#blame game

[faronmckenzie]

The fight is with your inner demons, the external triggers are an indication that they exist.

#introspection #inner demons #my inner demons #gas lighting #triggers #projection #blame game #quotes #my writing #meditation #spirituality #love #energy #spiritual awakening #awareness #quote #wisdom #inspiring quotes #mental heath support #support #emotion

[9franklin3]

#kanye west #Yeezy #blame game #my beautiful dark twisted fantasy #music #soundcloud #underrated fire #everything music #hip hop #rap #deep #r&b #quotes #alternative #indie #Spotify

[bunnies-and-sunshine]

The blame game.

Mr. Giraffe did not steal your cookie!  You just fumble-dropped it as I handed it to you.  Please stop shunning him.

#bunny #bunny drama #mr giraffe is innocent #bunny shunning #river the bunny #blame game

[unbotheredmuse]

#mine #blame game #lyrics #quote #text #R

[eaglesnick]

“When the rich rob the poor it is called business” Mark Twain

As if we didn’t know already, the very wealthy expect the rest of us to literally work ourselves into an early grave so they can become richer still.  Millionaire Rishi Sunak’s father-in-law, billionaire NR Narayana Murthy is a case in point:

“We need to be disciplined and improve our work productivity. I think unless we do that, what can poor government do? And every government is as good as the culture of the people. And our culture has to change to that of highly determined, extremely disciplined and extremely hard-working people.”

Poor government indeed!  Crumbling national infrastructure and collapsing public survives are the fault of lazy working families. If only we would get up off our backsides and put in the 70 hour week Mr Murthy suggests then all would be well.

The arrogance of the super-rich knows no bounds.  Working people are already putting in more hours than ever before. People Management had this headline at the beginning of the year:

“More than four million UK workers considering a second job to combat cost of living, survey finds."  (09/01/23)

Even during the pandemic, when you would have expected people to be working less hours, that wasn’t necessarily the case. Forbes, the American financial and business magazine had this to say:

“We Worked Longer Hours During The Pandemic—Research Says We Need To Work Smarter, Not Harder… The extra hours worked during the pandemic would be less of a concern if they were just a temporary phenomenon, a blip on the screen. However, overwork is a longstanding problem."  (Forbes:18/08/21)

The move to working from home since the pandemic has also led to an increase in hours and workload.

“Employees who work from home are spending longer at their desks and facing a bigger workload than before the Covid pandemic hit." (Guardian: 04.02/21)

And we have this from the BBC:

“Overwork culture is thriving; we think of long hours and constant exhaustion as a marker of success….New studies show that workers around the world are putting in  an average of 9.2 hours of unpaid overtime per week – up from 7.3 hours just a year ago.” (BBC:Worklife: 10/04/21)

More recently we had this headline:

“In the current economic climate, Gen Zers are pulling especially long hours – and pushing themselves to the brink of burnout…18-24 (year olds) tend to put in an extra eight hours and 30 minutes of ‘free’ work per week by starting early, staying late or working during breaks and lunchtimes.” (BBC: Worklife: 29/05/23)

So Mr Murthy, people are not sitting on their backsides. They are working harder than ever, often for “free”. What’s more, many have two jobs because you and your rich friends refuse to give them a living wage, because you are more interested in accruing even more billions than you are in seeing working families being paid a living wage.

Rather than lazy workers, it is the greed of the rich and super-rich that has led to the collapse of public services and infrastructure. The system is rigged in their favour, designed for them to escape paying their fair share of taxes. As I quoted in my last blog,  “Tax evasion, and, more broadly, tax avoidance, is not inevitable; it is the result of policy choices” and while we have people like Mr Murthy’s son-in-law in charge of government, nothing will ever change.

#uk politics #rishi sunak #Narayana Murthy #super rich #living wage #blame game #overwork #billionaires #tax avoidance #tax evasion #working families

[bstroobery]

A serious thanks to everyone who responded to this poll and this post I made. Seriously. You guys helped me understand things a whole lot more than I had before when it comes to system responsibility and accountability.

