#but tbh i unfollow people who put those on my dash

[posts-against-reblog-bait]

ugh i hate reblog bait in the form of photos, the filters obviously won't work

#no matter how many reblog or [] phrases i insert lol #rants #soz ranting here #gonna start unfollowing and blocking those people who put it on my dash 💀 don't really want to think too much about it anymore #ohh and like . sorry if the person in question has severe ocd that causes them to Immediately reblog it #in that case i don't think i should be following anyways #it'll just become a vicious cycle lol. #actually that doesn't make sense . if they really struggled with it they would tag it at least? ugh I don't get why ppl reblog these tbh

[the-paper-monkey]

I'm sorry if I have hurt you in any way because that was not my intention. I don't really mind who you ship or what you ship. It's just, I open my Tumblr and the first I see is someone calling something I like a crack ship while talking about their favourite ship. My point is why talk badly about something/someone else's ship when you're also shipping something which is also very unrealistic? Like I get it you have a favorite, but you can talk about your favourite without saying someone else's ship is not possible/crack for that matter. My bad if I made you feel bad because I really didn't want to do that. I just didn't want to the see someone bashing my ship as the first thing I see when I open Tumblr. I just don't get why people can't ship their own things without calling others' ship crack. Either ways, I'm sorry you felt attacked honestly; I really respect you as a person and a writer. And that's why I was sad to see you say those stuff. I really liked your fics as well and I love how you write Tom, I really do. That is why I was so surprised to see that post on my feed, but oh well. I do hope you have a good day and again I'm sorry if I made you sad in any way.

I appreciate the apology. I understand that it's not fun to see something that you interpret as critical toward your ship on your dash, however, I did not put that post in the Tomarry tag. If those kinds of posts are upsetting to you, then consider unfollowing me, because when I receive asks, I will answer them with my honest opinion. Coming into my ask box like that is not appropriate.

I'm just scratching my head here, because tbh that wasn't an anti post? To say that Tomarry requires a reimagining of canon or that there are plenty of things they could dislike about each other is not me saying it's a shit ship. Drarry's my OTP after all, lol, hate = spice. I also didn't call it crack, though I don't think crack is an insult either. Most Tom ships are crackish to some extent, especially ships that require an AU for the characters to even be the same age (Tomarry, Tomione, Taco, etc.). Harry Potter x the dude who tried to kill him a bajillion times is pretty implausible to most people, but that doesn't make it a 'bad' ship. You can make any ship work and there are many, many writers who have brought more life to Tomarry than Canon Hinny received from JKR (before someone else comes for me, this isn't a Hinny critique either, this is a critique of JKR's ability to write romance lol)

This is what I've said on Tomarry and Taco previously.

^FYI this was a joke

Finally, it isn't your ship vs mine. I've shipped Tomarry longer than I've shipped Taco. I'll ship Tom with a pair of snakeskin loafers if I thought they'd have chemistry. I can ship something without singing its praises endlessly. In fact, I reckon I've said way meaner things about Taco on here than Tomarry lol. I've said that Tom would loathe Draco under most circumstances and that he would murder him for sure since lil bro can't stop yapping. I've also said Draco is ugly an acquired taste and Tom has no game 💀. My DAD has come to Draco's defence over some of the things I said about him as we were watching the movies. Roasting is my love language, pls don't misunderstanding it.

#asks #anon #draco cant stop yapping and neither can i #✌

[simlicious]

I am not posting much atm, here is why

heya, I'm pretty quiet on the posting front at the moment. This has several reasons. Since this might come across as a bit whiny, feel free to skip this personal ramble.

The good stuff first: I made a pact with my best friend and now we take a long walk together every week to increase our fitness levels. It encourages me to leave the house and get some fresh air and be in nature and it feels very good! We actually did a lot more together in the last months than just the walk, so I am quite busy and also often exhausted from the activity. I have also gotten back into Anno 1800 now that the game has reached its final state, and I am fixing some old mods that are not available anymore but I cannot live without, and I am also working on some of my own mods. The reason why I am taking a break from making patterns has mainly to do with the negative feelings I developed in the last months. I have been putting off writing this post for weeks, but my feelings have not gone away and I want to address this particular issue. Tbh, I often get aggravated when viewing my dash these days. I'm not the most emotionally stable person and my self-worth comes also from external sources, like feedback for my patterns, which is not ideal, but it is what it is right now. Lately, I feel that as a creator of recolorable patterns, I am being pushed deep into a corner. I've always considered myself a niche creator, catering to patterns kinda does that! But I feel like I am becoming obsolete, now that a lot of creators only make Sims 4 conversions and are usually not fully recolorable. I also fear that more and more creators will forget/will never learn how to make clothes and objects recolorable if all they do is add non-recolorable Sims 4 presets. I consider the Create-A-Style tool to be the most important feature of TS3 (together with open worlds). It is such a unique feature, and it breaks my heart to see that not being valued as such. I feel like we should celebrate that, and I try to with my patterns, but it's just so hard to keep it up when most creators do not seem to particularly care anymore. I wish more creators would make the good old Frankenmeshes 😥 I would love to see more ts3 and ts4 frankenmesh mashups. Creators would need to learn how to turn Sims 4 textures into greyscale ones and step up their uv-mapping game a bit, and then it could be a thing... There could even be an open library of recolorable sims 4 textures and remapped meshes that all creators could contribute to. That way, creators could use them and would not need to remake every texture from scratch by themselves. Over time, that would greatly decrease the effort that would need to be put in to make new creations this way... I know that most of you follow me because you really value my patterns and use them in your games, and I know that people who play mainly with vanilla content won't have that problem at all, as 99% the EA stuff can be recolored. But it's just that I see those non-recolorable conversions everywhere on my dash, and it is so disheartening. I guess as a creator, I want to feel welcome in the TS3 creator community, and lately, I do not feel particularly seen or valued as a member of that group. Maybe my Tumblr bubble has shoved me somewhat outside of the group that I would feel more valued in? Maybe I need to adjust my dash. But I do not want to unfollow everyone who posts these conversions. They are nice in their own right, it's just that I can't handle them very well right now. How do you deal with stuff that you do not want to see? do you unfollow people, do you block tags? I've been mostly avoiding my dash, but that does not seem like a good solution. If you post gameplay pics with my patterns or are a creator that makes their stuff CAS-Tool compatible, feel free to tell me below so I can follow you. Just seeing more people use my patterns would probably lift my spirits!

