#but the idea that love is a fulfilling compact built on friendship and communication and change feels very true

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It was already the case on Water Lilies where lesbians were saying we want a happy ending, we want a happy ending. What is a happy ending in a lesbian love story? Eternal possession? We want a frozen image of two people getting married? We have to tell our own narratives regarding how we lead our lives and how we love. Talking about the different power dynamics in a lesbian relationship is the first thing. Then building a love dialogue without expected conflict, departing from love as conflict, love as a bargain. Saying that love is fulfilling! Love can be emancipating. And it’s also about friendship. Relying on that kind of eternity.

Celine Sciamma's words made me think about Damie and i was wondering if it's just me or do you, dr. Concepts, see it, too?

By the way, i think a lot of themes you have been talking about regarding Dani and Jamie's relationship apply to PoaLoF :)

The first time I saw that quote, I thought it was explicitly about Bly/Dani and Jamie, so yeah—I definitely see it. I do think there’s a fine line to walk there, that to imply lesbians have such a different language for love that they can’t have a happy-while-fulfilling ending is...not quite right. But happiness as a merit of the now and not as a result only of a frozen sense of always-without-change? Yeah, that feels applicable.

#ask #the haunting of bly manor spoilers #which is not to say that’s what this person meant in her phrasing #but I do think there’s something to be said for both WANTING happy endings for queer women #(who so often in stories do not get them) #and also for exploring what a happy ending really means and how impactful joy is while it’s here #instead of always defaulting to the rom-com ‘they got married what more do you want’ conclusion #it’s an interesting quote if nothing else #I hesitate over the implication that any ‘kind’ of queer love is inherently different from straight ones #but the idea that love is a fulfilling compact built on friendship and communication and change feels very true #it’s the idea of stagnation in an ending reading as ‘happy’ because ‘I got you so no one else can’ that is ugly