#but i do think they’re lgbt

[gayvampyr]

“queer spaces should be inclusive of people who don’t enjoy sex and who have “strange”, negative or repulsed relationships with sex” and “sex is an important aspect of lgbt community, history, and activism and queer people should be allowed and able to talk freely about sex without stigma or shame” are ideas that can and should coexist.

#‘queer people were banned from and shamed for having sex and that’s where a lot of our activism stemmed from’ and #‘not liking or having sex is considered abnormal and a mental illness and also needs to be destigmatized’ are concepts that not only can but #often do coalign #it’s esp important to consider that a lot of lgbt ppl who have a tricky and strained relationship with sex are like that because of trauma #which is very common for queer folks #it’s really not an ace-only thing #like i am sex repulsed but it’s very hard to discern if it’s because i’m asexual or if it’s the trauma. either way i deserve to have those #feelings and be included in lgbt spaces and discussions about sex and treated as just another queer person with a different experience #instead of being alienated because my feelings about sex don’t directly line up with yours #im so sick of people in this community trying to pit us against each other. as an ace lesbian that shit is so toxic and harmful #my relationship with sex is fluid. im sex-positive always‚ but i often find myself sex repulsed. im otherwise neutral about it but im sick #of people acting like it’s either you enjoy sex and have it frequently or you hate it and you shame everyone who has it like youre a puritan #and it’s often aphobes who bought into that ‘aces are puritanical celibate straights who want ppl who have gay sex to die or think they’re #‘dirty’ or some shit. and it was literally 90% crypto-aphobes pretending to be aces to get people to adopt that into their belief system #the same way crypto-t/rfs pretend to be trans women who want to prey on the ‘innocent women’ #and y’all will use those posts/screenshots as ‘evidence’ that whatever scapegoat you’ve selected is actually inherently bad/homophobic/ #misogynistic/etc and not even #acknowledge the giant hole in your logic cuz you’re too busy trying to find a scapegoat #it’s the same tactics and y’all fall for it every time #text post #like. lesbians are CONSTANTLY getting hounded and told that we’re broken or mentally i’ll for not showing interest in (having sex with) men #for the same reason asexuality is considered bad or wrong or weird #not showing interest in heterosexual relationships or sex is why this is so important #anyone that falls outside the scope of heterosexuality is part of this community whether you like it or not

[sanyu-thewitch05]

Me watching the LGBT community who almost never rarely gives black women and girls, asexuals, or aromantics genuine respect, pretend we’re all friends and have always treated us right the minute it’s June 1st and want to use black women(mainly darkskinned) and girls as their little poster girl:

#asexual #aromantic #It’s always coming from the non black people(including other racial minorities) too #and the stuff coming out of the lgbt community towards black women and girls has gotten real nasty #i have seen numerous people(although they’re mainly black) say that black people are inherently queer because we’re unnatural and strange #in the eyes of white supremacy and white people #like are you ok in the head??? why do you want to say that black people are inherently strange and we defy every social standard #as of our existence is a social statement #I personally think the worst thing I’ve personally heard(from yet another black person) #was that black women and girls would get seen as men or trans women because our hair is nappy #what does our natural hair have to do with getting seen as men or trans women?? #and the white lgbt people just applauded them and hearted their tweet #it annoys me how for some weird reason political and social movements will mainly use black women especially darker black women as rep #and It’s almost always by a non black person #like why don’t you use a girl or woman from your own race in your political and social justice artwork #oh wait that’s right #because in general the lgbt community views black women and girls as magical negras who will be their ride or die sista soulja #who will mule and fight for them no matter how badly they outright insult us or sneakily talk badly about us #pride month is basically another black history month when it comes to how everyone reacts to it #every reaction to it is superficial and they’re only celebrating us because they feel like they had to or wanted social points #had it been any other month they would’ve been focusing on the group that they belong to

[vohtaro]

madara’s party trick is to make birds chirp

#hashirama senju #mito uzumaki #madara uchiha #hashimadamito #it’s not a GOOD trick in fact it’s very questionable how much he has to do with any of it #nevertheless #it’s wholesome softness cuteness on this valentine’s day #i’ve had this in a file since like november LMAO #ignore the wonky proportions please i know they’re there i’m also tired <3 #just enjoy birb #they could have been such good partners….. mutually supportive….. various flavors of lgbt…… #vohtaro art #i wish i had the energy to even shade this…. but i do Nawt…. #tbh i might consider this a wip. i like it very much even months later. i think it’d be worth coming back to when i learn things abt colorin #g

[lostryu]

“stop worrying about bi lesbians! worry about trans rights being lost in america!”

first of all, i am actually smart enough to realize that there are multiple issues and address all of them. second of all, where the fuck were you when SB-180 passed in kansas? if you’re so concerned about trans rights, maybe you guys should put your money where your mouth is and start putting in the work; instead of sitting around with ur thumb up your ass being lesbophobic as hell!

