#catastrophic accepted

[bigfatbreak]

Birds of a Feather previous / next

#my art #feralnette au #birds of a feather #long tags #sorry I went apeshit in the tags #LETS SAY IT ALL TOGETHER NOW #I - M - A - G - OOOOOOOOO #its fun drawing marinette's back to Alya and having her appear stout and unstoppable and totally logical #and then you see her face and she's like two seconds from completely snapping and is keeping it together by a thread #as a note just because mari feels very certainly abt smth doesnt mean she's right. feelings can be valid and also irrational #in the throes of grief she decided it was better to be alone than to lose someone again so she started pulling away #and lila made pulling away very very very easy to do #shes also vaguely aware she's being unfair in pinning this on alya which is why she started spinning the drain on cockmoth again #legitimately all the shit that's happened to her wouldn't have been so catastrophic if he was never in the picture and she knows it #but the bitterness of her bestie choosing a fantastic liar over her at the worst of times stiiiiiings #alya's personal timing was bad but lila really took advantage of the fact that marinette had been acting off and weird #she basically clocked marinette as being unstable from SOMETHING and made up a lie about her #knowing she wouldn't have the strength to defend herself #between her social life going tachy bc of lila and losing fu in a way that felt like personhood death marinette was really put on the spot #and alya doing her thing of busting in there and assuming her bias is correct was a terrible combo #essentially marinette is highly unstable and alya is just realizing that #busting in and giving her a lecture when she's slightly hysterical and definitely delirious from exhaustion is NOT the way #to show her she's self sabotaging #cuz thats just gonna make her double down on self sabotaging. bc marinette will not accept that she is also a CHIIIIILD

[pandoratheprocrasticreator]

I wonder what the kids and teachers in luz's school think of her now. Shes stopped "terrorizing" other kids, mainly because she seems to have stopped engaging with most of her classmates period. She no longer brings live animals or taxidermy to school. She even participates in english class occasionally, even if she doesnt "get" the point of the book. Her rants only clock as suicidal if you know about her time in the boiling isles which the people at her school do not.

I wonder if luz's teachers and schoolmates think that luz mellowed out over the summer. If the principal/counselor that suggested she go to the camp patted himself on the back because shes "improved."

#the owl house #toh #shut up pandora #luz noceda #something something people see a neurodivergent kid having depression and breathe a sigh of relief bc now theyre finally 'normal' #people speculate maybe luz would have been fine going to the summer camp and while i agree she would have made friends #she would not have been fine! she would have just learned to suppress her identity like camila did #but going to the boiling isles was her only option bc she either gets suppressed quickly at the summer camp #or she keeps acting out at school and eventually society wears her down and shames her into conforming like it did to her mom #something about how even if the camp helps luz act like a 'normal person' she still would have been miserable bc she couldnt be herself #it temporarily benefits her by giving her friends and benefits ppl around her by making her act 'normal' #but the kids there are still weird at heart! they have a community to be weird around now but society at large will still look down on them #unless they put on a front all the time to fit in #and the boiling isles isnt perfect either its society still looks down on luz for being different #but it accepts her neurodivergence and her new friends are all neurodivergent like her so she still has a community to be herself around #and while it looks down on her for having no natural magic it isnt something shes been shamed about growing up like her neurodivergence was #anyway the camp wasnt as catastrophic as luz thought it would be and vee benefitted from it #but it still represented a slow rot. the kind that eats away at neurodivergent kids as they grow up #slowly shaming them to hide away parts of themselves deemed unfit for society #and when you hide behind a front and are exhausted and miserable from it #everyone applauds you for your 'recovery.' youve improved yourself. they never liked the old you #good job on destroying yourself and shoving the pieces into a facsimile of what the people around you think you ought to be

[my-autism-adhd-blog]

Hi everyone,

I found a helpful article from ADDitude talking about ways to stop catastrophizing.

This excerpt is going to be somewhat long, so I apologize in advance:

3 Ways to Stop Catastrophizing:

To shift toxic worry into something productive, you need to first recognize that you are catastrophizing. This happens when your brain’s amygdala (the fight, flight or freeze) organ in the limbic system-the emotional region) figuratively takes over your thinking brain (your prefrontal cortex) by activating adrenaline and cortisol. Your entire being is focused on obtaining safety and feeling secure. Basically, the part of you that runs from tigers and steps aside from racing cars begins controlling all your responses.

