#before anyone makes the call out post this isn't to discourage people from trying to make 'healthy' choices. but starting from a place of

[absolutely-esme]

Monster!Tim Coraline au part 3

I had more thoughts on the au from here and here.

First off, It's called Hungry Monster Tim au unless and until I come up with a better name.

That's the tag that will help you find related content. I titled the post the way I did so that people who found the au before it had a name could recognize it. I'm hoping this will minimize confusion.

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Now, I figure I'll talk a bit about how others view Tim.

The most of the earlier additions to the Batfam have mostly interacted with Tim in Emotional Support Tim mode.

Emotional Support Tim is pleasant and comforting. He is not overly exuberant and joyful in a way that would grate on fresh grief. He is also not joyless in a way that might make a hero feel obligated to worry about him. He is gentle and competent. His patience seems nearly endless. He can tolerate both being coddled and being leaned on. He can tolerate both being clung to and pushed away. He can tolerate switching back and forth at unpredictable intervals.

Tim approached Nightwing in his standard state of "tired, low on patience, and possibly about to do something stupid," once before Tim realized he was also grief-stricken and in no fit state to get Batman under control. He might have an inkling that Emotional Support Tim is an act, or he might just think Tim was having a bad day.

Bruce thinks Emotional Support Tim is what Tim is actually like. By the time Bruce was functional enough to not need so much managing, he'd gotten attached enough to the facade for Tim to have concerns about dropping it.

Alfred can tell that Tim is putting on a facade. He can tell that the role Tim has taken on is wearing on him. He doesn't like it. He feels guilty for allowing it to continue. He can't bring himself to put a stop to it when it's keeping his adoptive son alive.

Barbara initially meets Emotional Support Tim, immediately clocks the act, and pulls him aside to make sure there isn't something sinister afoot. Babs has reservations about every aspect of Tim's involvement, but agrees that something had to be done about Bruce. She lets him carry on for now, but she's ready to pull the plug if it seems like it's getting too much for him. She insists that Tim drop the act when it's just the two of them.

Babs doesn't know about the supernatural stuff specifically, but she knows there's more going on with Tim than what she knows about. She may learn that he has some hereditary health stuff that requires him to be extra careful about his food intake. She makes a point to not be weird about it because people being weird about her wheelchair annoys the crap out of her.

I like to imagine that Babs and Tim have a certain amount of solidarity over being the sensible ones who keep all these unhinged, dramatic bitches in line. They also have solidarity over ignoring the fact that they are just as dramatic and unhinged as the rest of the Bats.

Steph meets Tim in Regular Tim mode because Bruce isn't with him. Instead of trying to discourage Spoiler, he introduces her to Babs. Steph knows Tim as a tired smartass who kind of always seems like he's a bit hangry and trying not to take it out on anyone, but apparently he's just like that.

They don't date, but do become friends. Part of this is because grouchy, eternally hungry, constantly done-with-this-shit Tim isn't attractive to Steph but is kind of hilarious. Part of it is because Babs points out that there is no possible timeline where the kind of power imbalance from only one member of a couple knowing the other's secret identity doesn't turn toxic.

When Steph eventually encounters Emotional Support Tim, it creeps her out. She uses the term "pod person" when asking what the heck that was.

Steph's disastrous stint as Robin doesn't happen because she's already got her own thing going. She already has a mentor and appropriate protective gear. Babs and Steph actually get along better because they start their mentorship as Oracle and Spoiler without any of the complicated emotions of taking up a mantle.

I like Steph as Spoiler the best because it always seemed a little messed up to shove someone who already had their own original Identity into two legacy mantles. Let her do her own thing. She doesn't need to be a successor to Babs or Dick when she's already the OG Steph. Instead of giving her the Robin gear or the Batgirl gear, get her some upgraded, Bat-quality Spoiler gear.

Steph doesn't start a gang war or fake her death in this timeline, because the circumstances that caused it do not exist here.

Jason initially encounters Tim in Feral Cryptid mode, then writes that off as a fever dream after waking up to Emotional Support Tim. Once free of the Lazarus parasite, Jason makes it his mission to be a good big brother to Tim. Tim seemed a little stand-offish at first, but warmed up to him. (As soon as Tim realized that food was part of Jason's love language, he rearranged his meal plan to let Jason feed him without triggering supernatural problems with his metabolism.)

Jason eventually manages to earn Tim's trust enough to meet and get to know Regular Tim. Jason is both honored and concerned. Putting on such an extensive facade for the comfort of others has got to be exhausting, and Tim seems so worn down underneath it. Well, he doesn't have to do it for Jason anymore. Jason will happily hang out with and support any version of Tim.

When Damian shows up, he mostly sees Emotional Support Tim. Then he starts trying to kill him. Eventually, Tim's patience with the pint-sized murderer wears thin (possibly due to Damian hitting a PTSD trigger), and Tim goes Feral Cryptid mode. This freaks Damian out. There is no video evidence (which the rest of the Bats assume to be because Damian tampered with the security system in an attempt to get away with murder).

It doesn't happen again.

Tim doesn't bust out his powers or cryptid form against Damian again, but now that he's seen it, Damian sometimes sees traces of Feral Cryptid Tim lurking below the surface. Various little things he'd ignored that hadn't seemed significant on their own now seem to stem from the nature of what lurks inside the human skin.

Damian stops the murder attempts early. It's not because of ethics (which will take time to learn). It’s because he has no idea how to kill whatever sort of unearthly thing Tim is, and he recognizes how unwise it would be to continue attacking something he cannot kill. For now, Tim seems content to leave him be whenever he's not directly under assault. Damian doesn't want to risk becoming enough of a pest to be worth the effort of swatting.

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I also had thoughts about Tim's post-Robin period.

When Tim goes on his quest to retrieve Bruce from the time stream, he doesn't take the Red Robin suit. He's going to be outside of the Bats' scrutiny, so he gears up with a suit and equipment he'd secretly made with his supernatural nature in mind. It's got Bat-standard armor and padding, but modified to accommodate a bit of form shifting without compromising protection. It's got a patchwork thing going on.

Tim sewed it himself, which allows him to manipulate it. It's also got buttons sewn in strategic locations to eliminate blindspots. (Taking down the beldam gave him the ability to control things he made and see through buttons he sewed).

His utility pouches are full of both Bat-standard equipment and things relevant to Tim's abilities. Also, he makes his pockets bigger on the inside, so he can carry a lot.

Tim isn't around the other Bats, so he's not being Emotional Support Tim. He's not using the minor illusion powers he got from the beldam to make himself look pleasant. He only makes the effort to be comforting when dealing with victims. He's just being the semi-feral scrungly dude he is.

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Tim keeps in touch with Jason, Babs, and Steph while he's off on his quest to find Bruce. He occasionally pitches in with stuff that can be done from a distance.

Tim didn't say that Bruce was still alive before he had evidence. It's not because this version managed to predict that they wouldn't believe him, but rather because he thought he might have to do some supernatural stuff to get him back and didn't want witnesses. He just told the other Bats he needed to investigate something and would tell them more once he had figured out enough to know what to tell them.

This means that the other heroes don't think he's crazy, and Tim can use hero resources for his investigation.

I haven't decided yet if Tim will interact with the League of Assassins at all. On the one hand, I think this Tim might not need to work with them. On the other hand, Hungry Monster Tim terrorizing the League of Assassins and fighting the Lazarus Pit would be funny. Maybe Ras doesn't try to recruit him. Maybe Tim just shows up, fights the Lazarus Pit, and leaves without explaining anything to anyone.

Either way, I think that Tim is pretty much done with keeping up the Emotional Support Tim facade by the time he comes home after saving Bruce. It's been long enough to justify the change.

