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chaotic-carnifex · 7 months

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No hold on I'm gonna make an extra post about this:

I wouldn't choose to be alloromantic

If I were given the choice to either remain aro or become alloro again, I would choose aromanticism.

And I think a lot of people need to hear that.

#aro #aromantic #actually aromantic #safeforaro #alloromantics are encouraged to reblog this #aros aren't the only ones who need to hear that our orientation isn't a consolation prize #too many ppl - both aro-specs and alloros - think that being aro is okay only bc it's not something we choose #with the implicit belief that if we COULD choose then OF COURSE we'd choose to be alloro #bc it's clearly the 'superior' option #and honestly? it's not.#they're equally valid options and which one is 'superior' depends entirely on your own needs and preferences #and my preference is *being aro*#so if you're aro and you feel like yeah sure it's OKAY that you're aro bc you DIDN'T choose this #but if you could you WOULD choose to be alloro?#well maybe being alloro really would be better for you. or maybe it's just internalized amatonormativity.#and I cannot answer for you which one it is - the only one who can is you #all I can do is raise you the OPTION that it might be amatonormativity and then leave you to consider it #so this is for the aros who need to hear that option #and for the alloros who pity us for supposedly getting the short end of the stick #we are not a tragedy

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alevens · 3 months

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zolu is maybe one of the easiest ships i've ever liked. they're dating, except when they're not, they're best friends even when they're kissing and they're still captain and first mate when they aren't. they hold hands, they hug. they have sex. they don't.

Luffy can hold Zoro's katanas and Zoro can hold Luffy's strawhat and no one bats an eye. one says "You're so cool!" and the other says "You're strong" and it's just another way to say "I see you, this is why I follow you/this is why I trust you". it's not seeing each other for a long time and still knowing how the other's steps sound like against wood and sand. the captain runs and the first mate follows. it's always "Zoro and the others" and "Where's Luffy?"

if they're just friends, if they're something more, if they don't have a label for it, at its core, it's just about how they get each other. they understand how the other's mind works. however you view them, it doesn't erase they fact that they love each other in a way they don't love other people.

#zolu #on why i love zolu #seeing the hate its gotten on its own tag #i figured i'd put it on my two cents #i am aroace and i do hc Luffy as aroace #the same for Zoro if i'm honest #but the thing about this hc is that not only it isn't canon #but is an actual spectrum #what really made me pause was that the argument was that zolu was an “icky” ship bc of how they viewed Luffy as aroace #i would have prefered they just said they hate the ship #it makes sense as i do too hate ships without reason sometimes #but it was how they seemed to view aromatic/asexual people that fucked me up #both orientations are spectrums #the way i see it and experience it isn't the same other people do #giving this label and then saying it only woks on one way is disrespectful to the many people that fall under this umbrella #it isn't as simple as saying “aromantic folks can't experience love” and “yeah ace folks all find sex disgusting”#everyone is different everyone has different views and it's about finding what fits *you* personally!#sorry for the rant on tags i just wanted to get it off my chest #i've seen more people explain it better and break it down more coherently #and i'm so so glad to see so many big brained people ready to communicate on why that take just wasn't it #one piece

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coolaidstain · 2 days

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TIL that theres aphobes on Tumblr trying to claim that Jughead Jones has actually been gay coded the whole time and that saying he's ace is homophobic I fucking hate it here

#as an ace person who grew up on the archie comics this really pissed me off #like theres literally a canon gay charecter in the comics why do you have to take the one charecter aces have #and honestly i have yet to see anyone actually do proper analysis and explain in what way the charecter is gay coded at all #the only point ive seen anyone make that supposedly reveals his “obvious gay coding”#is that he was never intrested in women in the comics #WELL GUESS WHAT #HE WASENT INTRESTED IN MEN EITHER #IN FACT HE WASNT INTRESTED IN ANYONE #AND EXPRESSED DISTASTE IN THE CONCEPT OF SEX AND ROMANCE ENTIRELY #YOU KNOW WHAT ORIENTATION THAT SOUNDS AN AWFUL LOT LIKE?#HMMM I DONT KNOW ABOUT THIS ONE FOLKS #I CANT QUITE PUT MY FINGER ON IT #VOTE NOW ON YOUR PHONES #im so tired of this shit #can people just let us exist please #jughead jones #archie comics #asexual #aromantic #aroace #ace discourse #aphobia #tw swearing

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fuck-mate · 7 months

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The bisexual > aromantic > aroace pipeline is so real.

