#but grandma is there to take care of her

[ch1zzie]

The original in the bottom

Plus the picture I mainly drew but decided to draw the rest for funny

#thats not my neighbor #milk man #just tried to draw something in my mind to post along with saying some updates #monday the people are gonna give my grandma the keys to the house! while i have to stay at my aunts place for wifi for school #(online school) #my moms gonna be moving things out of storage into the house! AAAA I CANT WAIT #also little welcome home update #im not sure if i said here? wait nevermind i just remembered while typing (it was that i got barnaby and the pins) AAA silly me #also im making a little julie out of clay (if i wake up and their messed up i am NOT redoing that😭) #the legs are a little messed up because julie was gonna be the size of an hatsune miku figure on accident so i chose to shorten her a bit #only because im not sure if im gonna make the others too AND because theres no way hes gonna be THAT tall😭 #also! im making easter art #yes its barnaby and wally again just for fun! but a few changes like keeping their regular outfits because i cant think of anything else!!! #why not the ones in the old easter drawing? welllll a follower said that wallys outfit looked a bit familiar to another not so good thing #it wasnt on purpose just an accident because i hadn't notice BUT im glad i know now so i can be more careful! #im not sureeee if im gonna finish the easter art OR the julie clay thingy but I'd love too! and honestly HOPE to #high chance i will (well maybe the easter art could be late or not) #maaaaaaaaaaaAAAAAA trying to think if theres anything else but cant! ill try posting this hoping my wifi wont hate me... #also i know i said this account was for welcome home posting but i didnt have any cool welcome homey things to put here gahhhhh #ehehehhe once i get my new room and its allllll just me #imma post like crazy (wellll that IS the plan so i hope) #even if its little dumb posts #by the way this post was gonna say on top “i know i said this account is for welcome home posting but TAKE THIS FOR LITTLE UPDATES” #just removed it because i dunnooooo just didded #hehe didded

[ryllen]

this PSA is brought to u, by first year farmer ・゚ *✧

#fsds just kidding i love how welcoming robin was too; even offering table with her family during the stardew valley eve #but no red carpet can be more welcoming than local grandma who smells like flowers and cookies and take u as her grandchild from day 1 #i thought linus was sketchy at first but then i almost cry because he is the only one drag me back home when i am dying in mine alone #with no one knowing or care where am i #sdv #stardew valley #sdv evelyn #sdv farmer #stardew evelyn #stardew farmer #stardew valley evelyn #stardew valley farmer #fanart #surely it was sketchy at first the way ur money and things are gone #but after knowing linus u get to trust him that he was sincere helping u #it really was like this homeless man cares for me more than anyone in this village #*tho reasonable bcs he's the only one actively foraging for things to live & coincidentally u are one of the thing he found #but i can imagine by the way i was playing; first few months arriving at the valley farmer just keep spending time sitting beside linus #contemplating about life #like second homeless person in the valley #if there's a popularity poll for stardew villagers; evelyn should be top number 1 no discussion #for someone who started stardew valley without any interest of the bachelor/rettes this is how i feel

[one-bunny-a-day]

14/08/2023

#daily bunny #226 #standalone bunny #met on of my nieces today and had to take care of her for a few hours #so I drew her some bunnies #n this one of em #she's only 2 so idk how much she appreciated them but her grandma and mom were happy at least gfdhgf

[moveslikekeithrichards]

its so hard to talk about how traumatic it is to watch somebody be claimed by dementia without going "well i cant complain because at least i wasnt the one losing my mind (for now)" but that shit fucks you up so much. that ghost is going to haunt me for the rest of my life and all i can do is hope it Stays a ghost