Babs, Jason, and Steph are happy for Tim because they can see how much better he's doing without the added strain of keeping up the act. They are also glad that he feels comfortable enough to just be himself.

Bruce and Dick are more in the horrified/concerned neighborhood because, from their perspective, Tim started off gentle-natured and glowing with health, got fired from Robin, disappeared for a while, and came back gaunt and world-weary.

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I'm thinking about whether or not Tim should tell Babs, Jason, and Steph about the supernatural stuff he's got going on.

It would have come out at some point. If he tries to keep it secret forever, you can bet some kind of dramatic, high-stakes threat would force the reveal. That's just how the Bats' lives are.

What I am debating with myself is whether or not to have Tim choose to share a secret he's been keeping for as long as he can remember for fear of the danger discovery might bring with the people he trusts most without something forcing his hand.

If he does, I think he would tell Jason first. Jason has seen that side of him, and Tim allowed him to think it was a nightmare. Tim wouldn't want to risk Jason hearing about it from someone else. Tim would probably be scared. He doesn't know if Jason will still like him once he knows that Tim really is the Monster from his nightmare. He doesn't know if Jason will forgive him for lying about it.

I think this would happen after Tim comes back to Gotham after saving Bruce.

#Hungry Monster Tim au #dc #batman #batfamily #cryptid tim drake #feral tim drake #Eldritch au

[13ag21k]

It just occurred to me that the reason why Eddie Brock wanted a simple and quite life in Venom2 could be because he is afraid of losing Venom. He doesn't want to do anything reckless and be the hero in the sense that venom wants him to be because he doesn't want to drag anyone's attention and have Venom be separated from him and studied like before. Eddie is happy with a mediocre life style of just eating breakfast made by his alien husband, to be a normal journalist and have a shitty boss, he still believes he can do good this way and at the same time he doesn't put those he loves at risk.Eddie knows better than before,he knows that having his loved ones by his side is more important than fulfilling his needs. I'm sure he doesn't even want Venom to use it's powers while they are doing their job because Hello? what if someone sees it? If he discourages this behavior and try to solve it on his own, maybe Venom won't do it again.

This just makes sense because he still blames himself for what happened to Anne, which he was responsible for but still, he doesn't want his reckless actions and his quest for heroism and justice cause harm to his loved ones.

Venom should already know all of this since he reads Eddie's thoughts and yet it thinks of itself as a burden, as if though Eddie's life had been better without it, which isn't true, Venom in this entire movie just shows off and tries to impress Eddie with what it can do, tries to show Eddie what they could achieve together like a genie that is ready to fulfill Eddie's wishes, all it's potential feels like it is getting wasted, it knows what Eddie wants and is just confused and angry by Eddie' refusal of accepting this way of life which surprises me. Because hello? You live inside his head? So maybe Eddie can keep some thoughts for himself? I don't know how these powers work to be honest I've just seen the movies. It breaks my heart that Venom feels that way,since it had been called a loser all its life on it's homeplanet and now he knows just how capable and powerful they can be thanks to Eddie. Eddie makes Venom special and Venom knows that by the end of the movie, Eddie is special to him since he technically is one of the few humans who have achieved symbiosis with Venom, Venom fails to live inside the other people it possess after it breaks up with Eddie during their fight. Eddie can't give Venom what it truly wants,which is feeling needed, special and powerful after having been called a loser all its life. Eddie doesn't bother to go and look for him because he doesn't think that Venom loves and cares for him the way he himself does. Venom seeks out other people and probably tries to search for someone else who can make it feel the way it want's to feel and by the end of the movie it realizes that it can't basically find anyone else like Eddie, who can tolerate and care for it the way Eddie does.Venom goes through the same pain of being separated and lose a loved one in order to realize that, it's love for Eddie is more important than this need to feel powerful and needed. Venom also realizes that Eddie loves Venom unconditionally, despite its tantrums, all the complications it brings into Eddie's life, Eddie still cares and loves him for all his defects, Venom doesn't need to do anything special to make Eddie want him, Eddie is perfectly capable of leading an acceptable life without having Venom intervene. Venom then also tells Eddie that it will love him despite his own defects which is just adorable.

They can't function without one another and they complete each other. Perfect symbiosis on a physical and emotional level sort of way.

What cought my attention was how truly happy Eddie looked when Venom admitted its love for Eddie at the end of the movie, which based on my sort of jumbled explanation is a huge thing for them both.

This whole post is abit of a mess but still :'D

I mean this could be obvious for most of you but my brain just lags abit...it needs alot of time to properly digest things.

#Sorry #It is 2am #I can't sleep #My brain was all over symbrock #For some reason #Eddie brock #Venom #venom symbiote #Veddie #symbrock #Venom 2 #venom let there be carnage #Alien husband #They live inside my head rent free

[anonofseasons]

The reason the rest of Seasons went up is that I figured I'd better just do it before I lost all drive to share ever again and didn't at least complete Seasons for the remaining readers. It's the only thing I've written (outside of fandom) that has gotten much attention. It was nice, and I really appreciate that anyone would read it. But outside of that, I cannot get more than the tiniest handful of people to care about what I write, and it has been that way for years. It's discouraging, I'll be honest. My already-low confidence keeps taking beatings. I used to be more active with fandoms and posting fics, but one fandom/ship soured the experience for me. (Long story short, a lot of that ship's writers were bullied out by much more prominent writers. One of those popular writers mocked content from my fics in vaguetweets every time I posted, and I couldn't keep calling it a coincidence after a while.) I'd hear "you only write manbabies" (yeah more than once) and "you write too much of this" or be told my characterization wasn't realistic. But mostly? It just goes ignored. So I think, "I have to work harder and be better so people will be interested in reading it."

I don't know how other people manage to get word out about their writing. AO3 is great for sharing what I don't plan to publish/what can't be published, but what about what I do want published? I want to be a career author. And I struggle bc I'm dealing with problems that have a hand in worsening each other: financial struggles, living with my shitty parents, and bad health/disabilities. I need something in my life to work out for once. The pressure is on to be successful at something, but I just keep getting older and physically worse. My friend is willing to take me in when they find a place, we hope that's this year, but I can't live off of them, and I can't just sometimes cook and clean when I have spoons to make up for that. I need an income. I want writing to work out. But it just dies on my social media, with very few interactions, if any at all. I had a ton of stuff I wanted to finish for Seasons this month and into October to share with everyone in my excitement. But I'm losing my will to share anything. I only feel foolish when I try. Everything I do only proves my critics right, so it's embarrassing. Why even bother to try? It's been fourteen years of trying to get anything I write seen. I don't plan to stop writing btw, it's the sharing that's so difficult. I've been told countless times to write for myself when I express my despair, and guess what? That's good advice I've been taking this entire time! Who else could I be trying to please at this point? I have no one to please lmao, it's just me doing stuff I wanna do! The reaction to the ending of Seasons has me hesitant to give up on sharing, bc clearly lots of people connected to it in different ways, and that's wonderful. It makes me think sharing isn't so bad! But I just don't know if - at my age and health - if I can keep trying. I have two books I want to self-publish soon, and they feel like they'll just end up like everything else I post over at @mcalhenwrites - 6 notes and 5 of them are my reblogs! (And it's the same across all social media platforms - or it's even worse.) I'm really thankful that sharing Seasons gave me a taste of what it was like to connect with people through my writing, though. I don't think any of the people who commented or sent me asks realize how much it really helped me through this year, but it did. I started to have a little hope that maybe it wasn't a skill issue on my part, at least? ;A; And here's the thing: I don't really hate my writing all that much. I just fear it's got things wrong with it that I can't recognize, and that's what's putting potential readers off. I do believe my hard work shows, but hard work =/= good enough. My style is getting closer to the skill level I dreamed of having. I'm proud of my characters. But what's missing? I know that being a creator of any kind - even professional - is extremely tough, especially right now. I know this is a struggle for a lot of authors, artists, etc. :'( I just... I want to write as a career so I can keep doing more of it. I rarely have the spoons to keep up with anything. Writing is flexible. I love doing it! I just want to explain how I feel and what I'm dealing with, and why I'm so desperate. If you read this, know that it really helps creators to have our work recommended, boosted, etc. Authors matter as much as artists. I've been trying to train myself for the nth time to not be online and talk about my writing in any capacity. It hasn't worked before - I'm always too stupid to commit to giving up - but at what point in 14 years of complete failure with a side of humiliation does one just learn to give up? And to give some further insight into my thinking process: when I uploaded the remaining chapters, I put Seasons in my private collection (which holds 87 of my works out-of-bounds to anyone but me) so I could upload all the chapters without risking annoying my subscribers. Since 11 chapters in one night is a bit much, eh? :') Ugh, idk why tumblr won't let me edit anything or post long stuff. So I'm cutting this short I guess!