#for all my aroace bi-oriented besties out there #aromantic #aromanticism #aro #asexual #asexuality #ace #aroace #bisexuality #queer #lgbtq community

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sebcosmothetransguy · 18 days

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question for fellow aces (and aroaces)

do you think i would still be able to identify as oriented aroace if i were to use an ace-spec label that included zero sexual attraction experienced (specifically the label pseudosexual, https://asexuals.fandom.com/wiki/Pseudosexual#:~:text=Pseudosexual%20or%20senssexual%20is%20a,attraction%20which%20mimics%20sexual%20attraction.)?

to me, it would make sense that i would be able to still identify as oriented aroace, since i don’t experience sexual attraction whatsoever and i know that FOR SURE.

but i know that the oriented aroace label is specifically for those who identify as both strictly aromantic and asexual.

i just feel the oriented aroace label is so myself, and it feels incredibly comfortable, and i don’t want to lose that label if it means that i use a label that is more specific than just saying i’m asexual.

the pseudosexual label describes my experience as an asexual, but i believe i can also identify as just asexual and have that experience with the label if it means that i can keep the oriented aroace label.

so, what do you all think?

EDIT: thank you all to the bunch that answered this, that was so helpful and i’m glad that i can continue to use the oriented aroace label (and i do have significant other attractions that i use along that label btw :3)

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escapismblue · 4 months

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this is gonna sound ridiculous but I made a romantic orientation because I could not find one that fit my headcanon for Sonic. like. I looked through so many aromantic orientations and could not find one that was close enough so. here we are.

💕 Rivalisromantic 💕

definition that fits my headcanon and the Sonic universe:

an arospec identity in which one only develops romantic attraction after knowing that person can hold their own in a fight. i.e only forming romantic attraction if they can take comfort in that someone’s safety and/or seeing that someone as an equal in said aspect.

more general definition that better fits our world if anyone wants that:

an arospec identity in which one only develops romantic attraction after knowing that person is an equal to them in some competitive aspect. for example: chess, boxing, games, etc.

and the flag that might be similar to an existing one because to be honest I didn’t check:

do whatever you want with this, I really do not care. tweak it as much as you want if you so desire.

#the colors of the flag are sorta arbitrary ngl #from what I know green is like THE aromantic color #and the red/orange is pretty obvious #the name is also like pretty weird but eh #as far as I know rivalis is the latin word for rivals #but I’m not attached to the name at all #the comfort aspect doesn’t really transfer much to our world but is very important for my Sonic headcanon #anyway yeah idk this was made at 3am #romantic orientation #aromantic #arospec #sonic the hedgehog #sonic #sonic headcanons

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theaustralianfrog · 7 months

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Happy Coming Out Day!!!!!

Whelp I decided now would be a good time to tell yall about me because I am an attention seeker :P

So hello! I am The Australian Frog and I am a bi-oriented Aromantic Asexual, and I’m also nonbinary. I use they/she pronouns! I never had that experience of choosing a boy to be my “crush” because I am romance repulsed and have always been proud of never having a crush.

I don’t really know if nonbinary counts, but i did technically skedaddle off the gender binary so…? It’s just what fits for me now, and it just feels better to use rather than demifem or something similar.

So now I will be sharing some of my “oohhhh that makes sense now” moments below the cut.

Friend: for some reason, I can’t imagine you having a boyfriend or a crush???

