourself or the manipulative person by excusing it #people develop manipulative behaviors subconsciously to get through fucked up shit as children #and then unconsciously deploy those behaviors on everyone around them #and it will fuck up their lives trust me i know because I DID THAT YOO #the only way to do better is to face it snd get help and grow #excusing it does none of those things #im apparently tired enough that my Someone Is Wrong On The Internet bug wont let this go siiiiigh

[yuridovewing]

sorry to post a negative wof thing but sometimes i remember the “morrowseer is moonwatcher’s dad but no one knows or cares, its just this quirky trivia thing” bit and get irrationally frustrated. like if you didnt have any ideas on what to do with that tui then you couldve just. not done it.

#it literally makes no sense why she shouldnt know beyond ‘’some stray thoughts her mom accidentally let out’’ either #like ok iirc secretkeeper was barring her own mind from her. however she did that #but youre telling me that No One Else ever thought about morrowseer and his crimes #none of the nightwings none of the rainwings no one ever thinks about the queens right hand man #who orchestrated crimes against dragonkind and ruined so many lives or was a hero to some of them #no ones ever spared that guy a second thought? #or like- did no one know secretkeeper was morrowseers wife? did no one connect the dots that her secret baby was probably morrowseers secret #secret baby? its not like no one knew she was pregnant with his kid right??? #NO ONE that ever looked at moon and directed hostile thoughts abt her that affected her self worth ever went ‘’oh shes morrowseers baby #of course SHE was spared our same trauma’’ #NO ONE HAS THOUGHT ABOUT HIS CRIMES???? NOT A SINGLE ONE??? #wouldnt this contribute to her mistreatment and anxiety since he used his supposed power to hurt and manipulate people?? #but…. no tee hee its this silly little bit of trivia we wont delve into #like. again…. you didnt HAVE to make morrowseer her dad!! #like it comes across like tui came up with the idea of having the new protag be related to the previous antagonist and thought it was cool #but then didnt have any real ideas beyond that so she just made it this weird unspoken ironic fact? #like…. no i dont think its this ironic scene that she finds his literal corpse in the volcano and doesnt know its him #and doesnt seem that horrified by it #she should see that and feel incredibly complicated and disgusted feelings

[sharksfood]

something i adore about Mickbell and Kuro is that they’re incredibly affectionate with each other but are not in a romantic relationship. i feel like you dont often see friends or family dynamics with lots of physical affection in anime. Mickbell considers Kuro a family member and Kuro considers Mickbell his boss, but they love each other like close friends!!

#babble #dungeon meshi #i know lots of people think mickbell is manipulating kuro but i dont think so #mickbell had a horrible childhood and no family so he loves kuro like an older brother #and kuro is insanly loyal!!! he is captivated!!! #no body ship them as romantic partners i want them to STAY BESTIES #you can ship the girlies all you want LET ME HAVE THIS

[theokusgallery]

Why did you make this AU?

Short answer: I love unethical men.

#i have a Thing for emotional manipulation in fiction. originally i wasnt supposed to talk about nick on main #usually when i see emotional manipulation in comics or fics or else its too... obvious? like. not subtle enough to be... realistic? #i dont know if im making sense. but theres multiple things i think about when making nick lore #1) no one wakes up one day thinking 'im gonna be a bad person today ! :D' #2) no one wakes up one day thinking 'im gonna let myself get manipulated today ! :D' #theres gotta be plausable deniability *or* youre in too deep to even try to deny-- that wasnt your original question was it #anyway. to stop the rambling: i have a thing for exploring the worst parts of the human psyche *and* im a homosexual. #i want to see bad people who are genuinely bad people and there's not a lot of those so im making 'em myself #...nick isn't as bad as it could get really. he's pretty tame actually #maybe i'll make worse things one day #ask #powercoreact #and of course there's the fact that nick was originally a vent thing but that's a story you unlock at lvl. 5+ friendship #arsenic #omori au #omori

[flowercrowngods]

hi my inbox is full of so much love and affection right now and i swear i am not ignoring anyone, i see all your "you make me happy" asks and your cat pics and your "i hope you have a wonderful day" messages but i swear i'm not ignoring you, i'm just gonna bask in them a little longer 🥰🤍