#tiddytaco #b #thinking about it rn bc today while i was driving my mom home from pt #she saw someone she knew from years ago driving & was like FOLLOW THAT CAR & we met them in a parking lot #& the conversation turned to 'hey what the hell happened to your parents' pretty quickly bc our families hadnt been in touch #& it was a long conversation in the hobby lobby parking lot #& idk if itll ever Stop being fresh in my mind but now its Extra fresh in my mind #that whole time period was just so insane & awful #bc it was like Ok we're caring for both grandparents #& then my grandpa died #& all our pets at the time were very old #& when he died it occurred to me that we could easily lose both grandparents and all 3 pets within the year #it turned out to be like a long drawn-out year & a half from the first to the last #& looking back it seems impossible that is was that short a time period bc it felt like an eternity #we got off easy with grandpa bc he died before it got too bad but with grandma it just kept getting Worse #& the climax of the caring experience was traveling to take her to my uncle bc he wanted to take his shift caring for her #& that was so . So bad. SO bad #like it literally could not have gone more smoothly and it was SO bad #just thinking about it i feel like im there again i get so stressed out

[trailerparkdad]

"oh grandma, what a hoarder you were."

#save:moth #basically melody's grandma died and now she has to take care of her apartment etc #she just got a dish washing job in the city close by! #oh and her grandma left her cat gilbert behind #idk #what will she run intoooooo #??? who knows!! stay tuned #i imagine her grandma was a healthcare worker in her adult years and eventually retired and #become the nice cat garden lady of the block :( #ts4 #ts4 gameplay

[deedala]

✨Lip and Debs✨

#debbie gallagher #lip gallagher #shameless us #shamelessedit #shamelessnet #things got better between them after the finale i just know it #its all good vibes and taking care of each other dont at me #giffed🍂 #grandmas watching her stories #shameless #s10 #10x07

[incorrect-primarchs-quotes]

HonestlyYYYY!! Though now you intimidate me more, you're clearly a big league pharmacist. I just took a summer class to be a techie.

Though like the rude customers are both understandable (miserable, pain, feel icky) but also not because du d e it's not our fault the doctor did the wrong stuff

Don't be afraid, I'm really just tired or confused all the time😭

But yes, I've became kind of sus(?) of doctors now. I have a lot of things I could tell, like when this newly appointed doctor gave her first med to her own grandma - which is a family's friend - and I turned pale after hearing what drug she gave her.

#grandma is luckily find btw #she took only one pill before the cardiologist immediately took those pills away from her #also wait #because this might look weird #the drug in questions is one of the most common ever - its not rare #not weird #not new #it's super common and studies everywhere in the medical field #so like im sorry but that mistake was kind of big #but yeah be careful #another time we got this little girl having some hormonal problem and she was checked by 2 different doctors #i remember one of them was literally out of their head #i had to convince her big sister to go to a specialized clinic because i was really worried of #“yeah they don't know what it is but they said she should take this pill” #that pill was quite heavy and should not be given that lightly #anon #lmao sorry for the big rant #btw shes fine too for now after changing her meds

[fyrewalks]

why is scheduling plans with your friends when your adults so hard

#ooc #tbd #at this point we're gonna be celebrating my friends birthday a month past it lmao #we couldnt do last week bc she was a sick #can't do this saturday bc one friend has an app and has to take care of her grandma #can't do sunday since it's easter #can maybe do friday but only if it's later in the day

[crowrelli]

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#vent tw #death mention tw #okay I need to post this bc I’m. going to explode into a million shattered parts if I don’t #my grandmother on my moms side who lived with us my whole teen years. who I helped care for. passed last night before I could go visit her #and instead of IDK FUCKING CALLING ME TO TELL ME my estranged idiot sister just texts me basically ‘Oop she died 🤪’ #what the actual fuck #I deserve to hear from our mom? I deserve to hear like the rest of the fucking family? #my cousin did it right and said ‘call your mom’ but you just fucking take it on yourself?? how inconsiderate and conceited to take that away #how little do you see of me to not show basic fucking compassion?? #I will never not hold this with me every time I think of my grandmothers passing #I’m a fucking adult. I’ve lived on my own for 3 god damn years. and yet you can’t extend me the BASIC FUCKING RESPECT of letting me find out #the RIGHT WAY #I broke my no contact out of respect for my grandma. I promised to walk into a house I was fucking prisoner in half my life. #I looked past my pain and my trauma out of basic fucking human decency and she couldn’t wait a few hours to let the news reach me properly #and before I can even say my goodbyes she’s gone and this is how you tell me?? #she KNEW I was in contact with our mom again #she KNEW #I lived with grandma I HELPED TAKE CARE OF HER #I picked her off the floor when she fell I made her food when she was hungry I READ HER BOOKS WHEN HER HANDS SHOOKTOO BAD #I knew they were monsters but are you fucking kidding me?? this is so so low I’m in fucking shock #I thank my partner and their family every fucking day for teaching me what real love is #because after you live your whole life trying to love people who are only playing roles for the sake of appearance you can never go back to #the cold lifeless greyscale power plays they call unconditional love #god I just #I’m just so fucking tired