1. Dismantle the “What-Ifs”

To regain control, turn down the volume on your catastrophic thinking by remembering past successes, tools, interventions, and statements you’ve used to overcome perceived dangers. When I’m in a “what-if” spiral, I shift my thinking to “What could go right?”

Follow your “what-ifs” to the end of the line. Ask yourself, “What if this happened? And then what? And what if that happened? And then what?” Keep going until there’s some resolution. Can you live with that resolution?

Try to consider best-case outcomes in addition to worst-case scenarios. What might happen that could be positive? Can I predict any happiness instead of pain?

2. Set Up a Buddy System

Toxic worry intensifies in isolation. So, set up a buddy system with someone you trust who can offer a different perspective. Who could you call or text if you’re in a poisonous worry spiral? Do you have a therapist, coach, or counselor? Whether you are concerned about perfectionism, personal relationships, or sociopolitical injustices, who could be your ally in these dark moments?

3. Create a Plan

Come up with a plan for escaping your next spiral. Make a list of self-soothing actions to take when worry rears its ugly head. Post it somewhere accessible, like on your phone or sticky notes at home. Your plan can include settle-me-down phrases such as “I’m afraid, and I know how to be brave” or “Things work out, keep breathing.” It can also contain a list of activities to slow your reactivity, such as drinking a glass of water, walking outside, cuddling a pet, getting a hug, etc. Here are some more ideas:

Exercise. Daily exercise pumps up your endorphins, which bathe your brain with good feelings. When I wake up feeling “ugh,” a run or bike ride gets me out of my negative headspace.

Create a playlist. Categorize songs into different playlists on your phone, label them “angry songs,” “sad songs,” “happy songs,” “how-to-stop-worrying songs,” etc.

Practice mindfulness to interrupt the pattern of negative thinking. Meditate. Do yoga. Listen to the birds. Drink a cup of tea. Do a crossword puzzle. Play Wordle.

Try triangle breathing. Breathe in for four counts, hold for four counts, and exhale slowly for six counts. Do several rounds of this.

As always, the full article will be linked below if anyone wants to read more. I hope many of you found this helpful.

ADHD

Catastrophizing

#adhd #adhd post #adhd problems #adhd and Catastrophizing #a guide on how to stop Catastrophizing #adhd and worrying #adhd and mental health #adhd awareness #adhd acceptance #source: ADDitude #feel free to reblog/share if you’d like #tw bright colors #tw eye strain

[diodellet]

Hihi Lili here, this is the first time I’m requesting something on here/ I'm not used to tumblr very much TT so i’m sorry in advance if I get anything wrong!!

For the valentine’s event would it be okay to ask for 1. w/ Jamil :3 and have she/her pronouns? As for a descriptors the only thing I really have for that is long black hair and warm brown skin if that’s alright :>

Also I just wanted to mention too, I absolutely love your writing especially the way you write Jamil it’s so so so good omg

💌Jamil Viper + Prompt #1 (“It feels… good to be around you.”)

The simple admission catches you both offguard, spills out into the dim silence of Jamil’s bedroom like moonlight.

You look up from your lap to meet his gaze in the mirror. He’s partway through fixing your hair into two braids, with the first completed one resting over your left shoulder. You can faintly detect the lingering fragrance of the hair oil that he applied beforehand. 

“I’m sorry?” Your pulse thrums erratic in your ribcage.

He clears his throat, but it does little to diminish the embarrassment in his voice. “Please forget I said that.” 

“No, no I didn’t mean to—I like being around you too…!” You turn to face him properly but he puts a stop to that action with a free hand planted atop your head, keeping your gaze pointed towards the mirror.

“Let—let me finish first.”

“...okay.” And you keep your head still, your nerves hyperaware of his touch and each gentle tug as he continues the braid.

“I didn’t mean to let that slip out, but I’ve been thinking about…this for a while now.”

Of course, there wasn’t any denying the fact that the two of you were in some kind of relationship, something deeper than friends but not as exclusive as boyfriend and girlfriend. Nevermind marriage, that was completely out of the question. Yet even something as amorphous as soulmates has crossed your mind more than once.

“And I realized that this hasn’t—that I haven’t—been fair to you. Especially if I keep being careless.”

Maybe that was part of the problem, that until this point, the both of you were careful not to disturb what you’d kept unspoken. That you merely followed his lead, folding yourself neatly along the boundaries that guided his life. That you left yourselves susceptible to moments of sudden openness.