#personal #but still sims-related

[whcwashe]

hm

anyway

you ever run into a situation where like .... someone you've been mutuals with for years, LIKE YEARS, who you've always had a good relationship with (or at least you thought you did, idk), just like ....

unfollows you on One of their blogs. Just one. And that's suddenly the only blog they use. And sure, it COULD be a mistake, because every once in awhile when someone reblogs your promo .... they'll reblog it as well?

But similarly .... they should be able to see on the dash that they're not following you. And they're pretty explicit about only interacting with mutuals. And it's defs not a sideblog. And you can't be like 'hey, is this a mistake?' or even be like 'hey, what happened?' because people can cater their experience here, they have the right to do that. and they have the right to unfollow you, and you're all adults here, and this is just for fun, so cornering them for any reason would be wrong, and also rude.

So you just have to settle with the idea that they just .... decided they were tired of you, or didn't like your writing or something and just quietly ..... left. And it feels like a whole friendship you had just kind of dies on the vine, because if you're not on their dash, and you can't interact without disrespecting their boundaries, then that friendship is just .... gone. No closure, no goodbye, it just stops.

idk, it's just sad, in a way, I guess. I mean, people just decide they don't like you and disappear sometimes, and that's fair on their part. That's the way the world works. Sometimes relationships, as vague as they may be, just stop. And I feel like, as an adult, I should be able to brush that off, but it still feels kind of upsetting. Especially because I know it has to be something I did, and I'll never be able to adjust that, or find out what it was. So I just kind of assume it to be me, in general. The whole package is bad, I guess.

I am also stuck in a rut because I know my writing is repetitive, and boring. And Liv isn't fleshed out, and she's not creative, and frankly -- I'm not a great communicator OOC either. I'm distracted, and I'm flighty, and I complain a lot, and I'm regularly just the worst. And I make people feel unwanted (I don't mean to do that, I promise. I love each and every one of you, and I mean that so strongly, I wouldn't follow you if I didn't enjoy your writing. I just love the shit out of everyone, and their creativity).

I should try to be better, probably. And I shouldn't blame my standoffishness on anxiety and ADHD -- I mean, I do have those, but I also need to take responsibility for having a shitty personality, you feel?

I don't know where I was going with this, I'm just in my feelings, and I'm sorry about ... me, as a person, in general. This is not fishing for compliments, I just can't stop talking now, and tbh I have no where else to dump these feelings, lmao. I should have put it on a blog with less followers, maybe. Except -- if you do read it, I do want to express that I love you, and you are all so creative, and you should be so so proud of what you put out into the world. And I should really say that directly to people more often.

Ok, that's all, I guess.

#ooc #negativity cw #emily is letting the bad thoughts win tonight #pls disregard this is Highly Shitty of me #on an 'i'm an adult and none of this matters and i need to buck the fuck up' kind of level #it could also be the bottle of wine i've had winning #hard to say

[penismage]

tbh.. i don’t care anymore how long we’ve been mutuals i’m gonna start unfollowing people who put those ugly AI-generated buildings on my dash

#p

[ranboo5]

uhmm ctechno take that annoys you the most. like a take you see on your dash that is so blatantly incorrect it hurts you a little bit that no-one's challenged it yet

Tbh I unfollow on SIGHT for bad Techno takes inpst cases and most people who don't like cTechno have moved on from the fandom besides so in terms of on my dash the only thing I still see on occasion is immortal cTechno stuff which isn't smth I Hate I just don't like it w/ where he is in thinking out his anarchism. This is especially annoying when played in a way that makes the parallels b/w him and cDream worse – I can't really figure out a way 2 phrase this bc Techno IS more based and more mature than Dream (low bar lmao) but putting it in a way that like . Idk immortal Techno vs 22yo Dream or similar. Kind of gets at me like the thing abt that is that in important ways Techno and Dream r Peers ? And that's what makes the progressive v reactionary parallel so strong where it exists. Idk. Also in general I just don't like making Techno genuinely larger than life in the universe of the fiction bc the fact that he's Not despite having that reputation is important to me yk ? Like yeah he's strong but he's not untouchable . And it kind of generally annoys me tbh when people treat him like he is

And people even who like him treat him like that ? Even tho it's a plot point in his arc that he is Not an untouchable larger than life figure he's a person. Ppl have pointed out this has to do w/ how his losses etc get framed WHICH IS FAIR ! Bc the framing is a lot less like . Openly harsh than the framings of the failings of others but based on how he treats those and what makes sense if u consider the arc and such like . That panic Matters. The fact that those calls are so close Matters. The fact that he avoids most of his getting got on the fact that he explicitly stays out of danger and prepares Matters. The fact that he doesn't know what he's doing and is trying to figure it out Matters

#Ppl tend to treat him like a praxis machine bc he's based by the end but like . Even then he isn't 100% Based and even if he was #He wouldn't be able to be a Basedness Dispenser because he's a PERSONNNNN

[petruchio]

ok so once in a while i see one of your hunger games posts on my dash & i think to myself "hm. i should really get around to reading those books someday" well! i started the first book last night & just finished it & oh my god. i'm torn between regretting not reading it at the height of its popularity & knowing that i wouldn't have appreciated it as much at the time. what a story! even though i knew who lived & who died (i think i've seen the movie) it was riveting & brutal & touching the whole way through & tbh i was expecting to roll my eyes a bit about katniss & peeta (bc i was under the impression that that got played up a lot when the movie was made & overshadowed what the book is "actually" trying to say) but. peeta is so so sweet & his love is very compelling & i adore him. & katniss & cinna & even haymitch of course! i wish i could just stop reading now because i know more shit happens to katniss in the following books but also! i haaave to know what happens! i was never a YA fiction reader but this one for sure deserved all the acclaim it got. anyway thank you for posting about this story haha i'm so glad i'm reading it! at long last!