[inusmasha]

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#so things are rough again #my grandma had a seizure and they found a tumor on the left side of her brain #all 12 of my aunts and uncles (including my mom) are flying to where she is bc they’re fearing the worst #my mom is fully dependent on me so I have to put whatever savings I had on getting a ticket and basically take care of any expenses #also don’t know how long she’s going to be there for but she #this is just costing me…. so much money #I have to think of something quick

[midnightfangz]

There's something about silly cafe AUs that soothes my soul so much

#hi. my name is pluto and i came up with yet another idea for a fic #will i ever finish the previous wips? who knows #anyways. imagine a spiderverse cafe au where the spiders run a small cafe/restaurant/bakery whatever #the parker surname is funny inside joke bc none of them are related #peter b is either that one employee whos been there longest (has a lot of experience) or is the owner #peter b's mary jane delivers the fruit and vegetables and whatnot. theyre exes and are trying to act professional #but they decide to try again (like in the movie). the drama is unreal and the rest of the spider squad tease him about it so much #gwen is that one punk teen thats kinda scary. feels like shes judging you but shes actually just tired #rude customers stand no chance against her. makes delicious coffee. makes the best playlists. chill coworker #peni is also a teen. the best coworker you could ask for. customers love her bc shes very pleasant and overall really really nice #miles is the fresh faced part timer. kinda clumsy. well liked amongst the aunties and moms #draws THE BEST doodles on the cups/bags and so on #noir is also the scary coworker whos very chill once you get to know him. takes care of the deliveries. makes the food #strong as fuck. all the moms and grandmas fawn over him but hes clueless #felix (male felicia hardy. kinda an oc at this point?? love him so much) is one of the delivery guys. very punctual and pleasant #also very charming. brings gifts and things like that to people he likes. sneaks in snacks #benjamin (noir) doesnt care much for him at the beginning but after some time he weirdly?? feels upset?? when the delivery person #is not felix?? they start talking while taking the stuff out of the delivery van. laugh. get to know each other better #then felix starts visiting the cafe/whatever. becomes a regular. benjamin starts giving him food/coffee 'for the road' #the rest of the squad thinks theyre disgustingly adorable and try to get them together #I JUST CAME UP WITH THIS BUT I WILL DIE IF I FORGET ABOUT THIS #midnightfangz.txt #fanfiction #writing #long tags #spiderman: into the spiderverse

[holocene-sims]

next // previous

july 20, 2021 7:30 a.m. ireland

[grant] but what actually made you leave? what was the motivation?

[aoife] well, you spend your whole life doing one thing and it’s a real swift kick in the bollocks when you’re forced a change in trajectory. one minute, you’re farming land in your family’s name, and the next, you’re meant to marry and tend someone else’s land in someone else’s name.

[grant] that makes sense. it's a total directional change. and you were already independent, so going into a partnership is kind of losing all that you’re used to. it doesn't matter how you find the relationship, you still have to make concessions.

[aoife] see, you’re smart!

[aoife] but my parents didn’t feel any of those were worthy problems. they had plans for me and i ruined them. they had different ideals of what i could do to help them as an adult. i won’t blame them, though. every parent has dreams for their children and we all push them too hard once in a while. find me a parent who hasn't done that.

