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typhlonectes · 11 months
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incognitopolls · 2 months
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mysharona1987 · 6 months
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Reddit’s homeschooling page saying they don’t want their kids to fit in with and be able to adjust to society.
That’s, um, quite bad? Tbh, I remember reading an article where they interviewed adults who’d been homeschooled and a few admitted that, while, they could never tell their parents, they felt it left them unprepared for the real world.
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todays-xkcd · 6 months
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My first words were 'These were my first words; what were yours?'
Language Acquisition [Explained]
Transcript Under the Cut
[A child, drawn as a smaller Hairy, stands next to some blocks. Megan and Cueball stand to the right of him.] Child: Vocabulary update: I learned another word today, bringing my total to twelve.
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koretoqueen · 7 months
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Your child is so unimpressed with their external life that they have to live in their imagination and the subtle realms just to survive in the environment you created.
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ivan-pilled · 7 months
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Cringe culture ruined being a kid.
I keep seeing the idea that teen members of Gen Z are the last generation to experience an actual childhood and honestly? I agree.
We as a society have made being a child so hostile, so miserable, that kids aren't interested in being young anymore.
How children are constantly told to grow up, how the color has been sucked out of the world, how because of cringe culture children will be fucking torn apart by grown adults all over the internet, how children are experiencing crisis after crisis. Children are shamed for their interests and hobbies and style by grown ass adults and teens who are far too old to be doing this. How kids aren't allowed to be anywhere without being made fun of by adults who are miserable.
Being a child is fucking hostile now, and I don't blame this generation of kids for trying too hard to be mature/grown. Because people treat children like shit, so who would want to be one?
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So here is an interesting thing I learned about child development: children at age FIVE will be able to tell the difference between fantasy and reality. So now I’m EXTRA concerned about modern fandoms. 😥😥😥😥
the fandom pro-censorship crowd LOVES to lean into infantilizing themselves and denying their own agency and culpability.
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queerism1969 · 10 months
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radarsteddybear · 7 months
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I absolutely love the Bluey episode "Library" because of the way it shows how what parents say to their kids really shapes the way kids see the world.
It doesn't take much for Muffin to come to the conclusion that, because her dad tells her that she's the most special kid in the whole world, she doesn't have to follow any rules. It takes equally as little for Muffin to readjust that understanding and go back to following the rules. And she does so happily!
A lot of parents have a lot of trouble with admitting to their children that they were wrong about something out of a misguided idea that this will undermine their authority when, in reality, it does the exact opposite. Kids whose parents admit when they are wrong know that they can trust their parents; they also have a positive example of how to respond when they are wrong about something.
And this episode shows how positive telling your kid that you were wrong and correcting that mistake can be! Muffin is in no way damaged by being told that she's not actually all that special (except to her parents)--in fact, she's happy about it! She readjusts and corrects her understanding of the world and her place in it, and she continues on! Moreover, she knows that she can trust what her dad says because if he's wrong, he will make sure to correct himself.
I don't think parents and guardians realize how much influence they have over the way that their kids see and understand the world, and this episode really highlights that. This is a superpower that every parents and guardian has, and it is up to them to use it.
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alchemistofthenewage · 5 months
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How to HELP Children learn?
Tips for Successfully Teaching Children
Be gentle and respectful at all times. Equality is important even if there is an age and intelligence gap.
Create the right environment which is free from stress, pressure and fosters creativity, trust, curiosity and fun vibes. Keep the pace of learning comfortable for the child.
Cater to the specific learning style of the child and learn to observe their areas of interests and listen to what motivates them. Participating and self-expression is essential to keep the child engaged.
Try out a combination of learning methods to help the child understand, such as tactile, movement-based, visual and auditory. Always provide context for what is being taught and why we need to learn it from a larger perspective.
Stick to the basics but also be spontaneous with the curriculum. The right mood for the right subject is important. Take time to present information in an appealing manner that excites the child.
Be in the right mind space attitude and energy when you are going to teach the child. If you lack enthusiasm, learning will suffer.
Teach as per the individual’s grasping power and introduce new concepts only when the foundation is ready for them.
Keep it light and don’t overload or confuse children with unnecessary information. Make sure they have understood before moving forward.
Each individual has subjects that they are more drawn to versus others. Choice is a gift, hence we need to honor the choices of children and understand that each one is born with a unique purpose.
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babyspacebatclone · 6 months
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Small rant from a daycare teacher:
It’s important and healthy to teach children they can be told no.
We’re talking something like a bell curve, you need to be in the middle, but please for the love of your child’s future please answer this:
Will your child be expected to stop at red lights?
Will your child have to make appointments in inconvenient days?
Do you want your child to be able to live with, at most, a manageable amount of debt?
If you want those things for your child in the future - safety when driving, handling making doctor’s appointments in the schedule available, and financial health - If you want your child to be able to handle that in the future…
They need to learn that it’s ok to be told “no.”
That they can’t get everything exactly when they want it.
That some things are reasonable, but maybe not right now.
That other people have needs too, and we sometimes have to put those needs first for the time being.
Please.
I’m just… Exhausted from the three year olds complaining “But I want it!” or “I don’t want to [take my break]!” for months.
Because that behavior is age appropriate.
It is age appropriate for a child to want to impose their desires on the greater world. They don’t know other people have real feelings, real needs.
They need to learn this.
But if the belief that “I want this!” is going to work for months, that means they A) are getting away with it from someone regularly and B) aren’t learning patience and self control.
And at the minimum, if you want your child to have the independence of a driver’s license, they’re going to have to learn patience and self control.
