#but i still dont know if that would be disrespectful regarding religion

[hasarjunadoneanythingwrong]

why are you so rude to ares i do not understand your beef with them. they’re not even messing with your business. Their blog is supposed to be their safe place where they discuss their thoughts and vent frustrations regarding their favs. why must you be so harsh on who they ship and whatnot. it’s not that deep

as i've said before, it's not really (or at least, primarily) about the ship. my own personal distaste aside, fandom by and large does not care about the fighting over it so my stance here is to block accounts i find that engage in it without interacting with them at all. if they had been upfront about it from the start that is what i would have done, like i have done with other blogs prior to this.

its about the fact that they intentionally positioned themselves as someone who was not into it to get close to people who were very clearly uncomfortable with it, including children, when that wasnt true. if expressing that this is not acceptable behavior is rude then what does that make their own behavior? or the fact that they disrespected Indian Hindus who were uncomfortable with their behavior shipping other characters, portraying it as a simple 'disagreement over interpretation'? (the nature of fgo aside, it isnt appropriate to talk like that to someone from the actual religion like that if they're trying to tell you that you're making them uncomfortable)

If simply pointing out that lying about a very controversial subject they engage in to interact with people who dont like it is an inappropriate thing to do, then what does that make them? or is it ok that they decided to do that instead of finding a group of their peers? is it ok that theyre now posting asks saying that the person being sent death and rape threats for mentioning it on twitter is lying, or that being given evidence of what they did constitutes stalking on the end of the person who was given the evidence, or any of the various other things theyve been saying in an attempt to twist the people who were uncomfortable with their lie as enabling victims when we were very clearly only talking to our friend group about something that bothered us? is all of that ok?

i've gone out of my way not to name them despite their attitude because i know how people get about this, which isnt a service theyve shown me or others. you are not the victim because people you had talked to found out you were lying about writing nsfw incest fic and told their friends.

I am doing my best to be polite here despite everything, and im sorry if its not coming across that way, but i truly do not know what people expect of me. at the end of the day i am still a person and i don't like finding out i was lied to about something i was very clear was a boundary. it doesnt help that they were incredibly aggressive to me prior to this about unrelated matters when i'd been as clear as i could i was willing to listen to their concerns about that if they approached me, so i really dont know what else i could do. i do my best to treat other people with respect online but if you're going to interact in a public space i frequent, get angry when i respond to public posts, claim you dont do something when you do, and then say that you're the victim when people find out (after theyre already blocked, bc someone else told them) im not sure what to say except that that's wholly unnecessary.

#my asks #serious post #if 'not liking being lied to and being called an idiot and other various things' is rude then....i dont know what to tell you #anyway if this person sends any more asks im not answering them ik people dgaf about this sort of thing #also the fact they lied about blocking the known harasser...like ? why

[missjackil]

One Year.... One year ago this month, I was introduced to these AMAZING gentlemen, and life has never been the same! I don’t recall the exact day it happened, but I do know it was March, 2016, 