[aoife] and for my father, well, i suppose he felt like he'd done everything in the world in his power to make a perfect country, and i think he took personal offense to me disagreeing with one part of the way things were.

[aoife] but i sacrificed everything for our family farm. i don't believe i slighted anyone. i did what had to be done. for one, i barely went to school, never finished even primary school, because my work was the priority. i gave up the only chance of an education and more, and i was meant to walk away from the fruits of my labor.

[aoife] i was young and somewhat bullish. in the heat of it all, i felt betrayed by their asking me to marry.

[grant] and they did, too.

[aoife] they did.

[aoife] now me? i was so hurt, i told them i'd first live with the yanks in america before i'd give up my name and my family for some man.

[aoife] but are those two options not the same?

[grant] i guess one is by choice, though.

[grant] but did you, um, leave to make a point?

[aoife] what point?

[grant] like, “this is how desperate and serious i am, please let me stay at home with you."

[aoife] and now you're too smart. but you’re bang on.

[grant] did they ever get it?

[aoife] they died resenting me.

[aoife] never mattered how hard i tried to prove i wanted to do right by them and look after the family, they never understood. there’s that rehearsed betrayal line. my siblings didn’t come up with it alone.

[aoife] i kept my surname. i taught my children, my grandchildren, and now my great-grandchildren to know irish and i'd death glare at you if you dared use the colonizer’s tongue without good reason. i retold all the stories i heard as a girl, brought you home for visits...

[aoife] i did everything for you kids that they taught me and wanted from me, but it never made them happy with me again.

[aoife] listen, my parents were glad you all existed and to their standards, had good times with you here, but yes, they’d still look at me like they were embarrassed of me.

[grant] but they were just casually cool with seámus and róisín being in america?

[aoife] oh, jesus. i don’t know. they knew seámus hated farming, so i suppose they knew his whole life he’d never stay, and róisín...well, talk about egos. she has notions.

[aoife] their leaving was no surprise. mine was.

[grant] something something, you were a good girl and did everything asked of you your whole life, so they thought you’d do it one more time.

[grant] and now a whole bunch of people make fun of you for the things you did do "right" because suddenly, those things weren't "enough" to please them. you disappointed someone once and they let it stain every other part of you.

[grant] do you still wish you hadn't left? do you wish you lived here?

[aoife] i love you so dearly but that is a question only a man could ask.

[aoife] very bold of you. never ask me that again.

[grant] that was stupid. i'm sorry. i didn’t mean it that way but i see your point and agree. we did just have a whole conversation about how making the decision as a woman to leave and break up a family’s standing fucks up everything.

#ts4 #the sims 4 #sims 4 #sims 4 story #sims 4 storytelling #simblr #hlcn: everything the stars promised #hey grandma aoife are you sure you're actually okay with constantly being overburdened with work? lol #because you REALLY resent people who make you work harder than you need to for no reason #*glances at her parents* #being nice to you for the sake of being nice? cool! taking care of you because you can't do it for no good reason? not cool! #(in her eyes at least) #also aoife totally just does NOT want to answer grant's last question #it definitely is a man question because men can just...leave...but tbqh she just cannot process that question emotionally #twinsies! grant can't process a whole bunch of questions either #p.p.s. pay reallyyyyy close attention to aoife saying “find me a parent who hasn't pushed their kid too hard” #just tab it in your brain oop #p.p.p.s. LISTEN THE FACT THAT AOIFE AND GRANT BOTH HAVE SUCH A STRONG DESIRE TO PLEASE PEOPLE IS SO SAD #holocene.docx #holocene.png #hlcn: grant #hlcn: aoife

[imwritesometimes]

the last time I was this sick was over a decade ago and my grandma took me to the urgent care and nearly went Lucille Bluth on the dr

