#but that ain't my identity

[gamerwoman3d]

Maybe you don't like to reblog my explicit fics in order to keep your blog clean, and I'm cool with that. You need not do anything except enjoy the fics that I write.

I don't care about numbers. What I think would be cool is if people were *talking* about my fics with each other. Privately, publicly, podcast, in the bedroom, whatever, I just think that would be cool. I literally think it would be an act of rebellion.

I wish Net Neutrality laws were still in place so folks could do reaction videos to my fics. A mutual once said "I do be making faces (when reading smutty fics) though." But alas, the current internet landscape is too puritanical to allow space for such fun adult conversations.

So while I won't ask for likes or reblogs, I will ask for bookmarks. I will ask that you make copies. I will ask that you copypasta it all someplace where no one else can see it, like a diary app, your own private discord server, or emailing a copy to yourself. Screenshots are okay. Printing it out and snailmailing it overseas is fine as long as you're doing it legally.

I will also ask for private recs. If you know someone that you think might like a piece I wrote, I encourage you to reach out to them and recommend the piece.

I just don't think we talk about the explicit fanfics that we enjoy enough. But as long as publically talking about it can literally lose us access to what little of it we have, I don't have any hard feelings for those of you that do not like/reblog/leave evidence of your enjoyment.

I promise it's okay!

Some people will cry that fandom is dying or whatever. They might even say "If we have the numbers then companies have to listen! You gotta reblog to make progress!" But that simply isn't true.

Companies had the numbers before the policy changes that stopped adult discussions online. They've *always* had the numbers. Those numbers have always been astronomical: They don't care. Literally the only thing you can do in the USA to promote explicit fanfic and fandom spaces is figure out the politics behind the puritanical purge of in-demand fan content and fight back politically with your votes.

But if you can't even do that, just talking about the explicit fics you loved is an act of rebellion. And if you're not free to speak, then simply *enjoying* that content is an act of rebellion.

You need not feel a single drop of guilt from a lack of a heart/like/reblog/recommendation. Just by reading the shit in the first place, you already joined the resistance, engaged in the rebellion, and you'll always be cool to me.

#i don't have to know the identity of every single rebel out there it really ain't my business so stay safe and stack your paper #love is our resistance #i dunno what to tag this

[jlf23tumble]

I sent the anon about a lack of gay rumors about Harry. I don't think you read all I said because I never said he was straight and I never said there weren't any gay rumors. I even said that I didn't think he was straight. I was asking is it possible that all these women who said they've hooked up with him, and there are tons, all lying and were put up to it by Jeff? Like the bachelor contestant? Love island contestant. Influencers, models. Is it all lies or is it more likely that he is bi?

My apologies, I had a lot of similar asks come in all at once that were a) long-winded, b) didn't clarify what they were asking, and c) went off on tangents that kept me stuck on the first bit, and in this case, yeah, I got stuck on your ask's "there aren't any gay rumors" about him because, uh, there are?? Like, a lot?? To answer your question, I don't think Jeff has the ability to encourage random women to make that kind of claim (or the interest: it seems like a lot of work, and he reads as a shirker), and as a rule, I don't think women are liars. That said, are there really "tons" of women saying they've hooked up with Harry Styles, like, truly? I can think of one or two one-off anecdotes, but it gets muddied by media speculation, randos "connecting" "dots," or people linked to him officially. And all of THAT said, I have no clue as to Harry Styleseseses' real-life sex life, but since you ask, sure, he could be bi! Annnnd I think he could also be exploring his own sexuality in a much deeper and layered way than a lot of people in today's tumblr.biz fandom space are ready to consider because, frankly, a) they can't handle too many levels of nuance and b) don't understand that the deepest, most private real-life facets of someone else's sexuality are none of their biz. And that pulls in another part of this ask that kind of raises my hackles, and it's the "is it all lies" bit because none of us are owed the truth from someone we don't know. We see *maybe* 5% of any person's actual lived life! Anyone telling you they have it all locked in w/r/t a stranger is full of shit!