#lesbophobia #transphobia #i’m sorry if you’re scapegoating trans people you’re transphobic #bc you don’t see trans people as actual humans #to you they’re just a prop for your idiotic arguments #also stop crying about america #ffs there are other countries threatened by anti lgbt legislation #pull your head outta your ass and think for once #i better start seeing receipts of y’all doing shit that’s not reblogging 1 post #new rule you can’t argue online and use trans people as a gotcha until you’ve actually done something for them #starting with actually donating to their paypal’s and go fund mes #i better not see you buying tumblr merch until you’ve given a trans girl $100

[redheadbigshoes]

“Straight” women will say the gayest shit ever or act incredibly queer with other women and still say they’re straight.

#stephanie talks #lgbt #lgbtqia #sapphic #wlw #i feel like this is because society likes to alienate women into thinking being with another woman is not a real relationship #so no matter what they do they don’t think it counts as attraction because they’re in such deep denial of their sexuality

[the-hopeless-haze]

I just wanna say something because I think people’s views of things are warped. Like in a world where STILL only 1 out of every 5 movies have an lgbt character … and everyone’s life has at least one lgbt person in it. like it’s 2023 and people are judging media from like 20 years ago and not giving it the credit it deserves for even getting us to this point.

We can rightfully criticize House MD for many things but the fact that in 2004/2005 in S1&S2 they had multiple patients of the week that were gay or bi (not implied either way). And no one used it as a joke or a punchline (except the mafia one but it was mostly house being an asshole per usual “he’s not gay but certainly delightful” and the point at the end of the episode was his brother was an asshole for not accepting him) and part of the main cast that was bisexual. But to me like having the patients of the week be in gay relationships and it be normalized and no one say anything about it being odd IN 2005, almost 20 years ago, did a lot. Like these patients are supposed to be from a slice of life perspective like their lives got disrupted and ultimately I’m glad they didn’t have it always be from a straight perspective and that it wasn’t treated any differently than a straight person.

Also a lot of people like to badmouth Glee and yes it was terrible for bisexual representation but the fact that we got a teenage boy kissing his boyfriend on network tv in 2009 before gay marriage was legalized was again… a huge step. And that was actually a pretty diverse cast regardless

I just think that people need to put stuff in perspective with older media ESPECIALLY ones that were trying to do something. Of course they fell flat by today’s standards but it was 15-20 years ago, they should because we should try to be better. And fun fact they’re still better than 80% of media out there today because 80% of media doesn’t even bother to have any representation at all

#lgbt #lgbtq representation #lgbtq #lgbtqia #house Md #glee #idk like house and glee suck in a lot of ways but glee especially made so many kids feel safe #and I would say house being able to joke about himself being gay and be that secure in his sexuality (whatever you believe it is) is good #that statistic was wild to me like how can we say anything about representation #for the record I don’t think necessarily that every movie should have a main character who is gay or bi or trans #(although why is it ok if they’re straight) #but like I said everyone’s life has at least ONE lgbt person in it #whether they’re their best friend or a distant acquaintance they exist #so to have it only be 20% of films is disgusting #we’re a long way from good. but house was doing better than some shows today sooooo #do with that what you will

[theres-whump-in-that-nebula]

Sometimes I think about how my parents are fine with watching things with portrayals of drug users, smokers, and murderers in them (not trying to equate substance use to murder, to be clear); but the second a male character even sounds mildly effeminate, they shut off the TV??? Because it’s a bad influence??!!?!

Like, my dudes…. According to your religion all of those people are from the world; all of them are sinning, and “voluntary” sin is a symptom of hereditary sin. According to your belief system, certain people are predisposed to certain types of sin, including homosexuality. Theoretically, you should react to us as you would any other sinner; but you don’t. Why are we so offensive to you that you would rather watch some poor astronaut die screaming and hemorrhaging on a dinner table than view a queer-coded character for more than twenty seconds??

