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#cause im so fucking exhausted! from just depression and self hatred and now guilt and just all things bad!
klaushardgreeves · 3 years
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i learned today how to have access to work's U-drive from home so it's fucking over for me lads
#i felt like fucking wortless piece of shit and guilty af when i got home#and i managed to calm myself down some by working on smth for 45mins :)#i fucking hate trauma i fucking hate it hate it hate it#i can't trust anyone or anything#i had to rush home today because i could feel an anxiety attack pushing on for like three hours straight#and my head just felt like cotton and i couldn't focus on anything#but i had to stop to talk with a superior who. i fucking hate myself for not being strong enough rn#i'll fucking forever remember this as the busiest time of the year that i was absolutely fucking useless and disappointed everyone#idk we talked briefly he asked smth about the one fucking thing im doing at work today and i tried my best to answer#and then he said good night but switched to 'or well good day i suppose' cause he's somehow heard about me not sleeping until afternoon#and that almost made me cry like such a fucking stupid thing but i don't even know why he knows that#and my stupid brain went 'no im heading to sleep rn'#cause im so fucking exhausted! from just depression and self hatred and now guilt and just all things bad!#im wrapped in a cardigan. a soft blanket. under my ''sleeping blanket''#listening to MUNA and trying to fucking breathe#it's 9am and i have to wake up at 5pm cause i decided to go to the barber's tonight#a pathetic attempt of self care and making myself feel a little bit better!#i should call the health care center rn before falling asleep for a doctor's appointment for tomorrow morning if possible#im like. i shouldn't be surprised i collapsed this fast and hard but im Useless suddenly#everything is weird and off at work and im being treated so weird i want to crawl out of myself#na.txt
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fairycosmos · 5 years
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chloe im so stupid im tired and I don’t feel well but here i am at school bc even tho my parents offered several times for me to stay home i have such a guilt complex about missing school that i pretty much just always go but i don’t know what’s wrong w me like im just sick and i keep crying and im just so STUPID i should’ve just stayed home in the first place but esp now that im here i feel like i can’t go home (im sorry I’m r
hey angel. it’s okay, you’re going to be okay. you’re having a really tough day but you’re getting through it, you’re trying your absolute best and that counts for so fucking much, i mean it. i just want to say that i’m super proud of you for making it to school in the first place, seriously. it seems like you care a lot about your education, and that’s extremely admirable. way more than i cared about mine when i was in school anyway. i cant tell you how many days i missed - but i was always able to catch up on the work and to find a way around it. you don’t have to be perfect all of the time, you dont have to constantly over exert yourself. you and your health are way more important than your grades. you can always fit studying into a schedule, but you can’t do that with your own comfort and happiness. it’s hard to accept that as a fact, but it’s the truth. if you need some time, a day or an afternoon for yourself, to recover from the fuckin stress of being a person - that’s alright. you’re entitled to that. everyone needs a break sometimes. 
when you’re feeling so depressed and upset and fucked up inside, it’s very easy to turn to self hatred. you’re trying to make sense of things, and if you turn against yourself, then at least you have someone/something to blame, right? but the thing is, is that these thoughts aren’t accurate or true. they’re coming from a very sad, panicked part of your brain. you’re not stupid, you’re not what you think you are. you’re just going through a tough time. the academic system is literally built to make you feel inadequate. your stress isn’t a reflection of you or you ‘failures’, it’s a reflection of your environment. look, it’s okay to process negative emotions, and it’s definitely okay to cry when you need to. it’s healthy, even if it’s painful. let it out, let it wash over you and then try your best to let it go over n over again. of course, it’s a lot easier said than done. but it’s still possible, if you want it to be. there’s comfort in pain, but holding onto it for longer than you need to is pointless. you can make the active choice to just let it be what it is, for now. 
