#death anxiety talk

[thanatophobia-thoughts]

Barbie, one of the few movies directly about Death Anxiety and Thanatophobia.

That was not a sentence I expected to write, but here we are.

If you haven’t already seen Barbie, I highly recommend it. It is a story about Existing, and what it means to Exist.

Barbie is an Idea. In this way, Barbie is strangely immortal, but she begins to have thoughts about Death, Mortality, and what Life Means. Her journey throughout the movie is to find out who she Is.

She wants to be Stereotypical Barbie. Pretty, blonde, partying every night, empowering women, and living her best pink life, day after day. She says it in the movie: she never wanted change.

But change happens.

Even for ideas.

We can see this just by looking at the way we’ve taken and reframed Grimm Fairytales, Ancient Greek Myths – hell, even the way we try to reframe and reinvent superheroes! Change is our only true constant, and so, change came from the Idea of Barbie.

At the end of the movie, Barbie is given a choice: stay an Idea Without End – or become Human.

This is a story that, perhaps, doesn’t celebrate death…but it certainly accepts it in an indirect fashion, because not only does Barbie pick to be human, she also makes one of her first actions as a human be a gynecological appointment.

I admit, I laughed my ass off at the ending line, because it was perfectly unexpected. Now that I’ve had time to sit with it, it’s also perfectly poignant.

Barbie’s first act is accepting her mortality and her change, by going to make sure she is healthy, by taking the steps to deal with the reality that she is now Mortal, and that means having parts of her that can get diseased.

Barbie’s first positive human interaction in this movie, is also notable. She has a lot of interactions with men who look at her lecherously, or when she tries to steal, but the first notable good one, is with an aged woman, that she calls beautiful – and the woman acknowledges it. It’s not a humbling compliment to a woman who’s forgotten her worth – it’s an uplifting one to a woman who knows it and can embrace it.

Yet again, Barbie flips expectations. We don’t expect this woman to know she’s beautiful, because our society doesn’t call old people beautiful. But there’s not a SINGLE hesitation from this woman in accepting it.

Barbie does many things right in opening a conversation about Life, about Death, about Aging, and about Making A Purpose.

Barbie doesn’t know what her purpose is, or what she’s going to do with her mortality, but she knows, she wants to live. She knows, she wants to have the opportunity to create, to change – and that is what humanity is. We all live a life where we can create things and make meaning. We are inventors, whether we just invent feelings in other people for a short period of time with our arts, invent smiles on the faces of our friends, invent airplanes for travel, or invent pet-steps up onto our beds because the ones in the store just weren’t working for our pet’s gait.

And then we age.

And we die.

Nothing in the movie sugarcoats this, and it expresses death as a Fear. It doesn’t say death is desirable at any point, but it does say it has to be accepted in order to experience and enjoy life. Just as aging, if we are lucky, is experienced, and is a whole other realm of beauty and experience.

Barbie was not the movie I expected it to be, and I love it for that. I love how the longer I sit with the experience, the more I find that comforts me in the message it offers, as a movie about struggling with existence and meaning.

Yes, it genders this message – but it’s not a movie that is Pro-Women, Down With Men.

Ken’s struggles are highlighted, and the mistakes he makes trying to deal with those struggles, too. Ken learns, like Barbie learns, that he has to find out who he is, and who he wants to be, apart from Barbie. He struggles with the expectations of men, the way Barbie struggles with the expectations of women, and both of them come out ready to learn who they really are.

It’s a wonderful movie.