aH this makes me so happy!!!! first of all i admire that you have been able to put up with my hunger games posting for this long and not unfollowed me but second of all i am so happy that you were able to find the time to read the books!!! i know ive gone on and on about them but ugh i just truly adore them so im always so happy to hear when other people love them too :’) and yes ya fiction is a mixed bag and tbh the only relatively recent ones that are truly worth their hype are original pjo and thg i said what i said…

anyway just YES to everything you’ve said i don’t want to say any more because i want you to read the other books too ;););) but yes… katniss and peeta… they are just *it* they have it all i love them SO much it’s insane. like i know im insane about them but it’s because THEYRE WORTH IT sjdjsjsjsn anyway thank you for sending this to me it makes me SO HAPPY!!!💕💕💕

#answered #uncoveredlamb

[musette22]

Hi Minnie, sorry to bother you but do you or any of your followers know if there's a way to stop seeing posts from a blog who you don't want to unfollow or block?😅

Sorry if it's a weird thing but these people, I kinda talk to them on another platform but I'm really fed up with their posts as of late(being overly critical of a certain someone) and I don't want that kind of negativity in my feed. I do sometimes think of completely cutting them off but I just don't wanna get into drama 😭

If I cannot do any of that I'm permanently moving to another new blog and will use my current one as an archive only 🥲 (tbh even reblogging posts feel strange now because these people are generally friendly but so bitter and negative about this certain meatball and I don't wanna call out their behavior and start drama blehghg)

Hi lovely! I'm sorry for only replying to this now, but you sent this right before the Big Evanstan Deluge, so it got a little snowed under!

But thanks for your message, and I'm sorry you're seeing so much negativity, I will never understand why people feel the need to be *like that*🙄 I totally get you wanting to protect yourself from that while not wanting to cause any unnecessary drama, so good for you for trying to take steps to curate your fandom experience.

And yeah, what you ask is absolutely possible! If you're on desktop, go to the little person icon in the top right corner and click it, then go to 'settings'. If you scroll down a bit, you'll see a section called "content you see", and there you can filter both post 'tags', and also 'post content'. If you put in the names of the blogs whose posts you don't want to see anymore in there and hit enter, then it'll filter those out on your dash, and you'll just see something like this:

Only it'll say 'this post contains filtered post content'.

As far as I know, you can only filter tags on mobile, and not post content, but if anyone knows more than me, please let me know! But yeah, if you do it on desktop you should be able to.

I've got a LOT of tags filtered, and some post content too for things I really really really don't want to see but that people frequently don't tag for, or for blogs that I'd rather not see the posts of but can't unfollow for some reason. You do still see the posts on your dash as shown above, but you won't see the content of them. Please be aware that it's not 100% foolproof and sometimes something slips through because of tumblr being tumblr, but 98% of the time it works like a charm! Hope it works for you too, honey! <33

#nothing against stranger things btw lol #I'm just not interested and there was a lot of it on my dash a while ago and it just was too much scrolling #minnie answers

[cupcraft]

heya cup!! i just want to hop on your post because ive actually been thinking about this kinda thing for a while now and i rly loved reading ur post bc i think you expressed everything in a really nice, respectful way!

personally, i am not at all a big crit enjoying person lol, bc of my demons (makes me v stressed for whatever reason lmao), so i tend to have discourse, crit tags blocked bc they kill my personal vibes etc. i will admit i've unfollowed people before for not tagging their crit lmao, but most of them time i will click through to see whats up, and i think most of the time, i do enjoy reading some crit, esp when its not like, my whole dash lmao, and esp when it comes from a place of love!! (hell im a cfiances main i think my entire mutuals circle only grudgingly accepted the csapnap book lore as canon like two months ago like i get cc's making Choices in regard to lore i do!)

crit is so so good and i love reading it from people who gen love the characters!! its always interesting to hear, and if im not in the mood, i can always block it lol. i love hearing people pick stories they love apart and analyze them, because i know they're doign it with great love in their heart. i remember after the ctubbo caimsey lore all my ctubbo mutuals got in a huddle and talked about why they did or didnt like the lore, and it was really fun to read!! it was so clear they really do love all the characters and enjoy cctubbo's content, even if they didnt like the choices made, and even if i personally enjoyed the lore (<- sick little ccabinetduo main) i really thought they made a lot of good points that i really enjoyed hearing!

but i think a lot of the time i can get really frustrated with "crit" is when its tinged with a weird sort of distaste for the cc's writing the characters, and perhaps in a bit of a unfair/petty way, i get really frustrated when i see people who often extremely, unfairly critical of people like quackity or karl, and their storytelling and ability to create character arcs. i feel like karl esp has gotten so much of this (which is personally so odd to me bc i feel like he's just a pretty likeable guy even if you're not into his content, but i digress sfdjkla 😭). so much "tales" crit is really irritating to me bc it feels really clearly like barely disguised dislike for cckarl seeping into a discussion of ckarl.

esp when i see people writing crit of a character that they do not main or usually talk about! there was a post a while back that was, like character crit of cq (apologies if this is too much of a vague to post lmao), and it really frustrated me, not just because i dont like it when people are mean to my little boy, but because it was clear that the author of the meta did not understand the lore they were talking about. they were completely misrepresenting a character morality and behavior in a way they absolutely would not be doing if they had watched the arc from cq's pov. and i know they're capable of writing well written, interesting, respectful meta and even crit bc they do it for characters they love. but when it comes to characters from cc's they personally dont like, the crit is. bad. its bad. like if you dont like their lore, dont watch it, dont post about it!! like curate your experience please!! but it feels like you dont enjoy any lore they could even do and you dont want to put in the effort to do so, so please do not engage with their lore!!!

tldr, well written crit w love for the characters always in mind always good!! (also the great majority tbh!!), crit for characters op hates the cc's who play them bad!! (a v small but really upsetting portion that has rlly turned me off the whole genre of post!)

hey soap thanks for your additions to this discussion :)! i really liked what you wrote here and agree with most of it. Because to the point of people who dont like a character writing meta i generally dont mind and if really do mind its chances those people have been blocked by me (it really depends on the take for me personally so in taht regard i do understand your frustration a lot! this is /nm btw).