This is how it started... It was a very cold, snowy winter here in NJ last year, so my life long friend Dawn, my daughter Sarah, and I started binge watching different series on Netflix. Dawn first suggested this show Supernatural, which I had only heard of in passing a few times over the years, but she had watched since the beginning. She said I would love it, the brothers  are hot, they hunt monsters and demons, delve a lot into Religion, which is a big interest of mine, I even have a degree in Theology, and am legally ordained. I checked the title on Netflix and saw it had 10 seasons available, and I said  “Nah, that’s a pretty big commitment, I dont think I could stay interested in a show that long” then Dawn informed me, that it was still on the air and in season 11. Not my cup of tea, so I declined. She next suggested Nurse Jackie, which was really good, but so easy to burn through. I got the next pick and picked House MD which had been mine, and my daughter Sarah’s favorite series to date.  This was a longer series than Nurse Jackie, 8 seasons instead of 7, and hour long episodes, as opposed to half hour. This took almost 2 months to get through. While watching this series again, I would keep commenting how much I loved the bromance between House and Wilson, to wish Dawn would always reply “The you will LOVE Sam and Dean!!” So since she had next pick, I agreed to give Supernatural a try.  And this is what happened... *CRASH BOOM BANG  <heavy flop>* “Wooooaaah easy tiger” “Dean?” Yeah, these boys are freakin adorable, and Im gonna love this bromance. I thought Dean was hot, and Sam was cute. Too young for me to think he was hot (me being 49 at the time) but I felt like the monsters and a lot of the horror was pretty lame, and sometimes even cheesy, though I did enjoy the chemistry the boys had with each other, and found Sam’s psychic visions to be an interesting element, I didn’t think I would stay interested for very long.  For a while, we were only watching 2-3 episodes at a time, a couple times a week when Dawn would come over. Near the end of S1 I told her I didn’t think I wanted to continue. She asked me to PLEASE give it to the end of season 2 and if I still didnt like it, we could find something else. As promised, I did become more interested in S2. The humor was funnier, the acting got better, and the bromance was hotter, and the emotional moments were even more heart breaking. The first episode that left a really big impression on me was Born Under a Bad Sign. Until then, I knew Sam had psychic powers, and his father was worried he would turn dark, and left it on Dean’s shoulders to save him or kill him (good idea John, what the hell) and this episode was probably showing Sam go bad. I didnt want that, I liked the boys and I wanted to like both of them and not have to start thinking of Sam as evil, but he was soooooo creepy in that episode! I was so afraid he was going to rape Jo, fortunately he didn’t, but that “My daddy shot your daddy in the heeeaad” thing gave me the willies! I was so uncomfortable with this “Dark Sam” I thought maybe I couldnt continue. Dawn didnt want me to stop just yet, but didnt want to give me spoilers, she told me “Don’t worry, Sam and Dean are the GOOD guys and Sam is a REALLY good guy” so I continued. When it was discovered that Sam was possessed, I found that very interesting, I didn’t think the boys would ever succumb to the evil things, just kick their asses all the time, though I assumed theyd have their own asses kicked sometimes, I never thought the show would allow the heroes to really suffer.... boy was I wrong huh??  I recall my first noticing that Sam was hot and built like a truck, in Heart, and it was also the first time I really cried. I remember telling Dawn, I will watch it when she comes over but Im watching it on my own too, because now Im much more interested, but I also said “it’s kind of a bummer knowing the boys wont die, that will take away from the suspense and emotional moments when it’s feared they might die, and I remember her giving me this look... she said “trust me, you know nothing”. She was right ... All Hell Breaks Loose 1 & 2 had me sobbing! When Sam dies in Dean’s arms and Dean sobs into his neck, I dont think Ive ever seen such intense, realistic  grief on a TV show. And then Dean goes and sells his soul for Sam!! This turned what I thought was a “My brother is my best friend” love into a “Id willingly spend eternity in fire and torment, to have one more year with my brother” love. That was a big turning point for me. I new Id watch it till the end and couldnt wait for those long days off when I could just binge all day long.  Then Season 4 happened... I dont know when exactly it happened, or which episode it was, but somewhere early in S4, I discovered the most amazing thing. I woke up one day and realized I am madly in love with Sam Winchester! And to top it off, I was hopelessly addicted and obsessed with SPN! I wont give a rundown of how each season hit me, but its been a crazy, emotional, tragically painful, beautful roller coaster that I have no intentions to ever get off of. By the time I got to S9 and started seeing the episodes dwindle away, I didnt want to finish too fast, yet I wanted to keep binging, so thats when I decided to start rewatching. ration out the newer episodes so I dont finish too fast, and binge the ones Ive already seen, and Ive done that continiously since then, and that was in May. By the end of June, I had watched everything on Netflix and purchased all of S11 On Demand and just kept finishing and starting over, rinse, repeat.  What I have learned... I mean no disrespect to Dean, I love him... but, if he ever says “As long as Im around, nothing bad is ever gonna happen to you” ... just RUN!! He said this to Sam in S1 and things just unraveled fast for poor Sam. I dont think there are many bad things LEFT that haven't happened to Sam, and we still have at least 2 more seasons to go!!!  To me, Sam is the most beautiful, kind, selfless, brave character ever. Yet, he can be a little selfish on occasion, but if you needed any of the duct tape and safety pins that hold him together, he wouldnt think twice about giivng them to you. He is scared fairly often, but it’s never stopped him from facing any big bad monster life could hand him.Season 10 was definitely not his most attractive season (that hair?? WHAT??) and if you piss him off, he can viciously sting with his words at the very least, or be brutally lethal with his hands when need be. He is a full on nerd, but not the least bit pretentious about it. He doesnt think he is better than anyone, and maybe even not as good as most. He is brilliant, but wont ever make you feel stupid. He is the sweetest, kindest gentleman you’ll ever meet, but 100% badass as well. But most of all. he loves Dean with everything in his life. He will never leave him (again) for anyone. If he ever finds a significant other, they will have to accept him and Dean as One person. Package deal and thats it.  To me, Dean is a rock. He rarely ever changes, This isn’t a bad thing. This compliments Sam, who is ever changing. Dean doesn’t live inside his head. He expresses his feelings more physically than with words, though he isnt one to mince words if you need to hear it. He’s emotional, not afraid to cry, but maybe afraid of who he allows to see it. He’s not perfect, he has made a lot of poor choices for himself and for Sam as well, but never with any ill intent (other than when influenced by a Supernatural force) He is a sweetheart, who unfortunately carries too much baggage. In Regarding Dean I feel like I met the REAL Dean that is lost under decades of pain, lossm and never ending violence. He can piss me off big time, but I forgive him because Sam does, and the most important thing in his world is Sam. There is nothing he wouldnt do, nor lines he wouldnt cross for Sam, and I believe he would give Sam anything in his power if Sam would simply ask.  What I think of the side characters  Cas, Crowley, Rowena, Bobby, etc.. all good characters who bring a lot of interest to the show, but none are strong enough characters to have their own storylines apart from Sam and Dean. Their side stories arent very interesting. I would watch a show that was only Sam and Dean (which is what I prefer) but I wouldnt watch a show that was only Cas or Crowley or whomever. They should support Sam and Dean and thats it, in my opinion.