#when the dr was like she has the flu go home rest lots of fluids #my grandma was like she has the FLU? GO HOME? LOOK AT HER! IF I HAVE TO BRING HER BACK HERE I'LL FIND YOU! #she almost slapped my mom cause she didn't wanna take me to urgent care #it was a wild fckn day #I had the super flu from hell ×100000 and it took 2 weeks to recover and my grandma was like #ready to kill that dr if I didn't get better #I now once again have the super flu from hell ×10000 and I wish my grandma were here lol she was the best when I was sick #I really hope I'm better this weekend man this has been awful #going from someone who does 10.5 miles on a stationary bike 4-5 times a week #to not being able to get out of bed for more than 10 minutes has been... rough. #and santino is LOSING HIS MIND cause he feels neglected cause I'm not up playing with him and shit like normal #so he is being AWFUL 👿 #god I just wanna get better holy shit #erin explains it all

[polaroidcats]

spent this morning crying to a random stranger on the phone because I called the vaccination hotline to book a vaccination appointment for my grandma and the person on the phone just told me they stopped doing home visits 2 months ago and do not have any services for non-mobile people. and i just started crying because ??? in what world ??? would you just decide to stop a VITAL service like that without ANY alternatives?!?

Luckily when I calmed down i found a list of all the doctors in our area who vaccinate ppl when you go to their offices and after I called about 15 of them I found one who said he could maybe do a home visit to vaccinate my grandma but still, just hearing the guy on the phone say "There are no services for non-mobile people" really reminds you how society forgets about disabled people.

#rant #ramblings #dementia #disability #vaccination #i'm so upset still #this is the kind of thing where i realise it's just all a bit too much sometimes #like i'm lucky i dont have to take care of my grandma on my own i dont think i would be able to #but the mental load and the whole organisation and coordination alone feels like too much sometimes #like fuck it's been almost 4 years of me being in this fucking caregiver role and i want to keep doing it for the rest of my grandma's life #but i wouldn't mind some more support sometimes there are days where it's just all a bit too much #okay maybe i'll delete this later but i had to share it #bc i'm still emotional but need to calm down bc my grandma-sitting time starts in 10 mins so i need to be calm for her by then 🙈 #ableism

[dutybcrne]

Alhaitham doesn’t like physical contact from just anybody, but when it comes to significant others in particular, he will constantly have a least one point of contact with them if he can help it.

#hc; alhaitham #//Dude is VERY touchstarved #//But will ONLY accept physical from his closest people; and even THEN he really takes it up a notch most with a s/o #//But in the Akademiya: he used to stay plastered to Kaveh’s side the Instant he got comfortable #//Which Kav thought was the cutest thing #//Up until their Conflict split their little academic fam of two #//He was a very clingy boy with his grandma; that’s what stemmed all this #//Constantly clung to her; was always in her arms as long as she could hold him #//He likes sitting near significant others & pulling them onto his lap; will contentedly read while they continue whatever they were doing #//Isnt concerned abt PDA; will only back off on it if his partner wants him to #//He does not care what others would say; might actually be more inclined to INCREASE if he hears sb else gripe abt it #//Keeping track of how often he initiates physical contact outside necessity is a good gauge of how close he considers sb

[hazlelnoot]

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#been really struggling lately because idk I guess now that I’m in therapy #I’m thinking extra about all the things that have made me this specific fucked up #and it really just boils down to feeling unwanted #I wasn’t supposed to be born my grandma told my mom to abort me #I spent my entire childhood hearing my mom say that she’s not parent material but I insisted on being born #like putting the responsibility on me even tho it was her choice??? #and then they idk just didn’t take care of me good #like I had to have my teeth taken out at 17 because they were literally rotting out of my head and like coming out in chunks into #my food while I was eating #and when I finally got to the emergency dentist I had to pay for it #and I’m broke but I don’t want this job I just started I’m so scared #but we need money #I just feel like I can’t do it anymore I just want someone to take care of me #I want my life to mean something to someone #I can’t type what she said somewhat recently because I alresdy cried about it yesterday #but idk I just feel like dog shit and I can’t reach out to any of my friends because they’re all busy rn #but it’s been really really bad lately I won’t lie I don’t feel like I can keep going anymore