And yeah the pt of my post isnt that you cant dislike ppl's posts but that i just want to open up the discussion how we can all coexist healthily within this sphere of analysis. And i dont blame you for disliking certain genres of posts in your experience even though i do still like those genres myself (with some nuance ofc).

At least one positive thing to do in situations of what you said (at least what i do) is write meta since i do understand the character (or like to think i do ig insome instances). which maybe would help people learn and change their view. I used to have really bad c!q and c!wilbur opinions ngl and i read a lot of meta ppl posted about them who did understnd their characters more and now people i think generally i have good takes on cwilbur so thanks to the wilburian meta-ers ig sldfjsdl!

all /nm gen liked your additions and stuff i hope you hav ea great day soap!

#my mutuals #ask #discourse #fandom discourse #<- for blacklist

[hxdrostorm]

Name / Alias: Vani Are you over 18?   Yes  / No Is your muse(s) over 18?    Yes/  No  / Verse Dependent / Depends on the muse you’re asking When was your blog established? Blog was made in 2021! But there are some muses, I've been writing since 2017!

– W R I T I N G  –

Are you selective about who you write with?

No (anyone)  /  Semi (most people) / Yes (some people) / Highly (few people) / Private (mutuals only).

Are you selective about who you follow?

No (anyone)/ Semi (most people) /  Yes (some people) /  Highly (few people).

If your muse is canon, how much do you adhere to canon?

Not at all  / A little  / Some/ Mostly /  Strictly / Not Applicable.

// it depends on the muse you’re asking, I always try to stick a serie’s timeline of events. But at the same time, I like mixing canons from different sources. Seeing how some of my muses, can be pretty obscure with little in the way of lore, so I have to make do with I got.

What post lengths do you write?

One-Liners  / Single-Para / Multi-Para /  Novella/All of the aforementioned.

// One-liners are only for dash-commentaries/cracks.

Do you use icons and/or GIFS?

No  /  Gifs / Icons /  Yes / Sometimes.

Do you write on other platforms?

No / Yes

// Discord, which I've been very active on as of lately!

What level of plots do you write?

Unplotted/  Open-Ended Plots  /  Semi-Plotted /  Fully Plotted Epics / All of the aforementioned

// I have a preference for plotted stuff. Knowing the course of events and my partner’s muse makes things a lot easier for me.

How quickly do you usually respond to threads?

Very Slow (more than a month) / Slow (3-4 weeks) / Average (1-2 weeks)  / Fast (less than one week) /  Very Fast (less than three days) 

// It depends on the kind of thread & the size of it TBH. I can't do a lot of back and forth quickly, but I try not to take too long to respond (unless I forget about it ofc). On tumblr however, I rely on my queue to deliver the replies! I like giving us plenty of time.

What types of themes do you like?

Adventure  / Romance / Fluff / ANGST / Violence /  Tragedy / Domestic / Family

WHAT GENRES DO YOU LIKE? ( Feel free to add! )

High Fantasy / Supernatural / Science Fiction / Historical / Horror /  Comedy / Romantic / Drama / Action / Smut / Adventure /  Espionage / All of the aforementioned

Are there any themes you’re uncomfortable writing on your blog? (Not triggers)

No/ Yes /  Sometimes

// Gore can leave me feeling ill. I'm also not the fondest of those "instant family fanons" for RP. And I suppose I should mention how, even though I'm open for writing abusive/toxic relationships. That's something I prefer reserving to only my most consistent partners, or those I'm well familiarized with. I've had some, unsavory experiences to put it mildly, in the past.

Do you have any triggers? How do you request it tagged?

// I have no triggers! But I filter out anything related to politics/IRL stuff. Sorry not sorry. I don’t think that a RP blog is the best place for these things IMO. Keep it to your personal or a blog specifically meant for those things. I come here to relax.

Label & call me all sorts of names. But I think there are better places and the right time to talk about these serious subjects. I will unfollow, if I feel like my dash is being spammed about these things. It’s nothing personal, it’s just that I’m not interested in seeing stuff about it, on this side of tumblr.

– S H I P P I N G –

What types of relationships are you open to?

Romantic /  Platonic  /  Familial / All of the aforementioned

// Just make sure the muse is available/open for it. This goes double for family stuff.

What types of pre-established relationships are you open to?

Romantic  /  Platonic /  Familial /All of the aforementioned

// So long as we have managed to come up with something that works well for both muses.

Do you have OTPs?

No /  Chemistry Only / Yes

// They can all be found in each one of my muses' about docs! Even though these ships are my OTPs, it doesn't mean I'll insta-ship them. It only means I have my own preference, for them.

SW muses - Rexmé/Obirex/Rexwalker/Codex Palpatine/Fox, Dogma/Fox Appo/Vader

Pokemon muses - Eusine/Morty, Clair/Morty Barry/Dawn Juan/Rose Drake/Drayden

Do you have NOTPS?

No / Yes

// There are only a select few ships I straight up refuse to write.

SW muses - Ahsoka/Plo

Pokemon muses - Falkner/Morty

What is your muse’s sexual orientation?

Heterosexual /  Heteroflexible  / Bisexual / Pansexual /  Homoflexible  / Homosexual / Demisexual /  Sapiosexual /  Asexual / Still trying to figure it out / Depends on the muse you’re asking

What is your muse’s romantic orientation?

Heteroromantic /  Heteroflexible  / Biromantic /  Homoflexible  /  Homoromantic   / Panromantic/ Demiromantic /  Sapioromantic  / Aromantic / Still trying to figure it out / Depends on the muse you’re asking

Are you comfortable writing smut?

No  / Selectively / Yes

// Depends on the muse. So far, Barry is the only one I refuse to write it with.

How early in a relationship do you ship romantically?

Autoship / During plotting  /  After a couple IC interactions / Several IC interactions / Slow burn / Plot dependent /  Never 

// I'm always all ears to new shipping opportunities and plots!