#this is a bit of a long post sorry

[opalsiren]

just spent twenty minutes reading this cognitive behavioural therapy workbook for arfid and. whew. as someone who has been using cbt to manage mental health issues for years. i am about to share a piping hot take that i feel like the arfid community may not vibe with

listen. nutrition is important. being malnourished and thoroughly underweight is not a good thing, being unhealthily overweight is not a good thing, being deficient in certain nutrients is not good

now that we've got that disclaimer out of the way, let's talk about how this workbook spent pages upon pages discussing how arfid impacts weight and nutrition and like. we know. we KNOW. we know that our diets aren't good for us, we know that our diets may lead to long term health complications, we know a balanced diet rich in nutrients is the most healthy. we don't need to be condescended to for twenty odd pages that our diets are killing us, thanks

the thing that i hear most from others with arfid is that eating is stressful. it's hard. it's laborious. it's a chore. at best, it's boring. at worst, it is a massive cause of stress, fear, anxiety, discomfort, and dysfunction. we avoid social events that don't have our safe foods like we avoid backhanded comments and ignorant suggestions to just 'try something new.' we ignore hunger pangs, we go hours and hours without eating because the thought of food makes us want to cry. we have anxiety attacks when we smell fear foods. we hide in bathrooms at restaurants while everyone else gets to eat together. we tune out when people talk about their favourite foods, start to sweat when they ask us about ours. maybe we tell our doctors that we have an eating disorder, or maybe we don't for fear that they'll cite some moral panic excuse for journalism circulating about how the youth eat nothing but junk food that doesn't even mention our disorder by name

what has been most helpful to me in therapy is fixating less on how my diet is harming me and focusing more on trying to find the joy in food. i know my diet isn't healthy. i don't need to be told. what i need is to try and find more foods that i like, and go from there. can i work with the foods that i currently eat and slowly train myself to enjoy something new? can i put in a sustainable effort to make eating seem a little more pleasurable? can i learn to sit with the anxiety, the fear, the discomfort? hell, can i learn to respond to the sensation of hunger, to share my issues around food with people and let myself be seen, to start small and try to find the fun in food? can i use coping tools to try and lean into the anxiety, rather than running from it? can food be about community, sharing, love—even if that is love for just myself—and not about some arbitrary standard of health that isn't attainable for me right now?

nutrition is important, but anxiety around health will only compound anxiety around food. start with the question 'how can i find the joy in food?' and go from there. nutrients can even be derived from multivitamins, meal replacements, smoothies or juices tailored to an individual's needs. joy cannot.

#before anyone makes the call out post this isn't to discourage people from trying to make 'healthy' choices. but starting from a place of #fear will only discourage progress. if you are in treatment for arfid and the scaremongering has worked for you then that's great! but for #many of us it's counterproductive #also there was a whole section on like the importance of putting on weight and eating high calorie foods i.e most of what ppl with arfid #consider safe foods. which i found hilarious since most of us have trouble losing weight due to our limited options. not gaining weight lol #that bit was clearly plucked from an article on anorexia or bulimia since they centre around weight and body image. arfid (mostly) doesn't #also this is coming from someone with a plethora of other health issues which are almost certainly compounded by if not directly caused by #my diet. so there's that #arfid #actually arfid #actuallyarfid #avoidant restrictive food intake disorder #arfid tag #tw ed #ed tw #eating disorder #eating disorder trigger warning #trigger warning eating disorder #ed mention #eating disorder mention #ask to tag ig #also there's research which suggests that trying to force yourself to eat nutrient rich foods that you don't enjoy will actually cause your #body to reject those nutrients? and if your body is accustomed to getting nutrients from high calorific foods then it will continue to do #that. this isn't to be anti-recovery but operating with a preoccupation on nutritional value only may hinder rather than help. anyway #.txt

[cotton-candy-in-a-thong]

Noncon stories, Fantasy vs. Reality, and more. fucking. issues.

Recently, I’ve been hit with some drama as to why I’m a “bad person” by various, anonymous users in this fandom. I thought I’d try to address the claim, address my stance on fics that involve noncon, and what I think about the “Tumblr mentality” after everything I’ve seen of this place. I should also note that I’m going to use the specific words and phrases I’ve been forced to constantly repeat as explaining my stance has been very difficult for me, as I’m a person who’s apparently challenging to understand.

This is going to be a long post, with subjects that's obviously going to trigger people so here's a warning right now..

That being said, I’m going to dive into this with some shit I’ve definitely said before:

“Consensual Noncon” Kink

The Appeal of this Theme in Fanfiction:

I don't think calling fics that involve noncon "rape fics" and those who enjoy it "getting off to rape" is a very good way to put it. Many engaging and well done media pieces often involve some very dark themes. Again, Monster by Meg and Dia is a song that features the main character sexually abusing a girl he met. You COULD call this a "rape song", but acting as if the rape is the only thing that matters in this story would be pretty..naive. The story has to do with an emotionally, and physically neglected/abused boy, who grows up and becomes an attention/love starved monster who's SO starving for validation, that he believes forcing himself upon a girl he knew would "prove" to himself that he's capable of being touched and loved. Of course, the main character eventually realizes that rape is not love, that what he did was wrong, and later kills himself in his own bathtub with kerosene and a match.

However, the assault aspect of this song is still a meaningful and alluring part because it talks about how emotional and physical abuse can warp someone's perspective on reality, to the point where they think forcing someone to "stay" with them is how to create a healthy relationship. That's the same energy I have for noncon fics, especially in the slasher fandom. Many slasher fics that contain noncon often have to do with the slasher preying on the reader because of their own fucked up mind. It's intriguing because, let's be honest, pretty much none of the slashers are in a pretty good mental space lmao. Thus, noncon actually falls more in line with how slashers would go about what they believe is a "good relationship" more often than quite a bit of fans here seem to believe. Again, Michael got boners, Jason chained someone up, Fredddy smooches people against their will, Billy Lenz is a sex offender, Chromeskull makes snuff, yada yada yada, you know the drill. That being said, it's interesting to see noncon being expressed with these characters because it gives us a new perspective on how fucked up they'd likely be if the world of sex and relationships was introduced to these characters.

Now why would some people become sexually aroused by the events of the story? First of all, how does “Consensual Noncon” kink work?

u/Jumbledcode. (2015). ‘Can anyone comment on why people (someone like me) enjoy rape/non-con story lines?’. r/TwoXChromosomes.