ETA: check out the replies for stuff I should have included but was too sleepy to really get to because YEAH, NAILED IT FURTHER

#i'll jump off my high horse for a hot sec to say that i often think about the vibes from the fine line album #and the way a LOT of people jumped in and seemingly correctly guessed a lot of signals being dropped #but maybe the whole 'being perceived' by strangers thing was a wee bit scary? #I can imagine him working out his own complicated identity to cis women in real time (my theory still works w/that album too) #you can dm me if you want me to spell it out in a spoon-feedy way but it's fairly obvious if you open your mind even a wee bit #there's a real ao3-influenced 'this script has been written and so it shall be 4 ever' vibe to a lot of fandom perception #and it just LOCKS IN to whatever was said a decade or more ago as if it's carved in stone #and guess what? it ain't #it ain't for him or for them or even for you #and that's actually wonderful and amazing and should be embraced tbh

[fisheito]

(zookeeper au) eiden: hey yakumo why do you always use the stall

rei: damn can't imagine asking someone why they pee the way they do. why do you show your dick to pee. imagine being so overconfident in your ability to piss you just stand and make a mess on the floor for a janitor to clean up (THIS DIVERSION WAS MADE BY 1/3 OF THE CLOACA CREW)

TSJFSFK THAT WAS MY INMMEDAITE THOUGHT -->defensive rei (bc i instinctively project my personal reaction as the first rxn)

if eiden's all "why are you shy yakumo? u can pee right next to me 🥰" *pats urinal next to him* i can imagine rei walking into the room with 1 of 3 reactions:

Fight Mode: "imagine asking someone what they do in the toilet. i could report u for sexual harassment" <- he would not, bc rei ain't a snitch, but i can imagine rei sassing eiden bc he feels like it

Apathy Mode: "i use the stall too. it's nbd. this is unimportant." (continues with his life, uncaring)

Generous Mode: "you're curious? come in here and i'll show u"

#eiden upon realising that his curiosity has dragged him into a social faux pas and he's all #AAHHHH SHIT I'M SORRY I DIDN'T ....... PPLEASE JUST LET THE EARTH SWALLOW ME that is ur business i am sorry goodbye #of course my immediate thought is put an AU on an AU. zookeeper au but eiden uses a STP and is like #AH I'M SORRY it's just that... well.... i use this and i dont want u to feel like u hav to hide but i get that everyone does things diff #ANYWAY I'M SORRY AGAIN FORGET I BROUGHT IT UP #infinite universes. infinite eidens. all of them apologetic and thoroughly confused. #imagine eiden's thinkin all my trans coworkers are trying to hide their transness from me #and i'm trying very hard to drop hints that i am in fact very cool with that but i'm actually coming across as an asshole #no eiden they're not trying to hide their genders. they're trying to hide their werewolf transformations #honestly this whole thing is becoming an allegory for identity suppression #and rei will not have it. #everybody else bein like “it's gonna be weird if the new hire finds out we're animals!! we gotta hide!!” #rei shrugging and saying that he ain't gonna go out of his way to withhold info and also that he's tired so hiding is annoying #actually quincy would fall into that camp as well. hiding stuff? troublesome. #no wonder eiden finds out super fast #asks #WHAT WAS I DOING BEFORE THIS #ah. i forgot. oh well #zookeeper au #yakumo #rei #eiden

[a-dragons-journal]

I don't want to invade the community, but I genuinely can't tell if my kin feelings are voluntary or involuntary. Does that mean I'm a KFF?

Tl;dr: No. Also heads-up that I get very emphatic in this post; that's not because I'm mad at you or anything, it's because people in general keep either misunderstanding or intentionally twisting what "KFF" is supposed to mean to make it sound way more exclusionist and gatekeepery than it actually is and I'm getting frustrated with that.

You're only "KFF" if you are knowingly, actively, intentionally using the word "kinning" to mean relating to, projecting onto, etc. a character while not actually at all identifying as them. That is, if you are "kinning for fun," "kinning" for the purpose of having fun, and it's not at all a genuine identity thing for you. It's in the phrase they use for themselves from which the acronym "KFF" came from.

If you identify as them in some way (voluntary or involuntary imo - the words copinglinker/otherlinker exist specifically for voluntary identity, but as I've said in a recent post, I find hardline enforcing that distinction less and less useful as time goes on, though certainly having the words available is useful, and anyway 'linkers aren't KFF either), you're not KFF.

If you aren't sure whether it's an identify-as thing or something else, and you're figuring that out, you're not KFF.

If you're not sure whether it's an identify-as thing or something else, and have given up on figuring it out because that line isn't clear for you and just want to settle somewhere and talk about your experiences genuinely, you're not KFF.

If you enjoy being 'kin and like to joke around and have fun with it, but it is still a genuine identity thing for you at its core, you're not KFF.

If you have a "weird" identity (in literally whatever way you can think of), that does not make you KFF.

KFF has a very specific meaning and "my experiences are weird and/or blurry in one aspect or another and I'm not quite sure what to make of them" is not it. (Nor is "having fun with being 'kin" and I really wish people would stop confusing those two.) It specifically (again, as is in the literal name) means people who are intentionally misusing "kinning" for something they KNOW isn't an identity thing.

