#doesn't matter the actual date

[cerise-on-top]

helloooo! how do think Kate and Nikolai would like to get married, like type of weddings and how they’d propose. Also I adore your Kate stuff! there isn’t enought for her!

Hello! I'm not sure I'm the right person to ask this since the last wedding I went to was 17, almost 18 years ago! But I tried, even if I don't know at all what a wedding encompasses!

How Laswell and Nikolai Would Like to Get Married

Laswell: She’d try to find a special date to propose, even if she would preferably choose Christmas. However, if you don’t celebrate Christmas, then she’ll find another date, even if it’s “just” your birthday. You deserve all the good in the world and that she makes sure to give you. Your birthday will be an absolute dream, everything will be perfect and you will be cared for. However, Laswell will try to propose to you when the two of you are all alone, so she’ll either send everyone away, or drive you home and then propose to you on your doorstep. Either way, she wants you to be content and happy so that you can be positively joyful as she proposes to you. Your wedding won’t be very big, however, with only the most important people coming. She’s a CIA station chief, she’s highly sought after, so not the entire city needs to know about your arrangements and possibly get you killed during them. No, Laswell plays it safe and thus keeps it small. Although she would like to have a ceremony to commemorate this special day. Laswell isn’t a very religious person, in fact she’s not religious at all, so she doesn’t need a church wedding. If you absolutely insist, however, then she will plan one. However, she’s content with a ceremony and just a civil marriage. If you’re close with a lot of people, then it’s very likely that a lot of people will come from your side. Laswell doesn’t really have many people she’d invite to her wedding. The people she would invite likely don’t have time, so she doesn’t particularly bother. Besides, those two are very dangerous people as well, so it would likely be for the best if she doesn’t. The wedding itself would be a rather standard wedding, though. Like one you’d see on TV, so nothing too fancy. It doesn’t need to be to show how much you love each other.

Nikolai: He’d be very casual about it, waiting for a good moment to ask you for marriage. Don’t get me wrong, he has a pair of rings he’d use for such a thing, but he won’t openly propose with them. During a mellow moment where it’s evident you both love each other so dearly and are stricken with infatuation, that’s when he’ll ask you if you want to marry him. No getting down on one knee, just him lying on your chest, looking up at you and asking you, hearts in his eyes. It would take him a while to ask you for your hand in marriage, a few years, in fact, but he’ll be the one to ask. It won’t be a special date either, just whenever you’re feeling especially lovey dovey with each other. Your wedding won’t be very big either. He’s the leader of Chimera, so he needs to keep a low profile if he doesn’t want to be found out. No big or fancy ceremony, even if he will marry you in a church. Nikolai wants to have a traditional Russian wedding. One, where he pays ransom for you with the most beautiful sapphire necklace he could find. One, where he finds the most stunning crowns in all of Russia, both of which are yours. One, where he takes you through St. Petersburg to show you all the sights there are to see. Granted, he’ll be speedrunning the tour with you since he can’t afford to have the wedding last longer than two days, but he still wants to enjoy all these moments with you. He’ll tell you about all the sights there are in the city and hold your hand as well, taking pictures everywhere. He just wants to remember the sight of you wearing either a suit or a wedding dress forever, and what better way is there than by taking pictures? Although his memory is phenomenal, and he’ll remember those days forever, he still wants a few pictures here and there as a keepsake.

#cod #cod x reader #kate laswell #kate laswell x reader #cod nikolai #cod nikolai x reader #it's been so long since I've written for Nikolai thank you for requesting him! #Nikolai's rings have been passed down to him by his parents! it's tradition to have those as your wedding rings! #Laswell doesn't really have very many people she's close with so she doesn't have very many people to invite to her wedding #as long as she just gets to see you that's all that matters to her! #Laswell wouldn't take as long to propose. a year and a half at most #but that's only because actually getting with her would take a few years. she's not one for love at first sight in the slightest #once she's with you she's a keeper though. she knows she wants to stay by your side and thus proposes fairly quickly #Laswell would only ever really date someone who she knows she wants to spend her life with #she's too old for puppy crushes and something that won't last #so getting with her is the real challenge here. everything afterwards is a given to her