Me, internally: yea thats kinda the intention

Explaining the difference between gender identity and expression:

“So I am a cisgender female, but I still prefer androgynous clothing”*

👍🤞👋👉👉✌️🫵-the bi hand language

Me, in a lot of denial: someone told me I might be asexual

Queer friend: No one labels you, you label yourself :)

Me: (no one had told me I might be asexual):

🫠😓

Aforementioned queer friend: Oh you haven’t met [my nickname]! I should introduce them to you!

Me: acknowledges it mentally but does not even consider correcting it

several hours later: wait-

*just because someone prefers androgynous gender expression does not mean they are nonbinary and vice versa. If you don’t know ask them

ps thank you to the queer friend i could not have done this without them!

And HAPPY COMING OUT DAY! I’m so proud of you if you came out! That’s amazing! You’re so brave!

And I’m proud of you if you’re staying in the closet too! Whether that’s because it’s not safe for you to come out, or you don’t completely understand yourself, you don’t feel ready, even if you just don’t think it’s anyone’s business! Or any reason!

I’m also proud of you if you came out before now! Congratulations! Great job living the life without hiding who you are!

I’m proud of you!!!!!!! No matter your situation!!!!

#coming out #queer #lgbtqia #asexual #aromantic #nonbinary #bi-snack-sual #bisexual #bi-oriented #I cant come out to my family and needed to say all this to someone ig #coming out to tumblr

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ftm-radio · 2 years

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"being gay is not a choice" for you. I'm different tho. being gay is a choice and the answer is always yes. 💅🏻

(I'm aroace & this is mostly a joke)

#dont mind me im just reveling in how my newfound aroace identity makes me feel even more fuckin queer and i love it #having no romantic/sexual attraction to influence me means that any queerness i may take part in is 100% intentional & i love that for me #honestly might be vibing with being a bi-oriented aroace?? bc if i chose to be in a romantic relationship or w/e one day #it would be w/ any gender. and im nonbinary so itd be gay all around lmao <3 #ftm radio #aroace #aromantic #asexual #aspec #ace #aro #aroace memes #aromantic memes #asexual memes #oriented aroace #bi oriented aroace #aroace spectrum

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raspberrii-cheesecake · 2 months

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Every valentines without fail

#i cant even imagine how much of a pain ir is for people who live in gringolandia where its even more couple oriented #at least here friendsip is also somewhat taken into consideration if simbolically #aromantic #aroace #my stuff #ewww a heavily cuteified drawing of irl me #just made this to add to all the aro posts to get it to trend all day

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mothbeasts · 4 months

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please publically talk about her feelinsg on romance or i'll eat you alive 🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕🐕

oukay I will

The Fabricator, to me, really holds up the idea of romance in her mind. She loves the idea of having a partner, going on dates, being in love and being loved in return. But every time she's tried it, something has gone wrong. She's been hurt, turned on, scorned- And now she's scared to try again. She wants to, she so desperately wants it, but she's terrified of what might happen.

I think she does love, still, but she never speaks about it. She keeps it hidden away and protected. Having her heart broken again... She wouldn't be able to handle that. She can't risk it.

#ieytd #the fabricator #putting my more. relationship oriented thoughts on this in the tags okay here we go.#fabrizor: horrible and awful. the terrible gilded love. zor doesn't love her but they have a lot to gain from keeping her at their side.#so they string her along. keep her love centered on them without ever claiming it to be romantic. it's the 5d chess to them.#they eat her smog and such. but it's not the kind of love fabby wants. or needs.#fabbylaris: could be exactly what she longs for. someone genuine who loves her for what she is rather than what they want her to be.#but she's too scared to confess anything. too scared to tell solaris how she feels. in case it ruins their friendship.#ADDITIONAL TAG RAMBLE READING IS OPTIONAL:#i see fabby as a lesbian because IM a lesbian and such. and i need more lesbians in my media. but also-#- i. am some sort of aromantic i think. possibly even aroace in some form. and dissecting the way characters feel romance is so fun to me-#- because of that. its studying them like bugs yaaaay #oukay thats all smiles