#otherkin #fictionkin #kin for fun #asked and answered #anonymous #rani talks #at this point i wish that ''kin-for-fun' people' had never been collapsed into the KFF acronym #because it seems to have opened the door to people forgetting WHAT THE ACRONYM ACTUALLY STANDS FOR #meaning people are COMPLETELY misunderstanding the fuckin conversation #and to be clear i don't blame you specifically for that anon #again it's just a trend i'm seeing recently and i'm ARGH about it #because YEAH EXCLUDING LITERALLY ANY OF THE GROUPS UP THERE WOULD BE ASSHOLE EXCLUSIONISM #I FULLY AGREE THERE ARE PEOPLE OUT THERE DOING THAT AND THEYRE DICKS AND IN THE WRONG #BUT THIS ISNT ABOUT THAT ITS ABOUT PEOPLE LITERALLY *TELLING US* ITS NOT THEIR ACTUAL IDENTITY #AND THEN BEING MAD WHEN WE GO 'so.. could you maybe then not use the word that literally means you identify as?' #i am going to stop tag ranting now #tl;dr if you're not intentionally misusing language for something you KNOW isn't an identity thing you're not ''invading'' anything #and if you are you probably don't care unless you legitimately did not know #(in which case you are of course excused from my frustration with the whole thing; ignorance ain't your fault the misinfo is Everywhere) #(but. do please stop now that you Do know)

[silent-aeon]

These are pretty old, but it still stands. It's just a game but playing solo chips away at my soul ;;w;; Unfortunately some matches just send me in a rage (completely a me problem and only in Hunter, I just suck), but I love playing with chill players!

I got sad when playing rank with a friend spooked them (thanks a lot "spectate the pros" message) and am sad it might have made them not wanna play with me anymore.

#Identity V #IDV OC; Dai #By solo I don't mean the randoms playing bad I mean the randoms being mean and high strung on the game even in QM #Badges don't mean anything and yet they still put so much weight in them like please make up your mind #either way I will still get TS at 5 ciphers cause I'm silly #Hunters have it way worse cause not only will they get kited by one person they get stunned to hell and back #be taunted by the survivors and then be ridiculed if they have post match chat open #Safe to say tho I know my limits and just stop at that point cause it ain't worth it

[honmyoseagull]

Fandom: Marvel, Marvel (Comics), Dark Avengers (Comic) (Beware the warnings on the site)

Relationships: Akihiro | Daken/Lester | Benjamin "Dex" Poindexter Whumptober 2023, Prompts 9 to 16, Slow Burn, Feelings-challenged characters, pyschopaths in love, Revenge, Patricide mention, Brothers, Bullsnikt - Freeform Series: Part 2 of OLD DARK DAYS Summary:

Fighting together (or against each other) is easy. Fucking, they learn to manage. Kinda. Since this is Daken and Bullseye we're talking about, they're rubbish at dealing with their feelings, though. And the more they run from them, the more it hurts. Literally. Also, it wasn't what they had planned with their day, this 'Meet the Family' thing.

@whumptober-archive

#whumptober #whumptober 2023 #no. 9 #no. 10 #no. 11 #no. 12 #no. 13 #no. 14 #no.15 #no. 16 #“Learning everything ain't what it seems that's the thing about these days.” #polaroid #mistaken identity #you're a liar #can't you see that you're lost without me #broken phone #stranded #you said you'd never leave #all the lights going dark and my hope's destroyed #animal trap #captivity #no one will find you #i haven't slept in days #red #insomnia #i'm up i'm up #cold compress #inefction #i don't feel so good #feed me poison till I drown

[beautifulterriblequeen]

convinced a friend who was so deep in the political mire of "my vote doesn't count so why bother, and everyone's the same anyway" to actually pull out her primary ballot and use it. the rest is in chad's hands but I feel pretty good for helping shift one person's perspective just a little bit in the right direction

#every vote counts #vote guys it's so important #i'm helping my oldest vote for the first time too #ain't raising no slackers here #it doesn't have to be your wholeass identity to vote #just do it while you listen to a podcast and move on with your life #if you want better local stuff then vote for it #if you want better federal stuff then vote for it

[screamsofanoutlawbrain]

I can describe my gender as being the way it is because I was built a girl, and I had to learn slowly over time that the changes to myself I have made have nothing to do with my gender or sex, but I feel like I got something a bit funky going on inside and I feel a bit like I'm not fully girl but not anything else. I identify as demi girl, and I am a demi girl in the way that a cupcake is a muffin but a muffin is not a cupcake.