#oh and it doesn’t help that my dad is *convinced* one of the elders is secretly gay #and he doesn’t feel comfortable around him because he thinks he likes him???? #I mean ?????? #the man’s an ELDER #if he is gay he’s suppressing it to maintain his position #which is more dangerous to him than it is to you #and gay people are allowed to like people of the same sex platonically dad #gay people existing in your general vicinity doesn’t mean they’re trying to get you or whatever the fuck you think they’re trying to do #ok? #the few predatory ones you’ve met are not the norm #you have no idea how many LGBT people you’ve met in your life #I am “family“ (in all senses of the word) and you haven’t noticed me #what makes you think you can tell who’s gay and who’s straight when you’re not aware of your own daughter? #I’m obviously not predatory towards women #(but the second they find out I’m lesbian again they’ll start questioning all the interactions with women and children I’ve ever had #THEN I’ll be a wolf in sheep’s clothing and not just a Nice Girl who has platonic acquaintances) #exjw #homophobia tw #ex cult #should I tell them that half the characters in Alien(s) are either queer-coded or canonically LGBT?? #lmao

[cantofworms]

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#ok ik all the hot take asks are pre much done and the sparkly say smth nice asks are better but well I’ve been having thoughts all day at #work and want to get them out now so that’s what I’m doing lol #obvs for the past few months i think ppl are vv heavily leaning into the dnf /r and I firmly believe that they aren’t #like yes I enjoy being a multi shipper but I still primarily read dnf fics bc they’re cute dnf writers and artists MWAHH ilysm #but it’s been increasingly annoying how every move dnf make ppl hyper obsess over it and ignore everything else like blog what u want this #is tumblr dot com but I think ppl how only see dnf thro the lens of romantic do much more ‘harm’ than ppl who dont #like the argument about taking validation out of their very REAL amazing friendship just gets over shadowed by omg Dream posted a pic of #geogre they’re in LOVE and sucking and FUCKING every night. like #and then completely disregard when dnf do and say the exact same shit about all their other friends #like dream has explicitly said they aren’t dating (ignore that tho) amd that’s he’s kissed multiple ppl since coming out (ignore that too) #and their friends naturally say that they’re all single (ignore that too) idk man it’s ok they like to pander amd that dream is a toxic #dnfer but it’s all just For Funsies. another thing is ppl CONSTANTLYYYY putting geohres sexuality under a microscope oh he drinks lemonade #from Starbucks he’s soooo gay like dumb shit like that is so irritating #the fact that geogre has never once talked about his sexuality except that one instance where he got a DONO about it proves how much it #just doesn’t matter or apply to the type of content creator he is/wants to be #to be clear if he is or isn’t or dnf every explicitly announce their romantic relationship im gonna be sooooo happy and supportive like aw #dnfogies🫶🏻 but I think there’s a 99.9% chanve that’ll never happen so maybe we should all just care a Little Less and focus on out lgbt #creators if that’s smth u wanna watch/blog about idk maybe I’m just burnt out from the phandom but whyyyyy does is matter what their #sexualities are they play minecraft who cares who CARESSSS idk maybe just having older brothers around dtqk ages has made me realize that #guys will just act homiesexual no matter What #guys are just Like That and tbc I’m not saying that just bc gnf hasn’t made an official coming out doesn’t mean he’s not queer but for the #sake of his contwnt it doesn’t matter either way ? so why are ppl talking about it on the daily idk man it’s just annoying but Oh Well #at the end of the day they’re all famous white guys and nothing matters hurray !!

[apotelesmaa]

BAD APPLE IN PJSK???? BAD APPLE IN PJSK?????????

#I’ll be honest I might download the Japanese app just to play that #was literally thinking abt this last week and was like alas it’s a touhou song they can’t add it #& now they’re doing a touhou collab. oouyuuuufghg. #jaw dropped. colopale has been forgiven by the lgbt community for this one. #+ inabakumori commission for ena focus… every1 cheered #mine

[tariah23]