it’s completely up to you what you do next, and how you go about dealing with the rest of the day. find a quiet place, like a bathroom, and sit down for a while. take a few deep breaths. maybe cry again if you need to. and then think objectively about what you need to do for YOU. i know there’s some sort of complex in your mind that is forcing you to believe that going home now that you’re already at school would be some sort of unforgivable crime, but i swear it’s not. it’s not a big deal, even if your brain is making you feel like it is. if you want to ask your teacher to call your parents to come pick you up, if you feel like that would be your best option deep down, then that’s your answer right there. there’s no shame in at all, babe. looking after yourself is actually more productive than completely exhausting yourself. take today to recharge and rest, and then you’ll be more capable of actually focusing on your work when you return to school, you know? you’re only human, and you’re at the end of your limit. it happens sometimes. and it’s nobody’s fault. after some sleep, some food, and some peace and quiet, you’ll see the temporariness of it all. 
if you dont want to go home, it may be a good idea to go to your school counselor/nurse to see if you can talk to them about what’s going on. i KNOW you don’t want to, and i know it literally seems like the worst idea in the world - but at the end of the day, leaning on other people is one of the healthiest ways to cope with what you’re going through. if you feel like this a lot, there may be an underlying issue that you can get real help and support for you. where you’re at right now isn’t where you’re always going to be, and if you genuinely feel like you need some guidance, then there are so many people who are willing to give you it. i promise. talk to your parents about it, or your doctor, or someone at school, or even a hotline if you’re too scared to reach out to anyone in person at the moment. you’ll see that there are so many resources and avenues of support available, so many ways to change your perspective so that it doesn’t feel as heavy and as bleak. there are coping mechanisms, thinking patterns, forms of therapy and counselling that will help you figure out the root causes of why you think the way you do, and how to calm yourself down when you get overwhelmed. of course, it’ll be a process. i’m not saying that talking to someone is going to instantly solve everything. but it’s a really wonderful place to start. and i honestly believe with all of my heart that you can do it, love. you don’t have to fight this all on your own. others understand more than you realize at the moment. like i said before, it’s easy to turn to self hatred and destruction. but if you’re aware that that’s just a defense mechanism, then you can start acting against it - you can start putting your mental health first. please at least consider it. and for today, just find some privacy, breathe and decide what you need to do. that’s more than good enough. you wont feel like it is, but it is. i’m sending you so much love and again, i hope you know how proud i am of you. i’m rooting for you so fuckin much. i’ll be here if you need a friend or if you want to talk properly, just let me know. 
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aliwept · 5 years
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WARNING :     MASSIVE TOKOYAMI HC DUMP AHEAD !  part one of ..... many sldkfjds i gotta transfer a lot from old blogs
triggers:  body talk,  religions mentions,  mentions of binding, self hatred and transitioning.
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BELIEFS / MOTIVATION:
tokoyami looks at becoming a hero the “wrong” way — or rather, in a way that cripples his success.he doesn’t want to become a hero in and of itself, but to help as many people as he can.
this is usually a good thing, but it is motivated by his extreme guilt and self doubt rather than pure desire, believing that that is the only way to pay for his “sins.” (i.e., the destruction or potential destruction his quirk as/could cause(d).)
he holds himself up to an extremely high standard, (it is impossible to have a totally “pure” motivation,) one of being perfect and disciplined in every way, but he consistently fails to reach that (as any human being would), making it so that he falls deeper into a circle of self-doubt and pity.
he also tends to idealize his friends for their faults, and when those difficult traits show up he gets extremely bothered, then angry at himself for his idealization, then angry for bothering them, & it escalates until he’s simply angry at himself for being what he believes to be a burden.
this is an extremely deeply rooted process, one that even daily actions contribute to, & while the source isn’t completely his parents, it is certainly reinforced by his mother’s abuse & his guilt relating to his father’s death.