[fernlessbastard]

hot take moment cwilbur is literally just psychotic as all hell and i think people got way too comfortable villianizing the shit out of a man who was clearly portraying signs of severe mental illness. cwilbur was like im so fucking paranoid and scared and i think everyone is out to get me and hurt me and ive spiralled to the point i cant reach out to the people closest to me because im so afraid and lost in this spiral and im having constant panic attacks and hurting myself because i dong know what to do with myself and the only way out for me is to die. and everybody was like EVIL MAN WHO ENJOYS HURTING OTHERS AND IS ABUSIVE ON PURPOSE AND A VILLAIN AND SHOULD NEVER BE TRUSTED AGAIN. and then he came back and was like im still deeply troubled and afraid but im desperately trying to make up for the wrongs i did in the past and the people i hurt in my own way and communication is really hard for me but i hope people know that im truely sorry and i love them. im going to try my hardest to fix this in the only way i know how and then respectfully remove myself from the situation because i feel thats the kindest thing i can do to the people ive hurt. and people were like ABUSER ABUSER ABUSER EVIL MAN ABUSER. like girl

Yeah no based true real no questions asked

I'd hope I manage to portray Wilbur the way he deserves in my content, cause that man is heavily bpd coded and he just needs therapy and someone who genuinely loves him but also can handle his bullshit (which has exclusively and reliably been Quackity like, canonically)

But yeah no completely agreed. The man has issues and has definitely fucked up a lot but at the end of the day he really does need love and care and patience, but also boundaries (and therapy and meds, obviously)

#i deeeefinitely have no reason to have strong feelings about bpd bitches deserving love and care and stability ha ha nooo it's definitely- #-not like I've been dating one for well over 4 years now and even though we've been through so much shit together and I still can't- #-understand why people with bpd and conditions that have similar symptoms are so demonised. It just makes no sense to me. #my bf is the love of my life and i can't imagine /not/ supporting it through all the splitting and episodes and all of that cause they're- #-absolutely worth everything #i don't know not to be too gay on main but tbf it's too late now anyway i think-- #is it unstable? sure. but it's also the most caring and loving person i've ever been close with and it always makes sure i'm ok #and it loves me so undeniably deeply no matter what purely for who i am #i've never had anyone care about me this much and this genuinely and this unconditionally - it'd always be what /they/ can get out of /me/ #but my boyfriend just cares about me - the actual me - no matter if i'm acting how it imagined i'd act. what matters is if i'm /me/ #listen bpd isn't sunshine and rainbows - we've been through some TERRIBLE shit (including s-cide attempts) #but when people claim it makes a relationship toxic/abusive it's so stupid cause ultimately with mutual love support and reassurance- #-and professional help you can have a genuinely happy and healthy life with someone with bpd #love isn't mean to be easy. it's meant to be safe and supportive and genuine but a relationship always takes effort and work on both sides #you should never sacrifice your well being of course! #but when love takes effort and extra care it doesn't inherently mean it's unhealthy or toxic or abusive. it just means you're people. #tldr if you love someone then don't care about some diagnosis - care about the actual perso. #ask #asks #ask fern #tntduo #dsmp #tnt duo #wilbur soot #quackity #quackbur #dream smp #tntblr #c!quackbur #c!tntduo

[neurosky]

I had a small win over ARFID and OCD today!!

So, a little backstory for this to make sense, ARFID causes me to be extremely picky with foods out of fear of throwing up, to the point where I eat the same things every day, and have been my whole life. My OCD makes me worry about throwing up as well, but that makes me do or avoid certain things in order to not throw up.

I really wanted caesar salad earlier, and the only salad kit we had had a "guaranteed fresh" date for about a week ago. Usually, I just wouldn't eat it, but this time I decided that I really wanted this salad, and the lettuce still looked fine. So, I pushed past the thoughts of "What if I throw up? What if it's bad?" and I ate it anyway! And it was a really fucking good salad!!