#death anxiety #death anxiety talk #thanatophobia #barbie #barbie movie #barbie 2023 #film recommendations #movie recommendation

[voiider]

I need codependent Danny/Jason as a little treat (for me) and I love the idea of them having some sort of instant connection the moment they meet (bc ghost stuff idk)

Danny who's been dropped in Gotham with no way home (alt universe??) and he's been here for 36 hours and having a Very bad time senses a liminal being and immediately latches onto them heedless of the fact that his new best friend is shooting at some seedy guys in an alley and goes off about how stressed he is and how he can't make it back to the ghost zone and what a bad day he's been having (and it's important to note Danny is a littol ghost boy literally hanging off of Jason's neck as he floats aimlessly) and Jason is like "who are you??" And Danny is like "oh sorry I'm Danny lol" and then just continues lamenting his woes

And honestly ? This might as well happen. Nothing about this Danny guy(is he human?) gives Jason a bad vibe and tbh he's never felt more calm and level headed before so he just keeps up his usual Red Hood patrol and doesn't even think about it when he heads back to a safehouse and feeds Danny dinner (breakfast) before crashing for half the day

The only thing I actually need is Jason meeting up with the bats for some sort of Intel meeting and they're like "uhhh who's that" and Jason is like "that's Danny." And does not elaborate (very ".... What do you have there?" "A smoothie" vibes)

And it takes them a while to realize that these two have known each other for less than 12 hours and are literally attached at the hip

#very remora fish with a shark #jason todd #danny fenton #danny phantom #dpxdc #dp x dc #this isnt super important but i imagine Danny's ghost form as young and unaged from his death so jason is used to this small whispy kid #who just hangs off him and talks literally all the time #so when something comes up and someone is like 'idk if we can bring danny looking like... that' (glowing and a literal ghost) #danny is like 'oh ok u need a human? ok :)' and transforms #its been WEEKS #jason didn't know he could do that #nobody did #and now theres this 20ish dude standing there #human form danny doesn't talk a lot (anxiety) ghost form danny can't stop talking (anxiety) #could be a ship fic and at this point jason goes from 'where is my little buddy :(' to 👀😳 #i imagine theres a sort of feedback loop with them both feeding off of each other's ecto energies and vibes idk #so when danny is human its not as strong #batman is convince this strange entity is like hypnoyizing his son and like hes not WRONG #but it goes both ways #idk #i just need more codependency fics :( #i should go on a bender #ignore my 500 open tabs and go to town

[little-pondhead]

Danny moved to Gotham.

Freakshow is touring in Gotham.

Freakshow knows Danny is in Gotham.

Danny knows Freakshow is still after him.

Danny's faith in heroes has been shattered.

Danny turns to the only person powerful enough to run Freakshow out of town, hopefully for good.

Danny turns to the Joker for help.

The Joker is looking for a new punching bag sidekick after Harley Quinn left him.

Danny is just the perfect person to be shaped by the Joker's hands.

Danny becomes the new Joker Junior.

#pondhead blurbs #dpxdc #how we feeling about this fellas #i think it's an ideal angst fic #but i don't wanna write it lol #the younger danny is the worse it gets #someone said that danny shouldn't be afraid of the joker because he's a clown and freakshow is a ringmaster. not a clown #if i find that post i'll tag the creator cause i can't remember rn #but i'm imagining danny who is heavily traumatized and scared and lonely #finding out that one of his worst enemies he hoped to never see again is hunting him and is so close danny has to check his eyes every day #just to make sure they haven't turned red #his anxiety is out of control and he's not about to go find a Bat or Bird to talk to #who would believe him anyways? he's a monster #but danny needs help cause he will not survive this on his own and he knows it #freakshow haunts his every waking dream #but freakshow isn't from gotham. he doesn't have the city's curses engraved into his blood. he never died and he's not truly teasing death #so danny chooses to plead for help from the only predator bigger than freakshow (in his eyes) who IS from gotham #danny goes to the Joker. prepared to offer everything but his free will and free mind. he can't give those up. it's all he has. #danny is a feral house cat asking a tiger to take care of a mountain lion for him by offering the tiger his own liver on a silver platter #joker is...delighted? maybe? no one is quite sure. but he takes what danny offers. #here is this little boy. almost the same age as the second robin when he died. pleading for the JOKER to be his savior. this will be fun

[floralcrematorium]

i need alfred f. jones to drink like five of the panera death lemonades. as an experiment.