#just thought i would mention that i am not annoyed by any of you or ignoring you or anything #and also it is crazy that i am. wild take incoming but uh. that i can be someone to some people again without uh panic or nausea #it's been a journey (a wild and long and hard journey) but some of you have made me into someone for yourselves and that thought is not #as scary or overwhelming as it would have been in november when i made this account as a fresh start after uh. #manipulation and gaslighting and being abandoned. yknow the usual #and uh. i can say 'i love you' back again (in that platonic way). it's still mostly ily instead of the real deal but!!! i dont feel like i' #manipulating anyone anymore with just. yknow. being myself. and i'm coming out of my shell more #just some uh introspection here after (and among) weeks of depression idk it's not all bad and depression doesn't diminish the progress #and i'm realising that in this second and i know following this blog is probably like a rollercoaster and still feel like the most annoying #person on tumblr but!!! i can say 'ily'. and i can be affectionate. and i'm just gonna focus on that some more tonight :3 #and i'm gonna bask in all the love in my inbox. and look at all y'all's kitties 🤍 i am rambly but i am making this space for myself #and i let myself take it. and i let that be okay. and for now that's enough ✨ #(okay dio out. flower for you 🌷)

[orcelito]

Having lost my cat, my uncle, my great grandmother, my grandma's best friend (& one of the people who helped raise me), AND my dad all within the span of 9 months,

I have little sympathy for people who use deaths as an excuse to be an asshole. I get it, it sucks. Get the fuck over it. Your grief is not an excuse to treat others like shit. What the fuck.

#speculation nation #this isnt anything personal. im just reacting to a post that kind of pissed me off. #to be fair i was never close with my great grandmother so im not particularly broken up about that one #but it's still yet another death in the family within such a short period of time. #my cat is on this list bc he was the first one and it majorly fucked me up. so yeah it deserves to be here. #the others. well. my grandma's best friend makes me sad but at least she was getting up in years #my uncle and dad though. especially my dad. yea those have fucked me up the most. #im never gonna be the same after experiencing all of this in such short succession. #it sucks in a major way. and things are still continuously tumultuous. #but you dont see me lording it over people and using it as an excuse to be an asshole. #maybe i make people uncomfortable with how casually i mention it. but like whatever. it's simply my truth. #that's still just like. me just talking about what ive been up to. that kind of thing. #idk acting like someone needs to be treated with the most tender of touches after experiencing a major death #to the point where you cant even tell them when theyre being a manipulative little asshole? #i dont fucking think so! #yeah okay all grief hits different but ive pulled myself up by the bootstraps and kept my head on straight #even after i experienced death after death after death after death after Fucking Death #whats your excuse? youre Sad? we all fucking are. thats just life. #it's horrible and awful and it sucks that we have to live with this but you CANT let that affect how you treat other people!!!!! #and here i am making my own post venting about it instead of replying to the aita post that sparked this #bc the person the post was about just made me so angry to hear about. #but i am... a reasonable adult who separates themselves from situations before reacting in anger... #and so im making a tumblr post to get the emotions out instead of getting emotional at random strangers lol #anyways i actually had a pretty good day today. but in the way of grief. the smallest things can trigger moods sometimes. #but i am letting the emotions flow... here they are... i have expressed them... and i shall now release them... amen... #negative/ #i guess lol. i sure did rant enough for it.

[mudstoneabyss]

neurodivergent but in the opposite way from what I see a lot. "neurotypicals are always using unspoken social rules and cues instead of just stating things clearly and actually saying what they mean like neurodivergent-" brother I am playing 5 dimensional chess with multiverse time travel

#i hate that post thats like ''neurotypicals blah blah blah use your words'' because let me tell you. im neurodivergent #& i Can Not Fucking use my words. my brain is scrambled I dont know what to say I can only throw things down & hope ppl are picking them up #joyousposting #sometimes I feel like. manipulative because I'll say stuff with the specific intent of getting someone else to say this thing in response #(with a large amount of certainty they will) #but all that ever is is like. getting them to ask a specific question because my brain cant Say What I Want unless prompted by a question #example: lets say I want to talk about X. I'll bring up X then be like theres this Thing about X knowing someone will probably be like #oh what is this Thing? then I can say what I want about X #trying to get other people to say what I'm thinking but not to persuade or manipulate them into thinking like me but to point at and go #yeah that thats what I mean but couldn't communicate #if left to myself I do this where I keep talking to try and properly convey what I'm trying to say without ever feeling like I successfully #do so and in fact make things more confusing #Your neurodivergent brain go roundabout ways to link seemingly unrelated thoughts mine throws them all at once at me at several branching #paths #slash j ik im not the neurodivergent who does this #this isnt a vent btw

[eosofspades]

alright. hot take time

as someone who both loves Cayde-6, loves Forsaken, loves the ongoing Destiny plotline(s) and the themes therein, and absolutely Does Not Expect Nor Want Cayde to come back to life, i think the way a lot of this fandom treats Cayde-6 is. uh. incredibly fucking unfair.

as a disclaimer, again: i do not want Cayde to come back to life. i know it is not going to happen. i know the ongoing story of Destiny 2 is MUCH more impactful without him here, and i plan on making an in-depth post about it later.

now. that said. please for the love of god stop dragging his character through the mud to prove your point.