#kinda proud of myself ngl #in my mind any dates on any food = I WILL throw up if I eat this #it doesn't matter if it's a sell by date or an expiration date #or if it's on crackers or milk #it's all the same to me #but i pushed through it!! #cw ed mention #tw throwing up #arfid #avoidant restrictive food intake disorder #ocd #obsessive compulsive disorder #chronic illness #actually chronically ill #emetophobia

[thetarttfuldickhead]

Listen, I’m doing my best here, but Phil Dunster is doing nothing to help me manage my tinhat OT3 expectations. He just keep talking and talking about Jamie’s lasting connection with Keeley and about the dirty, great love story between Jamie and Roy (although he notes that “we just have to wait and see whether [Roy and Jamie] rip each other's clothes off”), and what the fuck am I supposed to do with that, Phil? Just be chill? Not bloody likely. 

#roy/keeley/jamie #jamie tartt #phil dunster #he's a goddamned tease #interview #3x08 #spoilers for 3x08 in the interview! #like i don't ACTUALLY think we'll get the ot3 #but also and against my better judgment i'm not CERTAIN we won't #it's messing with my head #in a most excellent way but still #and in a way it doesn't matter if they end up together or not #because the connection they all share is real and lasting no matter whether they fuck or date each other #my stuff

[fromtheseventhhell]

"You don't have to mention disliking Taylor when supporting her fight against AI" Yeah actually I do cause I'm pro-Palestine and she's a prominent white celebrity who had her movie shown in Israel (which the BDS movement has specifically highlighted), she's friends with a woman who turned a genocide into a self-pity party and works with a proud Zionist, and she's never once used her platform to speak up on the Palestinian genocide (or any other ongoing genocide). As much as I hope she's successful in her fight and is able to heal, her being victimized in this instance doesn't prevent her from causing harm and people should still be able to hold her accountable.

#obligatory /yes some of the hate she receives is misogyny/ but also people are just allowed to dislike her without a reason #she's a celebrity...just because swifties pretend stanning her is activism doesn't mean the rest of us have to #and this isn't even getting into the fact that she was /just/ dating a proud racist and never spoke up about it 🥴 #overall she's just a very nasty woman who weaponizes white feminism to shield her from criticism #and her stans eat that shit up and will defend her no matter what #I will never forget how some of them were actually attacking the BDS account for mentioning her movie being shown in Israel #/but if she was a man-/ please go to hell #if you can't even criticize a celebrity then your support of Palestine is preformative as hell #it's eat the rich until it comes to a celebrity you personally enjoy 🥴 #but I'm not suprised that people are more willing to hold Beyonce accountable for the same thing...sounds about white #and fuck Selena Gomez while I'm at it cause she's even worse but at least she's getting whacked

[negativepeanuthoarder]

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#this fandom is fucking wild because apparently it's okay for ppl to break boundaries by shipping sylvnap but the MINUTE I post about #drella apparently boundaries should always be respected no matter what or whatever the fuck (not that bella has a boundary list because #mainstream celebrity and all that) but my GOD the hypocrisy here is insane #like ok. this is a fucking not-serious ship. I KNOW bella poarch isn't dating Dream. I KNOW that. I've said that multiple times #I don't care if they get together. I won't bully them into getting together. I like living in a fun pretend world where they are together #because that's FUN. AND I LIKE HAVING FUN. and you know what? a fanfiction about Bella being Dream's alpha doesn't seem like #truthing to me but maybe I'm in the wrong here. Same with shipping their characters in the “dolls” mv. obviously dream is not an evil #CEO of an android company. obviously bella is not actually a doll with a prosthetic sucker punch arm. OBVIOUSLY THAT'S FICTION #JUST LIKE THE DSMP IS FICTION. THIS IS MAKE BELIEVE. #discourse #sorry I got a mean anon and it hurt my feelings

[jjsanguine]

So funny that Cher was like "eh, whatever" about Gun's mother being like "usually I would pay someone like you to break up with my son but actually you should fuck off for free with how much you've inconvenienced me" when he's had multiple crises about what whatstheirname from accounting might think about his and Gun's relationship.