#i've drank 3 in one setting bc i knew they were caffeinated but not nearly as much as they were #i didn't know they were THAT caffienated #like. oh boy #i have some sort of anxiety disorder and i think the three panera death lemonades were worse than any episode i've EVER had ffr #anyway i need to give alfred five and see what happens #and yes for once i am talking nationverse #hetalia #hws america

[rotteneldritchhorror]

I feel like it’s very indicative of my personality that I’m pretty sure my favourite characters from the hatchetfield are Richie Lipschitz and sir Wiggog Y’Wrath

A pathetic little meow meow trans-coded cringefail weeb who dies tragically

And a cthulu-esque god of wrath who speaks uwu, has tentacles, uses capitalism to incite a violent apocalypse, comes in adorable plushie form AND a tumblr sexyman form and giggles like a maniac

#I am both a monsterfucker who loves violence and death #AND a lover of pathetic wet cats of men who are filled to the brim with autism and transness and anxiety #that’s my type in men #pathetic and literal monster/god (not that one) #I will never stop talking about wiggly’s giggle #🪲 #the lords in black #hatchetfield musicals #hatchetfield #hatchetfield universe #starkid npmd #starkid musicals #starkid black friday #black friday starkid #black friday musical #nerdy prides must die #npmd richie #npmd #richie lipschitz #hatchetverse #hatchetfield wiggly #Black Friday wiggly #wiggog y'wrath

[spoopieere]

New brainrot dropped guys. Asa being a freak as usual yknow? Dw, Arkin is safe in this one. 😳😳

#slasher #slashers #asa emory #collectkin #the collector #arkin o'brien #huh? what? #is this a fic to vent out my frustrations and worry and anxiety about dying ? #huh? My relationship with death and my fear of dying so young? #idk what ur talking about #rottingcitrus #I love 100gecs btw #y’all should listen to Femtanyl too #I love the dread of not knowing whether you’d die or not #Teeheehee

[wizardnuke]

loudly bitching about someone over the phone for 40 minutes straight at work while coworkers sideeye me. sorry. i have never shown this behavior before and itll be another two years before i do it again

#THERAPEUTIC. incredible things happening. #this person. me and this guy both love this person. but Oh my God. #he called to tell me abt something that kind of pissed him off last night and i started talking about a month and a half ago #why are we handholding this grown ass person thru fomo and massive control issues. well. it's not a dealbreaker but i might blow up one day #oscillating between 'yes i love them' and 'i've been pissed for a month and a half' #the horrors of having a interconnected friend group? it's really just two people i would really really hate to lose. others wouldn't be as #affected but those two. i love them. and AGAIN it's not a dealbreaker it's just kind of a buildup of behaviors. anyone remember my bitchy #post about the fomo/anxiety essay #also smaller things like Why are you trying to micromanage two disc servers that you dont have to lift a fucking finger in #um. my beloved irl if you see this. you didn't. i do love her to death. you know i do #the issue is if i put out all my issues they would take it really badly like they would act like it's the end of the fucking world #when i'm just like hey i am not your mother or your therapist and also stop trying to tell me what to fucking do #they would. um. lose it. #and some people are gonna get hit in the crossfire and i don't want to cause that. even tho it. wouldnt really be me.

[jimmyspades]

"In a seismic shift of character, I was momentarily thinking only of myself. As I said, Denny, words are my friends. To think that I might suddenly—"

#I wanted to gif this whole episode tonight but I am so tired and headachy please accept this one scene instead... #i love this shot he reminds me of graham so much here for some reason #when he's lying on the couch with ann. and his black shirt #alan shore #james spader #boston legal #* #the freckle on his neck. he looks so soft squishy cozy. the lightest shadow of stubble on his face #i want to lie on the floor with him and listen to death cab for cutie and talk abt our anxiety and smell his neck and kiss him a little. ok

[cosmicquill]

Hello ofmd Tumblr!! The power of Season 2 is so strong that I am emerging from my self-imposed Internet Ghost box to throw in my two cents in the last moments before the final episode drops. I'm about 95% certain Izzy isn't going to be dying in the finale, and here's why!