Yeah… I seriously internalized a lot of stuff our abusers had done to show that they felt accountability meant taking blame and being shamed for what you did, no matter what you or your system has done to make amends.

The whole “who is at fault” question was based off of my own guilt from making a mistake and having it affect my whole system. Even if “the whole system didn’t try and make amends” for what I had done, I had thought I made amends. The “blame game” was asking if I alone should be shamed for what happened or my whole system. Because we are still being shamed (even if the event happened 4 months ago) by people who care more for the perceived moral high ground than whether or not we know what we did was wrong and changing for the better.

Seriously… that alone is a massive problem with the internet. Where it’s not about someone understanding what they did wrong and learning from it to become a better person. It’s about being able to say you’re more “morally in the right” than the other person.

But again. A serious thank you to everyone who responded. You guys helped me, and my headmates, so much!

-⛈️

#⛈️ #system posting #sysblr #mental health #did system #forgiveness #blame game #yeah… definitely gonna write that down for something to talk to our therapist about #once we get one…

[hailkingcheeto]

#Gym Jordan #idiot #a-hole #tweet #blame game #loser #Biden #Trump #Jim Jordan #jackass #BS #flight delays #nice try #scum bucket

[tenth-sentence]

While some react by encouraging copycat acts, others blame the toxic environment of their online communities for the attack.

"Going Dark: The Secret Social Lives of Extremists" - Julia Ebner

#book quote #going dark #julia ebner #nonfiction #reaction #brenton tarrant #white nationalism #white supremacy #right wing extremism #terror attack #copycat #toxic environment #online community #blame game

[starryeyed-muse]

In the aftermath, our love lay like a spilled drink on a bar floor, sticky, trodden, a mess too mundane to mop up. Your words, once soft as velvet, turned to sandpaper— scratching at wounds we promised never to reopen.

We played a blame game, dealing accusations like worn-out cards, each jab a dagger masquerading as truth. You said love, but your version smelled of gasoline, waiting for a spark.

I found solace in the solitude of locked bathrooms, the drip of a leaky faucet counting time, each drop a moment further from the heat of your ire. Your apologies, when they came, were band-aids on bullet wounds, temporary fixes for a crumbling facade. And in this blame game, we both lost, left holding the pieces of a love that cut too deep, words unspoken festered, turning us into strangers sleeping side by side.

(n.g 2024)

#spilled ink #spilled words #poetry #halsey #prose #spilled poetry #original poem #kanye west #relatable #relationship #lovers #lovers to enemies #enemies to lovers #blame game #se7enteenblack #lana del rey

[andrrrgynous]

random cassettes from my collection 3/?

beach bunny - blame game ep 

#i have wayyyyyy more but im only gonna do the pretty ones #cassette #beach bunny #blame game #ep

[officialyourdailyinspiration]

God Arraigns Adam and Eve

10 And he said, I heard your voice in the garden, and I was afraid, because I was naked; and I hid myself. 11 And he said, Who told you that you were naked? Have you eaten of the tree, of which I commanded you that you should not eat? 12 And the man said, The woman whom you gave to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat. 13 And the LORD God said unto the woman, What is this that you have done? And the woman said, The serpent beguiled me, and I did eat. — Genesis 3:10-13 | King James 2000 Bible (KJB2K) The King James 2000 Bible, copyright © Doctor of Theology Robert A. Couric 2000, 2003. All rights reserved. Cross References: Genesis 2:25; Exodus 20:18; 1 Samuel 15:15; Job 31:33; Proverbs 28:13; Romans 7:11; 2 Corinthians 11:3; 1 Timothy 2:14

#God #questions #arraigns #Adam #Eve #sin #law broken #serpent #beguile #blame game #Genesis 3:10-13 #The Book of Genesis #Old Testament #KJB2K #King James 2000 Bible

[buddhisms-theory-of-happiness]

When the recognition dawns upon you that your actions have caused suffering and you reflect your own shortcomings, half the problem is already solved.

By sincerely repenting and admitting, "I was wrong," you open the path to continuous improvement. However, if you persist in blaming others, proclaiming, "It's their fault, not mine," you will perpetually encounter recurring problems.