His mother in law's opinion is vastly more important lmao

#me: the reasons given in universe for gun and cher to not date each other are all silly #the show: >:/ ok watch this #gun's mother is homophobic so her opinion actually doesn't matter at all but being from an age hierarchical and homophobic culture myself #cher and also gun giving her opinion the lack of consideration it deserves is like extra hilarious to me #a boss and a babe #cher #gun #guncher

[scribefindegil]

As someone who doesn't care about sex and doesn't believe in romance*, I find shipping deeply bewildering. Like, do I ship those two characters? I don't know! I sure want them to have Something going on, but whether they're kissing or not feels pretty immaterial!

*I know it exists, like, societally, and it's an important category for other people, but it's not real To Me

#it's like: #well i want them to be Domestic but that could mean roommates or queerplatonic or married i do not actually care #or #i want them to be Important to each other but they could be best friends or dating or queerplatonic or amicable exes #the specific form of the relationship doesn't matter what matters is that they are Important #neither a slash nor an ampersand but a secret third thing

[seariii]

The weird mix of being stressed out, happy and exhausted... Gonna have to organize once more to get all of this sorted

#the event was scheduled for tomorrow and friday.... shit i was gonna do something on friday ill have to #set up the date for monday... and i just noticed an email i tried to send didnt go through and had to re send it #so i lost time in that.... #okay look seari. i know this is good but worst case scenario is that it doesn't happen because of the paperwork #and if that happens look you already started it and will be helpful for something else okay? for now lets focus on tje matters at hand #drink water because its almost 1pm and you hadnt drink any- oh shit- rest because we really need to recover our energy #and lets think and see what we are missing for the stressful stuff #... sigh... after friday we will know my fate... #seari talks #i forgot to schedule the appointment for today... that's okay we still have time... i think... i feel my stomach turning upside down wheb #thinking about the times and how a lot of stuff is out of my control... sigh.... anxiety be damned hahaaha it's okay... lets ACTUALLY rest #because you said you'd take a nao and instead started to do something else #alr alr mimir or rest time

[yesyourstalker]

Mahi: hey boss.....

Neta: hey Mahi. Today is going to be really busy. Summer just started and the ankle biters are out of school so-

Mahi: there's this guy

Neta:............. gooooo oooooon

Warabi: ohhhhhhh I need to hear this!

Mahi: so there's this guy and he's really nice. I mean he's not nice but he's not an asshole...... well he's not mean to me. That's all I'm going to say. I like him I think he likes me but I don't-

Warabi: here's what you need to do. You need to let them talk. Don't say anything just listen to what he likes. Their favorite color, what they like to eat celebrity crush. What's their favorite TV show. You can tell a lot about a person when they talk about their favorite wife on ' The real housewives of foam bay'. My favorite was Shelly because she always started shit with the wives. Cod she really stirred the pot!

Mahi: I don't think He watches that show

Warabi: Oh....he. sounds like trash you should dump him.

Neta: I agree with Warabi he doesn't sound like a good boyfriend. Who doesn't like that show?! Tho I prefer Reef she was headstrong and had a sharp tongue on her. I love that in a woman.

Mahi: I'm not even dating him yet!! That's why I came to you so I can! Can we stop talking about the show?!

Neta: ok ok.... Warabi was right about the listening part, but you actually need listen to their complaints. What do they hate? Who do they hate? Listen to their problems, what stresses them out, What makes them angry? While they're complaining Make sure you acknowledge them while they're complaining. You know throw a little 'ah uh' and 'okay' and make sure you throw in little 'oh that sucks' let them know that you're listening to them makes them feel heard. Also observe them pay attention to certain things their quirks there beige flags. Make sure they notice it too. You get what I'm saying. I see you, I hear you, I got you babe. I'm here for you. Even when you think I'm not. You understand you get it

Mahi: I think.......

