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#dealing with pain
abused-kay · 10 months
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that inherent urge to be the fixer, and help other people when you know you're the one who needs even more help, only to see them actually emerge fixed at the expense of breaking you, while you kept telling yourself all along you shouldn't be the fixer
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bluespring864 · 3 months
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Make the post you want to make, I’m curious now 👀
Okay, here we go. This is not my usual kind of post.
A little tip on how to deal with pain/chronic pain (not a cure in any way)
(not a rant against painkillers either, please take your medication when needed everyone)
So, for various reasons it might sometimes be unadvisable to take (more) pain medication, i.e. because of reactions to the pills, bad side effects, waiting times before taking the next one etc.
What helps me sometimes in these moments is to use something i read about in an article (can't find it right now, in the Guardian maybe?) a while back, which is to try to reframe the pain a bit. That is, to imagine it as a long, slow, flowing river that goes through my body. Especially if the pain is quite sharp in one spot, try not to shy away from it too much but to locate it and imagine it dissipating slowly through your body. You're not trying to get rid of it, you're just trying to redistribute it. Conscious breathing while doing it can be helpful. I find that this sometimes dulls the pain, and sometimes even makes it go away for a while, especially if I don't move too much.
Then, there's a second thing I try to consciously think about (for the more rational side of the brain) which is to remember that pain is a warning signal. My body is trying to warn me about something - maybe about not taxing myself too much because I'm getting my period, maybe about having eaten something that was bad for me, maybe about having gone past my physical limit, maybe about something as of yet undiagnosed. So, I try to tell myself "This is a warning signal, and i have received the warning signal. I will act accordingly (i.e. take a break, not do anything strenuous, do some light exercise to alleviate muscle pain, go to sleep, go to the doctor etc.). Dear body, please let me take a break/go to sleep etc., we will feel better afterwards.
Both of these exercises might sound ridiculous to you. In that case, this post is not for you, or at least not right now.
But as someone who has gone through periods of chronic pain, I wanted to share this, because god knows, the relief of even getting your pain from a 7 to a 5 can be staggering sometimes.
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3d-ghost-in-yo-dream · 10 months
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This part of the movie messed me up fr
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ashes-and-ruins · 9 months
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this morning it was raining when i woke up. i took a hot shower. i let the water wash away the tear stains on my cheeks, the grease in my hair, and the ache in my bones.
then i made a cup of tea. i used my favorite mug and added just the right amount of milk. i put on my favorite sweatshirt and sat in my most comfortable chair.
i invited my pain in, offered it a cup as well. we sat together in silence, until i told it, “i know you are a part of me. you always have been. and i know you always will be. but there will come a day where your part dwindles, where joy starts to take over again. right now, you are the leading factor; i respect you and i understand why, but i also need you to know that i am not fighting you. i will let you stay as long as you need to. but when it is your time to go, i will gladly walk you to the door.”
when we were done, i didn’t feel better… but there was something else blooming inside of me. something that had withered out long ago.
hope.
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in-flvx · 1 year
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Hc that remus is very sensible about getting sick. Drinks the teas and potions, goes to the hospital wing if needed etc - partly bc his body can't take any more untreated pain, partly bc it helps covering his monthly visits to the hospital wing. Sometimes he even just goes there to do his homework, to not make it so obvious he only goes there on the full moon. Bc in a school where everyone learns about the night sky, and eats in a hall where the ceiling reflects the sky, everyone would notice in about 2 months time imo
Meanwhile Sirius flat out refuses to ever go even near the hospital wing and denies any pain ever. Partly bc he doesn't want to look vulnerable, partly bc he wants to keep blemishes for longer - a physical evidence of pain he isn't allowed at home. This also plays into his deep wish for piercings and tattoos
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silverscribe87 · 10 months
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If you see someone in public that has a limp or maybe is leaning heavily on a shopping cart or showing some other sign of pain or discomfort...
Unless they look like they're in immediate and active distress and need help then please.... just go about your business.
Do not stare at them.
Do not ask store employees to check on them.
Do not walk up to them and ask if they are in pain and make them explain that they have a bad knee or chronic condition or whatever it may be when they're just trying to get through their day.
Do not ask them if you can pray for them and then seem offended when your embarrassing public display fails to produce a miracle.
Do not make them a scene.
Because even if you genuinely mean well, all you've done is put a downer on their day at best. Because they were probably masking as best they could and you saw through it so easily and pointed it out.
When they just wanted the normal and mundane experience of grocery shopping.
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happytakes · 11 months
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2023.04.22 | If you're struggling right now; hang in there. If you're helping someone through their struggles; stay strong for each other. Remember, this too shall pass.
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mple-selhnhh · 2 years
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“I don't feel like dealing because dealing requires too much energy, and energy is what I lack.”
-Daisy Whitney
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riinajournal · 2 years
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12 | 07 | 2022
Give it time. Trust the universe. Trust God and His path for you. It always gets better. And if it doesn’t get better, you will get better at dealing with it. Remember, pain is temporary.
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abused-kay · 10 days
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My mother raised me repeating stuff like "You are the most gifted person in the whole world and you have the capacity to change it for the better, do not ever settle for any less!" while at the same time, she, the traumatised woman who lead difficult life herself, wanted to make her daughter suffer twice as much as she did by moving her from man to man to be humiliated and abused in every way possible
Of course she chose a man who was as grandiose, genious, and an abuser praised by everyone as her father was, to be my father.
After she was done with him, she found another man with whom she had a son - my half brother. This man beat the shit out of me whenever he could because he couldn't bear the mere sight of me and he never touched his son
When she was done with him as well, she promised not to ever find another man again but she did, not long after she said this. I was in my teens and that wealthy old man harassed me sexually. It was mostly verbally, he tried to persuade me to do things, things which I didn't do, but I didn't manage to fight back properly because I would keep dissociating and dismissing the whole thing. He was also married in another country and had two sons much older than me. He liked calling me names and saying how disgusting I was. My mother once cried and kept apologising to him when he called her 'a whore' and me and my half brother 'children of a whore' back when my bro was too young to understand a shit
(to be continued tomorrow, most probably)
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the-re-farmer · 21 days
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I guess I wasn't done, after all!
But I at least got some rest, first. I saw my daughter on the garage cam, trying to cut her way through a snow drive in front of one side of the garage that didn’t need to be cleared. It was so deep, she had to use a shovel to cut into it before little Spewie could do its job. When I cleared the area in front of the garage, I hadn’t made a wide enough turn radius, so when we headed into town and…
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peptalkradio · 3 months
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astraltrickster · 1 year
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you've heard of "diversity win!" now get ready for
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ncutii-gatwa · 4 months
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NCUTI GATWA as the FIFTEENTH DOCTOR Next Time | The Giggle
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themadscotsmansblog · 9 months
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I laugh to keep from crying
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