Are you open to toxic ships?

No / Selectively/ Yes  / I am not sure

// See above. It's something I'm 100% fine with writing, but I won't write it with just about anyone I come across, due to some bad experiences in the past.

Are you open to problematic ships?

No /  Selectively / Yes / I am not sure

// At this point, anything has the potential of being problematic. All it takes is sb, to not like a ship and waste hours of their life, coming up with hot takes pulled out of their asses to "justify" their hatred for it. Some of my ships are already deemed "problematic", I've already been called a "nasty shipper", for something that's entirely harmless. But it is "bad", bc a large and loud crowd, decided to interpret it as such.

So, yeah uwu Im here for the uwu nasty uwu ships uwu!!!

Before anyone decides to put words in my mouth. I'll have to draw the line for minor/adult ships, I'm very on the fence about age up versions of muses. In the end, it all boils down to who I'm plotting/writing with.

Are you open to polyshipping?

No /  Selectively  / Yes / I am not sure

// Depends on the muse because most of them aren’t open to it. Even though, I'm more than willing to write them!

Are you an exclusive shipper?

Never / Sometimes / Yes / I would be open to discuss it

// NOPE! Been there, done that. It didn’t work for me. At most, I have a cap on the number of different takes, of the same character I'll accept as shipping partners. Which is 3, anything beyond that, it just becomes repetitive and I get overwhelmed bc I can't give everyone the same amount of attention it deserves.

Does crack shipping ever happen?

Nope / Yes / depends / altho they normally become normal ships

// Stares @ all my ships

#; dash games #ooc /

[beaftly]

WHY won't people stop putting vaspider on my dash? I have seen people - mutuals, even - reblog from them and I'm like. Do you know what a piece of work they are? Claiming to be an authority (they're not) because of their age, calling the creator of cripple punk ableist, and literally making money off of the cripple punk movement all while inviting ableds in... I'm over it.

Like I get if you stayed out of the cripple punk discourse because it was overwhelming, but at the end of the day vaspider is just not a good person. I don't care how popular their blog is, I'm gonna start unfollowing people who reblog from them.

Side note: I don't give a shit if you think it's acceptable to use the phrase "mental cripple." It's just not okay.

Anyway, I have some thoughts.

a) if you need to tack a modifier on to a slur, it's just not your slur to use.

b) so what if "mental cripple" has (or hasn't! Either way it doesn't matter!) been used in the past? There's plenty of crap we need to leave behind, and that phrase is one of those things. Historical events don't outweigh the people of a movement who are, y'know, up to date with stuff. Claiming otherwise is ridiculous. And the phrase "mental cripple" is offensive at best. Y'all gotta let go of this omg, learn what growth is or something.

c) The whole "mental cripple" crowd seem to be unable to provide an adequate rebuttal to any of my and our points tbh. They just keep parroting vaspider, which uhh won't cut it. Because vaspider has been omitting evidence, ignoring counter-evidence, belittling the (overwhelming majority) opinion of a group, and essentially blatantly showing their entire ass. Being a vaspider groupie (i.e. insisting on calling your abled self a "cripple") seems to cause some form of brain rot syndrome.

d) vaspider isn't offering adequate rebuttals of my/our points, either. They're just using circular logic at this point - saying, "well, this is my opinion and you're wrong because my opinion is now upheld by a few wannabes." Give me a real reason why able-bodied folk should call themselves cripples (and don't you dare spew some bull about the brain-body connection being undefinable - you don't become physically disabled from depression in the way that you become physically disabled from functional neurological disorder, and y'all know it. Saying otherwise is offensive as hell).

e) on that note - and I'm still using depression and FND as examples here - vaspider's groupie crew is arguing that depression *is* actually a physical disability because it can cause, say, fatigue. Listen, the fatigue from depression comes strictly from the brain; it doesn't spread to the nerves of the body or whatever. Meanwhile, the fatigue from FND starts in the brain (we think), but it goes beyond that - it spreads to the entire neurological network of the body, nerves, everything. It makes your nerves forget what they're supposed to do, to put it incredibly loosely. This sort of fatigue is different from depression fatigue because the former causes your entire nervous system to glitch, whereas the latter is confined to the brain. Yes, there's a difference. If you're ignoring this difference for your own personal gain (like vaspider is), that's an issue. See also: would you go to a psychiatrist for FND, or to a neurologist for depression? I think the fuck not, and there's a good reason for that.

f) to clarify: some neurodivergencies can actually cause (or be comorbid with) physical disabilities, such as dyspraxia. Dyspraxia is a neurological condition, not a neurodivergency, and therefore if, for example, your autism causes dyspraxia - congratulations, you're legitimately physically disabled. However. If your autism is a standalone feature (lol), it's not a physical disability; it's a neurodivergency and/or a mental disability (if you choose to label it as such) and does NOT make you a cripple or "mental cripple," for god's sake.

g) I don't get why vaspider's gang is rejecting the madpunk and neuropunk movements, because that's where able-bodied neurodivergents would find their home. There's no need (or want, to be quite frank!) for these ABNDs to barge into the cripplepunk space. Madpunk or neuropunk spaces are where they would find solace and support, and yeah - the tags for these movements aren't very fleshed out, but that's Frankly Not My Problem Anymore.

h) vaspider is going against the explicit wishes of the late founder of cripple punk. That alone should be enough for their followers to say, "hmm, something's not right here." Yet here we are. Did I mention that vaspider has also called aforementioned founder an ableist for (checks notes) wanting a specialized space for physically disabled people? Because yeah.

i) if you're an able-bodied neurodivergent who has been interested in the cripple punk movement - by all means, support us! Just all we ask is that you stop talking over us and/or identifying as us. And for the love of god, get thine self the fuck away from vaspider before they inevitably fuck up *your* community next time.

j) vaspider is claiming that nobody in IRL disability spaces is gonna ask you to disclose your disability. In my experience that's sort of? not true. I attended a disability meetup group pre-pandemic (which I forgot about before because my memory sucks) and we all asked each other "what we were in for." In other words, there was no coercion to disclose anything, but everyone felt okay to share their story, and we literally went around in a circle to share. We didn't fuckin stop everyone at the door and demand their backstory, but there was an element of sharing and community.

k) bouncing off of the above point, maybe you should ask yourself why you'd feel uncomfortable sharing your disability in a well-meaning group for physical disabilities. Is it maybe because there's a little voice in your head telling you the people with *actual* physical disabilities wouldn't appreciate your being there? Go ahead and say it's because the evil cripples are exclusionists, I dare you.

l) I frankly don't give a shit that vaspider is, what, mentally ill or neurodivergent or something? - I can't remember - as well as physically disabled. *Your claims to community are negated by your behavior.* - Do queer cops belong at pride? I think the fuck not. And I think I speak for the majority when I say that vaspider and their supporters are no longer welcome in cripple punk.