Neta: okay so when ikkan use to come home from tours he would always come back stressed and agitated and over stimulated. He used to complain that he hated when people used to force conversation after shows. He'd just go to his trailer and listen to music on the shitty speaker that was always too loud and eat leftover ramen from the gas station and have a very lukewarm shower.

Warabi: He yelled at me on his way to the trailer once. He's so mean after shows.

Neta: shut up.....So when I pick him up at the train station I wouldn't even try to have a conversation. Just have a quiet peaceful trip home.. I put on his favorite record on low, ran a hot salt bath and ordered his favorite takeout.Let him take a nap and spend the rest of the night on the couch watching a movie...... tho. Sometimes we don't even watch the movies........heyeah......he fucking love mental intimacy and attentiveness...He was really into that

Warabi: mmmmmm....interesting

Mahi: uhhh ............ I don't think that's going to get me a boyfriend.

Neta: what the fuck will? Who is this guy? Let me see em............................ohshit........uhauhahahahhaha-....hahaha......*cough*...*cough*....... Wow! He's (wheeze).......I'm sorry allergies. Wow! he's interested in you? He's great. Very-uh talented guy he's- uhehehe.... Warabi Tell them!

Warabi:.let me see....... mahi we can't be friends.

Mahi: What what's wrong with him!? He's cute and he's......he likes me! What's wrong with him?!

Warabi: MIZOLE?!? Oh my Cod! He's such a-He's such a douchebag! I swear he thinks he revolutionized music and sees himself as some sort of innovator! He's just bargain bin ichiya!!

Mahi: That's not true!!

Warabi: Yes it is! He starts one-sided beef with other musicians for no fucking reason! He's UGH Cod.....fine ....whatever.......if it makes you happy....... If he cheats I'm breaking his legs!

Neta:hehehe *cough* uhhh... I mean he might be different around you. Maybe, I don't know. I haven't met him, I mean I did meet him once. He was........................ anyway! You might see a different side of him that we don't. This is good I'm happy for you Mahi. You said that he might like you back so just go for it. Be confident and be genuine. You're a great kid this will work out. Who knows maybe you might bring out a kinder and softer side of (wheeze) HAHAHAHAHAGSH I'm sorry! I tried to hold it in! HAHAHAHAHAHAHAH!

Mahi: you guys are dicks!....... HE'S CUTE....... and -and he's nice. He really is! Can you please just give him a chance?!.... .....fuck you guys!!! I don't even know why I even came to you! Warabi you haven't had a stable relationship in 4 years!!

Warabi: I haven't been in a monogamous relationship is 4 years

Mahi: being non-committal does not make you non-monogamous Warabi! Neta! You're still texting to taka!!! WHY??

Neta: whaaaat! He takes me to nice restaurants and buys me stuff ......... Is that so bad?

Mahi: YES!! that's worth the painful mediocrity?? Get some standards! fuck both of you! I'm gonna go text him.

Neta: Mahi come back! You're right, we're no better! We're sorry.........................................come back ..... he's gone...*sigh* Ohhhhhhh please doesn't break their heart. mizole......... he's such a piece of-

Warabi: Shit. Yeah. Yeah he is.

Neta: I was going to say a piece of work but sure

Warabi: Cod He's going to start visiting the apartment. fuck! He's going to start visiting the store now!!........... I really hope this won't end up like a spike situation. Maybe you're right. Maybe he's nicer around mahi...

Neta: let's hope so

Warabi: ...........soooo.......Tell me more about the semi toxic relationship we have with takaaaaa.

Neta: Go clean the bathroom.

