#dating other cultures

[hoss-bonaventure]

people are upset about how fast cal and juliette’s relationship progressed, and I don’t completely disagree but you need to realize that these are lesbians.  the u-haul joke didn’t stem from nowhere. truly the most realistic element of that entire show is these two teenage gays being like “let’s just run away” after knowing each other for like 4 days. 

#these bitches had said 13 words to each other before GRINDING in a pantry #it’s insane but also that’s just lesbian culture #me and ex gf went on one date before i ate her out in the back of her car #like #??? #first kill #juliette fairmont #calliope burns #caliette #juliette x calliope #nexflix #wlw #lesbian

[bumblingbabooshka]

Two people on a small bipartisan science station gently fall in love.

#S'veyk #Ehergha #S'veyk is half Vulcan half Klingon & Ehergha is full Klingon #beas ocs #both S'veyk and Ehergha bond over loving their home planets but wanting them to change their views on certain things #S'veyk wishes Vulcan were more accepting of others and Ehergha wishes there was more emphasis placed on honor in #things outside of war - though (and this is important) they both feel very proud of where they come from #Like a month after the above convo they're getting married btw #neither Vulcans nor Klingons seem to have a dating period as the cultural norm it's mostly just rituals and marriage <3 #skipping right to good stuff /j #Cute fact!: Ehergha and S'veyk attempt to nuzzle their heads together but his ridges are uncomfortable on her skin #(hers are more like raised bumps while his feel more like bone) #so they have to do it sooo carefully and gently but S'veyk insists on doing it!! #She also throws a vase at him after the above comic in an attempt to return his affections (she read about it) #and he's like 'you don't have to force it' (sorry) 'just - if it feels right you can throw something then.' #bea art tag #star trek oc #they are NOT in Starfleet

[oatbugs]

i should have never dated an iranian person like i told myself i would never do it bc it would be too much intensity all in one place and i was RIGHT now that i've experienced it (smn who can engage in poetry in a similar way, talk in the same language, making all the cultural stuff gay and hot, etc) i feel like without those aspects things will just be missing Something like from now on . idk . let's drink black tea w saffron and then make out . i've never celebrated the solar new year or leapt over a fire the wednesday before or read romantic hafez poetry w someone who loves me romantically and now i crave it . so much

#maybe this is less the case if the person im dating has their own culture that theyre involved in and i can share in it #she basically said she only dates middle eastern ppl when we first met and i was like . huh?? and she said u can just never go back #and i thought that was silly but 🥴 yeah #anyway i am going to Perish The Thought even tho now my perspective on dating west asian ppl has changed forever #in that i would like to do it more . im still not going to like . limit myself etc etc im sure its just bc im still getting over her #one time i dated a japanese person who was super involved in their culture etc etc and it felt . different but similar #so maybe it rly is just wanting to date smn who is involved in their culture its just super extra bonus points if theyre west asian #and even more bonus points if theyre iranian (we will have a beautiful romance and end up killing each other tho)

[darkwood-sleddog]

This is me @everybody taking staff’s words with goodwill after like 12? Years on this goddamn website:

#tumblr #back to your regularly scheduled dog sledding posts soon I swear #not only should you follow the staff blog to keep up to date with their bullshit #you should never take what they say at face value lmao trust. me. #they are still a corporation trying to make money off of what we do for fun here #also tho: tumblr’s user base is smaller than a lot of other social medias #and despite differences in many circles #we have a pretty coherhant culture #we have power in numbers that other social media sites don’t have #just. fyi. for in the future I’m sure

[countess-of-edessa]

the world is so fucked up and i can't help but think the damage is irreparable when i see people talking about how unusual and prudish it is to wait six to ten dates before having sex with someone. ten dates??? roughly like twenty five hours of interaction????? ten old timer burgers and mango iced teas from chilis equals sex?????? the possibility of pregnancy, STDs, emotional devastation, lifelong consequences, not to mention just straight up the possibility of getting murdered, with a STRANGER you have hung out with for maybe like two months???? and that's a LONG TIME???? and if you feel weird about that and don't want to do that that makes you NOT HETEROSEXUAL????? THATS AN ORIENTATION???? BECAUSE ITS SO OUTSIDE OF THE NORM OF HUMAN BEHAVIOR ????? i hate all of you i hate you i hate you i hate you every day i hate and I hate and I hate you

#i genuinely genuinely don't understand how everybody who tries to date hasn't killed themselves yet #I'm not saying they should I'm just saying I don't get how they're able to continue on #i see women on social media talking about how they had to cry for a day because they slept with a man they'd been seeing for a while and #then he never called again #no joke not trying to be dramatic I would just kill myself??? i do not understand how people can keep going after something like that #i mean I would never be in that situation because everything about it is bad but like. still #I hate to kind of agree with the 'women over 25 are too bitter for love' twitter man even in a very roundabout way #but i think men AND women participating in modern dating culture have to in some way become so hardened and kill some part of themself #just to survive??? that sounds so melodramatic but like. I can't understand how else people could continue to function as human beings #when they interact with each other in the way modern dating culture dictates

