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euphorias-journey · 3 years

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friendly reminder that if your inclusionism is conditional or if it 'only goes so far', you're not an inclusionist.

if you can't accept EVERY good-faith identity, you're an exclusionist, and you aren't welcome on my blog. i have very few rules, but that's one of them.

for example, if you accept bi lesbians but not lesbian men, you're an exclusionist. if you accept suptilic aces + aros, but not other aspec identities, you're an exclusionist. you can call yourself inclus until the cows come home, but your actions are what actually determine that.

(however, i will never ban any individual from using my terms, no matter how abhorrent i find their actions. even though i do find it unlikely that TERFs/anti MOGAI folks/exclus would be interested in using MOGAI labels, you never know)

#inclusionist #inclusion #inclusionism #exclusionism #anti exclus #anti exclusionist #anti exclusionism #exclus #rad inclus #being rad inclus saves lives #exclus dni #seriously if i get any discourse on this post it will be an immediate block #i'm not doing that today bitches

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5typesoftrash · 3 years

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I guess part of the reason I believe in radical inclusion is because it seems like there are two key concepts no one on here understands about systematic oppression.

First of all, it's not the FUCKING OPPRESSION OLYMPICS!!! Especially when it comes to queerness! Why are we defining the boundaries of our community around the suffering we've experienced and not around our shared pride? Why can't we be defined by the commonalities we have -- we are marginalized because we reject the standard family structure, arbitrary binaries, and gender roles imposed upon us by a queerphobic society.

(Here's a link to my Venn Diagram about that. I might write an entire essay on that post at a later date.)

And secondly, oppression manifests itself in a variety of ways. Let's take misogyny for example. I'm not going to sit here and tell you that physical and sexual violence against women isn't misogyny; it obviously is. But it's not the only kind of misogyny. Misogyny looks like my eighth grade science teacher (a cis woman) being repeatedly spoken over by in staff meetings by my geometry teacher (a cis man). Misogyny looks like my grandmother being told by a doctor when she went in for chronic pain that she's being 'dramatic and hysterical'. Misogyny looks like my mother, a woman who went to three different colleges for a total of thirteen years to get a doctorate in vocal performance, working four jobs and two volunteer positions and still making less than 40% of what my dad makes annually as a salaried worker who never finished his bachelor's degree.

So what does all of this mean to me? Well, the more I look into gatekeepers' arguments, the more I see people cherry-picking their facts. Gatekeepers consistently reference only the most extreme forms of oppression and then say that if you don't experience them, you're not oppressed. (Sometimes, even when you DO experience them you aren't oppressed, if they just don't like you.)

For example, something I see a lot is people saying that asexuals aren't LGBT because they aren't oppressed for their attraction (or lack thereof). These people often say 'no one's going to beat you up or kill you for being ace'. And while that is true, it overlooks plenty of other factors. For example, ace people are not taught about the existence of the label in sexual education, nor at any point do the teachers say hey, it's okay to not even want to engage in sexual activity. It's always assumed that students are interested in sex and will need to exercise incredible willpower to abstain.

But I'm sure you're thinking 'OP! We all know that LGBT sex education is sorely lacking, especially in the United States. Don't you have anything better than that?'

Well, lovely reader, I most certainly do. Ace people are also often denied or taken off of sometimes life-saving medications when they come out to their providers because doctors believe the medication is "suppressing their sex drive" (a real thing that has happened to several people I know personally). On top of this, ace people, like same-gender attracted people before them, face the prospect of corrective rape should they choose to come out publicly. Not to mention how pervasive the 'healthy sex life' narrative is in our society, which when combined with lack of acespec education, leads to many young aces feeling as though they are broken, alienated, or not like their peers in a very important way.

This is just one example; if you dig a little deeper into these issues you'll find many more that play a similar tune.

So THAT is why I'm radically inclusive.

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