#don't smile at me

[sinceyesterday]

billie eilish <3

#1989 taylor's version #fearless taylor's version #red taylor's version #taylor swift #taytay #the music industry #evermore #speak now taylor’s version #lover era #folklore #billie eilish #barbie #when we all fall asleep where do we go #wwafawdwg #dsam #don't smile at me #happier than ever #hte #I love billie eilish #billie is my fav

[jaxyza]

don't smile at me 😶

#artbyjax #art by jax #jaxyza #fnaf #five nights at freddy's #michael afton #foxy #billie eilish #don't smile at me

[rainparadefromhell]

The way that I adore both of the albums so much. Like tbh she knocked it out of the park with wwafawdwg, I don't think there will ever be a debut that strong. It was revolutionary for the industry and that's even more impressive for how different it was at the time (being a sort of a nightmarish creepy concept). The production of the album (huge huuuuge credit to Finneas) is out of this world and I'm still not over it even in 2022.

Then Happier than ever came out and some people checked out, which is fine but I love that we saw this more personal, grown side of her. Happier than ever had such a chokehold on all of us and she proved she's not a one hit (or album) wonder. Like Billie Bossa Nova?? Goldwing?? Fucking addicting even though it's so different.

She's such an incredible artist and I just have so much faith that she will continue to be as successful if not more. Like this girl already acomplished so fucking much, imagine her at like 30, older, wiser... Just one of those artists I cannot wait to grow up with.

#billie eilish #wwafawdwg #happier than ever #i also love #don't smile at me #but as an ep it was more of an introduction to what she can do #she's so fucking amazing

[narisomaarts]

A fave ♡ ~Lil

#billie eilish #don't smile at me #album cover #art #drawing #digital art #artists on tumblr

[desenredando-pensamientos]

Nunca he caído desde una altura así de alta

Cayéndome en tus ojos de océano

#ocean eyes #don't smile at me #billie eilish #musica #songs #Spotify

[andthebeanstalk]

Today my therapist introduced me to a concept surrounding disability that she called "hLep".

Which is when you - in this case, you are a disabled person - ask someone for help ("I can't drink almond milk so can you get me some whole milk?", or "Please call Donna and ask her to pick up the car for me."), and they say yes, and then they do something that is not what you asked for but is what they think you should have asked for ("I know you said you wanted whole, but I got you skim milk because it's better for you!", "I didn't want to ruin Donna's day by asking her that, so I spent your money on an expensive towing service!") And then if you get annoyed at them for ignoring what you actually asked for - and often it has already happened repeatedly - they get angry because they "were just helping you! You should be grateful!!"

And my therapist pointed out that this is not "help", it's "hLep".

Sure, it looks like help; it kind of sounds like help too; and if it was adjusted just a little bit, it could be help. But it's not help. It's hLep.

At its best, it is patronizing and makes a person feel unvalued and un-listened-to. Always, it reinforces the false idea that disabled people can't be trusted with our own care. And at its worst, it results in disabled people losing our freedom and control over our lives, and also being unable to actually access what we need to survive.

So please, when a disabled person asks you for help on something, don't be a hLeper, be a helper! In other words: they know better than you what they need, and the best way you can honor the trust they've put in you is to believe that!

Also, I want to be very clear that the "getting angry at a disabled person's attempts to point out harmful behavior" part of this makes the whole thing WAY worse. Like it'd be one thing if my roommate bought me some passive-aggressive skim milk, but then they heard what I had to say, and they apologized and did better in the future - our relationship could bounce back from that. But it is very much another thing to have a crying shouting match with someone who is furious at you for saying something they did was ableist. Like, Christ, Jessica, remind me to never ask for your support ever again! You make me feel like if I asked you to call 911, you'd order a pizza because you know I'll feel better once I eat something!!

Edit: crediting my therapist by name with her permission - this term was coined by Nahime Aguirre Mtanous!

Edit again: I made an optional follow-up to this post after seeing the responses. Might help somebody. CW for me frankly talking about how dangerous hLep really is.