Embrace self-accountability to break free from the cycle.

#Buddhism #repent #blame game

[silveragelovechild]

#shazam fury of the gods #blame game #zachary levi #Dwayne Johnson #black Adam #Captain Marvel #sabotage #box office flop

[tiktok-singularity]

Obama criticizing regular citizens and Tik Tok users. Telling us we have blood on our hands because… the government?! Huh? This is so corrupt. Blaming us regular people for things we can’t even control because the government acts independently on how the masses think.

#tiktok #usa politics #Obama speach #wwiii #ww3 #politics #history #sociology #american politics #corruption in politics #blame game

[mythicaldemigoddess-of-deltarune]

Helluva Boss Theory: Stella Isn’t Octavia’s True Mother (and Stolas Is The True Victim NOT Stella.)

[Note: do NOT reblog without permission, reading this post is optional, and this will talk about Stella while being Octavia’s Bio-Mother, but also at the same time not being Octavia’s True Mom....this will also mention r*pe in this theory post, and Toxic-Feminist who think it is just women or girls who go through that, need to shut up, please.....and if some Toxic-Feminist and their Toxic-Male Counterparts who are just as bad as them, don’t want to read this either, then well, they don’t have to......but anyway, to those who aren’t Toxic-Feminist and aren’t their Toxic-Male Counterparts....please feel free to still read this, if you want to, it’s okay if not everyone reads this, as I said before, it is optional.]      

this theory was possible thanks to one of the episodes of Helluva Boss, which is thanks to The Circus, as well as a episode from Futurama, where Kiff became Pregnant with Leela’s children....but technically, Amy would be the true mother, even if the DNA came from Leela....

so in other words, Stella is the Leela, but in slightly different way....

and Stolas is Kiff, and Blitz is Amy.....

Stella may have had the Egg, but she is possibly not the reason why Stolas was finally able to have a child with Stella.

and it is pretty clear that their “tries” was not of full consent from Stolas’s part, if it does indeed hint to that, and some fans have theorized because of the episode The Circus, when Stolas and Stella married, Stella herself had forced herself on Stolas even when he didn’t want to and possibly wasn’t ready.

and we know how Stella talks about how Stolas does nothing, and she does all the work, it is pretty clear to what it may imply, and even fans can figure out what it does imply to, even when it is not fully said but is hinted....

Stella has been violating Stolas since they first got married, which I guess it does make some alternate counterparts of herself in Fanon Timeline AU who never did such a thing, a bit more likable than her main timeline self....

some might argue that Stella did Nothing wrong, but that is like nothing wrong my butt.....she not only had verbally abused Stolas, she had also physically abused him.....

and it’s possible that Stolas’s thoughts of Blitz and his feelings to him, and possibly the last time they saw each other were perhaps maybe when they were maybe 19 to early 20s....

also no one has to take this theory seriously, as it is just that, a theory...

and the Egg that would become Octavia finally coming into existence...

it meant two things for Stolas, one, he got the one good thing that came out of that marriage, that is Octavia, who he would love and treasure no matter what....and two, it meant that he wont ever be touched in THAT way by that monster woman again, and forced against his will to mate with her.

and while he was still stuck marrying to her, at least until the divorce....

the scars that Stella had place on Stolas would still be there, and even if he might feel bad about hurting her, he might not fully understand what she did to him when they were still married, was really messed up, and no true spouse or soulmate would do such a thing to their other half.

Stella isn’t the victim, if she wasn’t such a pathetic excuse of a woman, and had shown a bit of gentleness to Stolas, and didn’t r*pe him all the time, maybe they could of had a better relationship even if it was just platonic and not romantic at all, like being married but in the friend zone.