What I have learned about the Fandom... Supernatural is the Holy Reaches of Heaven to them and they are Religions. Separate groups of individuals, expressing their love for the show and the characters in different ways. Some SPN religions are open and accepting, and some are vicious and hateful. Everyone gets different things from different parts of the series, but some of these religions, think their thoughts are the best and only True Canon even when sometimes, their thoughts are not canon at all. There are some fun, silly, kind loving fans in the SPN Family, and I have met a few, but Ive also seen some unnecessarily hatefull, mean spirited individuals who I cant consider family. SPN belongs to me, and it belongs to you. Take from it what you take from it... blog your blogs, go meta crazy, ship your ships, and write the shit out of fan fic... but please dont belittle and berate those who think differently. It is a ficitonal show, no one is going to go to Hell or be arrested for their views on it. If you don’t like it, dont watch it, but let those who do still love it, like myself, enjoy it while they can. Don’t go trying to hurt our feelings with “It should end!!” because someday it will, we know this, but we want it to live on for as long as J2 are happy to do it, and even then, it’s gonna hurt like the death of a loved one to see it go, so try to be more considerate okay? If you stayed to read ALL of this, You are precious to me :) and thank you!

#supernatural #1 year anniversary #many years to come

[devotionalfigureofganesh]

April 18 - Coming to America

My little Ganesh has made me think more about how the West uses South Asian religious iconography. When it is used here, it is often mass-marketed for interior design uses. 

I remembered a debate I had heard about over the use of the image of the Buddha. I found a New York Times article from 2013 titles ‘How Not to Treat the Buddha’, which detailed Buddhist complaints over the use of the Buddha’s image by the West, https://rendezvous.blogs.nytimes.com/2013/03/04/how-not-to-treat-the-buddha/. It cited an organization called ‘Knowing Buddha’, a Thai effort by Buddhists to better educate foreigners about respectful use of the Buddha’s image. Their website includes a section, ‘Dos and Don’ts on Buddha’. One ‘don’t’ is ‘Do not place images or statues of Buddha as if they were furniture or decorative objects’, https://www.knowingbuddha.org/dos-and-donts/.