“So you don’t have to keep playing along, I’ll understand.”

With a final twist of the hair band, his fingertips brush against your shoulders before pulling away.

Before he moves out of reach, your hand closes around his. “Jamil. ”

His expression is one of practiced calmness, but there’s a tinge of vulnerability in his irises that tears at you. “Yes?”

“Never put words into my mouth again.” And you grab him by the front of his shirt to pull him in for a kiss to punctuate that statement. If he got the wrong idea from that, well.

a/n: aaaaa ur too kind lili 🤧💕💕don't worry, ur doing absolutely gucci!! (belated) happy valentines!! thanks for sending in a request ahahahaha i think i got a little bit carried away with this one oops, either way i hope u enjoyed reading this💕💕

#aka jamil viper would it kill u to stop catastrophizing for 0.5 seconds #jamil accepting rejection as a contingency plan THIS GUYYYYY I SWEARRRRR #this drabble was jamil basically going: i like u oops wait that was too honest bye #and reader going: u fucking dumbass i like u too stop running #dellet-writings #dellet-asks #just-a-little-silly #jamil viper x reader #fem!reader #twst x reader #jamil viper #twisted wonderland x reader

[loudmound]

this excerpt from a doom eternal review is at the core of what i think made 2016's storytelling several steps above what eternal was trying to do and why i'm so pissed off at how disastrously they flew off the rails.

#stormy shouts #the review is called 'doom eternal is a dizzying catastrophe' if you want to read it for yourself #eternal's narrative suffers not only in part due to the crunch the devs were under #but also a severe lack of confidence in those that took up the helm of writing—because they don't consider themselves writers! #they don't understand what makes a story good #they just threw all the cool shit they liked at a wall and hoped that would be acceptable #and obviously... it wasn't #it's a story that refuses to take itself seriously while also demanding that you as the audience take it seriously #own your fucking ridiculousness and be earnest goddammit. campy shlock is not inherently a bloated fuckshow

[sarcastic-sketches]

My blorbos have range...

On a scale of Anakin Skywalker to TotK Link, how well does your blorbo deal with tragedy?

#one just accepts this new bullshit and goes foraging on his way to pick up Zelda #AGAIN #the other has a catastrophic breakdown and loses his marbles while taking the galaxy with him

[bruneburg]

So I'm back from the Slovenia trip. (I was there bc Animateka film festival screened Entbandung there, invited me for an Q&A and paid for the hotel stay.) I went there by train, and not only did I end up stranding on my way there and having to spend an unplanned night in a small Austrian town - I also ended up stranding on my way back home, again ending up spending an unplanned night... ...in the same little Austrian town. At the same hotel. In the same hotel room even. Definitely one of the weirdest things that ever happened to me. Luckily, Austrian Federal Railways had given me a hotel voucher every time that happened. And the town is very charming, with a lovely Christkindlmarkt. So I didn't mind too much. But my way back home did double from 15 hours to 30 hours. Once I was home it still felt like I was still in a train and the world was still moving and shaking around me, until I fell asleep. Ljubljana and Animateka were great by the way. It was nice to explore the city and get to know other student filmmakers at the festival. I hope I'll one day get to go there again.

#the little austrian town was Villach by the way #the germans here probably know why I stranded on my way home #the whole snow related catastrophic train situation in the Munich area and parts of Austria #Deutsche Bahn really needs more funding for basic railway maintenance #the situation is absolutely ridiculous #i couldnt afford the time and money really go to film festival screenings of my film until recently #unless they were in my home city #so im so glad I had the chance to go to two of them this winter #feels like a relief #film is aging out of its festival phase soon #so who knows how many film festival acceptances the film will still get #entbandung #text #non art #nonart #text post #update #Austria #this trip and meeting the people there made me feel a lot of feelings about my own cultural background #which is volga german and caucasus german #I feel that helped me feel familiar there in a way and connect to the filmmakers there in a way that I wouldnt have been able to if #if i had a more common german background #without any exposure to slavic language and culture

[adelle-ein]

it's embarrassing how long this took to sink in for me but i've finally realized the reason the vast majority of people people are so evil and insane about israel vs palestine is because they fundamentally see neither side as human