Stolas might of been wrong to cheat, but with how she treats him, at least this time, when he did sleep with Blitz, it was of his full consent.

and if it truly does imply it, then it is possible that Stolas NEVER gave Stella full consent to do the things she had did to him when they were married.

even if he does hate her, he might still not fully understand that what she did to him was wrong and had done damage to him both mentally, emotionally and physically.

and if they had to bleep censor Stella confessing what she did to Stolas, when they were still married, and on their first night together as husband and wife, and even the other times when he didn’t want to have s*x with her...

and if Octavia had just came into the room and heard her Mom’s confession, then she might be disgusted with Stella and have a full understanding what Stella did was both cruel and wrong.

Octavia could have more of a understanding about Stella forcing Stolas into having s*x with her....

Octavia could learn about it both in books and online, and knowing about what it does to people both in the living world and in hell...

it could turn out that half of the Sinners that end up in Hell, in Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel.....were victims of r*pe.

and I wouldn’t be surprise if half of those sickos that did it, were the ones who do that messed up corrective r*pe.....which is just as bad as the other type.

and excuse me if this Earth Angel, hopes that those who do that corrective r*pe, end up going to Hell for it.......or better yet, the Abyss.

and even if some Earth Angels tell me “don’t think that way.”, well with how messed up some humans are, and even how messed up some angels are, it’s kind of hard not to have those thoughts....

 and like I said in the post before this one, if I had a Angelic Weapon, it would be boxing gloves to punch the stupidity and insensitivity out of some Masculine Angels, both those who have Fallen and those who have not....

anyway, it is possible that the fans could be guessing right about Stella having forcing herself on Stolas, even when he didn’t want to.

Stolas might feel bad about hurting Stella, because of the affair, but their marriage was arranged, and the arranged marriage wasn’t the true problem.

the problem was with Stella and her forcing Stolas into something he didn’t want from her, and the only thing that came out of it, that saved him from further abuse, was when Octavia when she was finally born.

Octavia was the one good thing that came out of that marriage, and Octavia might of not fully understood that her parents never loved each other even before the affair, and it is clear that Stolas did try to tell Octavia but couldn’t find the right words to explain it to her.

Stolas even tried to give Octavia a normal life, even when Stella went from forcing him to sleeping with her, to just verbal abuse and possibly physically hitting him.

even if Stolas’s feelings for Blitz is one-sided, and Blitz might not be in love with Stolas yet, but like Garnet said before...

“love at first sight doesn’t exist, love takes time, and you at least got to know the person first....”

this can be true for Stolas and Blitz, they have known each other since they first met as kids, and while Stolas may have experienced a love at first sight, but he might of not known he had fallen in love with Blitz, and the love he felt for Blitz would have to take time to fully grow and bloom.

and while there is those who do OTP ship Stolas x Blitz and hope they do end up together, and the ship is no longer just Semi-Canon.

but it might take time for it to go from Semi-Canon to Full Canon.

love takes time, and I think it might take trust.

Stolas might say pervy things to Blitz, and even still values him as his first friend and still sees him as one, but at the same time, he is in love with Blitz.

and even if Stolas made that agreement about his book with Blitz,

could it be possible that Stolas, the Prince himself, might not fully realize that he is in fact in love with Blitz, even if he watched some show with some characters Gabriella in it...

even with the hearts in his eyes, and being really happy to hear from Blitz and to be with him, I guess it could be possible the chances are that Stolas might not fully realize that he is in love with Blitz, and has only half realized it.

and Stolas finally being well semi-free from Stella, could be in a way thanks to Blitz, and it could take more emotional healing for him and accept the fact that Stella did do far worse than him when they were married.

it might be possible that Blitz could be viewed as the true mother or true other parents of Octavia, and not Stella.

which once again, this theory is thanks to the whole episode from Futurama and even the episode that may or may not imply that Stella forces herself on Stolas.

the only differences between Stella and Leela, is that Leela didn’t force herself on Kiff, and just tried to save him, but when she grab his hand, she had accidentally got him pregnant.

 but since Kiff’s feelings for Amy were what made it possible, Amy would be the true mother, even if the DNA came from Leela.

so even if Stella had many “tries” in trying to get a Egg....

what saved Stolas from another r*pe from that woman, would be that he had thoughts of when he had last saw Blitz, possibly when they were almost close to their 20s.....and Stolas feelings for Blitz was what made it possible for Octavia to be born.