"Cayde had no reason to be in TTK" "Cayde was a weak character" "Cayde is a Nathan Fillion stand in" just say you have no grasp on this character and go!! Cayde was an INCREDIBLY well-written character, with an insane amount of depth and lore and emotion hidden behind a careless, aloof mask and it's so obvious if you look at him for longer than two goddamn seconds??

Cayde wasn't a bothersome idiot, and he wasn't incompetent, and "disruptive" wasn't his main quality. he was the optimist. that was literally his role in the story. the comic relief and the optimism. the entire reason that he had to die before we got into the darker storylines like Shadowkeep/Beyond Light/Witch Queen etc. is because, by the nature of being the optimist, he wouldn't fit into the darker narrative that Destiny 2 was about to steer into.

just. say that you don't like him and go. you don't have to like him. stop SAYING that you like him and then dragging his character through the dirt. he has an incredibly interesting story (and backstory) and boiling him down to nothing more than a disruptive asshole is a huge disservice to his character and to Bungie, who made a point of giving him a well-developed backstory, motivation, goals, lore, and a spectacular DLC that they clearly put a lot of time and care into!

(not to mention that whenever anyone tries to point out flaws in Zavala or Ikora to talk about Cayde, at least 2 dozen people will go up in arms about how disrespectful it is to put down another character to talk about the one you like, then will turn around and say Cayde had no narrative purpose or impact when they're trying to garner sympathy for Eris or defend Uldren.)

#i am so angry about this actually. stop dragging a well written character just because you dont like some of their fans #also i can guarantee you if i said ANYTHING about how much i hate mara sov without even MENTIONING her writing #(which is really good!! she's really well developed!! she's also an abusive and manipulative nightmare!!!) #i would have at least six people LEAP at my throat with claws outstretched to tell me i'm being sexist and she's got good WRITING #i don't know how to tell you this but hating a character's personality does not make you bigoted toward that character #also liking a character more than others does not make you bigoted towards the others #<- this is specifically targeted toward people who say that cayde is only popular because he's white-coded (which isn't even true????) #clovis bray is white-coded. cayde is literally just the optimistic comic relief he's not supposed to be societal commentary #at most he is PERHAPS commentary on masculinity/grief/unhealthy coping mechanisms #race has nothing to do with it. i say this as a poc please stop please let us enjoy things i'm begging #destiny 2 #cayde 6 #discourse #mine #analysis #i am going to have so many people at my throat for this post lets go #eos destiny essays

[lordvirenkin]

Viravos is so.

I feel like ive skipped a few stages of... something. Because whenever i look at viravos art, ESPECIALLY ones that like, completely nail Aaravos and his malicious trickster god nature, it evokes this... lowkey genuinely profound feeling in me.

It makes me feel like im a thousand years into the future and theyre being treated like Real myths. Like im part of a world where people will read the old texts the same way people read shit like the Prose + Poetic Eddas and start drawing fanart for like... the Actual Gods and Historical Figures, with an air of tentative respect but still a healthy appreciation for the inherently horny nature of him and Viren's relationship. Because everything is going to become history eventually and they are simply made to be remembered for the tragedy and the theatricality of what they are. Do i make sense?

Everything we've heard and seen about Aaravos up to this point paints him as... Such a Figure. Hes not a character hes a figure hes a symbol he is a MYTHIC GOD on par with the likes of Loki and Hermes and Sun Wukong and Pan, yet with this added note of real ill-will--he feels like he was created by a people to conceptualize and personify the cruel and unfortunate coincidences of the world, the sour ironys and examples of tragic hubris in life.

Hes egotistical and megalomaniacal and domineering and playful and aloof and dangerous and what are you supposed to feel when someone like that makes a game of wrapping humans like Viren around his little finger. Do you understand me? Does anyone hear me?