Let's talk about theme! Part of the core of Izzy's arc this season (and I would say the heart of the show more broadly) has been vulnerability--allowing yourself to be vulnerable, being a part of a community, growing beyond the things that make us throw those walls up.

If they gave Izzy his arc this season, let him open himself up to the crew and have this vividly queer journey of self-discovery, and then killed him at the end? That tells the audience that he (and other characters on related thematic arcs) was right originally. That it's dangerous to be soft or vulnerable, that letting yourself be explicitly, openly queer and joyful isn't safe. That sucks!! That's a terrible theme!!! I can't think of any way they could make it work well.

IF Izzy is going to leave the main cast, they absolutely are not going to kill him off. I think it's more likely he'll retire or something else that involves him splitting off from the main group.

Or I guess I could be wrong but if I am I think I legally have to turn in my writer's pen LOL.

#izzy hands #our flag means death #ofmd s2 #ofmd meta #ofmd spoilers #I guess??? #Oh god how do you tag things on Tumblr what are the conventions what are the rules #I am but a lurker I do not know these things #I took so long typing this and proofreading it that the episode is already out RIP #thank you social anxiety talk again soon!!

[corpsebunniie]

we are getting there lads, we are slowly but surely getting closer to the end.

#corpsetalk #talking about my college work #getting the first project done #needs turned in tomorrow #i am never going to recover from this anxiety and stress and i wish to beat my past self to death 🥰 #im just waffleing and hoping things go well

[probayern]

went on a plane, had a normal plane epiphany about my life, texted my best friend about it, subsequently realized i haven't been talking to anyone in my life like. actually. about how bad this year has been lmao

#i was like 'i realized im so afraid of death bc im afraid of failure and im afraid to die a failure' #and he was like are you ok??? #and i was like oh. no. but i thought we knew that? #i'm so used to being the person who always says everything i think and feel that i don't think i've actually communicated to my friends #that like. half of this year. on and off. i have been in like a shadow anxiety land where i feel like im gonna die #i feel weird saying this on my personal blog ! but i suppose this is where i'm supposed to talk about my life #anyway i'm so excited for the new year! can't wait to be done w 2023 #worst year of my life god bless let's leave it behind #bella things

[thanatophobia-thoughts]

The Museum of Death is located in Hollywood, CA and New Orleans, LA. Both seem to be fitting locations. Right now, the Hollywood one is closed and is relocating, but the New Orleans one is open.

What, exactly, is the Museum of Death?

Well, I was curious about that, too. New Orleans is a bucket list item, but I’m not getting there anytime soon so I decided to look into it a bit to sate my current curiosities.

Based on the website, the museum is host to body bags, graphic pictures of car crashes, mortician’s tools, Manson Family photos, general crime scene photos, taxidermy, a recreation of the Heaven’s Gate suicide, cannibalism, and letters from serial killers, so it seems like a generally gory experience into death, showing the far more brutal side of it.

Honestly, I’m not too into the gore part, but the recreation of the suicide, as well as the Thanatron, and the costume contest for Black Dahlia they have annually are intriguing.  

However, the reason I’m pointing this out, is that the goal of the museum is: “To make people feel happy being alive”. You know what? I can respect that. Make people uncomfortable with brutal deaths so they can go live a more fulfilling life. Not exactly how I’d do things here, but if it works, it works, right?

I’d rather people want to live their best life, instead of wanting to die.

The museums were started by J. D. Healy and Catherine Shultz back in 1995, so they aren’t that old yet. They’ve continued to expand, and recently tried to obtain an electric chair, though that didn’t work out.

As I haven’t visited it, I can’t say how triggering this is, but I imagine it could be quite so.

However, I do love the idea of making people confront REAL deaths, even the brutal ones. What I wish would be involved, would still be an area about what happens after death – if they need to, they can include some afterlife nonsense, but focusing on the body, and physical options here for the bereaved, would be a good addition after going through something like that, to really get you on the path to prepare to enjoy your life, and have your affairs in order.

I’m just a dreamer, though.

So if this sounds up your alley, go check out the museum!