Stella might want to put the full blame on Stolas, for their ruined marriage and him cheating on her.....but it wasn’t Blitz or Stolas’s cheating with Blitz that had ruined the marriage.....it was Stella who ruined it, the moment she forced herself on Stolas without his consent.

and yes if it is true that it does imply it, and it is not just a fan theory or guess, then that would mean that it is canon.

just because they were married, doesn’t mean it is okay for any spouse to do that messed up stuff, like saying “oh, it’s okay their married....” the frag it is!

even if a couple is married, there should be mutual consent from both parties.

I mean if Helluva Boss and Hazbin Hotel were real, I would rather be married to Alastor because at least he wouldn’t try to touch me in that way without my consent, yeah he is a dangerous Overlord, but he seems more safer to trust than some sickos who try to r*pe either because they can’t control their disgusting urges or if they are trying to do that disgusting corrective thing...

 heck, even if Ozzie and Fizz are all about that lust, I don’t think those two would be okay with what Stella did, and I guess would be clueless about it.

I mean Ozzie and Fizz would probably be a lot safer for me to marry if they were real, than some sickos who try to do forcing thing without consent.

and yeah like I had said before, I had a panic attack a few years ago....if I remember right, it was around 2015.....we were about to move to the house that we live in now.

I was alone and it may have been just a little dark, I don’t like being left in a car alone, no matter if it is day or night....and yeah, I did end up hitting my head on the ceiling of the car.

and I know the reason for the panic attack, was because I was scared of r*pe.

I’m not sure if anyone else has experience like that, I know I was hyperventilating when it had happen.

I think I am doing much better since that happen, and I can still have my guard up and try to do my best to protect my Maidenhood.

I don’t want my first, to be taken by someone who would try to r*pe me.

and yeah I can still call my virginity by Maidenhood, even if I am Nonbinary-Girl.

a Maiden is someone who hasn’t had s*x....but it is possible that the word can be misinterpreted.

if Nfirea’s Grandmother, calls herself a Maiden, she isn’t a maiden...

I’m talking about the characters from Overlord, not the Overlord 2007 video game series.....but the Overlord that has Ainz Ooal Gown.      

if it is true that Stella has both played the blame game and even played the victim is true, then it could be possible that her forcing Stolas without consent, into having s*x, could possibly be true.

yeah, Stolas shouldn’t of cheated, but it’s not like Stella was 100% a good wife who was emotionally supportive, maybe like in a Alternate Universe where a Alternate Timeline version of herself is not as bad and did care for Stolas, didn’t do what was possibly implied.

even if Stella might not see her actions as r*pe, but it just seem to have implied it by the way she words that Stolas doesn’t do anything and just stares at the wall while she does all the “work”.......and that he is terrible in bed.

yeah, it isn’t Stolas who is terrible in bed......it’s Stella who’s terrible in bed.

so yeah this is a mix of a theory about Stella NOT being Octavia’s true mother, even if she did have the egg, and it might of been Stolas’s feelings for Blitz and the last time they saw each other, may have been when they were almost in their 20′s....and how it was Stolas’s remembering the moments when he last seen his old friend Blitz and his feelings for him, that what allowed him to be come free from Stella’s forcing herself on him.

Octavia was born out of love, but not from Stella and Stolas’s love.

she was born from the love that Stolas felt for Blitz, which might of been a blessing that saved him from any further spouse abuse from Stella, at least in the s*xual way....

Stella was never the victim, she had both physically and verbally abused Stolas throughout their marriage, and once Octavia was born, Stella no longer had to force herself in that way on Stolas ever again.

which may have made Stolas happy, not having to go through that again, even if he still had to sleep next to her.

saying that Stella did nothing wrong, and Stolas is in full blame, wouldn’t be right, in a way they are both at fault, but Stolas is perhaps only at 98% at fault for having the affair while still being married to Stella, but Stella is still at 100% at fault because what she put Stolas through before the affair had happen.

