The DM demanding I make a Carrd and helpfully listing all the incredibly personal things I need to spell out clearly for total strangers, and anyone with similar ideas:
Look, it took me a long-ass time to even be comfortable sharing the fact that I'm nonbinary with the toxic and unfriendly entity that is the internet, and I only did that because misgendering myself and being misgendered started to adversely impact my mental health (whodathunk, right?), AND the tide started to turn enough where I felt safe-ish doing so.
I find it abhorrent that people pressure others, and feel pressured, to make internet profiles and flash cards for all of their traumas, diagnoses, and other deeply personal information simply to not get shat on by their communities.
Here's a small point for you to consider: Consent is key. And if I make a Carrd or something about the 1200 page tome of my quirks and kinks, I effectively out partners. And not everyone consents to being outed like that. So I won't.
And to be frank no one needs to know the intricacies of my interior landscape except mutually interested parties with whom I chose to share it.
For ease of internet use, the closest label I've found in all my years of questing, the one that almost fit the general shape, was and is Pansexual, and now I hear it's terribly gauche and offensive to call oneself that so who fucking knows anymore.
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