#hlep #original #mental health #my sympathies and empathies to anyone who has to rely on this kind of hlep to get what they need. #the people in my life who most need to see this post are my family but even if they did I sincerely doubt they would internalize it #i've tried to break thru to them so many times it makes my head hurt. so i am focusing on boundaries and on finding other forms of support #and this thing i learned today helps me validate those boundaries. the example with the milk was from my therapist. #the example with the towing company was a real thing that happened with my parents a few months ago while I was age 28. 28! #a full adult age! it is so infantilizing as a disabled adult to seek assistance and support from ableist parents. #they were real mad i was mad tho. and the spoons i spent trying to explain it were only the latest in a long line of #huge family-related spoon expenditures. distance and the ability to enforce boundaries helps. haven't talked to sisters for literally the #longest period of my whole life. people really believe that if they love you and try to help you they can do no wrong. #and those people are NOT great allies to the chronically sick folks in their lives. #you can adore someone and still fuck up and hurt them so bad. will your pride refuse to accept what you've done and lash out instead? #or will you have courage and be kind? will you learn and grow? all of us have prejudices and practices we are not yet aware of. #no one is pure. but will you be kind? will you be a good friend? will you grow? i hope i grow. i hope i always make the choice to grow. #i hope with every year i age i get better and better at making people feel the opposite of how my family's ableism has made me feel #i will see them seen and hear them heard and smile at their smiles. make them feel smart and held and strong. #just like i do now but even better! i am always learning better ways to be kind so i don't see why i would stop

[cowboy-like-moony]

album: don’t smile at me

my favorite lyric: uuhh idk maybe "tell the mirror what you know she's heard before, I don't wanna be you anymore" that just gets me

my favourite song: rn watch, I just woke up one day and was like I need to listen to this song on repeat

the song that makes me cry: idontwannabeyouanymore

the song that's a fucking bop: many bops, but to me bellyache

the song I most dislike: hmm idk but there are some songs that I don't really listen to (but not necessarily because I dislike them, I just never really put the whole album on for some reason) but I feel like it's unfair to put songs I don't really know (yes I don't want to be unfair to songs and I'm aware that that's a little silly)

#billie eilish #don't smile at me

[devilart2199-aibi]

Bdubs Is Amazing! ✨

#secret life spoilers #secret life #secret life smp #secret life fanart #ethoslab #etho #ethoslab fanart #bdubs #bdoubleo100 #bdouble0 #bdoubleo fanart #bdouble100 fanart #mcyt fanart #mcyt #this ep had me smiling and laughing so much i gave myself a headache OTL 🤣 #i don't need a present for Christmas this was already enough #AHHHHHHGGHHRHHH THEM

[mingyusbinch]

REST IN PEACE, DEAR MOONBIN (1998-2023)

#moonbin #astro #moon bin #i don't want to be here right now honestly i just wanted my last post about moonbin to be the ones where hes smiling as my last memory #it kills me to see my posts reblogged with sad messages now #and i still can't believe this news either #i've been mia anyway but now im even less inclined to go on tumblr rn #im so sorry for everyone including family/friends of bin #and himself but i cant think about that bc it will break me apart #rest in peace bin i'll miss you more than anything

[ofswordsandpens]

the fact that the biggest smile we've seen on Percy's face so far is when he's petting that little lizard thing is just so

#the kid is pretty miserable the majority of the time so when he smiles it really stands out #watched that scene like oh that's what happiness looks like on him #actually don't quote me on biggest smile I just cannot remember that kid grinning bigger at a different point in time rn #im like 95% sure #pjo #percy jackson #pjo adaptation #mine

[elbdot]

LITTLE COMIC based on how I made a friend at 1 am while crawling on the ground, picking up Maybugs to save them from getting squished by cars.

PRETTY SURE I must've looked like a strange little gremlin to any onlookers passing by. Also yes he held a bug like a CHAMP. He passed my test. We still hang out 😂

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#comics #comic #artists on tumblr #drawing #comic art #digital art #bugs #insects #mod #Also yes by now I'm known in my neighborhood as the BEE GIRL #I'm always taking pictures of wild bees during spring and summer hanging around the front gardens of my neighbors #Now they all know me and greet me with a smile but I STILL DON'T KNOW THEIR NAMES #It's really fun to own this reputation tho I LOVE IT #I made a lot of friends this year thanks to my hobby #Hope this trend continues LMAO #my art #elbdot art #elbdot

[rainparadefromhell]

hands getting cold

losing feeling is getting old

was i made from a broken mold?

is one of my favorite lyrics of all time. it is just so beautiful and perfectly captures what depression is and why it feels like you can't get out of it. it changes your whole perspective that you have of yourself and you start to think you were just born, just made wrong. the whole backstory of the mold lyric makes this even more amazing. i'm so happy she's doing better now.