#death anxiety #death anxiety talk #thanatophobia #museum of death #j. d. healy #catherine shultz

[rabbits-of-negative-euphoria]

So. Attack on Titan ended

YES AND I CANT TALK ABOUT IT BECAUSE I DID NOT REREAD OR REWATCH OR VIEW THE FINALE AT ALL DURING THE WHOLE MONTH I SAID I WOULD

also this is the best possible way you could have formatted that message

#- HK #I didn’t watch Spy x Family either 😭😭😭 #to be fair to myself however #I’ve been preoccupied with totally changing my lifestyle to shrink my gallstone #which has come with not a little bit of fear and anxiety and panic but when I was at my parents’ for Thanksgiving my ma gave me a talking to #about not being afraid of my food and my body #and she would know because she had life-threatening cancer #so I was pretty much able to forget I was sick while I was there #then I learned that coming home and being alone with one’s thoughts makes one 10x more aware of one’s own body #but now I’m a month out from the attack that put me in the ER I’ve remembered that pain is not the end of the world #AND the doctor gave me hydrocodone for if it comes back so #ANYWAYS. I’ve also been training the new clerk and she seems to have never used a computer before #so very little time for anime BUT I have been thinking about commonalities between Attack on Titan and Euripides’ Bacchae #and in light of current foreign affairs (particularly Kissinger’s death and the reactions to it) #etc etc #mobile #SNK #x #DID *YOU* WATCH IT?

[tygerr-artt]

twitter sucked anyways i’m glad it’s dying

#tykk #i've never been too social on tumblr due to social anxiety but? i defeated social anxiety so maybe i'll open up here #i like talking about death and the universe though so if that bothers you that's not my problem buddy boy

[givemewallywestorgivemedeath]

Man it'd be horrible if I had superspeed. I procrastinate everything to the last minute and it's only in the final hour that my panic levels are high enough to make enough adrenaline in my ADHD riddled brain to counteract the Nothing Response™ and actually kickstart The Task™.

It's bad enough that I literally wait until the last possible second to do anything ever but if I had superspeed?!?! BRUH. I would be waiting until the last second. Because I would have so much time!

And you know the time blindness would be infinitely worse with relative time. Like goddamn, I barely understand the flow of time as it is and it's been consistent my entire life! I can't imagine navigating that when it isn't consistent.

#i say as i actively procrastinate #i am #currently doing the thing i talked about #im chill as a fucking cucumber babe #i shouldn't be #i should be doing the thing #but im not #and i won't #until the anxiety kicks in and makes my brain do it #because my brain does not have chemicals without anxiety #it has no chemcal #no chemcl for me #God they all have adhd too. like genuinely. before the powers. they all had adhd. so they got ADHD and speed #fate worse than death i think #anyway wild given like my blog title and who i post about all the time but Barry Allen is my spirit animal #we both procrastinate and hyperfocus #we're both the quiet zoned out adhd that doesn't get diagnosed as a kid #both late to everything cause we got sidetracked #both know WAY too much about a specific field #both very academic focused #FUN FACT ABOUT ME! i was almost a forensic scientist i got accepted for the course i went to fake crime scenes and sat in on a live autopsy #fun times... #anyway now im working on my doctorate. adhd be damned! i fail upwards! woo! #sometimes I genuinely wonder how the fuck i got here in life. surely its a cosmic prank #(wanna clarify that i did not fail the Forensic Science course. i literally only applied cause that was the Flash job) #(so i checked it out and passed on it) #other things i got accepted to: pre med! psych! business! comp sci! a law school in England! #man high school me had no fucking clue what to do lmao. i was like 'ill apply to everything and just go where i get in' #then i got in everywhere and i was like '... fuck' #Forensic Science was really cool though. it was top of the list. they had an entire class on blood splatter?!?

[serpentarius]

in light of recent events I think it’s time for me to publish the next chapter of my Vianton fic ASAP

#yes I’m talking about our flag means death #adding the spoilers tag just in case #ofmd s2 spoilers #vianton #WWDITS #MY ANXIETY IS AT AN ALL TIME HIGH OKAY