“I'd suggest that there are several factors that make up the appeal of non-con fantasies.

Guilt/Self-image: For many people, their sexual/relationship desires don't necessarily match their image of themselves, or alternatively they feel guilt over others' perceptions of those desires. Rape fantasies allow them to mantain some illusion of denial over their desires while still indulging in the idea of them.

Responsibility/Laziness: The appeal of abdicating control isn't limited to avoiding guilt; it's very tempting to want a scenario where you have no responsibility for maintaining your lifestyle/happiness. Similarly to before, it's the appeal of being given what you secretly want without even having to choose it.

Transgressiveness: A rape scenario has overtones of danger and taboo-breaking. These can easily be exciting and can therefore be a turn-on.

Desire: Being wanted is often a huge turn-on, and the idea of someone desiring you enough to break laws and disregard everything to have you plays into this feeling.

To me, it seems that most people who fantasize about being the subject of rape do so due to some mix of these motivations I've mentioned. Of course, there are also those who have experiences which have taught them to associate non-consent with their sexuality, but that's a separate issue”.

What if the Fanfic Only Involves the Act though? Wouldn’t it Encourage Actual Rape?

Let’s differentiate fantasy and reality. Towards those with the noncon kink: it offers arousal because of the ideas listed above (the idea of the reader not having to make any moves and the character doing the “intimate work” FOR them, the excitement of such a taboo sexual encounter, and the feeling to be desired through an altered, brutish encounter). Rape is the use of sex to remove control over the victim’s mind and body. The readers DO have control over whether or not they get to “encounter” (the choice to even read) this fantasy, so right away consent is present in reality, and no actual rape is being done.

Now does this mean that the kinkers are getting off on the idea of rape? Not really.

The thing with self-inserts is that it allows you to be connected to the story. That way, even if the story has you bruised up and begging for mercy, a part of you-you (if you’re a kinker) wants to keep reading it as you find it exciting. That way, as you and story-you are connected, what you really want in such a fantasy is for it to keep going despite the brutish, possessive, however yet desired nature of the character you’re dreaming about dealing with. (repeat: the idea of the reader not having to make any moves and the character doing the “intimate work” FOR them, the excitement of such a taboo sexual encounter, and the feeling to be desired through an altered, brutish encounter). That being said, it’s still entirely possible for kinkers to have their personal space and wishes crossed, and ultimately assaulted. Us enjoying the fantasy of such a reverie sexual encounter does not spell out to real life because (in reality) we’re not horny all the time, we would still like our bodies to be respected when we find it necessary, and we still have feelings as we’re still human.

“Fantasy (including video games) leads to violence” fallacy.

It would be like assuming that shooters in games like GTA fantacise about murder, encourage it, and would do it in real life. Taking fabricated anger out on virtual bodies or NPCs is quite different from the weight of murder (the killing of another human being). One can play video games with lots of violence towards such fabricated characters, while discouraging violence towards human beings. The act of using a game controller to beat up Donkey Kong in Smash, to shoot Nazi zombies in a Black Ops game, or to kill a Geisha in Little Nightmares is incredibly, and immensely different from completely eradicating the life of a person on Earth, and to assume that everyone who plays violent video games would spill out to violence in reality would be to participate in a ridiculous fallacy. Yes, there are outliers who are feeble minded enough to let their fantasies influence their actions towards actual people, but I must repeat that there are also people who utilize these fantasies for their personal satisfaction, while understanding the weight of the real world around them (and choosing not to act so detrimentally). Therefore, it wouldn’t be fair as it would be unnecessary to blatantly say that all fantasies are horrible and should be entirely eradicated if there ARE many people who ARE aware enough to understand that some thoughts are better off staying in fiction.

Now is the time to address what’s been said:

...Firstly, I think it’s very disgusting that random users, on Tumblr of all places, are trying to manipuate random victims of sexual assault into hating something or someone just because these users FEEL like “it’s the right thing to do”.. People, victims of sexual assault aren’t your fucking dogs. They’re not carriage horses, they’re not your work mules, they’re not your guns and swords...they’re just people who normally wanna be left the fuck alone like everyone else. Plus, there ARE people who have experienced sexual assault who take joy in reading such dark storylines. What would these users have to say to them? That they’re not “real” victims? That what they’ve experienced “never happened”? That they’re “just like” their own perpetrators for using the consensual nonconsent to miraculously help them overcome their trauma? Should they really abandon their coping mechanism just because there are other victims who cope in different ways?

..If you seriously believe that all people who have gone through a traumatic event are gonna cope in the exact same fucking way, you literally don’t even know enough about PTSD to even be making a bold statement about cope.

This is the part where I finally realized that people, and especially those on Tumblr, don’t actually care about rape victims as much as they may claim. Many users on here, on this platform and in this fandom, don’t truly give a flying monkey shit about rape victims as people, nor what they have to say about the subject. Rape victims..on this place..seem to be used mainly as a means of figurative weaponry for a group’s subjective morality.

I find the similarity close to radical feminism. Radical feminists often believe that women, from near and far, have to do everything in their power to “destroy” the patriarchy. This would mean disobeying the societal expectation of women, even if there are some women who take joyment in engaging in some societal standards for their personal liking. An example would be sex work. Radical feminists acknowledge the flaws in performing sex work, but believe that NO woman should EVER partake even if the woman wants to do it out of her own free will. In demonizing and ostracizing any woman who doesn’t fall into the radical feminist agenda, radical feminists actually contradict their purpose to “let women be free”. At this point, you realize that radical feminists often don’t actually give a fuck about what any woman wants for herself. Instead, radical feminists want to utilize any woman they can find just to flip off men as a group.

In Tumblr users trying to “stand up” for rape victims for their personal “holier-than-thou” ego, they fail to care enough about the very people they defend to understand the dynamics of some of their coping mechanisms, thus begin to bully some members of the group they claim to protect because of the very narcissism, misunderstanding, and controlling nature going on behind their own “activism”. So now that some users have found something to hate, in this case being noncon stories, they attempt to manipulate victims of rape into ostraciszing and demonizing fantasies and other victims of rape just because the “activists” themsleves don’t like it. Even trying to argue that rape victims have a “duty” to agree with everything these “activists” try to do for them.

Sounds awfully familiar to the attitude democrats have towards any minority when it’s time to vote. “I care about you...but you have to agree with everything I say and believe because I want what I think is best for you. If you disagree with me, you’re ungrateful and a traitor”.

Now...a little about myself.

I’m not sure of everyone else who’s into the noncon type of story, but I use it to get away from my past. In noncon stories, I want to read what happens in the chapters. I want to imagine them for morbid curiosity and arousal I feel at the time being. In reality, my attackers didn’t care when I wasn’t in the mood, and never gave me a choice. In noncon stories, I get to choose the character I want to encounter in the fantasy and NOT have it picked FOR me. In real life, I didn’t get to choose who did some things to me. In noncon stories, I get to stop reading them and do something else whenever I’m not feeling it anymore. In reality? My attackers kept going because, in the situation, it was no longer up to me. After noncon stories, my body doesn’t walk away with bruises, bite marks, and physical reminders every time I take my clothes off or try to masturbate. In real life...that shit can mark you, disease you, and then traumatize you. With the stories, I get to delete my search history, join another fandom, and act like nothing ever happened. For reality? Your own body is a reminder of what happened because it was real. In reality, I’m NEVER gonna fucking forget what happened. I’ll be lucky if my own mind and body doesn’t haunt me for at least one day..