PHYSICAL:
he’s not particularly muscled — well, compared to his more muscular classmates. most of his muscle is in his legs & stomach. he does not have a particular training regimen, typically unmotivated unless prompted.
unlike the majority of his classmates, because a lot of his fighting is done with dark shadow moving him (so that it’s harder to predict movements, as well as going from a large range), the majority of the time he’s not challenged physically.
against close attacks, both attacking which he uses his sword for (seen in his dorm room), when allowed. he inherited that sword from his father after his death. he also feels fatigue easily, not so much due to muscles but because of his exhaustion that is his “normal” state, given that dark shadow is nocturnal. (this & his low work ethic. he works a lot harder when training with friends.)
he doesn’t feel the need to bind more than not, given his skinny physique, with his hips being only a little bit wider than the average cis man’s.most of his scars are on his arms, self inflicted from his talons cutting into his skin. parts of his skin are covered in a gel like skin, clear to see the feathers that poke out from them, going much like arm hair down his sides. these are mostly around his shoulders.
most of the feather is underneath skin (though the skin & the feather both have no nerves), visible with the skin being mostly clear (no muscles adding color, only the natural dark pigment) with the rest of the feaher poking out at a low angle to his arm.
HABITS:
he has a diary that he writes in religiously. it’s kept in a hat box under his bed when he returns to the dorm, along with a collection he’s had since he had been able to write.
at times, in nostalgia, he’ll read through his earlier books. he also tends to doodle his classmates in them ! he’s an incredibly private person — especially because his mother ignored his privacy, refusing to let him keep secrets of any kind in ‘fear that he was hiding something’ — but also enjoys putting his thoughts into words.         
PAST:               
tokoyami was bullied due to his appearance / personality. for someone who was already uncomfortable with his body (not knowing what being trans was at that point) this became the root of deep insecurity regarding his appearance, whether it was as simple as hesitation.
he is autistic !! he stims a lot with his hands, though usually it’s in his hoodie / under his cloak, because he’s very self conscious about it.  he also has adhd: inattentive type, bpd, depression & anxiety!
fantasy verse:  he’s a witch & i will fight you on this fact. my boy loves the occult. he’s also. in generally he tends to be superstitious, & more than that enjoys different rituals! it probably won’t show up in my rp cause i honestly don’t know much about that type of thing but ! he absolutely adores things like that, not necessarily because he fully believes them but because they’re interesting & he believes that they probably stem if only in part from fact.
now im gonna add some notes here.  while he is obviously pretty strong,  he has problems with control, considering that not only does he have to react, he has to communicate those thoughts with dark shadow. speed / offense / defense obviously are enhanced w dark shadow, as well as his own abilities (he would still be able to hold his own if he couldn’t use his quirk).
as well, a lot of his stats are basically his stats + dark shadow, which obv makes them higher than they otherwise would be. he also has really high stamina and working out for a long time doesn’t really. make him tired, nor dark shadow, because dark shadow doesn’t get tired & he’s not the one doing a lot of the actual physical stuff. he’s not good w weapons tho in general. note that these are basically during the daytime w/o a huge light source so things change when it’s darker/lighter.
parents:   tokoyami’s mother had the ability to call spirits of the dead to her and talk to them, & his father’s was to house things, as in objects, so he cld like. store things inside of his body. it’s real wild.
a quirk that combined with another in tokoyami’s lineage, so one of his ancestors had the ability to shapeshift, specifically with birds & banged w someone who has a quirk similar to aizawa’s, where it basically ‘stills’ the action of .someone’s quirk, if that makes sense? so down the line people wld inherit a birds’ features, but it would switch. in his dad’s case, he got a raptors ‘arms’ & eyes.
i am here to inform you that not only is he really short, he’s also chubby! espcially as a child. while he now has muscle! :tm: ive made earlier posts about how he doesn’t have a good. regimen & shit so. yeah. just like deku, while he may be muscled, (though he’s less muscled than. most of his classmates) he still is v chubby on other parts of his body.
also ! he’s trans & he has. a large bust, which he does not bind most of the time due to fear of asphyxiation. being demiboy, he is bothered at it at times, but dislikes tight clothes as a whole (like binders). this is because he is easily overstimulated by excessive contact with his body, causing sensory overload.the exception is his neck, which his choker is a source of comfort. (though, warning, there are scars underneath that the large choker hides!)