His videos are always so…

#he hasn’t posted in a while either so oh wow #I’m glad he’s still making videos #yeah…. a lot of these edgy black content creators revolve their whole content around punching down on the little guys #going for what’s shocking rather than actually attempting to say something actually funny #either they’re making fun of the lgbt community or they’re laughing at black women #it’s like…. #rambling #like I notice that this kind of content is usually from black dudes as well because of course #it’s been going on since the vine days well a little bit before that #but this kind of content got more extreme during the vine days for sure or bad at least started to manifest itself more #the guys in wigs pretending like their ghetto black girls (always making fun of darkskin bw…) #what am I saying this has been a thing for decades #there are sm of them that never do that tho like #rcd world (I’ve been watching them since HS I think lmfao or at least college) #druski’s always been hilarious I could easily see him getting his own show on adult swim or something #Caleb city has always made fun content as well lol #the video does mention a very old video from him that was transphobic I’m guessing (never saw it) but I’m sure he got backlash and took it #down but he’s never made any content like that again for sure #killakaytv is funny too #there’s more but these are the ones that come to mind without me having to think about it they even make content #that’s just edgy af for no reason most of them suck tho if I’m being real I don’t have too much faith for black male content creators 🗿 #they can barely keep the fact that they hate black women and lgbt folks out of their content like it’s exhausting #like I could easily rec the folks mentioned simply because they’re actually funny and don’t make content that’s purely mean spirited af #Youtube #crazy about this video #the video is more about edgy content but yeah

[gemsandjunk]

“This teenager on the internet doesn’t know their queer history!!!” Cool. So are you going to:

- block/ignore them and move on with your life, because they are a child on the Internet that cannot hurt you

- correct them and provide them resources to learn more about what they got wrong

- black out their name when posting a screenshot of their take if you truly feel the need to insult a minor for not knowing something so badly

Or

- publicly mock them, insult them, frame them as the source of all of the community’s ills, encourage your peers to do the same, and overall put them in a situation that will cause them to fear and lash out at any older person- queer or not- that interacts with them online in the future, all for the crime of not knowing a history that they wouldn’t have been taught in even the most liberal of learning environments?

#i see this so much in posts I genuinely agree with but will never share because of how they’re worded #you are in your 30s there are better things you can be doing with your life than dunking on a 15 year old that thinks ‘ftm’ is offensive #with Facts and Logic #I’m not asking you to be a teacher I’m asking you to not be a dick to kids #“’queer teens don’t want to listen to their elders’ yes because you treat them like chronically online idiots #also most of the ‘elders’ doing this are still in their 20s but that’s a topic for another day #queer #lgbt #lgbtq #lgbtqia #nifty’s junk

[pebblezone]

Living life yay huzzah yay

#a #I have beef with my school. am I happy here? absolutely. do I think we are beyond lame for not having an actual guy? 100% #letters don’t count!!!!!!!! having a capital letter for your school doesn’t count!!!!!!!!!! #like it’s not even a complete absence of a team no just like a silly little physical guy than runs across the field #and can be all cute on stuff on shirts and be stuffed animals it’s the marketing potential they’re missing out on #though I guess I’d rather have no physical dude than one which sucks complete ass I’m talking about pen state fuck that guy #I need to watch the gnomes again wait oh my fucking god I was thinking like damn I did the gnomeo juliet ace attorney moment #but my brain is knee deep in hellsing so idk how to connect them but bruh every piece of media has some form of rivals #I’m not emotionally invested in andercard but the idea of Catholic and Protestant gnomes is really funny #and they’re already British!! lovely!!! at some point in college I need to use gnomes for a grade I can’t let that be a high school only bit #did you know that gnomeo and Juliet is technically owned by Disney? add that to your marvel cinematic universe #oh gnomeo and Juliet poster we’re really in it now #did you know that the version of hello hello that’s in the movie featuring lady Gaga is not on streaming services? they take lady Gaga out #it’s really unfortunate the echos and duet aspect make the song it’s not just one or the other it’s Two Gnomes!! #have two exam grades back that I have not looked at out of fear #either they’ll be bad and I’ll watch hellsing to make myself feel better Or they’ll be good and I’ll watch hellsing as a reward #unrelated but it looks like a gutter on the other side of my dorm got busted and I’m trying to figure out if it’s always been like that #maybe it has and I’m not a gutter glorifier like I thought I was…. rip observational skills #I have a group project I have to work on and it’s evil I do not enjoy the class and it’s not very lgbt slay girlboss of me #but god dammit I am not filling out a fucking gender unicorn for your class that’s between me and my tumblr drafts from 2019 #it gets a credit out of the way and I never have to take it again I am so strong #man what does it say about society that I’m more excited about Econ than wgs (it says nothing the Econ professor is just goofy and fun) #(also he does more than read off of slides and show those like buzzfeed social experiments) #but none of that is important since next week is when things get fucked and I’ll end up with more free time! yay strikes!! #update: made it back from project zone those fuckers held me hostage using social norms #it’s okay though I’m sooo strong and brave #talkingcore