So seeing that someone, and probably multiple people not only tried to use victims of sexual assault for their own “go get em” dogs, but to try and phrase me as someone who loves and encourages such an assault on human beings? After the things I felt? After the things I tasted? After pathetically searching for the support of relatives, just to get shut down with “you’re lying”?..

...All the times I've been held down..threatened..clothes getting snagged off..parts being opened and touched after I've fought to just get the fuck away from certain people...

According to this anon..."she likes rape".

...I guess I just fucking LOVED EVERYTHING THEN.

You know...all my life I’ve been misunderstood by many people. It’s honestly really disappointing that even now when I’m better at explaining myself than ever, I’m STILL being phrased as a “psychopath” by random people who haven’t even taken the time to even know me. Not even from a minute-long conversation through a damn computer screen. And you wanna know the funny thing? I’m probably being laughed at as this is being read. Some of these users, these internet stalkers, are probably giggling, smiling, and saying “Haha YES we GOT the bitch!! Cry you piece of shit SLUT!!”. So maybe explaining my past experiences to help everyone understand why some people may use noncon stories to their fantasy advantage is gonna land me messages going: “You haven’t been raped you lying bitch”, “Maybe you should get raped again”, “You definitely enjoyed it”, and the overused, yet strong “Kill yourself”.

So how am I gonna end this message? With me saying that many of you, who THINK you’re doing the right thing by justifying harassment and trying to manipulate others into joining your little crusade to bully people away from the fandom (over extremely mundane fucking things)...aren’t really good people. At best, in this case...you’re fucking stupid. You will never truly speak for any of the marginalized groups you claim to know like the back of your hand. Simply, you will never. be. a hero.

If by chance, by an astrological chance..that any random user wants to come up and apologize out of the blue for talking such shit and for saying such things..I don't even wanna hear it...just get the fuck out of my face..

#slashers #slasher fandom #tw noncon #consensual noncon #fandom drama #long post #past experiences #anon ask

[resinatingbeauty]

Witchcraft & Expectations

What do you really expect from the Craft?

I had considered writing this for a while before actually doing it just because I didn't want anyone to feel like they were being attacked or singled out. Offending you isn't the purpose of this post, so please do not be discouraged by anything you read here. There is no wrong way of practicing your Craft and to each their own. I was just curious about perspectives when it comes to your expectations regarding Witchcraft, magick, and spirituality as I have dealt with many different people following many different paths since focusing more on my Craft and art through my shop which began on Mercari and grew enough to become more established on Etsy.

I do sell many spiritual / witchy items from personalized spell kits to witchy mystery boxes compiled with Intuitively chosen and my own handmade, one of a kind items. Among the most popular spiritual offerings are my 'buy one get one miniature spell jars,' which allow my customers to select two general purposes or a personalized request from which I assemble and enchant a miniature glass spell jar containing herbs, crystals, essential oils, and other objects based on their needs and requests. I wanted to make these little portable vessel talismans more available to everyone price and purpose wise, compared to others that have been charged with a more specific intent or devoted to a specific deity.

I have a long history of using spell jars myself for various purposes whenever I feel compelled to create one or a special occasion arises. I'm picky about larger jars and bottles, however, so they are usually created in small corked jars or in larger jars that I will sometimes embellish or try new things to integrate that allow the spell jar to also be an appealing or intriguing piece of handmade everyday decor while serving its spiritual purpose, such as the one in the photo above.

For the most part, I have found a surprisingly amount of success with my spell jars. Not just myself, but others as well have reported events that they thought were directly related to their spell jar. I had created one for my neighbor a couple weeks ago who had been searching for a better job than the one she had at a preschool. The day after I gave her the jar, she received a text from an old coworker who notified her that a position at a bank she had applied at months ago that had nothing available at that time had just opened up.

This actually exceeded my expectations. In my experience, magick takes time. Others who have commented on the success of their spell jars or magick in general would contact me a few weeks or so after using their spell kit or receiving their spell jar. I created a spell jar back in January to help jumpstart my small business selling my crafts and Craft and didn't really start to see a huge change until mid-March-April where I was more successful than even I anticipated.

This was about on par with what I expected in terms of time, as most spells I've ever done have taken days, weeks, or even months to start manifesting results that couldn't be passed off or ignored. To be sure, I include a scroll with each of my kits and jars explaining how they are best utilized, to have patience, how to set a purpose and intentions, the power of thinking positively, and that magick rewards those who are willing to work and make sacrifices for what they desire. To me, all of these things are virtues that this path teaches us and are part of what makes the Craft so empowering overall. Whether it was the spell or your hard work, you are the catalyst for change. You made things happen. I mean, what is more empowering than that?

This is part of the reason why I personally chose to over spell kits and magickal tools rather than offering to cast spells or perform rituals on one's behalf. It was my desire to make YOU feel empowered and you are the one ultimately responsible for your own success or failure, whether spiritually or otherwise. I'll gladly steer you down the road of success and provide you with my knowledge, experience, and guidance, but I am always clear about what to expect.

Unfortunately, we live in a time where instant gratification is anticipated and expected, which I never considered in terms of Witchcraft. I knew that no matter how many times I write 'set realistic expectations, focus on your purpose, be patient, and keep doing what your doing' that some people would just blow through all that hoping that they just bought a quick fix for all their problems for $6.99 + a buy one get one deal.

Two weeks or so ago, I had received an order for said jars from a young man who simply said he wanted a personalized spell jar for lucid dreaming and dream work and selected his second 'free' one for self empowerment. I reached out to clarify and answered some of his questions. My immediate impression from him was one of discord. He expressed a lot of turmoil in his life over the past few months and claimed to have taken on a lot of responsibility. He seemed young and eager, with a ton of questions regarding magick in general. I answered his questions the best I could, but reiterated the same values I expressed in the previous paragraph when asked why such and such spell wasn't working, 'should I not have done this,' etc. Magick takes time to manifest, especially when it comes to financial purposes like he explained which are inherently unlikely to resolve themselves overnight.

He seemed happy enough with his purchase and said as much when he received his package. A couple days later, I received a notification about a review he had left which was negative, saying one of his spell jars didn't work with a message delivered in tandem asking what purpose I had set for his spell jar.

Let me say this: I am not upset with him or complaining about his review. He is entitled to his own opinion, although I was annoyed with how quickly he had come to the conclusion when in the instructions I provided him I specifically said that these things take time to work. Anyone who receives results instantly or within the next day or so are exceeding my own expectations. Which is great! Hooray!

But this is definitely not the standard I've come to expect in all the years I've been practicing the Craft.

I continued chatting with and answering this young man's questions and ultimately uncovered that he was upset about a variety of things that had been going on in his life. In his mind, he felt entitled to have these things work for him sooner rather than later and was frustrated and angry that nothing he tried had been working out the way he expected.

In the time that I have opened my little shop, I have (thankfully) only run into one other person like this- where their understanding of Witchcraft seems to have been compiled from television and movies. After the first, I learned to tread lightly around these individuals because, whether it's their fault or not, they have been mislead.

Television shows like old school Charmed and the newer Salem and Witches of East End are really entertaining. I enjoyed watching them, but they are the absolute enemy of those who practice magick / witchcraft as a form of religion or spirituality. Sure, some of these shows actually do their research. Even Buffy the Vampire Slayer was ahead of its time introducing Wiccans, Technopagans, and New Age practices to pop culture and in many ways helped to show people an obscured version of the truth during the 'Satanic Panic' period when even witches hated being called witches and the pentagram / pentacle difference became an actual difference that wasn't just a choice of words.

Newer generations growing up with Harry Potter, which is hardly a great introduction into magickal traditions, were at least more open minded than the previous generation to the actuality of witchcraft and magick as a spiritual practice.