#that's why the Other Side is always full of faceless monsters and every single one deserves to die #and why deaths on Their Side are perfectly acceptable collateral #you don't see this in most other conflicts that get western media attention bc there's an acceptably White side and in i/p there is not #this is why there are nazis on both sides because nazis can either root for ethnic cleansing of jews or ethnic cleansing of muslims #win/win for them! #especially because no matter what side they root for there will be catastrophic death and they hate both sides! #and that's why i see so many people including jews and muslims casually wishing genocide on whichever side they don't like #because they simply do not care. it is not real to them #they have convinced themselves there are no humans in this conflict #they have convinced themselves there is an easy win situation for their Side #and there is not. #they have worst of all convinced themselves that whatever violence their Side commits is retaliatory and therefore acceptable #that the genuinely evil government leading their side consists of bold freedom fighters #that anything done in the name of that freedom is okay #and in doing so ironically they have lost their own humanity because they are so determined not to see others' #i give grace to any caught in the middle of this. i understand hatred and fear and wishing death to those hurting you #but to westerners? to the americans happily cheering on civilian deaths? nope. none for you #you say things you would never say about ukraine because you do not believe any humans are involved in this war #shutting off electricity and leaving everyone to die? fine. bombings? fine. rape and kidnapping? fine. they're not humans after all #expressing support for either hamas or the israeli government is unfathomable to me #and yet i'm seeing it en masse from those who supposedly want peace and leftism #obsessed with an abstract idea of Ye Glorious Revolution Needs Bloodshed (so civilian murder okay) #and in turn indistinguishable from the right wingers calling for gaza to be glassed. not to Both Sides but. Both Sides. #genocide is never an acceptable solution. i cannot believe that is a controversial statement #no civilian deaths are ever valid collateral. even if you personally do not quite see israelis or palestinians as human #you might think you do but ask yourself what you would do if it was you. on whichever side you see as evil. is it “okay” now? acceptable? #collateral for justice? what is necessary to ensure your side wins? it would be okay if you and your loved ones died? that's okay? #what if it was happening in america? england? your hometown? #is it still okay? #if it isn't...why not? why is your life more important than that of an israeli or palestinian?

[grinchwrapsupreme]

so how long until roman physically attacks someone

#succession #roman roy #i'm giving it like #2 more episodes #because i cannot accept that his blowing up at mattson was his peak #babes it is only escalating from here #we've got pills we've got dog comparisons #we've got roman wearing logans sweater #baby boy you are destined for catastrophic failure

[echodoesstuff62333]

Tiko wishes to give you a rose for Valentines day!

*sob*

Thank you...

This has been the best valentine's ever -v-

First one where I feel loved hehe

#koi catastrophe #<- traumatized af #Mf cant even accept a bouquet of flowers without breaking down #💀 #Yes I am bullying myself

[redjaybathood]

Every fucking westerner, and easterner, and both southerners and northeners too, on this god forsaken website, who said anything at all about how the world manages to discern politics from art for Ukraine but not other nations or ethnicities, based on, idk, Russians being banned from Eurovision which is surely because Ukrainians are white, and not, you know, the full-scale invasion that happened in the ninth year of Russian war against Ukraine, the ninth year of my hometown being occupied, and is still ongoing, and is a real fucking genocide on the scale unseen in Europe since WWII or Serbia, owes me, personally, to donate to a charity of their choosing:

Donate to Come Back Alive Foundation (life-saving defense)

Donate to Leleka Foundation (life-saving medical supplies)

(do not, under any circumstances, donate to Red Cross)

#like. if everytime i got a nickel when i heard that not all russians in the context of letting russians get money and publicity - #not just after the invasion. but because of the invasion. the contests they win for depicting our trauma #or navalny documentary #or the fucking atomic hearts game #bro #tell me what your country is and i will tell you how it helps russians to circumvent sanctions #so like. shut the fuck up #the oscars the miss universe and so on so forth #we're too political for them too. get this. #so the issue is not that they make an exception for us - in a very limited way #it's that art is not political or business is not political is bs #it's that what is acceptable politics for them #believe me ukrainians used this privelege of being acceptable politics for only a short time. a bit too late. and one of the main reason #besides the scale #is that this war is fucking over everyone and not just ukrainians #tankies love to blablabla nato usa proxy war #but do i have to remind you that the world was under a threat of global hunger last year? still under a threat of nuclear catastrophe? #and standing by doing nothing in the face of russia wetly spitting on internationally recognized borders is opening up themselves to #the same fucking thing #which is the only reason anybody gave a shit #and the same reason everyone was holding their breaths when nancy pelosi was expected to visit taiwan