Aka if being a girl was like our solar system, then I'm pluto. Technically I'm not supposed to be in there, but nobody wants nor cares to push me outta the party.

#gender identity #gender #demi girl #I knows this and the post about love in a platonic sense ain't what's to be expected of me #but I'm literally named “Screams of an outlaw brain” so why would I be expected to stay on track #I walk down these tracks cause I wanna #demigirl #i am demigirl #I've been pretty comfortable with this part of my identity #and I think I will be #I still use they/them pronouns online though #(tbh though it's probably cause I have a shit habit of calling everything and everyone by they/them pronouns #unless it's some certain things I'll just call her or he) #I need a business card for people I've met #It would probably help #SOTOB'S LETTERS

[hmmwellok]

i didn't know he wasn't wearing shoes

#disco elysium #i spent the whole first day without my snake skins #found that fucking fridge tho omg #but kim was sayin 'yo why u ain't wearing shoes' and i'm like 'i what? :L' #from someone who also played ace attorney this is giving me MASSIVE detective bobby fulbright vibes #oh my god do all detectives with an identity crisis just forget to wear their shoes sometimes is that just a part of their thing #that whole chapter where he forgets wearing his loafers #note to self: if one day u become a detective and don't know who you are at least remember to wear your shoes #harry is a DISASTER i love him

[swordsofsaturn]

My "straight" friend just sent me this. I just know I can convert her to bisexuality

#to be fair i dont think it matters much to her regardless coz she's in a long term relationship #and i know she ain't gonna care about identity politics #we have also made out before btw 👍 and she regularly calls women hot so. #this is just one solid step further towards using the term bisexual if you ask me #i love my impact

[solarisposting]

screaming myself hoarse til I pass out we were together during a very tumultuous time in our lives I will always have your back and be curious about you about your career your whereabouts!!!

#not about j we're good - about the friend who i haven't shut up about in the 14 years i've been on the hellsite #the fun part is that i know his forever career and his forever whereabouts and it will break my heart into shards for the rest of my life! #and goddamnit we weren't romantically together but instead together as part of a weirdly codependent friend group of four and we were #near identically weird and fucked up emotionally and in our humor and how we spoke and how we meshed and i will NEVER fucking get over it!! #i'm still agog that i sent you a last chance hail mary sort of letter like the lyrics in this song about how i think about you often and #have always believed in you and been rooting for you like all the rest of us who knew you before things got really bad because you were and #are such a fucking incredible person and musician and friend and so smart and creative and LOVABLE! i said that in the letter without #realizing alanis said that in one of THE best lost love songs of all goddamn time! #i wish i could tell you one more time - right now today immediately or better yet five years ago - how i have always loved and admired you #and everything about you. even now. all the way out here in iowa i am still loving you with everything i have in me every single day #knowing i will never speak to or see you again [i think about you all the time but i don't need the same] and i finally started to admit #that to myself and my friends and my therapist in 2021 and i'm more at peace with it than i ever was or thought i could be in 2019 and 2020 #but i know it's gonna take my whole lifetime to get a grip on it and accept it. and it'll stop hurting one of these days. i know it will #i don't think i've ever loved a friend as much as I loved you. i think you were the best friend i've ever had #and that's one of the nastiest parts of it - we were good friends and you did seem to like me plenty #but i think i was the w-h-auden_morelovingone.txt by a mile. i was a weird obsessed stage 10 clinger. #and that's surely a large part of the dwelling and the fixation. if things had been more equal then maybe it'd be very different now. #guess i'll die because i sure ain't finding out!! #HELLO LOVES HAVE SOME RICH NUTRITIOUS ANNIE LORE ON THIS FINE FREEZING COLD SUNDAY AFTERNOON! #ann with an ie #<- this was a nightmare to type out and feel but i wanna keep it around for whenever i get the balls to talk about it in therapy again

[primeministerofantarctica]

saw someone call the breadwinner a movie about being trans i am once again begging people to acknowledge Cultural Context instead of refitting stories to fit their own comfort levels

#head in hands. okay media comprehension quiz time why is parvana dressing like a boy in this movie. #bc it sure as hell ain't a voluntary exploration of her gender identity now is it. #sigh. fellow white queer people learn Not Everything Is About You and shut up challenge. it is not that hard. #astra rambles #personal #(off topic this reminded me of the non-usamerican animated film rec list in my drafts i never got around to finishing lol)