I mean, who doesn't want to snap their fingers and make the house tidy in one fell swoop?

I sure do. But even when I first started practicing at 11 I understood that that just isn't how it is.

This young man who was saying he lead a coven sounded more like he was LARPing than legitimately asking for spiritual guidance. I realized real quick that I couldn't do anything for him. What he wanted and expected, no matter how many times I referenced the instructions I provided (he evidently hadn't acknowledged) and relayed to him my own experience and expectations, he was looking for that 'quick fix' and someone or something to blame for when it didn't work the way he thought it would. The main reason for his complaint? The night after he received his spell jar, he said he just dreamnt about the moon.

My understanding of lucid dreaming was having direct control over ones dreams. The more I talked to this person the more it became clear that this wasn't his understanding of lucid dreaming. I tried to ask what he had tried to gain that control, as many of you know that I suffered from sleep paralysis for years and taught myself how to realize and 'break out' of it over time. He referenced making offerings to a goddess. I had to stop.

I'm sure that another business minded witch would have sold him something else or offered an exchange. I (stupidly) tried to make him understand that he has the power to manifest his desires. All I did was provide him with a tool to help things along.

This was the same for the woman I had dealt with months ago who said that she had been told by this coven owned business that she was a vampire reincarnated to be with her lover. That was the ultimate end of our conversation because she didn't seem very open to anything I suggested. Whether the things she bought were 'effective' for her or not we will never know. When she started messaging me to the point of harassment I deleted her messages and flagged them as spam. All this time and effort spent consoling someone who really isn't in the right frame of mind for magick or witchcraft.

The main point in writing this ranty post is to get the perspective of the community. What are your expectations for your own spells? What do you tell others when they ask? If you are also a 'witch shop' owner or own your own spiritual practice how do you deal with clients that have set unrealistic expectations for you and your Craft?

#witchcraft #witch stuff #witches of etsy #witches of tumblr #handmade #one of a kind #wiccan #ecletic pagan #paganism #wicca #green witch #crystaljewelry #witchblr #witchy #witches #text post #beginner witch #crystals #spirituality #philosophy #dream interpretation #dream journal #spiritual #spiritual guidance #guru #spiritualism #spell kit #spell craft #spell jar

[whirlybirdwhat]

Heyo~ I just wanted to say that your fanfics have inspired me to write my owns, they're so good!!

But my writing isn't nearly as good, do you have any advices for this starting writer? <3

oh my gosh anon !!!!!! im ❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ !! im so glad they inspire you, and I wish you all the best on your writing!!! you got this, and please link them if/when you post!!!! 👀👀👀

as for advice - i got a few things!

first off, your writing is yours, and - especially in fic - there isn't necessarily a type of 'good' writing, just different skill sets! for instance, i find that my weak point is dialogue, while im great at worldbuilding + emotions. another writer might be the opposite, but it doesn't mean my writing is 'bad' and theirs is 'good' or the reverse, simply that we have different strengths! as you grow as a writer, you will find your strengths and learn to grow them, and your weak points! there is truly no standard, so don't put yourself down!!

moving on to more advice however - (EDIT: theres a tldr at the bottom because sorry, i rambled a bit!!)

1. write. it doesn't matter where, it doesn't matter when, it doesn't matter how! I have written fics on sticky notes in the middle of class (whiskey peak chapter of esom) on discord in the span of a few hours (make a choice (turncoat hero)) and in my notes apps (the ace/yamato fic i posted)!! if you learn to write anywhere you please, this will keep ideas from leaving your mind, and allow you to get into the zone that there doesn't have to be a set time to write!

2. length never matters for a fic. If 100 words is all it takes to write what you want to write, then 100 words is all it takes! don't let the general adoration for long fics to scare you off from writing, and write what you're comfortable with. I know writers who only write chapter fics, and writers who will only write one shots (then there's me, who tries to do both at once lol.)

3. when i am lost with the plot of a fic, the first thing i do is draft an outline of what i want to happen next. this is just a simple bullet point outline, in the general fashion of, say

- luffy gets a different hat post pirate king

- monkey steals hat

- luffy calls for zoro

- zoro sleeping?? sanji kicks him then fight

- the monkey is revealed as the red haired pirates monkey

- shanks shows up "miss me anchor?" party time

brief, follows a simple set of actions, perhaps one or two lines that i thought of while writing, and gives me a skeleton to follow so that when i lose myself in a fic i know where i can go next. Some people find it useful to do this at the beginning with a super detailed plot, and others never write a outline at all! it depends again on how you grow as a writer, so don't be afraid to try different things out when you approach a fic

4. stuck on a part? writer block? can't focus? get up drink a glass of water, and get back to writing! i find this helps me get refocused on writing when i am stuck, a little body 'wake up' as you will.

5. never EVER delete a scene from a fic. never. NEVER. move that scene to another doc, put it in a 'scrapped writing' folder, idc, but never delete it entirely. it helps you grow as a writer, and you can always put the scene back/reword it, etc. i cannot count on my hands how many times i have reworked a previously scrapped portion of a fic and came out the better for it!

6. having multiple wips is okay!! celebrate it even!! i always have at least five docs for five separate fics up on my computer at all times so i can shuffle between them when writing and write what im inspire for in that moment. its okay if you never make headway on one of them, as long as the ideas keep flowing

7. want to get something out quick? word wars are your friend - set a timer for 15 minutes, and write as many words as you can. this is especially fun if you have someone doing it with you, so you can compare counts at the end and share your story!!

8. writing, like all art, takes time. and, generally, there is a chance you will write faster when you first set out to write then you will later, because later, you will be more conscious of your word choices and be more deliberate and careful in your plot, rather than just churning out works. It's okay if you don't churn out 5k a day - writing is not an obligation!

9. have. fun. im serious! write what you want to write, even if it seems no one will love it or like it or want to read it - write what brings you joy, what makes you smile, even if it's something that's been done a thousand times before!! this is what fic is, for your own personal enjoyment. Additionally, do not be discouraged if there's a low amount of reviews for something you put your heart and soul. it sucks ass, yes, (i have a couple fics i love which have only gotten like, a quarter of attention of some of my other fics) but ultimately, the idea you wrote down is one you want to see in the world!! it doesn't quite matter what anyone else likes.

10. grammarly, word counter, word, etc - anything with a spellcheck is your best friend, and will generally catch things you miss if you cant find someone to proofread for you. additionally, if you want to be more critical of your fic, look for friends tto give constructive critcism, but know that you absolutely do not have to accept it from any stranger online unless you asked specifically for it.

11. fanon is fanon and popular headcanons are popular headcanons and both are absolutely not canon. you do NOT have to follow it if you do not want to.

12. read!!! i read a lot of fic, a lot of published books, and each has something i really enjoy and apply to my own fics.

13. to reiterate again just... write. write and write and write. i have over 300k posted to ao3 rn, and more in my docs. you will not improve your writing to any standard that you set for yourself unless you write!! always practice!! learn from your mistakes!! grow!!! you will improve with time, i promise, just go out and write what makes you happy anon!!

tl;dr have fun, write a lot wherever and whenever, and write for yourself before anyone else. you will improve with time as a writer the more you practice, and it doesn't ever matter how long your work is.

if you want more specific advice on formatting fic/general rules/ your first time posting, feel free to send another ask!! but for now, i wish you the best of luck anon and a very 👀👀👀👀 at your future fics!!!