[bi-rising]

saw a post from someone about how using q//r is good or whatever bc “you should be banding together with your fellow freaks!” NO!!! NO!!! I DONT WANT TO BE A FREAK. HOW DO YOU NOT GET THAT. I WANT TO BE NORMAL. I WANT TO TELL PPL I LOVE MEN AND WOMEN AND HAVE NO ONE BAT AN EYE. I WANT MY LGBT FAMILY TO LIVE HOW THEY WANT TO AND FEEL SAFE!!! IM NOT A FREAK. THEYRE NOT FREAKS. BEING LABELED A “FREAK” IS EXACTLY WHY THERE ARE SO MANY SUICIDES AND SO MUCH VIOLENCE AGAINST LGBT PEOPLE. IDC IF YOURE “DEI” TRAINED OR WHATEVER, DONT FUCKING CALL US FREAKS!!!!

#q slur #I actually fucking feel sick #like if some trained person is gonna say they’re on my side and then call me a freak in the same breath #do you really think I’d feel safe around them??? #you can’t trust anyone who uses q//r to refer to the lgbt community!! #cause our fucking allies have also bought into calling us freaks!! #do you know how much this makes my skin crawl? #do u realize ur the type of person I’d never tell who I really am to??

[dilf-phoenix-rights]

It’s annoying how many ppl here ignore someone being low key enbyphobic & aphobic as long as they don’t outright hate them and make good fan art

#like someone continuously saying exclusionist rhetoric about the lgbt community not meaning anything anymore #because of all the queer people that don’t fit into those 4 letters perfectly (or at all) #and continuesly insinuating they don’t think they’re queer enough but they have nothing against them because they are still allies #like if you constantly vaguely complain and invalidate certain members in the community you do not actually support them #you’re just tired of being called out for it #and I’m tired of people letting it slide just because someone says ‘we’re allies’ #any way I’m not gonna talk about this with anyone I’m just venting #because tumblr blocking doesn’t stop me from seeing it on my dash #and pleading for people to stop ignoring these things if they have noticed them in any fan content creators they follow #(or anyone for that matter but I’m talking about aa) #(seriously don’t ask me about this I’m not naming names I don’t feel like risking that)

[mossyfella]

saw a post that made me think of this but i’m not adding it bc i don’t want to derail but. i think we should approach the “no kink at pride” crowd more of what they actually probably are. kids/younger people who still view sex as a scary/gross thing. and tell them that when ur part of a community as diverse as the lgbt+ community ur going to see things that make u a bit uncomfy!! things that make u go ummm…. but that those people have just as much as a right to exist as u do. but mostly we gotta realize that these are people who are probably uncomfortable with themselves on some level. source: i used to be a “no kink at pride!!!!” person until i Grew Up a bit more

#dandy.txt #sorry this is rambling if u need clarification lmk #but yeah like. these people are probably kids #GRANTED i haven’t looked at their posts bc i simply don’t care #but as someone who used to think this way. they’re probably kids #also bc getting super mad at them will make them dig their heels in more #the post in question called the no kink at pride thing terf rhetoric which. i disagree with but i didn’t want to derail #bc while terfs DO say that it doesn’t come from Hating Trans Women it comes from #being uncomfortable in a space #at least imo #(+ calling every lgbt opinion u disagree with terf rehtoric is uuuh not the best thing i think!!! but that’s not the point of this ^^)

[somepeoplethinkimadyke]

Things I love about Christmas:

Getting to see my family, all the fun traditions we have, the vibes, presents, etc.

Things I don’t like about Christmas:

Me wearing a skirt once this holiday bc I was feeling it and now my mother commenting on my outfit every time we go out with ‘aw I thought we were going to see a repeat of that lovely skirt you wore the other day. You looked so nice in that skirt’ and I’m just here in my shirt, boots and jeans, looking hot and butch.

Just why is it that I only get compliments from cishets when I’m looking more feminine and less butch.

(And like yes I looked great in that skirt, but I also look great like this so stop asking me to put it back on because you think I look prettier, and the worst thing is I know you probably don’t even realise that you’re doing it)

#butch #queer #it’s just the subtle things like this #that I genuinely don’t think people realise they’re doing #but doesn’t mean they don’t cut deep #and thank god I have so many wonderful queer people in my life who counteract this #it’s reasons like this that took me forever to actually get my hair cut properly short #because everyone told me oh but your hair is so lovely why would you cut it #lgbt #gay #lesbian #queer family #family #Christmas #lgbtq #butch pride #straight people #micro aggressions #microaggressions #pride #femme #masc #skirts