And I promise you, they can start learning even before the age of 1.
On the flip side, of course, they also need to learn they do have control over the world, but that’s a different rant right now……
(They won’t be good at self control at age 1, in fact the way you know they’re learning is they cry at the word “no.” But that’s the process, and the earlier they understand the world imposes limits on them while having their needs otherwise met, the earlier they can learn coping skills for working within those limits.)
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typhlonectes · 1 year
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kiragecko · 9 months
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I avoid most of the discourse, but I was wondering:
The people who are talking about how things aren't black and white, and how toxic purity culture is (ie. people I agree with) - how often do they acknowledge the importance of black and white thinking for young teens who are learning things for the first time?
(And, to a lesser extent, adults being exposed to new concepts?)
As part of a family who is always learning, I watch this a LOT. Learning the basics takes up most of a person's brainspace, and they generally CAN'T wrestle with all the nuance at the same time. They might say a lot of reactionary and absolute things while they're trying to figure out what they think. But that inflexible stage is really important! Doing things out of order can actually weaken our eventual mastery of the topic! And, having a 13 year old, it is daily obvious that they are still ACTIVELY developing the type of brain that can handle that nuance. Not all of them are CAPABLE of shades of grey thinking, yet.
I don't want us to chase the young people away by berating them for developmentally appropriate behaviour. And I don't want us to burn our bridges with people just starting to process the idea that other people like things that are "gross" or "bad".
Building communities around black and white thinking is really harmful. Allowing purity culture to grow unimpeded isn't a good idea. But I think it will help if we recognize that purity culture is easier to understand than tolerance, and it's natural for people to start there. (Natural to experience the disgust, not to send the death threats.)
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ineffectualdemon · 9 months
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I love the things that you learn as a kid only from other children
And some seem largely universal or at least exist across nations
Like the "secret s" you know the one:
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This pointy bitch
Or skipping rhymes or urban legends
But I also love very regional specific ones
I don't know how common this one is but it existed in my elementary school and I have never encountered anyone who didn't go to my elementary school who knows about this:
We had a schedule for the days of the week. Each day had a name and a corresponding action to do.
I will warn you now that Friday is not good. Very misogynistic and upholding everything wrong in the patriarchy. Going to drop it all in a quote box so it's easier to skip Friday
Monday: Men's Day - the boys chased the girls
Tuesday: Toes Day - you had to try to step on people's toes
Wednesday: Woman's Day - the girls chased the boys ...it should be noted that for both this and Monday no one knew what you were supposed to do if you caught someone so if you were going to catch someone you'd generally slow down and let them get away. But at least there was equality in the chasing.
Thursday: Throw Up Day - ....we couldn't come up with a better rhyme but nobody wants to throw up so we just went about the day like it wasn't a special day. If someone did throw up on a Thursday though it was very satisfying
Friday: Flip Up Day - the very problematic day. The boys would try to flip up the skirt of any girl wearing one. Normally this was resolved by not wearing a skirt but 1. That shouldn't have been the solution 2. It didn't always work. Willy in 1st grade tried to flip up my shirt and I punched him.
It was unfortunately a early lesson in slut shaming because we did judge girls who wore skirts to school on Friday. Which ignored the fact that we were all actual children who might not have had control over our own wardrobes (ETA: also of course the girls should just have been able to wear whatever they wanted without having their skirts flipped up obviously. Though it is possible it was originally meant to limit when boys would try. Idk tho. Maybe it was a child version of the purge)
If anyone else grew up with this days of the week schedule at their school I'd love to know about it
Now problematic elements aside I am fascinated that this is something that older children passed down to younger children
This part of the human development of things you only learn from other children is so fascinating to me
Because like as an adult I know how to draw that s shape up above. But I never taught my child and when they came home telling me about the secret s they learned from their friends it filled me with joy
Children's secret mysteries and knowledge is fascinating
And it's fascinating how as parents we leave these things for our kids to learn from other kids to an extent, just like we did
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absolxguardian · 5 months
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Have anyone/does anyone know any parents who have explained Santa Claus, Tooth Fairy, etc as a game of pretend that everyone observing the holiday participates in? Because I feel like that would let you have best of both words, no lying to your kid but they still get to interact with these traditions? Like young kids should be able to easily get double belief/mult-layered reality, that's what they spend most of their time doing. They don't say "I'm pretending to be a doctor" when you ask them what they're doing, they say "I'm a doctor".
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caitas-cooing · 1 year
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The thing about kids that people don't understand is that they are almost always listening. Even if you think they aren't paying attention, even if you think they couldn't possibly care, they are probably listening and while a lot of it may go over their heads and there may be misunderstanding because of their inexperience with the world, they also know and understand a lot more than you think. They pick up on a lot, the things you think and feel about them, the things you say about celebrity crushes, and some other stuff that they might not see the full consequences for, but other adults who hear them tell the story will definitely be able to read between the lines and figure out what was actually said. Kids are smart and constantly learning. This goes double for disabled children. And so when I see things like the mom in that one autism speaks video talk about how she considered driving of a cliff with her daughter in the car right in front of said daughter I worry. When I see a mom post a video of her child having a meltdown and justify it by saying he's too low functioning to ever understand I worry. When I see self proclaimed autism parents talk about how much of a burden autism is on their lives I worry, because eventually those kids will figure out autism is the word that describes them, and realize that they are the burdens. Or maybe they realized it all along. And how much must it hurt to know that your own parents think of you that way. Be careful of the way you talk about your kids. They know. They always know
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