#that was #so much rambling i am sorry but i do hope its helpful!! #whirlywhat #whirlyanswers #advice #writing #fic writing advice #fic advice

[earthxangell]

Hello anita

(my mom's name is anita too so hieee🥺💓)

Can I request a love reading please. I've never dated before (i come from a strict household). I'm trying to overcome the fear and live my life but everytime i ask my guides why i can't find the one for me i always get the keywords

divine timing

patience

now is not the right time

So what is blocking my love life?

A.S. (Leo sun) ✨

Thank you for your time and energy. I appreciate the effort you put in your posts. Also your username is so cute. Makes me want to talk to you more <3

Hello! First of all, me and your mom being name twins??? This is cool! Haha And thank you so much for saying such kind words about my username but you literally have a ‘celeste’ in yours???? This is so pretty???? And yeah, I’m always ready to talk more if you want that! :)

Let’s start with your reading and thank you so much for trusting me enough to receive guidance on your situation! I hope you’ll be satisfied with the final result.

You’re definitely divinely guided here so this is why your Spirit team and the Universe are asking you to trust the timing without a doubt. Right now you have better things to be focused on in order to patiently live out this period of singleness and meet your future partner at the right time. It’s not to torture you or to make you suffer and be miserable - it’s simply because you’re not ready to have a relationship right now. This is happening not to you but for you and you only.

The first message that I’m getting here about a blockage is that your heart is kind of closed? Maybe you have difficulty letting people in due to the past or current circumstances, maybe you have some fears and doubts about the future so this is making you scared of what’s about to occur or maybe you’re going through a complicated time right now, whatever the reason is - you have to let yourself be receptive to everything what life has to offer for you otherwise you’ll continue to postpone a meeting with your significant other. I feel like you will even have to make a first move with your future partner, so being the courageous one, to not be threatened over unknown is highly required of you. You don’t have to know every outcome and definitely don’t have to stress about things that haven't even happened yet. If someone had a bad relationship experience, it doesn’t mean that the same will happen for you. Yes, they’ve gone through it, yes, you have gone through a lot as well, (maybe trust issues because of failed friendship or inability to talk about your feelings with your own parents, etc.) but you have to believe in the best. You have to believe that there will be a different way for you. You have to step up and act only from the hope, not from the fear.

The other message about blockage from Spirit is that right now your focus has to be on expressing yourself and sharing your voice, your truth and your soul with others. There’s two ways to interpret it: one - is that you have to pay attention to the things and people who’s surrounding you at the current moment and making you feel drained, discouraged and tied in hands. By speaking about your true desires and protecting them, you’ll also protect your energy from anyone and anything that isn't supposed to be around. Your energy is sacred, so treat it like it. Say ‘no’ instead of ‘yes’ even if people will get mad at you. Argue if someone is treating you the wrong way or ignoring your opinions and needs. I also heard the phrase: “You’re too nice”. The second is that there’s a way for you to express yourself - through some sort of a hobby, writing or speaking. Whatever it is - do that, come out of the cave and show yourself to the world. Like I have this feeling that you’re supposed to focus solely on yourself right now and reflect on some of your fears and surroundings as well. Maybe even move out - I have this card called “Leap” as a general meaning of your reading and I feel like you have to move somewhere in order to meet your soulmate and change your life in general. Maybe you’ve been thinking about moving out? Or already did? I don’t know but this is coming off really strong here. Desire to move somewhere, to change your scenery. If it’s true - do that and manifest this, your Spirit team will highly approve it and will give you all the necessary opportunities.

The last message and it’s kind of connected with the second one - Set. Your. Boundaries. You’ve been called to do that for a really long time but were ignoring this gut feeling for some reason. Maybe you care about the feelings of others more than for your own. But it takes a lot from you - you’re really drained because of that. But you have to understand that you cannot give something to others (love and compassion) when you’re always low on energy. If you gave yourself as much as you’re giving for others now, you would’ve been surprised to find out how much energy and power you actually have. Set your boundaries and let people know where they actually stand to find out who’ll tolerate that and who won’t. You’ll thank yourself for that later.

This is all I've got for your question. I hope it’ll help you and give all the necessary insights on what is blocking you from your love life. Thank you so much, again, and take care <3

#free readings

[bamboo-muse]

TW: possible gore/violence and mention of narcotics abuse.

Lately the black lives matter tag has developed into a slew of different topics, one currently being the recent coup that just took place at the U.S. Capitol.

Now, I'm happy to say most of posts are discouragement from doom scrolling and reminding others to step back and take care of themselves in healthier methods

Unfortunately that is not all of them.

I snapped a screen shot of @enragedbees highly questionable metaphor before they blocked and deleted my comments, thus hiding my reblog.

This is a dangerous mindset to project onto a social media platform with minors and those who suffer with maintaining their health, mental health, and utilizing effective and safe coping mechanisms.

I asked them to edit or remove their post due to what they were advising people to do because they were encouraging using any means necessary to cope that which could ultimately result in suicide or death.

To summarize even fatal coping mechanisms such as self harm, drug use, and abuse of alcohol. They used a medical emergency as their metaphor such as a stroke and attempting to driving yourself to the hospital.

I will told them step by step what that accomplishes:

As someone who just passed her level 2 first aid course, I can guarantee you that you won't make it to the hospital.

Your analogy here is terrible.

You'll have weakness on one side of your body.

You'll veer/get bombarded by incoming traffic.

Your airway is closing up cuz that is a thing for stroke victims that most don't know about.

You're not breathing if you're not dead from the car crash.

You're now going into shock.

Your heart isn't beating from the not breathing- cardiac and respiratory distress

If you aren't dead from the car crash and if haven't quite died from any of that yet, the moment you turn your head after the car crash that has likely fucked your spine/neck your paralyzing/severing that you're dying in the car.

Or your car door has been ripped off as you didn't have the ability to close the door as you drove off, you've fallen out because you never clipped your seat belt because of the weakness on one side of your body, you're on your back, not breathing, closed airway, you've vomited -stroke victims vomit- you're choking on your own vomit, the car crash has left you with a ruptured spleen from floating ribs, liver damage/internal bleeding, you have broken legs and one of your arms has an exposed fracture with an arterial bleed.

Your shock has advanced to the point of cool, pale, and clammy skin, your body was diverging all blood flow to your brain and heart, but the shock has progressed too far and your body can no longer control or regulate itself.

On the list of priorities in large car pile up of now multiple injured or dying people the stroke patient is a code black and not going to be looked at.

What's suggested is you dial 911 and spout whatever you can while you can, not hanging up and do your best to lay on your side 3/4 prone to keep yourself from choking on your own fluids, or run to find someone who will call 911 for you before you lose consciousness and collapse from lack of oxygen.

So the answer really for your crisis is be informed, have a plan, and talk to people.

Don't take it all on yourself because you won't last long if you do.

Please use critical thinking when reading any coping or self help posts on this website.

Please reach out to any one or organization to talk to if you are suffering and your mental health state is altered or suffering.

The rhetoric used in @enragedbees post is dangerous and is going to get people hurt, or killed because it's encouraging them to self-medicate which can result in overdose and death. Others have called them out and they aren't changing or fixing their post. Please report their post.

Please, if you need someone to talk to message my inbox and I'll chat with you a while. If talking doesn't help, please try to eat something doesn't have to he huge -could be a slice of bread, a few tea spoons of peanut butter -any food you have. Drink water, small sips.

Practice deep and steady breathing to calm your heart rate.

In through your nose, out through your mouth.

You're not alone, the world is in this together.

Here is a website with a list of help lines.

http://worldhelplines.org/usa.html

If anyone knows of more or better ones please reblog and boost this post!