[tabl3]

update on narcissistic father:

he wants to see my siblings and I for his birthday (which I fully forgot existed, idek how old he is tbh 💀)

so, we're gonna go somewhere expensive and bleed his ass dry wooooo

#funny how someone who abused your family as you grew up thinks he has the right to demand his 3/4 adult children to see him #I'm gonna wear my yale pullover #I don't go there but own one and he absolutely hates yale lol #it's bc he went to harvard like 40 years ago and that's his whole identity #man works at a gas station and wears his harvard hoodie to flex 💀💀 #nothing wrong with honest work but he doesn't work and isn't honest so lmao #if he doesn't cough up at least 500 buckaroos in pizza mission will be failed #and no I won't get him a gift- haven't since I was like ten lol #I ain't wastin my money

[nade2308]

Where do I start with the description for this story?

It all started a year and a half ago after rewatching "Did you see the sunrise?" for the nth time and one day Thistle excitedly started yeeting her thoughts at me, about the gum and that Nuzo chewed from the gum too, not just TC. So this plot bunny was born and I ran with it.

It's funny to think that what started as a story to explain how Nuzo was also brainwashed, ended up being a deep exploration about how Thomas feels about the whole situation and him wanting to help Nuzo out, because he will never leave his friends and family behind.

It was originally supposed to be for the Merry Whump of May 2022 event, but it got shuffled around for other events until I was trying to figure out this year's Whumptober prompts and suddenly it was the right time.

I hope that this story makes sense in the grand scheme of things and that you are going to like it.

Title is from Daughtry's "It's not over".

Thank you @thethistlegirl for all the help.

@whumptober

#whumptober2023 #no.9 #Learning everything ain't what it seems that's the thing about these days #mistaken identity #og magnum pi #fic #past non con TW #thomas magnum #theodore calvin #sebastian nuzo #post episode fan fiction #post 3x01 #past trauma #friendship #make one wrong right #past brainwashing #POW camp #my edit

[secondsonaym]

That being said if you do ever want me to clarify things about certain character's identities, by all means ask. I am playing 12th level 3D gender chess with my characters and I obviously can't just blurt out each new character's identity when they become relevant in the writing.

#like for those new here i myself am trans (specifically nonbinary in the sense i /think/ i'd have a specific gender i just dk what it is #but i sure as hell ain't cis and i sure as hell ain't a guy or a gal) #and when i realized i could do whatever the fuck i wanted with my characters i have not looked back #yes i will give a character who has a traditionally feminine name he/they pronouns. yes i will have this cis guy use neopronouns #pronouns do not equal identity!!! do what you want!! if you think smth sounds cool and you wanna try em then by all means

[troublewithvampires]

@rejectshumanity said: 🔥

(unpopular opinions - open)

//once again not too sure how unpopular this is lol, but something else that's been on the brain for a bit.

so, i think it's gone down in recent years, but i really hate the like... common stereotypes associated with gender and sexuality headcanons in media. these aren't universal, of course, but off the top of my head:

the bitchy competent girlboss is a lesbian; the slightly less bitchy but still competent girlboss is bisexual; the super friendly but weird person is pansexual regardless of gender; the mostly friendly but still kinda mean girl is trans; the super nice soft boi is trans; the incompetent malewife man is bisexual; the silly childish adult is asexual regardless of gender; the cold practical unfeeling person is aromantic regardless of gender; etc etc etc.

there's nothing wrong with any of those character archetypes on their own, nor is there anything wrong with people who fit those stereotypes. the problem comes in for me when people in fandom seem to always jump to these archetypes without really... thinking about it or really analyzing the character.

(fun fact: this is actually originally part of why i first imagined salvatore as pansexual, because i really wanted to write a huge fucking cunt who ID's as pan. but i later realized he would identify more with the term bisexual, so i changed it.)

(also i'm not touching the debate between those two terms with a ten-foot pole, just talking about trends that i find irritating in fandom.)

#❝ ain't no jesus here‚ billy boy ❞ 「 ooc 」 #❝ i'll talk your ear off‚ kid ❞ 「 answered 」 #rejectshumanity #//it's like!! idk sometimes it becomes really clear to me that a lot of people associate different labels with specific personalities #//and that bothers me i will be honest lol #//like. your gender and your sexuality may definitely impact your experiences and relationships #//but there is no one personality type for each identity #//sidenote this is why i'm lowkey starting to reconsider labeling amelia on my tftgs blog as a lesbian #//like. i'm attached to that headcanon. but lately i'm wondering if this is another instance of that trend lol