#i'm fine i just love this song so much lol #idontwannabeyouanymore #billie eilish #don't smile at me

[tatakaeeren]

Gojo Satoru ❤ | Jujutsu Kaisen S2 "Hidden Inventory 3"

#gojo satoru #satoru gojo #jjkedit #jjk spoilers #jjk #jjk 2 #jujutsu kaisen #toriigifs #me totally ignoring the sad parts of the episode... if i dont see them they don't exist 😭 #Satoru's smile is my everything #usergojoana #usergokalp #userartless #useraki #userhyu #usermica #userdabiluna #userokkottsus #userinahochi #usermoonz #tuserelena #tusersky #usersenka #usersophies #userhanyi #userheidi #userlisette #kilruas #hanatonin

[x-i-l-verify]

Something that I've noticed ever since the Smiling Critters were introduced is that they can so easily be paired off into complementary duos, ones that are specifically designed to teach children fundamental lessons about life and self-care from two different angles. It's really interesting to me.

Like obviously you have Dogday and Catnap, with their sun/moon, dog/cat dichotomy, that stress how important it is to have fun and get things done during the day, but also that it's important to wind down, relax, and get a good night's sleep.

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Bubba Bubbaphant and Craftycorn were introduced as a duo in the Smiling Critter show's intro, and their dichotomy is quite obvious. They are basically the right and left sides of the brain personified. Bubba is the left side of the brain, logical, analytical, focused on math and science. Craftycorn is the right side of the brain, creative and imaginative, focused on the arts and self-expression. They represent learning and academia in all its forms, the different ways people engage with and understand the world.

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Hoppy Hopscotch and Kickin' Chicken form the sportsmanship duo. They are both portrayed as enjoying sports and the outdoors, but in different ways that highlight the different ways sports can be played and enjoyed and also what it entails to be successful at them. Hoppy Hopscotch may be loud and impatient, but she is also a team player, shown in her willingness to slow down her fast pace to make sure none of her friends are left behind. Kickin' Chicken, on the other hand, is laid-back, relaxed, and chill, the described "cool kid" of the group, but he's also described as having a ton of perseverance, more of a "slow and steady wins the race" type of person.

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This leaves Bobby Bearhug and Picky Piggy as the last pair. Fittingly, these two are all about how to meet the fundamental needs of yourself and others. Bobby teaches children how to nourish themselves emotionally through showing and receiving care from others, while Picky teaches them how good food is important to nourish the body and soul. Depriving oneself of either of these things only makes oneself and therefore everyone around one miserable, because those fundamental needs are no longer being met.

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Like fr, this is some pretty genius marketing right here. You have enough characters that every kid will have their favorite, but not so many that any would get lost in the shuffle, because the lessons each one of them would teach would be integral to the group as a whole. It really makes me that much sadder we saw basically nothing of the Smiling Critters during the game itself, because Mob Games struck gold with this concept, only to ultimately do nothing with it. :/

But I guess that's what fandom is for, eh?

#poppy playtime #poppy playtime chapter 3 #smiling critters #dogday #catnap #picky piggy #kickin chicken #hoppy hopscotch #bobby bearhug #craftycorn #bubba bubbaphant #xi writes #tbh that 'slow and steady wins the race' comment makes me really wish Kickin' Chicken was a turtle instead #just to drive home that parallel even further #ngl i've been thinking about making this post for ages but i finally got off my butt and did it #me holding the Smiling Critters like Marge Simpson holding a potato: I just think they're neat! #it'd be a shame if the game company that came up with them never DID anything with them HUH MOB GAMES? #mob games don't walk away from me #MOB GAMES GET BACK HERE I HAVE THOUGHTS-

[botmilf]

Thorough medical examination

this one's hella rough but fuck it i'm tired lol

#optiratch #tfp optimus #tfp ratchet #transformers prime #tfp #otp art #they are so soft and TOUCHY with each other in the show it always makes me SMILE #i honestly don't know whether to thank the animation team or the writers for that but either way these two are my blorbos #maccadam

[bruciemilf]

I wonder how many times Clark and the batkids + Alfred revived Bruce with the Lazarus Pit and just never told him abt it

#he pieces it together later but i mean. its so hard for him to miss now that hes looking back at it #like why is he always always always cold with a turtleneck on and heating blasting #why is his appetite so scarce? how come his sleep deprived body withstands hours - sometimes DAYS - of patrol #and functions perfectly? how come time passes by but he stays the same? why wont clark and dick stop giving gim #*him looks of loving grief? #why does harley slam her fists on her head when she sees him? ' no no no you're gone. you're GONE. I KNOW you are!' #why does selina smile at him with such heavy pity ' sorry bruce. i don't do ghosts' #bruce wayne #dc #dc comics #batman #batfamily #clark kent #dick grayson #jason todd #bc they def exclude the cloning. they dont want another bruce. they want THEIR bruce. tim #like can you imagine jason getting up in tim's face and just ' if you're not gonna stand by us then stay out of our way' #dark bruce? tired. dark BATKIDS? sign me the FUCK up #batdad #text