#black lives matter #blm #blacklivesmatter #police brutality #breonna taylor #blm protests #politics #coronavirus #us presdential election #political #joe biden #fuck donald trump #us coup #black mental health matters #mental health #self help #coping mechanism #suicide prevention #help lines #please boost this #stay safe out there #stay safe #you can talk to me #please reach out

[gro-hls]

ok so i read good omens yesterday and i rly liked it and all the characters so this isn't a roast or a dislikement since i'm in no position to do that,,,,, I'm just confused abt two things that broke immersion for me a bit and I was wondering if it was like, deliberate like am I missing something?

my first question is: why is "could have" spelt as "could of" all over the dialogue? or not even specifically that but hastur says it, adam says it, the firefighter even uses "of" instead of "have"

like sometimes stuff is spelled for accents like adam saying "din't" (who even says the entire dih dent anyways) but like the same effect can be achieved by using "could've" so im wondering about if it's a weird edition and usually I don't judge grammar and stuff too much since I'm francophone, writing with shit grammar on tumblr dot com and I'm also an entire idiot, and also socioeconomic implications of judging misspelled stuff blah blah blah yes was but kinda surprised to see it in a published book and like it can't have been missed right? is it smth about brit accents that make it necessary or smth..... ignore the caption I Simply Will Not Do Math or truly count so idk the how manyeth time it actually was but just an example okey

also the second thing is this scene

so he says "bugger" right, and it's like the plot twist of the century (centuries? wtv) because he never swore before...

... except however few days ago when he was hammered off his ass

right so my question is:

1) was he too drunk to remember?? he's smart as all fuck though and he can just Un Drunk himself right so like does the sobering up work just on the spot or is it kinda just instant hangover so it makes u still a bit weird?

2) was he trying to act cool in front of the metatron???? which is kinda self contradictory I feel like anyone would be sweaty as balls in that situation, and also the metatron can't read minds or else he would have just kinda Known what was going on right?

3) did he just Not Remember? is aziraphale a squishy adhd icon (yes I KNOW they can't have adhd or be gay which 👀👀 personally if they're being something there's defs some kind of cool supernatural equivalent like instead of Attention Deficit/Hyperactivity Disorder it's called like Amnesia Discouraging Heavenly Dexterity I am SURE there is a tone-equivalent solution to explain a blanc de mémoire here)

4) is the drunk scene just crowley's memory of it, making it a swear heavy paraphrase? like is that his sleazy mental translation of whatever aziraphale is puttering on about in distinguished English or smth

5) maybe it's just a Two People Wrote It Bruh Moment and I'm like the thousandth person to bring this up???? who the heck knows.

anyways i can't get arrested for this so I'm gonna just go ahead and tag the entire remaining half of authorship @neil-gaiman and @disappointing-pineapple who convinced me to make a post because it distracted me from watching b99 when it popped into my head (the second thing, first thing just confused me) and its been stressing me out which is rude tbh so I need answers tyvm

#good omens #plot #i am CONFUSION #has this already been answered #do i need to watch the show or smth to get it??? #im gonna watch the show #just on the sly so im not giving money to amazon #am i stupid #(i definitely am i just meant in this context) #can i write down crowley as a legal gender on my passport #aziraphale #crowley #grammar #...???

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What To Do If Your House Isn't Selling?

If your house has been on the market for too long, it can be frustrating. You may wonder why your house isn’t selling despite all your efforts. Don’t get discouraged. There are quite a few things you can do to fix the situation.

When a house is priced well for its market, it shouldn’t take a long time to sell. The number one thing to do if your house isn’t selling is to discuss it with your agent. You may need to adjust your pricing and your listing.

This post will let you know the reasons why your house isn’t selling and how to fix the problem.

Why Isn’t My House Selling Fast Enough?

It is possible for a house that is still listed to have received offers but never had them finalized. It is even worse if you haven’t had a single offer! You might be doing something wrong.

Here are reasons why your house may still be for sale:

You’re priced too high. The size of your house is the primary consideration when it comes to pricing. However, it is not the only factor involved. The neighborhood that you are in is the second thing to consider when pricing. A 1500 square foot, three-bedroom house can vary wildly in price depending on where it is. For instance, if it is on the waterfront, it will go for a much higher price than a home that’s not. Anyone looking for a home will run away from your listing if the price is too high. This is a common mistake made when people try to sell their home on their own. They often neglect to do their research. With an expert agent in CT by your side, this is a mistake that can easily be avoided.

The curb appeal is poor. A potential buyer may ignore a home with an unappealing exterior. If the house isn’t presentable, then interest may quickly disappear! You must try your best to keep the outside of your home as neat and attractive as possible. You never know when a prospective buyer will pass by.

Your listing doesn’t interest anyone. A picture is worth a thousand words! You can use a variety of online platforms to advertise your home to people. These can make it very easy to find buyers. This is why you have to make sure it is as appealing as possible. Make sure the description contains all necessary information. Do your best not to leave anything out. When it comes to the photographs in the listing, make sure they are well-lit and staged.

The house needs too many repairs. Even with an attractive price attached to it, the need for too many repairs can repel people. Having to do a whole set of repairs isn’t worth the time to some buyers, even with a price cut. If the house is outdated, there is a chance that a buyer will have to pay for upgrades down the line. Many prefer not to deal with this uncertainty.

What Can You Do If Your House Just Isn’t Selling?

Even if your house has been on the market for years, trying out the tips below might be the solution that you need! If the offers start coming in, then you’ll know you’ve done something right.

Adjust your pricing. It is important to take a look at similar homes in the neighborhood and their prices. You may have set a price that drives away buyers before they even take another step. Analyze the neighborhood you are in, as well as prices for homes like yours. If you have an agent already, then discuss with them more competitive pricing to bring in offers.

Get an agent or a new one. An agent is there to make sure that your house gets sold. If you are certain that everything is fine with the home, your agent might be the problem. Experienced agents will price optimally, and have connections that bring offers in days. If you never had an agent from the start, then get one! It’ll make things so much easier for you. You might be shocked at how fast things will move along from there.

Make sure you stage your home! Many buyers will only see your house once, and that will be through the photos that you put online. You get a single chance to make an impression before they look somewhere else. Make sure that your photographs are clear and well-lit, and you stage the house well! This will involve you cleaning up and moving things around. Staging is about making everything look as good as it can for the pictures. It also applies to people who may walk by the house and for showings too. Try your best to get all this done before you stake in that “For Sale” sign.

Complete major repairs. Though repairs are expected with very low-priced homes, some new buyers don’t want to be saddled with them straight up. Buyers may pass on the house even if they have the money to fix up the home. You can save yourself such stress by making these repairs. They may cost quite a bit the bigger they are, but it’s the big ones that drive people away. The good thing is that the money you spend on repairs doesn’t go to waste. You can recoup it from the sales price. After all, you no longer need to reduce the price you want for your home.

Make needed upgrades. If similar houses in your area have upgraded kitchens, you may need to match them. This will save your home from being at a disadvantage compared to others. A buyer will prefer a modern home to one that looks outdated. This is especially true when there are other homes for sale in your neighborhood.

If all else fails, rent. If you have had your house up for years, but no one wants to take it off your hands, you can rent it out. This works best if the house is an income property, and not where you actually live. You’ll be able to get passive income with such a method, while still looking for buyers.

It can be frustrating when your house fails to sell despite all your efforts. There are a few things that are common causes of this. Identifying the causes makes it easier to fix. And if you can’t identify a reason, then some of the tips above can help you find a solution.

One of the best things to do is to get yourself a capable real estate agent. Deborah Laemmerhirt, Realtor®, is exactly that. You can be sure that she'll do her best to get your house off the market in no time.

Call Deborah Laemmerhirt, Realtor®, at 203-994-4297. She’ll get the job done for you!

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