While my Ganesh is not an image of the Buddha, this debate is still certainly applicable.

I believe that the attitude of the American consumer towards religious decorative objects may be summarized quite well by a review left on a statue of Ganesh from an American housewares company. An anonymous reviewer writes, “It’s about the size of a kid’s nerf football :)”. Comparing a religious figure of an important deity to a child’s toy is likely why sites like Knowingbuddha.org exist. Even though this is a product manufactured and designed by and for westerners, such attitudes which are totally cavalier to a deeper meaning behind the object clearly explain why many true devotees are upset. 

This does make me think deeper about my own love for such objects. The company which offered this stone Ganesh statue is the same one where I got my Ganesh. I may not be comparing mine to a toy, but is displaying it as an aesthetic decoration inherently disrespectful to others religion? I’m not really sure, and likely it would depend on who I’m asking. I will continue to cherish and display my little figure, but with a deeper and more meaningful regard for what it represents.

[loving-fictional-boysngirls]

Pride Month 30 Day Challenge!

Days 1-7

Day 1 - Your sexual orientation or gender identity. Be creative in your definition.

     I am a demipansexual girl, and proud of it!

Day 2 - Did you have any experiences as a child that might have foreshadowed your sexuality?

      When I was younger I had the absolute hugest crush on Ariel as well as Kim Possible, but at the time I didn’t think of it as a crush.

Day 3 - How old were you when you knew? What was that like for you? 

          I honestly always knew deep down, but I came to terms with it fully in 8th grade. Quite frankly it was very hard for me, I never had hated people who were LGBT+ or thought them disgusting but I thought my family was going to hate me and everyone else would too. At this time I was bullied heavily, ever since kindergarten and people I went to school with, (I grew up in the South East of America), would pick on me and call me a lesbian in a derogatory way, so while I never thought personally that members of the LGBT community were disgusting, I was conditioned to find terms like gay and lesbian as ways of insulting people and it really hurt me. I would tell myself it was normal to find girls attractive but that didn’t mean I liked them, it was a very dark time for me. But after I accepted it, I personally felt more at peace. Though considering I still live in the same environment it can be very scary sometimes, though I never feel ashamed to be who I am now.

Day 4 - The first person you came out to and that story

The first time I ever said out loud that I thought I was bi (this was before I learned about pansexuals and demisexuals), was to my best friend in 7th grade Trinity. She herself was bi, and being around her made me feel more open to liking girls myself. She was my real first exposure to non -straight people, and in all actuality, I kind of had a crush on her. I said one day, Hey I think I might be bi, and she looked at me and laughed and told me its not funny to joke around about stuff like that, which made me feel silly and I struggled with my sexuality till 8th grade when I came out to one of my other very close friends Aiyana. She was very supportive and really helped me out of that dark time of my life.

TRIGGER WARNING: Mentions of Depression and Self Harm/Suicidal Thoughts/ Actions under the cut

Day 5 - Thoughts regarding inner turmoil about your sexuality; Did you have any? Did it escalate to self-injury or suicidal thoughts? 

It honestly breaks my heart now, thinking about how much I hated myself because of me liking girls. I thought about it like, “Everyone already doesn’t like you, and now you just have to go and give them more reasons to not like you.” While I don’t struggle with my identity too much anymore, sometimes it's hard for me to be loud and proud. While all of my friends are wonderful and very open-minded, not everyone at school or in my family are as open-minded, and I suffer great anxiety about being bullied for it because I now no longer get picked on much at all anymore. 

While I don't self-harm anymore, (I've been clean for a year and a half EXACTLY today), I did a lot because of a severe depression I suffered throughout my middle school early high school years. I was depressed for a variety of reasons, but my struggles with sexuality definitely didn’t help it. During this period I had very large amounts of suicidal thoughts, leading me to almost take my life a few times, which I luckily didn't.