Long post, I know, but - again - people keep putting vaspider on my dash and I'm sick of it lol. And to reiterate, their age and so-called experience mean nothing to me because, obviously, respect is not a baked-in feature. And oh boy, have they done everything to lose any respect.

#cripple punk discourse #cripple punk #madpunk #neuropunk #long post

[cooloddball]

Anon asked

Hi! You don’t have to actually post this if you don’t want to, since I’m going to be talking about a specific blog. I would have come off anon and dmed you, but my dm’s are currently broken. (Thanks tumblr 🙄) You’ve mentioned that you haven’t noticed any supposed pro cockles blogs posting negative things about Jensen, so I was curious if you followed or were familiar with xxxxx? They’re kind of a perfect example of that. They’re a Misha loving blog who claims to be pro cockles, but they frequently post snide comments about Jensen. I initially followed them because I like the amount of Misha content they post, but I’m on the verge of unfollowing or blocking them, as I’m not sure I can take the Jensen bashing anymore. At first I just thought that maybe they didn’t realize how some of their more vague comments come across, but their comments have become less vague and it’s too consistent of behavior for it to be a mistake. It honestly confuses me, because I don’t understand how someone can claim they like cockles while at the same time seemingly strongly disliking half of the ship. It’s weird.

I decided to just post this ask like this so I could remove the name of the blog because I have something to say and I didn't want to bash them.

Look, one thing I know about people is that no one loves two people the same. It's humanly impossible to love people or things equally. That being said, I think in this fandom there's a level of standom that scares me. I mean yeah I can love Jensen but it doesn't mean that if I don't like someone else that he is friends with I should send that person hate. For instance, I don't know if you were here you during the j2 fallout, there was war, sides were chosen, lines were drawn, Jensen got the blunt end of the knife for something that could've been sorted out privately and here we are. Anyway, the preceding sentence is neither here nor there but from that experience I learned that some people use Jensen as a means to an end. As another anon put it, he's always in the middle. He's damned if he does and damned if he doesn't so he loses the battle even before the war begins.

For cockles I have honestly never seen it happen, yeah I know some people who ship cockles are Misha stans and others are Jensen stans but I speak for myself and the blogs that I follow. From what I have seen, no matter who those blogs stan, they seem to love both Jensen and Misha.

As for the said blog, if they post such comments I have never seen them because I rarely look at my comments or my notifications because they are usually a mess. The other thing is— and I don't mean to disparage you because I know if I saw such comments I wouldn't be happy either—they are within their right to post whatever they want on their blog but if they ever came to my blog with such comments they would definitely get the chop off my follow list.

I just feel like such people don't like Jensen because of his stance on destiel —I have addressed why he might act like that about it before. It's disconcerting because I don't think that Jensen's views on destiel have any bearing on cockles tbh. In the least, he has said Misha is one of his best friends and his pebble so I don't think one thing—destiel— has anything to do with the other—cockles— and I think that's where the disconnect happens for such people.

Anyone who is not driven by malice or their own agendas or propaganda can see how much Jensen loves Misha — platonic or otherwise— and although people who ship cockles and appreciate his love for Misha, they can't reconcile his love for Misha IRL and his views about Dean and Cas and that's where standom blurs the lines and you find such shippers end up hating one half of the ship—which doesn't make much sense tbh.

Luckily for me, I've never seen such comments on my dash because everyone I follow loves them both and no matter whom they stan, they understand that Jensen or Misha's views on the dean/cas relationship may vary but that shouldn't affect their relationship in whatever capacity.

The only piece of advice I can give you is that if you strongly feel someone makes you uncomfortable here, just unfollow them or block them because at the end of the day, this is the internet and you don't owe anyone anything. You deserve to open your blog and see the content you want to see and you never have to see anything that doesn't please you.

xx

#asks #anon #destiel #misha collins #jensen ackles #cockles #fandom wank #shipping wars #spn ships

[slightlyrebelliouswriter23]

Hi Em✨

I absolutely love your writing and your posts and I’ve been following you for a while now💕

I’m not sure about you but I feel quite uneasy/conflicted with the current rhetoric on book tok. I understand people not liking certain books but it’s been hard to see people slander books and the people that like those books/characters/stories,etc. I get that criticism is needed for certain themes or values that appear in books but reading is loosing some of its escapism for me:(

Reading in context (fictionally and in the real world) is always needed but sometimes I just like a book because of the characters or it’s story and not necessarily that it checks all the boxes for being perfect.

Tbh, as much as I love certain books, some of them have become tainted for me and I genuinely wish I didn’t I read other people’s opinions on them.

Book tok is great for reccs but I can’t even filter it out of my feed at this point. I kinda wish toxic fandoms also looked inwardly because as much fun it is to engage with fans and people that are apart of that fandom, some people take it way too far such as sending hateful anons to creators (such as you🥺) or calling books trash when they’ve been super influential or important to people.

I guess my little rant is over but I was wondering if you had any opinions on this or have any sort of guidance. Is there a place I could get reccs or how can avoid all of this rhetoric that can affect my view of a book.”?