Mahi belongs to @fish-at-fish-fish-resort

#This took longer than I expected #a lot of rewrites and I still don't like it #mizo would have these Twitter arguments with other musicians every other day #like he's an asshole but gives off I'm an asshole to everyone except for my partner energy #He treats mahi right but everyone else like shit #yes neta is still seeing taka but it's a one-sided relationship taka is in love but neta feels nothing #he's only dating him until he can open up his other store and move back in with ikkan in 2 years #ikkan is aware if this and It's fine with it because neta makes taka order carrot cake every time they go on a date #it's stored it in the freezer so he can eat it when he visits #is it fucked up? a little bit. but it doesn't matter because taka is in love with the concept of Neta not actually him #It's like when guys are attracted to hot goth girls but on attracted to them as people but as an aesthetic I don't know. I'm rambling #Warabi Just wants to be in a relationship but doesn't want the responsibilities that come with a relationship

[ladyhavilliard]

tfw you realize you are aroace, but you're also a hopless romantic, so you decide you might be cupioromantic and would still want to be in a relationship even though you don't feel romantic or sexual attraction until someone texts you and suggests they might have some interest in you and suddenly you go into panic mode because the idea of anyone seeing you in any kind of non-platonic way makes you incredibly uncomfortable, especially if they don't know you well

#i never was the girl ppl glt crushes on #and i was fine with that #and now suddenly 2 ppl show the slightest bit of interest in me in the same year #and. i can't #no #i don't like this #ignoring the fact that one of them made me extremly uncomfortable and i just told myself “it's my social anxiety I'm sure it's actually fine #until i realized that no it was rrly him making me uncomfortable #but anyhow #i am not judging ppl who get crushes on ppl without knowing them well. no matter how severe the crush is #BUT WHEN IT COMES TO ME #it doesn't even have to mean you want to date me #if you have the slightest non-platonic interest in me WITHOUT KNOWING ME WELL #IT MAKES ME SO UNCOMFORTABLE #I DON'T WANT THIS #I AM NOT EVEN INTERESTING WHY ME #...i wonder if the same would be the case if a girl was into me #i do usually feel more comfortable around women than around men so i wonder what the difference would be #okay enough ranting in the tags #i am just going to scream more in my head #aromantic #asexual #aroace #cupioromantic

[luvisia]

sometimes i feel like i haven't gotten anywhere and then i think, "well, even though i'm sitting in the same room, i'm not crouched over a folding table with a computer that's falling apart to do college assignments anymore," and that's tangible progress i guess.

#i'm not always appreciative of where i am now but it's better than where i was. sometimes worse but i'm still learning. #taking a break from the internet taught me that all the online drama doesn't matter in my real life and should not affect my health. #taking a break from writing and volunteering taught me that i'm actually not easily replaceable and nobody is paying me for my time. #taking a break from school taught me not to put any faith in a job and to focus on my own goals. #getting into debt taught me that i don't want to think about money so i need to live within my means and take that as a blessing. #and going on one date taught me that i love my peace more than anything and it's no use forcing connections with people. #(although i think i can work on putting myself out there more and being honest about what i want.) #so i guess those are some things i've learned in my twenties! #my progress is slow but i grew up very differently from most and i can't measure it against other people. #i guess the point is i just need to worry about what i'm doing! #luvie.txt

[heartburstings]

hey, wait. i have a distressing thought here.

you know how, in you and i, jason has to comfort peter that It's All Just A Game? and directly after that, peter like, just directly says, "i know he wants to be the american dream. i know he wants a trophy bride, kids, a dog, a picket fence. i don't know how i'm supposed to fit into that."

and it's like... i doubt this insecurity came from nowhere. like, yeah, of course peter knows jason this well, of course he does--but also. do you think ivy was even the first girl jason went out with? you know???

#wynn speaks #bare: a pop opera #do you think jason dating ivy--a Friend TM in their Friend Group TM--was the last straw??? #do you think jason's popularity status comes from not only being a Charismatic A+ Jock but also from having dated a couple of girls?? #like this changes the whole fucking thing for me. what if jason's relationship with ivy was not his first comphet relationship. #what if for the both of them this was the relationship that shook up the script they were used to when it came to dating. guys #am i going crazy?? am i going crazy???? does this make any sense???? i have no idea this just came to me. help #also the PAIN of watching ur boyfriend be in a Fake Relationship TM that he plays out to be a Real Relationship TM over and over again #and having to be ok with it bc it's jason's way of staying in the closet no matter how homophobically. can you fucking imagine. #just girl after girl filling the role of Girlfriend and peter's here like. playing the role of Best Friend. #and he's like. literally his boyfriend. he's like yeah idk how to feel abt being the queer subtext in ur real-time autobiography jason #ok i need to stop editing the tags repeatedly but like. #the girl saying ''jason--did you lose my number?'' in you and i #and then jason doesn't call ivy back during spring break #there's a terrible implication here that jason doesn't even break up with girls #that ivy is the first time he's realized that the way he treats women as a prop to Perform Straightness is like... #harmful to an actual human person... #heeeelp...