Stolas taking some kind of happy pills, might have do do with his loveless marriage with Stella, we wont know until we find out more about those pills.

he might of started to take them, sometime after his first night with Stella.

it isn’t just women or girls that go through terrible stuff that Stolas had possibly went through, and even a lot of people no matter their gender, know this fact.

and yeah even if it be nice that what fans are theorizing about Stella having forced herself on Stolas, might not be true.

but it could still be implied but not be fully confirmed.

we can only wait and see if it is true.

and even if the theory might be seen as weird, but it is just I’m gonna view how Stolas was able to finally become a father to Octavia, and it being his love for Blitz had let him be free from Stella touching him each night without his consent, I mean if it is true that it was not of his consent....

even if Stella was hurt that Stolas cheated on her, it might not of been because she had loved him, and maybe we will find out more if it isn’t just because of her being worried about her image and the Ars Goetia name.

but if the theory and the possible implying is indeed true....

this would mean that Stella is the one that hurt Stolas first, and far worse than he had done, and she can’t hide behind her fancy title either.

anyway it’s okay that not everyone agrees about the theory that has to do with Stella technically not being Octavia’s true mother, because of the whole it being like how Kiff got pregnant with Leela’s accidental help, but the feelings of love were towards Amy who is seen as the true mother, even if the DNA came from Leela.....

so yeah, Blitz is Amy, Stolas is Kiff and Stella is Leela.....but in a slightly different way, I’m weird and that is how I am gonna view it.

now I am going to post a FNAF theory next.    

#helluva boss theory #octavia helluva boss #stolas helluva boss #blitzo helluva boss #stella helluva boss #stolas x blitzo #r*pe mention #cheating spouse #verbal abuse #physical abuse #emotional healing #consent #fear of rape #blame game #playing victim #mature audiences only #not for kids #do not reblog without permission

[vizthedatum]

What to do when someone feels some sort of way in a relationship of any kind (some thoughts from a neurodivergent and chronically ill person who is a recovering codependent):

Yes, I understand that people will deflect blame onto their diagnoses - I know this because I’ve done it a lot.

But I don’t care. I don’t care if you’re autistic, chronically ill, traumatized, etc. I don’t care if the diagnoses are from a healthcare professional or from yourself.

Your diagnoses are part of how you heal and cope with whatever you have going on. That’s beautiful, and I hope it works out for you (more on how to medically advocate for yourself later in this blog).

What I do care about when it comes to our dynamics (you and I OR you and a group of people):

Do you know what you did or said?

Can you tell me what your intention was?

Do you acknowledge how I felt about what you did or said?

Can you tell me what I did or said? And how you felt about it?

Can we both take accountability for what we did or said, regardless of our intentions?

Can we take accountability of the hurt, love, pain, joy, etc. the other person felt as a response to whatever we did or said? Keeping in mind that the individual responses we have are our responses but it is still human and reasonable to be affected by other people’s behaviors especially when we are in a relationship with them.

How would you like to move forward?

How do you feel after? Do your feelings persist after we talked about this?

Is your behavior a pattern, despite multiple attempts to talk about it - and is your behavior affecting me?

Is my behavior a pattern, and is it affecting you?

Is the patterned behavior in question the actual problem or is there something else underlying it?

If you’re not willing to be honest or even cooperate with these discussions, then how do you propose on repairing the relationship?

What do you get out of this relationship at this stage and why do you want to continue being in it?

It’s ok if you do not have the capacity for empathy, romance, affection, or other things that the other person may need - do you acknowledge your limitations and communicate what you can do? Or do you manufacture these qualities in order to appease? Or do you lash out or become avoidant when you think you cannot meet those standards instead of talking about it? What is your reaction and have you investigated why you behave that way?

Even though it can be difficult, are you willing to end the relationship if you (or I) don’t feel aligned within it anymore? What does that look like?

#healing #trauma #love #neurodivergence #queer #harm #self love #relational love #relational hurt #self and relational love #relationship #relationships #prose #thoughts #journaling #relationship repair #blame game #communication #autistic queer #autism #it’s not just an autistic thing though #sustaining relationships #repair #transparency #fawning #vulnerability