[aro-culture-is]

aro culture is looking up dating etiquette (how long you should wait to do a thing) for research and quickly getting confused

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod axel #the thing is like... it actually is entirely up to the people in the relationship to decide #it might be a good idea to check in with others about timing if you're worried or if others do seem worried #but ultimately there is not any one specific timeline for dating #i think the clearest i can think of is that it's generally frowned upon to get married with less than 2-3 years of dating #but even then like... that's a range

[stararise]

what do you think layton's ratemyprofessor rating is

on that note what do we think he actually teaches? what is his research on? imo he'd be a good professor for an intro class. he's also mentioned going on digs with students, so maybe a field methods course? (or that could also just be part of his research.) for as much as it's a major part of his life (i mean it's literally his job and his title) we don't get to see him actually teach basically ever

#star says #professor layton #hershel layton #he seems to like dinosaurs and stuff so maybe he's into palaeontology on the side #he knows a lot of random facts about animals and plants (and other organisms) and has a few fossils in his office #as well as being excited about rocks and having a lot of rocks in his office #so. bioarchaeology? geoarchaeology? #i think he'd study more ancient cultures rather than more recent ones but maybe that's the whole... azran plotline bias #but then again he talks about dating photographs so maybe his research is more on modern civilizations

[bucksboobs]

Is anyone actually saying that Buck’s jealousy in “Buck, Bothered and Bewildered” was only about Tommy or are certain Buddie purists making up a guy to get mad at so they can justify their 48th post about how Buck was jealous of Eddie in the episode as if the rest of us didn’t see that immediately?

Investigative Reporting may be required.

#we get it we get it we get and in fact we got it day of like who are you making these posts for!!!! #name ONE person actually taking Buck at his word when he said ‘I guess so’!!!! #that genre of post is getting OLLLLLDDDD #like we all saw the same ep we know Buck was doing this in part because of Eddie but like. he also wants to fuck Tommy #he wants to date Tommy #I’m so sorry to tell you this but Queer Men love Men and in fact often fuck men that aren’t their soulmates #faggots are kind of renowned for their lust for other men it’s a defining feature of our culture #ok I’m done! #disc horse

[silverskye13]

So, I just started reading Casting Rain and if you don't mind me asking, are Grillby and Gaster dating in the later chapters? I haven't gotten to those parts yet, but from what I'm seeing, it's heavily implied.

No, in Casting Rain they remain friends. At most you could say they're in a QPR, but it's not something that's ever established in the plot. I was really big on them being in a loving relationship that wasn't dating/romantic when I wrote the story.

There is definitely subtext there if you want to read them as in a relationship/dating, and they hit some of the hallmarks [hand holding, saying they love each other, risking life and limb for each other, etc.] but they never get shipped in the plot.

#answering asks #casting rain #close relationships with no expected romance are important to me #that being said i was a really big grillster artist in the community there for awhile #and ive written stuff after cr (stairs to the core series) where cr is their implied backstory and they start dating then #but in the cr main story none of that happens #grillby and gaster love each other by the end but they love Ammy the same way id argue #and maybe a couple other characters as well #it probably feels like theyre gonna be shipped because tbh most people wouldve shipped them by the end lol #pop culture loves romance #if you do want a shippy grillster story though i recommend A Good Ol Fashioned Hell-Raising #that one /does/ focus on them getting into a relationship

[vitruvianmanbara]

the allergy some queer people have to acknowledging that there's social and cultural factors influencing what we find desirable and possible wrt sex and romance is actually so evil. especially when it comes to questioning people, like you are mentally and emotionally kneecapping this vulnerable person and you don't even gaf 😭

#especially an issue in online bi spaces where every other post is 'i'm a woman and i'm sexually into woman but i could never date one' #and most of the responses will be like 'sexuality is weird 😌 you are valid 😌' #like so no mention of what a lifetime of homophobic & misogynistic cultural conditioning can do to a person? okay #I'm so grateful I figured stuff out before that became the party line because I might have never gotten out otherwise lmfao

[pogasm]

i think. i’ve interacted with so many older homophobic nigerians that if i don’t make friends with queer nigerians my age i may become xenophobic to my own people

#like they fucked me up so bad that i’m scared to talk to nigerians now like what #that’s crazy these are my people!! why am i more accepting to other black ppl and not the ones i share a culture and a country with!!! #like i’m nigerian i love being nigerian but ive been surrounded by nigerian boomers in diaspora #like i don’t know ANY nigerian my age!! that’s bad!! #well actually john is nigerian but he pissed me off so bad i don’t even wanna know him #john is the guy i went on a date with that pissed me off btw #also he was born here and i’m mourning the cultural connection so i wouldn’t even get that from him

[girlwithfish]

w what ive been thru i want someone to treat me like a princess and also make me feel safe are my expectations that high .