[vaguely-functional-directions]

1 and 2

1. What’s your sexual orientation?- :)

2. What are you obsessed with right now?- Right now I am *loving* seeing so much about Percy jackson and like reliving being like 10-13. There's so many things that I forgot about and it's literally so nostalgic thinking back on when I was waiting on the new book to be released and didn't know what was going to happen 😭. But there's so many things I forgot about in the series because it's been so long, so it's almost like seeing it again for the first time in a way lmao

#Actually. My orientation is 'no one wants to date me anyways so doesn't really matter' #Can't comment further due to the Legal Ramifications #(<- I'm sorry I don't know why I can't be normal about anything. Lol) #Thanks for the ask!

[daz4i]

finding the blogs of old mutuals is very fun sometimes but i think i just found one of my ex and they are like. straight up lying on main

#or they just lied to me. but somehow i doubt it lol #(as in. they say they're 20. they were supposedly in college when we dated... 5 years ago 🤨) #(also back then they said they're russian and i mean. they did look white - #- but now they claim to be indigenous and palestinian... um?) #(like. if it was just the white thing I'd say it's a matter of passing. whatever. - #- but combined with not mentioning it earlier and also lying about their age... yeah i have my doubts 😩) #(that being said the russian thing was also always suspicious bc in vc they never had an accent - #- despite supposedly moving only a few years beforehand. so who knows! maybe that one was the lie then!) #none of this actually matters. they can lie if they wanna it doesn't affect me or smth. just telling you to clear out my head 🫡 #yknow there was also this time while we dated where they had just a huge personality switch #not for the bad or smth. just. a big switch out of nowhere. it was really weird #to the point it was one of the reasons i broke up with them. oops (alongside the aro thing + long distance being Not Fun) #lmao overall a very strange person i feel like i dodged some bullet there.

[lesenbyan]

listen. I love fictional romance as much as my irl romo-repulsed aro heart can. however, tropes that rely on confession or, even worse, being told to confess to someone who is already happily in a relationship always piss me off. it's selfish. and never seems to take in account the position you're putting them in. Confess to the married woman you're been in love with her forever bc it makes you feel better but god forbid whatever it does for her (looking at you Love, Actually) or to your crush before she goes on vacation with her current boyfriend she seems happy with and like. You realize you've just put all that weight on them right? Like i get it, it sucks carrying around maybe unrequited feelings and maybe it's the romo-repulsed aro in me but I've always thought that cruel.

like I used to read advice columns just Because and I remember a gay guy writing in and saying he had a friend he knew was straight but he had a crush on him and he thought his friend would appreciate the honesty and instead he's now lost a friend bc the straight guy is pulling away, not bc of homophobia or anything but bc when someone confesses it's putting an onus on you to do something about it, whether they intend it to or not. it is my biggest romance genre pet peeve and i hate how common it is bc unless you know that person is poly and/or in an open relationship then you fucking shut up

#personal; #anyway; I'm watching Psych and I love it don't get me wrong but the fact that while Jules is dating Declan EVERYONE is telling Shawn #to confess to her 'before [he loses] her for good' like!! #she's not a prize to be lost!! she is a human being who is allowed to make a choice other than you!! #yes in Psych she doesn't actually WANT to make a different choice but that doesn't matter bc Shawn Henry and Gus don't KNOW that #(well arguably shawn might considering she kissed him in Declan's living room but idt he told the other two about that) #like. it feels like Shawn respects her right to date others better than Gus and Henry despite the fact he's always immature abt it for a bi #like damn y'all #can you romance writers do fucking better #vent post;