#tdp spoilers #tdpkin #tdp aaravos #tdp viren #the dragon prince #tdp #all lot of the recent art has seriously been hitting me somewhere special #but always If and Only if the way Aaravos is drawn and posed in a way that implies hes a dom #something about his appearance...he is so so pretty. so so sub-able on a material level. but when people draw him like a dom despite it #it unlocks something. something Big. like pandoras box big. its profound To Me #but maybe im just a gay kinnie i dont know #hes manipulative and its obvious that he is but hes just so compelling that it makes one willing to listen anyway #its about putting on wax wings and flying right up to the clouds to look at the sun up close. to let it kaleidoscope your vision #even though you can feel the drip drip drip of your safety net falling away from you

[kiras-monkey-bum-face]

being a TA helping the class gain confidence, learn from their mistakes, build bonds and help educational progress:

being a TA that has no choice in having to do whatever the fuck an off timetable child wants to do, who's guardian said "good luck" as soon as they drop them off in a violent mood

#i have too much shit to do i need to start charging babysitting rates #i know im being so damn harsh but my god PLEASE i hate going into work knowing i have to just let them do what they want #i have mental issues. i dont get free passes to do what i want. #'oh but youre an adult' trust me weve had enough training about windows of tolerance and its reiterated people under 25 can be pushed #the same way was a 10 year old. i have worked with this kid for over a year and no matter what we do fuck all works #even the therapists my work has say the child manipulates everything in their favour #there are other sen kids in my class that desperately need support but i cannot be there because you wants to play chess and bake cookies #anyway if you cant tell im reconsidering my job #stop talking helena

[radiotorn]

i need to draw o/ff characters again and post hcs abt them to my blog. oogoog

#i dont particularly like the popular hc that en/och eats his els/en. it feels weird to me for multiple reasons #KEEP IN MIND THIS IS ALL PERSONAL THINKINGS OK ok here i go #ik i said id post em on the blog but im abt to go to sleep so imma say it here #but like. mahybe im just crazy or looking too deep into things. but i dont see any reason for en/och = eats his els/en besides the fact #that hes fat. and like thats it from what i can rememebr. #like id ont. remember him saying any dialogue that would insinuate it?? #OK hold on clarifying = eats them alive/eats their bodies and NOT just eating burnt ashes/sugar #OR it could also be something that like was thought of bc of the horror element of the game + #the zone is a zone that is like Heeyyyy everyone eats everyone here :) so obvs it could just be like a horror hc to go with the theme #or environment of the zone #so like obvs im not gonna like. be upset over ppl liking the hc like to most people it seems just canon to them #but i do not like it....not one bit. he WOULD gaslight and manipulate his workers. absoltuely. but he would NOT eat them alive. #i feel like en/och is too much of like...he has high standards for his foods (chef it up. he can make the fanciest of meals and the nicest #of cakes). so i feel like he'd be like. insulted like ummmmmm no lol that is NOT very presentable. and gross. put their ashes in it and #dress it up and maybe ill eats it then :] yk???? #IDK. maybe im just thinking waayyyy too much into this. but i kinda dont care i love this game and i love en/och. #i dont need to fix him hes perfect as he is (manipulative and a cannibal but not like that way. ok?) #cant you let her win for once ????? #ok ok im done for now but for this game? my dear friends. i am ALWAYS open to talking about my thoughts #ow.file

[smugraccoon137]

I forgot how much I hate everyone treating Regina like shit in s2 

#like a good source of conflict yada yada people stuggle to forgive and gain forgiveness yada yada #but have you considered? #that i dont like it #and everything regina has ever done does technically make sense #and im sorry your mother was killed/assassinated snow that really sucks #but your parents dying early is a completely different struggle from being abused manipulated and controlled by an alive parent #we need to get some real liscensed therapists in story brooke #cus lets be real we just need a group session #once upon a time #ouat #ouat rewatch #text #textpost

[snekdood]

i could give these bitches a million dollars and they'd still treat me like im not doing enough. like im done w yall fake progressives yall dont care about shit for shit. yall only care about yourselves and shit that benefits you specifically and if it benefits anyone else thats an after thought and just a bonus to you, you dont actually *care* if other ppl benefit from the shit you do.