tokoyami. will say/do something & then become embarrassed by it, after the act has already been done. he’ll fuckin melt on the spot.
tokoyami is absolutely someone to leave ppl on read. or respond w several paragraphs w ‘K.’ like. that’s just how it is. he’s lowkey an asshole in that way but he just. he has to think a lot before having a response but he gets distracted & just leaves it.
he has dark fucking brown skin !!!!! people who draw tokoyami w light skin cause he’s a ‘pale goth uwu !!!!’ are weak & will be weeded out by natural selection.
people he trains with most are ,,,  mostly kirishima, kaminari, aoyama and momo when they’re available
he’s mix of japanese, native american, and indian!
self knowledge questions:  neediness, independence, shyness.
NEEDINESS: being affirmed & nurtured by others is a central requirement for you to feel safe. this means you can be slow to warm up to other people, which is difficult because what you most need from them is their warmth. yet you know how to be vulnerable: to let down your defenses and accept that you need another person. this lack of pretense is a valuable trait, and ultimately more endearing than the macho efforts others make to deny their childlike sides.
INDEPENDENCE: you don’t set out to be different for its own sake; you are more easily guided by what interests & moves you. you are more concerned about what is right for you than about the pressure to fit in. you know the value of selective irresponsibility, of forgetting occasionally about being ‘good’.
SHYNESS: part of you is gripped by the fear that you’ll launch into something and completely mess it up. the upside of this is wise caution: people are indeed often too rash, whereas you know, by instinct, that holding back can save you. probably, you feel shame and self-disgust a bit too much. but when you do feel in your element, you act with a wisdom and sensitivity never found in people with thicker skins.
there’s an au where he’s tamaki’s half brother tamakis hmu
more ramblings cause i lov him so anw. i figure that like. if he had to have a motivator it would be an outside force but basically he’s riding on the fact that he has more physical ability because he doesn’t perform very well in studies. ( bird brain …… )
getting 14th place out of the class on midterms, he’s aware that he’s not motivated & as well as his migraines & other mental illnesses ( adhd, executive dysfunction, etc. ) this means that he doesn’t really reach his “full potential.”
he’s aware of this, though, which causes him to train physically. physically training also allows him to ( a ) feel proud of himself, something that he struggles with ( b ) help him generally, esp with dysphoria ( c ) get his mind off of other things / points of stress.
i still don’t think he’s like. as buff as shouji for example, though part of that is that he’s naturally lean ! & he has trouble motivating himself sometimes but when he stays up late ( due to dark shadow ) it basically wrecks his sleeping patterns, so this gives him something beneficial to do while also exhausting himself, which he hopes will help him fall asleep.
like i know that i said that . . he was skinny / not v muscled ( when compared to his buffer classmates, rather ) but i guess i’ve been proven wrong because it took both Buff McFuck mina and hagakure 2 push him out of the way ( not tht it took that long but that was w them straining / time skips )
so @ this point i Just Don’t Know. he got 9 in the practical which means he’s obv like ?? p good but that was the entrance exam. ( he got 10 rescue my baby !!!! im so proud of him ) & then w aizawa’s exams he started off at 5 & im tryna find the other thing what it ended up as but @ this point i’m just , pretty divided cause i’m not seeing much reason for him to learn to train w/o proper training ( & we kno that he’s not someone who was trained specially like todoroki / momo tho tht doesnt mean it’s not possible & at this point im just ) ya. he’s gotta be able but from what we know he’s not v motivated ? ausdjkfdsfjk we’ll see ig.
tokoyami is a mix of shinto (where his hero epithet comes from), taoist (due to the values), & hindu (again, values). i think for now it’s going to be some mix of that, though i’m going to do some research on shinto values since i don’t know much about it !!!!!
generally, he’s pretty superstitious, just because he knows many myths are based on facts, & the idea of ‘it doesn’t hurt to watch out for them.’ he prefers to avoid possible things that would make him have bad luck.
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