Stay safe and have a good day✨💐

hi there, nonnie! thank you so much for the kind words, i really appreciate you 🥺❤️❤️

first off, i want to say that i 100% understand this. i never really got into booktok specifically because i had a feeling it was basically going to be book twitter 2.0 where everyone is just ripping into each other constantly. i don't like being influenced by other people's opinions either, and the drama that seems to be obligatory baggage for most fandoms these days (with the exception of TFOTA, cos for some reason we are extraordinarily chill) just isn't for me.

it is, of course, essential that we continue to think critically when it comes to media. it's the only way we can affect change in a positive direction. but this also must be balanced with a willingness to be humble with our opinions, understand that they are just opinions, and accept that everyone consumes media for different reasons.

this also means we'll all hold different boundaries about what we're willing to consume, and where we draw the line for things we won't consume. granted, books might be the mirror through which we see life reflected, but they are not reality itself. to a certain extent, fiction is fiction. and different boundaries does not a bad person make.

speaking of drawing lines, i'm going to direct you to this post by @bookofmirth , which is mainly about ACOTAR/SJM/Palestine but some of what they have to say there is very applicable to this topic, and eloquently put:

"Some people can separate art from artist. Some can't. It's up to all of us as individuals to draw that line where we are comfortable."

i agree with this statement wholeheartedly. it is not up to randomgal4549 on tiktok/twitter to decide what eye should or should not read. the unmitigated gall of anyone to think their opinion should dictate other people's choices is highly presumptuous and quite frankly exhausting.

apart from maybe the bible/other religious texts, what a person reads is not a reflection of who they are or what beliefs they hold. we need to learn not to conflate the two, and start regarding each other once more as humans with complex thoughts and feelings, capable of introspection and growth, instead of little icons on our phone screens with immovable and absolute beliefs.

so that's my opinion on that. my main advice to you would be KEEP THINGS ORGANISED. what i mean by that is this:

curate your social media experience! it is YOUR responsibility as an owner of any social media account (including tumblr) to customise your space to fit YOUR needs. if you don't like someone's opinion/content? unfollow. if someone is rude/you don't like their vibe? block. if you find the things someone shares to their socials offensive? unfriend. this is setting boundaries, and the people who take any of these things as a personal offence are the exact people you want to keep a healthy distance away from. you decide who you follow and what you see on your dash. be protective of your space and who you allow to have access to your energy.

keep personal feelings separate from the public! i honestly can't stress this point enough. if you feel the need to rant about something that irks you about a specific book/author/person's opinion, keep these discussions in the DMs with a trusted circle of friends. it is psychologically proven that when someone feels attacked, they will double down on their og opinion, no matter if they realise they're wrong. thus, projecting high-strung emotions into public spaces such as twitter, while understandable in some cases, will only serve to further polarise people and hurt the very movement you're likely trying to bolster. blow off steam with people you can entrust with your emotions. NOT strangers on the internet.

designate time to learning about issues that are important to you! i strongly advise against turning to any fictional medium for moral lessons or life advice. if you can dedicate some time outside of your escapism to inform yourself about important subjects through educational resources that are specifically designed to Teach/Impart Knowledge, instead of giving an ounce of thought to Intrinsically Biased Information Received Second Hand, i promise you you'll feel a whole lot less obligated to other people's opinions.

if you're unsure about a particular book/author, consider borrowing from your local library, purchasing the book second hand, or finding an ePub copy.

for recs, consider booktube. i know it's probably seen as a bit old school by now, but the great thing about youtube is that you're not randomly/unexpectedly subjected to other people's shit opinions like on other social platforms. you have to click a link to watch the video, which gives you more autonomy in regards to what opinions you consume. my personal favourite youtuber is Khadija Mbowe. she's not a booktuber, per se, but her content focuses on in-depth critical analysis of media/society through the lense of WOC (specifically Black women), and i find her channel compelling as well as informative.

goodreads is also a great place to find book recs without the constant influx of opinions. if you can find yourself a circle of trusted friends to follow on there, you can't go wrong. my goodreads is linked in my bio under "connect" and you're welcome to follow me there. or not! it's your choice.

–Em 🖤🗡

#this is incredibly long i'm so sorry 🙈 #on mobile so i can't add a cut #discoursey #like i realise it's probably gotten worse recently with the pandemic and more screen time #but i honestly wouldn't touch most fandoms with a 12 foot pole #it's too messy for me #of course i still read and enjoy books that have fandoms. i just don't get involved #TFOTA is my one exception and even we have our days lmao #you have to do what's healthy for you. and if that means leaving tiktok/twitter altogether? DO IT. you won't regret it i promise #i quit twitter facebook and instagram in 2018 and it's the best decision i ever made #i love you nonnie i hope this helped 🥺❤️ #thanks for the ask!! 💜 #asked and answered #em answers #nonnie #long post

[lupinzapezit]

hello i thought it was probably time for a state of the blog update so,,, if you wanna know where ive been and whats happening read below (tw for mental health / s.uicide mentions)

if you do read, please like this post just for my own knowledge

okay so first of all i rly hate to be making this post because i absolutely hate being that person in the rpc who just constantly whines and guilt trips people over their own mental health without taking steps irl to work on it. im not gonna go into a lot of detail bc frankly its a lot and i dont super feel like it. (also i feel like its only kinda acceptable when the Big Blogs post a lot of ooc which i am definitely not, like my value is only tied to how much content i output but thats something im working on in my own time and not anyones fault persay)

basically i had a lot of shit happen at the end of 2019 that cause me to go into a very low period and while i was working on improving from that time, obviously the world had different plans plus last year was my final year of uni. i moved out in february this year in the hopes that it would continue to help me heal but along with the fallout of some other events, it’s left me incredibly alone and with a fraction of the support network i once had. june was extremely rough for me where i attempted twice and nearly didnt make it to my 21st birthday.

pretty much with working in customer service and australia being in and out of lockdown constantly (which makes my work much busier because people contact us when they cant go into stores), ive barely had any room to breathe or to try and work through things? and because writing is tied to my goal career of film and thats been difficult as well, you can probably guess why ive been struggling lately to be on tumblr and to write.