Day 6 - Did you face any problems regarding religion?

I only recently started being religious again, (I’m newly Catholic), which in my church specifically, is very openminded and accepting. Father Roberto, our priest, has even officiated one or two same-sex weddings. I used to attend a Baptist Church, which was quite judgmental in all things, from what you wore to church or your job. Now I in no way, say all Baptist Churches or Catholic Churches are like this, this is my personal experience with them and don't mean to offend anyone. Like I've said previously I grew up and still live in the American Southeast, which is nicknamed the “Bible Belt”, and the atmosphere can range from very hostile ( like riots and the such) to less hostile but still homophobic (poking fun at gays, using gay and lesbian as derogatory remarks) to completely openminded. Since becoming Catholic, I feel very much more connected to God and connected to myself, and personally believe that God makes no mistakes in his creations, therefore he wouldn't create something that either is 1. a mistake or 2. something he won't love. 

Like I previously said, these are my personal beliefs and experiences, and don't mean to disrespect anyone who may have had different experiences. I completely understand that not all Catholic Churches are like mine and not every Baptist Church was like mine was.

Day 7 - How your parents took it or how you think they might take it?

At the time, it seemed like my mother blew me off, basically reducing it as a phase. I still love her, and she still loves me, while she didnt completely be unsupportive she did in a way. My dad had no problem with it we even joke about it together (not in a derogatory way) , while his wife doesnt know, and I honestly dont want her to know because she is a very judgemental person and I think she would literally kick me out of the house if she ever found out.

Phew that was a lot lol, next time wont be this much I promise. I love you guys, and please stay safe and may your pride be full of happiness and joy!!

[shivamholidaygroup-blog]

Things You Should Know Before Visiting Nepal

Traveling to any new country means something new to discover, learn and enjoy. There is whole load of possibilities while visiting a new place. There will be new areas, new people, new rules, new customs and traditions. Nepal which is a small south Asian landlocked country has lot of things to offer to its visitors. Here in this post I’ll be posting something which you really should know if you are planning to visit Nepal in the future.

Cows

Cow is the national animal of Nepal. Nepal may currently be a secular state but previously it was a Hindu country and still majority of Nepalese are Hindus. In Hindu religion cow is regarded as the mother figure and one of the sacred animal. Thus it is a great crime to kill the cow for meat in Nepal and likewise eating beef is regarded as highly disrespectful to the Hindu religion. Hence, it is not recommended for visitors to look for beef items while staying in Nepal.

Face Mask in Kathmandu

The gateway of Nepal also the capital of Nepal is full of dusty, dry and polluted air. Locals sometimes satire Kathmandu as “

Dhulomandu

” where “Dhulo” in Nepali means dust. There are well maintained roads in Kathmandu but Nepali government have the habit of digging the roads for water pipes or for drainage pipes and leaving those parts as it is without proper maintenance. As a result, dust justs flows in the air when vehicles pass through the same roads over and over again. Case worsens when there is rain. Thus, I advice visitors to wear face mask or use bandana to protect their respiratory system while they are walking in the roads at Kathmandu.

Beggars

Lately the numbers of beggars in the street of Kathmandu is increasing a lot. Some of them are physically handicapped but most of them are nothing more than bunch of freeloaders. Some of them are young men and women who have their hands and feet and can do a decent job just to eat their daily bread. But no why would they work when they are getting easy money. So, it is recommended not to give anything to those beggars who just pop infront of you outaa nowhere. Remember if you are handing them money than you are encouraging them for begging. It is good to give to a physically handicapped beggars but not to the ones who just clings onto you and ask for money like the money which is in your pocket is their father’s property. Dont hesitate to give them your piece of mind as well.  

Bargain for the items at shop

Not all the items which are placed in the shops of Nepal are fixed price. Yup the price of those items can be lowered. But dont expect it to get the item with 50% less amount. Bargaining is also an skill so, if you are good in that then I think you can save some money which you can later use on other things.

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