[annieisyourfavourite]

I think honestly I could put a year of being a house cleaner or caretaker on my resume. Literally all my time is spent cleaning my family's homes. For the past 3 years I've done nothing but this. I should at least get some recompense for it

#mine #family #all day every day is cleaning #i just accepted a gig for a paying show that takes my time for 3 weeks #and my parents were already worried bc of all the cleaning projects #they needed me to do #that will either have to be put off or they will have to do themselves #and it's like. you guys. i always try and say I'm not the maid #but if the thought of me being busy with an actual job #is catastrophic to the running of ur household #when I'm already trying to move out #maybe. some things need 2 be reworked from ur end

[celticwoman]

when some1 convinces u to be optimistic once and u end up disappointed 👍🏻

#sorry i can't stop the catastrophic thoughts #it's so lame. i wish i was an optimistic person but man is it hard. idk how ppl do it #said i would stop deluding myself and accepted the fact that they're not gonna call me but i can't #stop checking my phone every 5 minutes anyway #sigh #when will it end #cami.txt

[zanathan-aisling]

my sympathy for vegans getting a flood of “DEBATE MEEEE” comments versus my frustration that their explanations and reasoning for vegan-ness still being fucking shit

#‘why are you arguing against someones life choices! their behavior isn’t a reflection on you!’ well A) i’m not actuall the one being critica #critical in this scenario i know better than to actually involve myself in that shit #b) Once You Start Making Ethical Arguments That Inherently Involves Everybody Fucking Else #AND THEN WHEN YOUR ARGUMENTS HAVE HOLES IT JUST. ACK #sorry but regaurdless of whether humans bred chickens or sheep to produce a surplus of That Stuff We Get From Them doesn’t make the fact tha #that harvesting that surplus SHOULD BE (not IS) harmless irrelevant #think i fucked up the grammer there. love how you can’t see the whole tag in the tags system #on mobile i mean #and like. suggesting selective breeding to REMOVE traits humans tampered into animals is still fuckin assumptive of what we even actually #meddled with #like jfc. veganism is an entirely fucking rational response to the animal industry’s plethora of degredations towards dignity and life #JUST CITE THAT #and while the plant agriculture industry is also completely fucked people still rely on it moreso than meat thus the demand is inelastic #and also theres hypothetically more room for actually ethical consumption. probably #veganism isnt INHERENTLY a step towards more ethical environmental practices but done not-catastrophically-wrong its stil a fucking improvem #improvement! and likewise it isn’t the ONLY road to making shit more ethical at least if you can accept that there is some ideal ‘ethical an #‘ethical animal agriculture’ that exists as a possibility out there #not to mention the whole ‘personal choices versus systemic change’ thing and how whe our politics affect our personal consumption that doesn #‘t really mean dick-all compared to actual collective efforts

[incorrectinfinity]

I am so scared of the future right now

#🎀.txt #how things are going in America is so fucking scary #i feel like I want to scream #a states I have lived in are trying to kill us off #I have so many friends in these states who I haven't talked to in years that could be afraid right now #afraid to be themselves lest they're arrested or forcefully detransitioned or worse #i am just watching it happen and hoping that somehow somewhere they're going to be ok #I have lived in the south for most of my life and still do #seeing states around me churn out more and more of these laws is fucking TERRIFYING #my state hasn't done anything catastrophic yet but seeing the surrounding states turn more and more dangerous is just so #ugh #I feel trapped and I cannot stand being caged #it sure as hell doesn't help that my dad is STILL transphobic and arophic and acephobic despite lying to me about it #I'm glad he isn't living with us right now it'd be fucking torture #I'm trying to keep my fears hidden but dammit it's so hard it's so FUCKING hard #I just want myself and my friends to be ok #I just want people to learn to accept that the only thing we've ever done as a community is fight for our right to exist #I am so tired I am so so so tired

[gayspock]

my 17 y.o self... annoying... and yet he remains correct 👊👿👊

#egg.txt #Ugh in a foul mood again #Something something you're just not made for other people #Something something you were always gonna die alone might as well have it be peaceful sigh #At least I don't have catastrophic meltdowns every night any more just somber acceptance and blips of fucking nightmarish kys episodes #that burn out in 2 minutes and occur once every 3months LOL #😭 👍 #Whatever sigh. Its stupid I still get caught up. It's routine dude....