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animalsandskyyy · 11 months

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aaaahhhh spotify is evil :/ (not really….but still)

#fuck fuck fuck I just had a horrid realization aaaahhh #okay so my brother has always inquired into what music I listen to on my own #but ummmm that’s private so no lol #but idk music just feels private and my family is very judgmental of pop-ish music and my music taste edges that way a bit so yeah #but around like 2018 when I first got spotify…. I didn’t know that playlists were public unless you privated them #and my brother STALKED MY SPOTIFY #but i’m just now really learning about this??#bc I recently told him about a funny song that I found around that time and recently rediscovered #and he was like ‘oh I know that song- I saw it on your spotify before you privated all your playlists’#and I had a mini fucking heart attack bc #and umm I found that song when I was also in the midst of a very gay and very hayley kiyoko filled music phase #and yeahhh I just relooked at my old playlists and the ones with that song had soooooooo many obviously gay songs and nooooooooo #like its on playlist with songs like “girls like girls” “she” “pretty girl” and those are just the obvious ones #also on there is a song called “aromantic’’ lol and ‘never been in love’#hathtag- oriented aroace lmao #2018 was intense lmao #umm anyways #and #like they’re private now but aaahhhhh #he didn’t mention those songs so idk but aaaaaahhhhh I hate it whyyyyyy #apparently I am just desperate to avoid *conversations* lol #bc yeah #I hate conversations ™ aaaaahhh #I shall never bring it up and he’s nice enough to not mention it but also aaaahhhhhh #this was literally 5 years ago why am I reacting lol #ignore me im not fully awake #anyways #grace is dramatic #go to sleep grace #spotify is evil

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sofiasfanartcollection · 11 months

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Happy Aromantic Day of Visibility to all my fellow aros!!!

Put together some art with a few aromantic characters of mine to celebrate. (I’m also making some art of my sona, but I might post her later.)

Their flags are (starting with the dragon in the bottom right): aromantic, aromantic + asexual, (sunset) aroace, oriented aroace, and greyromantic (:

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aro-culture-is · 2 years

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arospec culture is not being able to come out to your parents because you know that since you're not "fully aro" (might be comp allo tho efrgt) they might just brush you off

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#Anonymous #aro culture is #aro #aromantic #actually aro #actually aromantic #ask #mod phoenix #arospec culture #ngl i do not get 'coming out culture' so to speak #like why the fuck should my parents have any knowledge of my orientation? they're gonna be fucky about it no matter what i do or say #why would i put the time/energy into explaining what they won't listen to?#but to be fair my parents are Not Great lmao #honestly in general 'not able to come out to xyz person' is also usually a great sign for 'shouldn't come out to xyz person'#like if your teacher is a snitch that's probably a bad person to come out to!#if they won't understand or try to understand your identity - not a great person to come out to!#if they have power over you and you aren't sure you 'can' come out to them i'd generally advise: DON'T #if it's a peer then do w/e i had my whole gay middle school group come out #because someone at our lunch table was homophobic. so. we all came out one by one until she stormed off #(also. homophobic theater kid???? who - the last i heard - was becoming an elementary school choir teacher???)#(and less homophobic at least)

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publicuniversalenemy · 2 years

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literally i used to make so many fucking like. deeply contemplative and meaningful and even philosophical posts about aromanticism and shit. like where did that GO??? i was churning these fucking deep ass posts out several times a week for fucking MONTHS and now..... i literally have nothing to say lmao

#i feel like im getting a bad grade in aromantic the way that im not contributing to the discussion anymore lmao #<-lighthearted #like was it all just pent up? and suddenly i had an outlet so BAM???#i mean it did take me fucking YEARS to accept my aromanticism so maybe thats it #they were a product of my internal wrestling with orientation #cuz its not like im LESS aromantic now or some shit #i just literally dont have Deep Thoughts about it anymore #it kinda just Is #anyways #just think its funny that i was ALWAYS talking about it back in the day and now #now this is the closest youre gonna get lmao #whatever the fuck

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