now dont get me wrong i adore my muses and being able to write. bucky has been an extremely fun and interesting character for me to explore. i literally never thought i’d end up writing a marvel muse and its caused a lot of hesitation due to how i approach him and feeling insecure. which is fine! thats natural! and ive been doing my best not to project those insecurities onto the dash and my partners but because of how poor my mental health is lately, that means ive just been very inactive. tumblr has always felt like a place where if you’re not constantly active then you lose people and while i know that’s not necessarily the case, it’s still a struggle. when i am here, it just feels like yelling into a void which is not a great motivator.

so what does this actually mean? tbh i’m still trying to figure that out. i made this blog initially with the intent of it being quite small and focused on character exploration n the like and i do still want to keep that goal. there’s a lot to bucky i still very much want to write and explore which i havent because of various reasons. i dont necessarily want to leave but i feel increasingly unsure about my presence which sucks because i have made some very good friends in the last year and a bit stint ive had on tumblr since leaving my old main rpc. i dont really want to give up this passion. 

for the time being, i’m probably still going to be low activity and my presence on the dash will be minimal. if that turns you off, feel free to soft block or unfollow. you can tailor your own experience the way you want. replies are probably going to be more queued and i wanna put a stronger emphasis on longer threads and character/dynamic development as i originally intended. again thats not everyone’s cup of tea so if you wanna leave then feel free. but atm i dont really feel connected to my partners and mutuals which sucks and i wanna improve on that. btw if you are reading this and youre down with this, message me and say hi!! i know that tumblr rp has developed this culture of not approaching people (and i struggle w this too) but the easiest way to plot with me is just to ask.

so yeah! tldr; brain extremely sucks, been feeling very disconnected and uncertain about my muse/writing capabilities/general self esteem, trying to work on that by taking things at my own pace and having bigger threads/metas more infrequently. i’ll still be more active on discord of course but hopefully these steps will help me feel a bit better about being here. 

thanks for reading all of this if you did, i really appreciate it :)

#ooc. #negative // #suicide mention / #i'll probably rb a few times for when people are active on different timezones #also idk if this makes any sense but. yeah

[trillgutterbug]

tagged by @twobrokenwyngs many days ago

1. Why did you choose your url?

i’ve had it for probably fifteen years and chose it at random for the very valid reasons that i thought it sounded cool and i wanted something that could be easily shortened into a nickname if i ever made internet friends! which, happily, i eventually did! 🥰

2. Any side blogs?

nupe! just a full stream of the hyperfixation du jour on main erryday all day!

3. How long have you been on tumblr?

i think 2012....? i can’t be bothered to check

4. Do you have a queue tag?

no. i use my queue sporadically and mysteriously so as to maintain that aforementioned firehose of uncurated horny on main every waking hour

5. Why did you start your blog in the first place?

i was so lonely!!! i took like a six month unofficial break from fandom interaction for busy life reasons and when i checked back in livejournal had vanished off the face of the earth and i was totally baffled about where everyone had gone. i literally posted on ao3 going WHERE DID FANDOM GO?? SOMEONE TELL ME!! and was kindly directed toward tumblr lmao

6. Why did you choose your icon/pfp?

it was bucky in a flower crown for a long time and in my heart it still is tbh, but i’m not into mcu actively these days, so i switched him out for the more eternal and less-specific combo of two things that are very important to me: pansexuality and the implication of steve rogers

7. Why did you choose your header?

bc i’m extremely in love with chewie and that picture blew my proverbial hair back

8. What’s your post with the most notes?

this absolutely cursed covid post which is NOT THAT FUNNY but got like 50k notes in a few weeks and briefly ruined my life by utterly destroying my notifications. thankfully it seems to have finally dropped off everyone’s radars and if any of you jokers bring it back i’ll never forgive you 

9. How many mutuals do you have?

idk, am i supposed to guess? probably like a hundred or something

10. How many followers do you have?

900ish? 

11. How many people do you follow?

a few hundred, but i think most of them i followed back when i first joined tumblr and was just automatically following everyone back bc i didn’t understand how everything worked. most of those blogs are inactive now and i’m hella choosy about who i follow these days

12. Have you ever made a shit post?

arguably everything i ever say is a shitpost

13. How often do you use tumblr a day?

a truly embarrassing number of hours

14. Did you ever have a fight/argument with another blog?

i don’t think so. my reflex on that block button is lightning fast. i’ve rickrolled a couple dumbass anons but that barely counts i think 

15. How do you feel about the ‘you need to reblog’ posts?

instant scroll-past as fast as humanly possible with only a brief pause to decide if i want to unfollow whichever philistine put it on my dash

16. Do you like tag games?

sure do!

17. Do you like ask games?

yeppers

18. Which of your mutuals do you think is tumblr famous?

lmao god i would never drag one of my beloved mutuals by implying that sort of character defamation

19. Do you have a crush on a mutual?

a rotating cast of them, sure! 

20. Tags

lowkey tagging @kaasknot @fahre @lingua-mortua @alakeeffectgirl@palamedessextus @rosewaterbobagrapefruit @mimsyaf and @thorniest-rose

#tag game

[ltleflrt]

Fandom used to be my happy place, but right now you are more or less the only bright spot on my dash, lightening my day with your optimism and perseverance. My question is: could you (maybe please if it's not too much trouble otherwise ignore me) point out other active SPN blogs that still remain positive (or at least not overwhelmingly negative)? And thank you so much fo being you!

Yeah, fandom is a field of landmines for me right now, and my dash is primarily hurt and angry (like we all are, tbh).  I’ve had to unfollow a few folks who ping me too hard with the negativity, which sucks because I don’t disagree with them.

Unfortunately, I don’t have a lot of folks on my dash who are trying to put a positive twist to things, so I don’t really have many people to recommend.  I reblog what I can find, but when I look at my positivity tag, there’s... 2 lol... anyway, check out @amwritingmeta  and @chaoticdean and see who they’re reblogging from too. 

And... give everyone time.  Even those of us who are trying to stay positive are still grieving and the anger stage is a long one.

Take care of yourself, Nonny *hugs*

#hey followers! #feel free to chime in if you're trying to stay spn positive on main #Anonymous