#hell you'd prolly demand more money bc you're so inside your own ass and ego that thats all you care about. #YOU getting money. THATS IT. thats ALL its ever been. #you'd rather play on my guilt and get more money (abuser behavior btw) than decide 'this is enough for me now lets ask him to donate #to charity' #bc you think its FUNNY. you think its morally fine and neutral to do that kind of shit. #you think its FUNNY to be abusive and play on peoples guilt. thats literally it. you get kicks and laughs out of it. thats all you care #about. thats literally it. #you care about manipulating ppl outta their money and you think being abusive is funny and being manipulative is funny and thats your entir #personality. this is just an example btw just tryna speak on a phenomena im observing #yall would do this shit too if i 'apologized' for all supposed 'crimes' i committed #you'd demand more apolgies for more shit i either didnt do or is tame asfuck that other people in your life do but that you dont bat an eye #at bc you dont hate them. but bc you hate me you think your hatred of me is a moral justification to treat me like shit #and youd demand those apologies bc you think me humbling myself before you is FUNNY. you think of it as if im a peasant and your a king bc #its the only way you can feel power over me. #you dont *actually* care about me righting wrongs. thats never what its been about. you want to feel power. thats it #which is why- by the way- dont often apologize for shit you guys demand me to. because ik its alll just a power play thing for you. #you dont care. #not that i even have money like that- by the way- but im trying to point out how yall would be about this #i could give you 10 billion dollars- if i had it- and it still wouldnt be enough.

[pinkseas]

girl who thinks about xiaolumi too much literally while in the middle of writing abt them and then starts crying a little bit

#LISTENNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNNN. listennnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn. #aly.genshin #okay im jsut. gonna like say so many words #idk i had this Very Skewed Perception for a Very Long Time #that there was a certain kind of love and closeness only achievable through pain. #that you'd have to yank someones ribcage open and carve yourself out a place in their heart to really belong there #that was my first real lasting impression of true love. that for such intense trust and care to exist there had to be equal pain #for a while i thought All love was like that. and then the more i grew up the more i learned just how wrong i was #but even when i got to a point where id learned SO much and was doing SO much better #i genuinely didnt think that vulnerability could exist without pain #and i dont think that was something i thought about everyone. i think i believed that for Other People it wouldnt necessarily have to hurt #but for me? if i wanted to really actually be open and honest with someone? if i wanted to trust them wholly? #they'd have to tear me open and sew a piece of themselves right there in my chest and never let the wound close #that was what closeness meant. that was what trust meant. #and id rather never achieve true trust that led to that closeness than let someone do that to me again. #and then i met ash and craig and i started to believe maybe it didnt have to hurt. maybe you COULD be wholly vulnerable without things like #manipulation and pain and abuse and whatnot #but i still hadnt reached that point. still HAVENT reached that point. #and even though i found myself believing it was maybe possible. the belief wasnt wholly there? #i had no examples i couldnt think of anything or anyone who really truly loved each other and had such a deep intimate level of trust- #-without having to hurt each other to cause it #and then !!!!!!!!!!! those two. and all those fucking questlines and all the little details ingame #two people who've been left behind in one way or another and struggle to open themselves up to or really trust anyone else #SO used to working on their own SO used to being alone no one left to rely on no one left to let in. the entire world kept at arms length #but with each other !!!!!!!!! there's so much CARE #she falls and he catches her and thats it! shes saved. shes fine. #but he still holds on. he supports her as she catches her breath and really recovers. #keeps a hold on her hand and her waist and does the little squeeze thing before letting go. silent reassurance. silent faith. #and in the chasm there's just. she cares so MUCH about him she gets so worried !!!!!! #HELP I HIT A TAG LIMIT I TYPED SO MUCH MORE AND ITS JUST. GONE. reblogging this to continue hold on

[lebrookestore]

feelings are so complex

#its funny in a way yk #because like on one end of the spectrum theres this person that was supposed to be my best frien #but she ended up manipulating me and doing some really shitty things and will be all nice to my face but talk shit behind my back #and honestly she can be a terrible horrible person and has hurt another close friend of mine really badly #and i want to hate her so badly #and i think part of me does hate her because being around her now just drains me of my energy and i suck at being fake about people #but at the same time i loved her at one point bc she was my best friend and i cant just let that go?? #and she's going through a lot so i just feel sad for her #so like i cant hate her if im sympathetic and its just weird idk man #i want to hate her but i cant #like i feel awful ab the shit she's going thru but that doesnt excuse the crappy human being she's being but i feel like a bad person #holding her accountable for that bc of how much she's going thru and like why why WHY is it like this why is it not in black n white #then on the other end of the spectrum there are feelings that like im kind of terrified off but like #i underestimated just how easily those type of feelings can blossom #is this me talking about the L word? yes. 🧍🏻‍♀️ #i thought that falling in love per se would be like. way more work way more time etc etc #but apparently not? its oddly simply? but at the same time admitting it is like oh okay what #and therefore its like u gotta take time to figure yourself and it out and then like #like you dont really realize it until you're standing in the midst of it #man i dont even know what this post is lmfao 😭 i quite frankly dont even know what im saying right now i am just putting my thoughts out #into the abyss because i gotta put it somewhere #goodbye and goodnight now #brooke rambles