#relatively funny and in the same cultural sphere as me #its awkward if we dont get each others humor or cultural references #Actually i think i need to stop dating ppl i think r funny cuz they all suck Im so fr #I rly need to date a quiet man like someone who can just not yap at me bc all the male yappers think #too highly of themselves im seeing a pattern #Someone who cooks im sick of men who do not cook #IDK! #good music taste or at least willing to be interested in my music a little #A nice person. who puts in effort #i dont think men like that exist anymore maybe i need to be more picky and hard to get etc #but im a lover girlll i dont like doing that #but more boundaries and dont make it as easy for them to get comfortable w me like u need to court me idgaf #impress me #Literally guy im kind of dating might break up w might resolve it who knows said he feels like he hasnt impressed me enough for me to love #him a few weeks ago when he was convinced he wanted to say ily to me already #Like ur telling on urself what? idk #i also dont like ppl who say hypotheticals or like theyre gonna do something and dont

[autospec-culture-is]

Autospec fictive culture is being in a polycule consisting of you and three other versions of yourself ✨💕

- Croissant

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#one of the first couples we had in-system is two introjects of the same character dating each other. they have kids and everything now #love wins #Anonymous #autospec culture is #autospec #autosexual #autoromantic

[adamshallperish]

listen. i love bruce springsteen. i love ethel cain. american teenager is not the new born to run. it is not born to run if it was written by a bi trans woman instead of a cis man. they are two very different songs in terms of sound and tone, and even theme-wise they run parallel to each other rather than down the same road.

a lot of ethel's music draws from/can be compared to a lot of bruce's songs, especially on his nebraska album, but i'm not seeing where people are getting the born to run comparisons from. if anything, american teenager reminds me of born in the usa if it was sung by the narrator's next-door-neighbor, a secondhand account of the suffering springsteen explores in first person in born in the usa.

also like. both of these songs can stand on their own just fine. a thing can be good on it's own without being compared to another thing.

#also another nitpick is just like #so many people being like 'american teenager is born to run updated for the modern age' #first of all #ethel cain's story as told in the album preacher's daughter #canonically takes place in 1991 #it has a bit of a timeless energy #which brings me to the fact like #born to run is not out of date??? #it has that timeless narration energy #and it's not even that culturally irrelevant #bruce sprinsteen released an album last year and is touring Right Now #they both sound timeless! #but ethel cain is her own artist with her own inspirations and idk #it feels kind of pandering to be like 'she's bruce springsteen but woke' #which is weird because it implies that springsteen was never revolutionary in his own sense #like he had an integrated band in the 70s! he regularly kissed a black man onstage! he plays with gender in a way that is interesting #and resonates with a lot of queer people #also it kind of feels insulting to ethel's artistry to go 'she's the trans version of [insert other artist here]!' #still not over the pitchfork review that was like 'what can ethel cain say that lana del rey hasn't already said' #like it just reduces her art to her being trans #instead of letting her music stand on its own #and while her gender identity is important #she is a good musician outside of that #and it's kind of insulting to her clear love for her art and her talent #to consolidate the value of her music to just her identity #ethel cain #bruce springsteen #born to run #preacher's daughter #american teenager

[jjsanguine]

So funny that Cher was like "eh, whatever" about Gun's mother being like "usually I would pay someone like you to break up with my son but actually you should fuck off for free with how much you've inconvenienced me" when he's had multiple crises about what whatstheirname from accounting might think about his and Gun's relationship.

His mother in law's opinion is vastly more important lmao

#me: the reasons given in universe for gun and cher to not date each other are all silly #the show: >:/ ok watch this #gun's mother is homophobic so her opinion actually doesn't matter at all but being from an age hierarchical and homophobic culture myself #cher and also gun giving her opinion the lack of consideration it deserves is like extra hilarious to me #a boss and a babe #cher #gun #guncher

[asterionscat]

Wow! Y'all really hate bisexual people!

#Martz small talks #Rant #Sorry just saw a post that was like #“bisexual people who identified as gay/lesbians but realised they're bisexual after dating one person #were always lying and were appropriating homosexuality (as being attracted to only one gender)” #Like. brother give me a fucking break #Idk if you've heard but there's this thing called the human experience #And. hear this. It's different for every fucking person #Which means no 2 experiences are identical #And a person can't know what others feel like #Sexuality is not as set in stone or simple or written into your genetic code like some of you believe #The labels you guys love to close people into are as made up as gender #And letting people explore themselves and change their identity if they feel more comfortable or feel like it describes them best #is not letting a person “appropriate” queer culture #It's just called letting people have basic human experiences! #So please stop accusing ever GNC person you meet to be faking or some shit like that #Ok I finished